I think my best bet is to ignore ignore ignore. If I don't give in to her petty BS, she's got to move onto her next victim.
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Yeah, but you are going to marry her brother, how much ignoring can you do?
I dunno.. I would guess over time if she keeps it up, she just make herself look bad to her own family and my fiance. I can't allow a bitch to control my life and who I am with, right?
I dunno.. I would guess over time if she keeps it up, she just make herself look bad to her own family and my fiance. I can't allow a bitch to control my life and who I am with, right?
Well yes...my sister tries to avoid her sister-in-law (she has issues) I guess it depends how close she live and what not. Hopefully your fiance will get sick of her and tell her to knock it off.
These cuts are leaving creases. Trace the scars to fit the pieces, to tell the story, you don't need to say a word.
Do this - call her up and tell her if she doesn't cut the shit, you are gonna go over there and smack the shit outta her until you smack the black off her ass.
Do this - call her up and tell her if she doesn't cut the shit, you are gonna go over there and smack the shit outta her until you smack the black off her ass.
I bet she straightens up.
LOLLOL! Well... I wouldn't attempt that bc she's about 300-400 lbs and I am pretty dainty. Her best friend who is my fiance's ex is also roughly that weight. I honestly think they are envious and jealous of my relationship. They are both with men that won't have sex with them and they have no intimate love or anything in their relationship. His sister's BF won't even say I love you, he tells her, I love cake, instead. They are just getting older and nastier and more and more bitter.
They are both with men that won't have sex with them and they have no intimate love or anything in their relationship. His sister's BF won't even say I love you, he tells her, I love cake, instead. They are just getting older and nastier and more and more bitter.
ha...I would love to but I can't. But I do feel bad for my sister, her husband really doesn't stand up for her. She is always getting into arguments with her.
These cuts are leaving creases. Trace the scars to fit the pieces, to tell the story, you don't need to say a word.
This goes out to everyone in relationships who have had to deal with some shitty in-laws. Wondering how everyone else deals with this crap... here's my situation in a nut-shell.
My fianace has a sister whom I was friends with before I met him, that is how I met him. They don't always get along, she is a very controlling mean-spirited person at times and they constantly hit heads. She does that to her friends too and has a hard time keeping them. Recently she pulled it with me, we got into an argument and instead of being an adult, she pulled out the nasty card and started name calling and bashing me on her web-site. Really lame and immature for a 35 yr old.
Anyways when I ask my fiance to stand up for me, he says he doesn't want to be involved. She's shit talking to her whole family now and says I am not a part of it and never will be. Am I wrong to expect my fiance to stand up for me? He just says, whatever, ignore her.. etc. But way to make for an uncomfortable situation in my life. So now she's pulling in people, even my fiance's ex-gf from 10 years ago... I'm so sick of it.. It's enough to make me want to end this engagement if I'm going to have to deal with this crap all of my life.
What should I do? Should I just ignore them and let that family talk shit on me, tell me I'm not invited to things... etc.... and is it unreasonable to ask my fiance to stand by my side? I think its messed up if he goes to family events and leaves me behind... I love him very much but his family is screwy. :( Thanks for listening... and for any advice.
This is a tough one. Once you become engaged, that person should be your most important family member. If my husband's family had a serious problem with me, I know he'd cut them off...and I would do the same. I think it's part of making a lifetime commitment to someone.
This is a tough one. Once you become engaged, that person should be your most important family member. If my husband's family had a serious problem with me, I know he'd cut them off...and I would do the same. I think it's part of making a lifetime commitment to someone.
WCR - You have to really think long term, IMO. And decide if this is something you want to get into/deal with for the rest of your life. The family does come along with the husband. You're not marrying one person, but the whole shootin' match. And if you're outcasted before you even enter this new family, then, well, if doesn't sound like a lifetime of happiness awaits you...regardless of what your fiancee thinks/does.
yea that is what I am most worried about... that must really suck. :(
she doesn't come to any of my "side of the families" bday's, holidays, etc and actually I felt like an asshole not attending my nieces Walk for Autism this year because my wife would get pissed. I did design the banners and donate $$$ though. But I have to do it "in secret".
Trust me, it sucks. I DO choose my wife over family, but she wants me to all and out abandon them....which sucks.
did i mention IT SUCKS!
If a man speaks in a forest and there is no woman around to hear him, is he still wrong?
WCR - You have to really think long term, IMO. And decide if this is something you want to get into/deal with for the rest of your life. The family does come along with the husband. You're not marrying one person, but the whole shootin' match. And if you're outcasted before you even enter this new family, then, well, if doesn't sound like a lifetime of happiness awaits you...regardless of what your fiancee thinks/does.
Actually I'm only marrying him... not his whole family. I dont like that clan family crap.... He rarely sees his family anyway and it's a broken family at that. Honestly I'm not too worried anymore. They can sling their mud and look like idiots and I'll just keep going on with my life. At least I have a loving passionate relationship.
she doesn't come to any of my "side of the families" bday's, holidays, etc and actually I felt like an asshole not attending my nieces Walk for Autism this year because my wife would get pissed. I did design the banners and donate $$$ though. But I have to do it "in secret".
Trust me, it sucks. I DO choose my wife over family, but she wants me to all and out abandon them....which sucks.
did i mention IT SUCKS!
yea see instead of doing that... I think I'll just keep my concerns to myself. If he wants to see and spend time with her, have fun. shes not a fun person to hang out with.. they have nothing in common... so I know the outcome already. She's a nasty nasty person. She told her son who has to visit his dad for the summer... "I can't wait until you leave!"
Shes one of those classic people with the huge big mouth and thinks shes so awesome for spewing shit on everyone.
I remeber coaching my son to his little league championship game. My wife was there with my daughter....we were in a tooth and nail game....and I look out past left fence and my brother and mother were out watching. You know the first though in my head was? no....not that we were about to win a tight game and my son had had been a big part of it....it was the aftermath I would have to endure because if we won....my parents and brother would come to congratulate my son.
If a man speaks in a forest and there is no woman around to hear him, is he still wrong?
Actually I'm only marrying him... not his whole family. I dont like that clan family crap.... He rarely sees his family anyway and it's a broken family at that. Honestly I'm not too worried anymore. They can sling their mud and look like idiots and I'll just keep going on with my life. At least I have a loving passionate relationship.
well that's good. i hope everything works out!!!
cheers!
I remeber coaching my son to his little league championship game. My wife was there with my daughter....we were in a tooth and nail game....and I look out past left fence and my brother and mother were out watching. You know the first though in my head was? no....not that we were about to win a tight game and my son had had been a big part of it....it was the aftermath I would have to endure because if we won....my parents and brother would come to congratulate my son.
That's so sad. :(
I have a neighbor who is going through something too. Her own mother chooses her ex-husband over her and puts crap into the kids heads. She is always outside crying. Her and I talk from time to time bc we both deal with a lot. I just don't understand why people have to insist on making other's lives so difficult.
yea see instead of doing that... I think I'll just keep my concerns to myself. If he wants to see and spend time with her, have fun. shes not a fun person to hang out with.. they have nothing in common... so I know the outcome already. She's a nasty nasty person. She told her son who has to visit his dad for the summer... "I can't wait until you leave!"
Shes one of those classic people with the huge big mouth and thinks shes so awesome for spewing shit on everyone.
I will save this thread for when I am sober....boss took us out to lunch and I slammed 5 Guinnesses and 2 shots of JD within and hour...
If a man speaks in a forest and there is no woman around to hear him, is he still wrong?
WCR - You have to really think long term, IMO. And decide if this is something you want to get into/deal with for the rest of your life. The family does come along with the husband. You're not marrying one person, but the whole shootin' match. And if you're outcasted before you even enter this new family, then, well, if doesn't sound like a lifetime of happiness awaits you...regardless of what your fiancee thinks/does.
I agree with you and most of the time the apple doesn't fall far from the tree.
These cuts are leaving creases. Trace the scars to fit the pieces, to tell the story, you don't need to say a word.
I have a neighbor who is going through something too. Her own mother chooses her ex-husband over her and puts crap into the kids heads. She is always outside crying. Her and I talk from time to time bc we both deal with a lot. I just don't understand why people have to insist on making other's lives so difficult.
After my third child was born (my wife beggggged me to have one more) she told me "It's over between your mom and me...I dont want to fight anymore" I had never felt such a wieght lifted off of my shoulders...I almost cried....
2 weeks later..........back to the same shit
If a man speaks in a forest and there is no woman around to hear him, is he still wrong?
ha...it is so weird that you wrote that, I was going to post earlier that I was in the market for an orphan.
Ha ha ha seriously. Or at least one that doesn't have two sisters! EEEK. I have 3 brothers, you'd think that would be a bit more intimidating! But my brother's are such wonderful men!
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I dunno.. I would guess over time if she keeps it up, she just make herself look bad to her own family and my fiance. I can't allow a bitch to control my life and who I am with, right?
Well yes...my sister tries to avoid her sister-in-law (she has issues) I guess it depends how close she live and what not. Hopefully your fiance will get sick of her and tell her to knock it off.
I bet she straightens up.
That might get her dumped...I couldn't take the shit anymore and that's what happened to me. But it was great to see his true colors.
LOLLOL! Well... I wouldn't attempt that bc she's about 300-400 lbs and I am pretty dainty. Her best friend who is my fiance's ex is also roughly that weight. I honestly think they are envious and jealous of my relationship. They are both with men that won't have sex with them and they have no intimate love or anything in their relationship. His sister's BF won't even say I love you, he tells her, I love cake, instead. They are just getting older and nastier and more and more bitter.
Oh do tell, Id love to hear more!
Awesome.
ha...I would love to but I can't. But I do feel bad for my sister, her husband really doesn't stand up for her. She is always getting into arguments with her.
I'd guess that you're right when you said that she's just jealous. That being the case, just ignore to the best of your ability.
all the women on my side of the family.
It makes holidays and birthdays oh so special occasions.....between them all I almost dread birthdays and holidays.
damn...that must be hard..why does she hate everyone?
This is a tough one. Once you become engaged, that person should be your most important family member. If my husband's family had a serious problem with me, I know he'd cut them off...and I would do the same. I think it's part of making a lifetime commitment to someone.
yea that is what I am most worried about... that must really suck. :(
freakin' hilarious!!!!!!!!!!!!
I completely agree...
she doesn't come to any of my "side of the families" bday's, holidays, etc and actually I felt like an asshole not attending my nieces Walk for Autism this year because my wife would get pissed. I did design the banners and donate $$$ though. But I have to do it "in secret".
Trust me, it sucks. I DO choose my wife over family, but she wants me to all and out abandon them....which sucks.
did i mention IT SUCKS!
Actually I'm only marrying him... not his whole family. I dont like that clan family crap.... He rarely sees his family anyway and it's a broken family at that. Honestly I'm not too worried anymore. They can sling their mud and look like idiots and I'll just keep going on with my life. At least I have a loving passionate relationship.
yea see instead of doing that... I think I'll just keep my concerns to myself. If he wants to see and spend time with her, have fun. shes not a fun person to hang out with.. they have nothing in common... so I know the outcome already. She's a nasty nasty person. She told her son who has to visit his dad for the summer... "I can't wait until you leave!"
Shes one of those classic people with the huge big mouth and thinks shes so awesome for spewing shit on everyone.
well that's good. i hope everything works out!!!
cheers!
That's so sad. :(
I have a neighbor who is going through something too. Her own mother chooses her ex-husband over her and puts crap into the kids heads. She is always outside crying. Her and I talk from time to time bc we both deal with a lot. I just don't understand why people have to insist on making other's lives so difficult.
I will save this thread for when I am sober....boss took us out to lunch and I slammed 5 Guinnesses and 2 shots of JD within and hour...
I agree with you and most of the time the apple doesn't fall far from the tree.
I always wanted to marry an orphan. Really and truly... **sigh**
After my third child was born (my wife beggggged me to have one more) she told me "It's over between your mom and me...I dont want to fight anymore" I had never felt such a wieght lifted off of my shoulders...I almost cried....
2 weeks later..........back to the same shit
ha...it is so weird that you wrote that, I was going to post earlier that I was in the market for an orphan.
Ha ha ha seriously. Or at least one that doesn't have two sisters! EEEK. I have 3 brothers, you'd think that would be a bit more intimidating! But my brother's are such wonderful men!