How do you deal with In-Laws

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  • just tina
    just tina Posts: 277
    fanch75 wrote:
    Good on you for sticking it out. That's what you should do.

    He needs to make you priority #1, though. You're marrying the man.
    yea, what he said!
  • libragirl
    libragirl Posts: 4,632
    It is very bad that he doesn't stick up for you. Not a good sign at all. I have been in that situation and it came to a head. It was for the best. I don't want to be with someone who won't stick up for me.

    You really should try to discuss your concerns with him and if he isn't receptive I would rethink the relationship if I were you.
    These cuts are leaving creases. Trace the scars to fit the pieces, to tell the story, you don't need to say a word.
  • fanch75
    fanch75 Posts: 3,734
    Doesnt like the view wrote:
    yea, what he said!

    Yeah! Like I said a few posts up, they say that you "leave your parents in marriage" for a reason. It's not just a cute thing to say to make people go "aww, how nice."
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  • eyedclaar
    eyedclaar Posts: 6,980
    fanch75 wrote:
    Good on you for sticking it out. That's what you should do.

    He needs to make you priority #1, though. You're marrying the man.


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  • WildChildRose
    WildChildRose Posts: 568
    fanch75 wrote:
    Yeah! Like I said a few posts up, they say that you "leave your parents in marriage" for a reason. It's not just a cute thing to say to make people go "aww, how nice."

    ha ha yea I agree. Ironically his sister only likes him when she and I are fighting. Any other time she is always talking down on my fiance and telling me to just leave him and his son on the streets. He knows all of this too...
    "I'll ride the wave where it takes me.."
  • fanch75
    fanch75 Posts: 3,734
    WildChildRose wrote:
    ha ha yea I agree. Ironically his sister only likes him when she and I are fighting. Any other time she is always talking down on my fiance and telling me to just leave him and his son on the streets. He knows all of this too...

    I'm painting in broad strokes here, but sounds like this chick just lives in a constant state of conflict. Pissing off family and not keeping friends and all of that. Some people are that way and people generally don't change.

    I've read some stuff on here and you've given a lot in this (again just from what I've read). Took on this gentleman, who is a single parent, taken his child as your own, did your all to help find the kid when he went missing. Being a mom to this kid; something that is hard to do. You give & give & give and it's a shame that his desire to not rock the boat is overcoming what seems to be a pretty clear duty to stand up for this woman who has done so much for him.

    Sorry to go off - but I know someone in a very similar situation. :D
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  • WildChildRose
    WildChildRose Posts: 568
    fanch75 wrote:
    I'm painting in broad strokes here, but sounds like this chick just lives in a constant state of conflict. Pissing off family and not keeping friends and all of that. Some people are that way and people generally don't change.

    I've read some stuff on here and you've given a lot in this (again just from what I've read). Took on this gentleman, who is a single parent, taken his child as your own, did your all to help find the kid when he went missing. Being a mom to this kid; something that is hard to do. You give & give & give and it's a shame that his desire to not rock the boat is overcoming what seems to be a pretty clear duty to stand up for this woman who has done so much for him.

    Sorry to go off - but I know someone in a very similar situation. :D


    Thank you. That's why it makes me reconsider things and that just sucks.
    "I'll ride the wave where it takes me.."
  • markymark550
    markymark550 Columbia, SC Posts: 5,217
    Also sounds like his sister might be a little loco in the head if she's starting crap with more than just you. I guess some people need the anger and bitterness, but that just makes me feel sorry for them.
  • fanch75
    fanch75 Posts: 3,734
    Bytchez styll ain't shyt, tho.
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  • WildChildRose
    WildChildRose Posts: 568
    markymark550 wrote:
    Also sounds like his sister might be a little loco in the head if she's starting crap with more than just you. I guess some people need the anger and bitterness, but that just makes me feel sorry for them.

    Yea she's somewhat unbalanced. I think she is bipolar. She's been on prozac for a while. I guess Tommy (my fiance) doesn't want to believe his sister is that mental.

    I think my best bet is to ignore ignore ignore. If I don't give in to her petty BS, she's got to move onto her next victim.

    One of my best friends, Eve, is the one who introduced me to her. She is also no longer friends with her bc of the constant shit talking she does on her fiance! It's like never ending shit-talk!

    You are right, I should just feel sad for this bitter person.
    "I'll ride the wave where it takes me.."
  • libragirl
    libragirl Posts: 4,632
    WildChildRose wrote:

    I think my best bet is to ignore ignore ignore. If I don't give in to her petty BS, she's got to move onto her next victim.

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    Yeah, but you are going to marry her brother, how much ignoring can you do?
    These cuts are leaving creases. Trace the scars to fit the pieces, to tell the story, you don't need to say a word.
  • WildChildRose
    WildChildRose Posts: 568
    libragirl wrote:
    WildChildRose wrote:

    I think my best bet is to ignore ignore ignore. If I don't give in to her petty BS, she's got to move onto her next victim.

    quote]

    Yeah, but you are going to marry her brother, how much ignoring can you do?

    I dunno.. I would guess over time if she keeps it up, she just make herself look bad to her own family and my fiance. I can't allow a bitch to control my life and who I am with, right?
    "I'll ride the wave where it takes me.."
  • libragirl
    libragirl Posts: 4,632
    WildChildRose wrote:
    libragirl wrote:

    I dunno.. I would guess over time if she keeps it up, she just make herself look bad to her own family and my fiance. I can't allow a bitch to control my life and who I am with, right?

    Well yes...my sister tries to avoid her sister-in-law (she has issues) I guess it depends how close she live and what not. Hopefully your fiance will get sick of her and tell her to knock it off.
    These cuts are leaving creases. Trace the scars to fit the pieces, to tell the story, you don't need to say a word.
  • fanch75
    fanch75 Posts: 3,734
    Do this - call her up and tell her if she doesn't cut the shit, you are gonna go over there and smack the shit outta her until you smack the black off her ass.

    I bet she straightens up.
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  • libragirl
    libragirl Posts: 4,632
    fanch75 wrote:
    Do this - call her up and tell her if she doesn't cut the shit, you are gonna go over there and smack the shit outta her until you black off her ass.

    I bet she straightens up.


    That might get her dumped...I couldn't take the shit anymore and that's what happened to me. But it was great to see his true colors.
    These cuts are leaving creases. Trace the scars to fit the pieces, to tell the story, you don't need to say a word.
  • WildChildRose
    WildChildRose Posts: 568
    fanch75 wrote:
    Do this - call her up and tell her if she doesn't cut the shit, you are gonna go over there and smack the shit outta her until you smack the black off her ass.

    I bet she straightens up.


    LOLLOL! Well... I wouldn't attempt that bc she's about 300-400 lbs and I am pretty dainty. Her best friend who is my fiance's ex is also roughly that weight. I honestly think they are envious and jealous of my relationship. They are both with men that won't have sex with them and they have no intimate love or anything in their relationship. His sister's BF won't even say I love you, he tells her, I love cake, instead. They are just getting older and nastier and more and more bitter.
    "I'll ride the wave where it takes me.."
  • WildChildRose
    WildChildRose Posts: 568
    libragirl wrote:
    That might get her dumped...I couldn't take the shit anymore and that's what happened to me. But it was great to see his true colors.

    Oh do tell, Id love to hear more!
    "I'll ride the wave where it takes me.."
  • fanch75
    fanch75 Posts: 3,734
    WildChildRose wrote:
    They are both with men that won't have sex with them and they have no intimate love or anything in their relationship. His sister's BF won't even say I love you, he tells her, I love cake, instead. They are just getting older and nastier and more and more bitter.

    Awesome.
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  • libragirl
    libragirl Posts: 4,632
    WildChildRose wrote:
    Oh do tell, Id love to hear more!

    ha...I would love to but I can't. But I do feel bad for my sister, her husband really doesn't stand up for her. She is always getting into arguments with her.
    These cuts are leaving creases. Trace the scars to fit the pieces, to tell the story, you don't need to say a word.
  • markymark550
    markymark550 Columbia, SC Posts: 5,217
    WildChildRose wrote:
    His sister's BF won't even say I love you, he tells her, I love cake, instead.
    I know this is a really serious topic, but I couldn't help but laugh at that....


    I'd guess that you're right when you said that she's just jealous. That being the case, just ignore to the best of your ability.

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