becos the women around here dont hate me enough already

soulsinging wrote:

i want sex upon demand and no inane chatter. that's what your girlfriends are for. other than, you can do whatever you damn well please.

interesting conor. i wouldnt mind sex on dmand and the absence of dumbarse conversation either.

Jeanie wrote:

The perfect man!!!

oh jeanie. you know that's an oxymoron.

sweetpotato wrote:

i think y'all need to "age" a bit, then you'll see that there ARE in fact differences in the way men & women relate to the world, and in their physical and emotional abilities. women tend to be less physically but more psychologically strong; women are more nurturing, men are more aggressive; women bear more of the childrearing burden because, well, they're better at it... these are generalizations, of course, but generalizations are generally true.

so of course, i want to get paid exactly what a man would get paid for the same exact job, but i don't think it's a crime to enjoy being treated tenderly by a man. it's not a double standard- it's an acceptance of certain realities and a comfort level in the differences between men and women.

I generally agree with you.

In my opinion, the negative findings pertaining to equal gender roles in the original article can be attributed to the stress and pressure of people striving to be what they are not. I see women striving to be equal. It's great to ask that the opportunities are out there for us. Meaning that we have fair avenues through which we stretch and develop our potential. I have found much peace and my actual potential by focussing on what is right for me, including my biological and psychological differences. In some categories I can be more effective than a man. And yet that is not at all something on my radar screen. It's not realistic in being the best that I can be that I compare myself to someone elses progress. In the way my boyfriend and I navigate our differences--like where he'll go out of his way to carry the heavier groceries, it works effectively for us, and with the least energy expended, meeting our needs. By minimizing that effort, using gender roles that evolved for reasons, we have more energy freed up to become more and more of who we are, including outletting our dreams.

I agree with what Jeanie said earlier on the subject, it is about agreement and negotiation. And if the situation does not work for one or the other, it's up to them to seek resolution of what is not working, by coming to a new agreement.

soulsinging wrote:

ladies, this man is desperate to get laid and will play his "im so different and sensitive" schtick as long as it takes for you to let him sodomize you.

You say that like it's a bad thing :)

I really despise that term 'sodomy'.

my2hands wrote:

there are smart, witty, and loving males in the world that value you beyond description. and some of us are masculine enough to show it without hiding behind some bullshit "manly" facade that claims to treat you simply as an object for sexual pleasure, or a conquest. some of us value your brain and soul, as well as your beauty.


the smarter and more independant the woman, the sexier she is

Sounds good, but you'll still argue with me right?

Jeanie wrote:

why am I getting the impression that you are obsessed with anal sex?

you say that like it's a bad thing jeanie.

Ahnimus wrote:

I really despise that term 'sodomy'.

yeah we know. we've been through this before. fact remains ryan, sodomy is a word. it has a meaning so we're going to use it when appropriate.

Jeanie wrote:

not bad, interesting!

yes, very interesting i'd say.

Ahnimus wrote:

The only reason I don't like it, is the negative connotation, it sounds deragatory. Because it's based on Sodom from the Bible. Anal Sex is much more pleasant to my brain.

then you're doing it wrong ryan.