While it sounds like your friend is pretty spiteful.....
Consider this...
You told him basically that your brother is going with you, and his only chance of going, was MAYBE if your brother wouldnt go.
If I was your friend, and I was shut out of a ticket, I would be trying to find anyway possible to get to that show. VIP Box, lawn, last row, standing in the corner, whatever.
So he got lucky and scored some tickets, and knowing you and your bro were going, he invited other people. And he KNOWS they are going. He is not going to say to his girlfirend, "honey, my friend, you know the guy who said I could only go if his brother couldnt go? well, now he wants to sit with me. Is it ok if you stay home, becasue he is a bigger pearl jam fan than you."
He's gotta do what he's gotta do to see the show, and he is not going to un-invite people based ontheir love of the band. And maybe he knows someone who will be able to get backstage, and thats how they got the VIP tix in the first place.
Neither of you are wrong in this situation.
Ms.Vedd Hedd, the voice of reason
that hadn't occurred to me either, I went right past the idea that his friend could only go if the brother couldn't
so why shouldn't the friend try and get his own tickets, duh
oh and uh, he's not going to meet the band
I've been in VIP boxes for PJ shows, which included a very nice dinner before the show, but we didn't meet the band
Yeah, same here. Dinner, booze, a bunch of suits in the room, but no band meetings.
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While it sounds like your friend is pretty spiteful.....
Consider this...
You told him basically that your brother is going with you, and his only chance of going, was MAYBE if your brother wouldnt go.
If I was your friend, and I was shut out of a ticket, I would be trying to find anyway possible to get to that show. VIP Box, lawn, last row, standing in the corner, whatever.
So he got lucky and scored some tickets, and knowing you and your bro were going, he invited other people. And he KNOWS they are going. He is not going to say to his girlfirend, "honey, my friend, you know the guy who said I could only go if his brother couldnt go? well, now he wants to sit with me. Is it ok if you stay home, becasue he is a bigger pearl jam fan than you."
He's gotta do what he's gotta do to see the show, and he is not going to un-invite people based ontheir love of the band. And maybe he knows someone who will be able to get backstage, and thats how they got the VIP tix in the first place.
Neither of you are wrong in this situation.
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I think I'd prefer to be surrounded by people who know the words to SOLAT if/when they play it, instead of being surrounded by people who think they may have heard Even Flow this one time at band camp whilst chomping on a soggy sammich.
damn, is this a test?
idk if i know all the words to SOLAT....or many other songs..... :oops:
ed is rather a mumbler..... :P
in all seriousness, it's been said ample times in the thread.....you've got the better spot!
in a very early post that i enjoyed immensely .....someone suggested your friend might be 'a bit of a tit and talking bollocks'......hahahaha....love that, and...perhaps.
definitely nothing to lose a friendship over, but it also let's you see where you stand with him too.
ENJOY THE SHOW!
hell, if you're standing GA...and manage to push pegasus outta the way ....you'll be WAY closer to ed and the boys than your friend probably ever will be that night.
You're both going to the show, and you're both going to have a killer time. You being the die hard Pearl Jam fan, and him being closer to the casual fan status, it only makes sense that he's in the VIP boxes and you're in the pit. VIP Boxes in most venues are not intended for the hardcore fans. VIP boxes rarely are built for concerts.
As far as your relationship, things will only become as awkward or weird as you make them. If you're not spiteful with your friend about this, then I'm sure that he won't be spiteful either. Don't hold grudges. Life is too short.
You're both going to the show, and you're both going to have a killer time. You being the die hard Pearl Jam fan, and him being closer to the casual fan status, it only makes sense that he's in the VIP boxes and you're in the pit. VIP Boxes in most venues are not intended for the hardcore fans. VIP boxes rarely are built for concerts.
As far as your relationship, things will only become as awkward or weird as you make them. If you're not spiteful with your friend about this, then I'm sure that he won't be spiteful either. Don't hold grudges. Life is too short.
Relax, and enjoy the show!
Well said! Thanks for your advice.
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Just because he has a VIP box does not mean that he is going to meet the band
Lets put it this way. I was backstage at MSG last year during the soundcheck, the band walking past me a few times and I was the only fan around, and I didn't meet the band. PJ is not much of a shmoozing band, so unless his uncle is Kelly Curtis, I would bet all the money in my pocket that your friend will not get even in the same room as PJ. They will be far, far away from the stage (if O2's boxes are the same as other arena boxes).
You already had tickets. He scored tickets. No problem, right?
His comment "I managed to get a VIP box at the O2 and will probably meet the band" does seem designed to inflame you... so what I'd do if I were in that situation is tell him "wow, those VIP tickets are far away from everything, but as long as you meet the band, that'll make it worth it!" Play up the "you're meeting the band" part so he feels all weird admitting later that he didn't.
You've got the better tickets. VIP boxes are more for those that want comfort rather than to have the real PJ experience.
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You've been a fan for how long? 99% of "meeting PJ" stories around here seem pretty spontaneous. PJ don't seem like the pre planned VIP meet and greet type of band.
Stay in the pit. Your friend is fulla shit. And he seems like a spiteful douche.
word...hang out at a starbucks nearby the venue and you'll probably meet mike.
see?
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You've been a fan for how long? 99% of "meeting PJ" stories around here seem pretty spontaneous. PJ don't seem like the pre planned VIP meet and greet type of band.
Stay in the pit. Your friend is fulla shit. And he seems like a spiteful douche.
word...hang out at a starbucks nearby the venue and you'll probably meet mike.
see?
nice! gotta love a SPONTANEOUS meeting!
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I wouldn't be too worried about the whole box thing, standing will be much better. I had a bit of a dilema myself as a friend of mine can get me access to a box with access to backstage at the 02 and offered me one to PJ for 100 quid. I thought long and hard about it and did some research and eventually decided to turn it down. Basically there are 3 backstage bars and your pass probably only allows you access to the biggest bar, which I doubt PJ would be in, if they even hang out there at all. I got backstage to the Chili Peppers at Brixton in 95 after a friend traded his Tag (watch) for a couple of passes, I met Dave Navarro for all of 2 seconds and he pretty much ignored me. I'd say it's not really the best place to meet the band. Anyway the main reason I decided to turn it down is that I'll be able to stand and watch with all my best PJ friends and enjoy it with them.
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Everyone's giving great advice here - stick with the friendship and enjoy your much MORE AMAZING seats! My husband works in the music industry, so we can usually get those VIP seats whenever we want. I've found that they are truly the WORST seats in the house. Not only that, but the other people in the box are there to be seen - not to see the band. You're going to have a much better time in the fanclub section.
I must add that it's kind of silly for your friend to be lying to you and trying to rub it in that he will be meeting the band. When I'm at shows that I'm so-so about, I'll take the VIP sometimes just to have a server, but never once have I met a band because of it. You might want to question why such a good friend would try to make you so jealous!
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Sorry to say this but your friend seems to be a bit of a tit. It sounds like hes trying to get back at you by talking bollocks (meeting the band) because you didntgive him your spare straight away.
standin tickets are way better than posh box seats, I wouldnt swap if someone offered me moeny too. Your in the right place trust me. Meeting the band would be cool, but let me ask you this.
If you get a one off chance in a non touring year to have 2 mins with the band in person or a 2 and a half hour show what would you pick? I'm guessing the show, which emphasises that you are gonna be in the right bit of the crowd
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Basically there are 3 backstage bars and your pass probably only allows you access to the biggest bar, which I doubt PJ would be in, if they even hang out there at all. I got backstage to the Chili Peppers at Brixton in 95 after a friend traded his Tag (watch) for a couple of passes, I met Dave Navarro for all of 2 seconds and he pretty much ignored me. I'd say it's not really the best place to meet the band.
"Backstage" is a vague term too. People think that if they're escorted to a pipe and drape "room" with some soda and chips that they are "backstage". Real backstage is the corridor where the dressing rooms are. I used to manage backstage for lots of arena shows ...and backstage around RHCP is different than PJ. Each band has different security requirements. From what I recall PJ does a "lockdown" of the backstage area when they're in the venue. This means no one at all anywhere around them. The only other bands I remember security being that tight for was The Who and Marilyn Manson (MM also had Dick Adams as production manager, and Pete for security, both of whom are on PJ's normal touring crew). So, again, your friend is 99.9% guaranteed not to meet the band, unless he is SERIOUSLY connected.
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Playing Devil's Advocate here...
Second: Why are you gutted? If the GF really wants to go to the show, she takes place #1, if my husband or when we were dating had given away a tkt to something I wanted to go to believe me he would have been in the doghouse for sometime.
You're kidding right? GF takes #1 place for everything a guy wants to do no matter what, just because she's the girlfriend? Shitty attitude right there. I would say 75% of the time the guy would choose to take his girlfriend, but for it to be some sort of unwritten rule is really stupid, unfair, and quite controlling actually.
I'm sure you are past that now though.
yeah ... my pj bud from day 1 gets first dibs on my 10C ticket ALWAYs ... it's called loyalty ...
While it sounds like your friend is pretty spiteful.....
Consider this...
You told him basically that your brother is going with you, and his only chance of going, was MAYBE if your brother wouldnt go.
If I was your friend, and I was shut out of a ticket, I would be trying to find anyway possible to get to that show. VIP Box, lawn, last row, standing in the corner, whatever.
So he got lucky and scored some tickets, and knowing you and your bro were going, he invited other people. And he KNOWS they are going. He is not going to say to his girlfirend, "honey, my friend, you know the guy who said I could only go if his brother couldnt go? well, now he wants to sit with me. Is it ok if you stay home, becasue he is a bigger pearl jam fan than you."
He's gotta do what he's gotta do to see the show, and he is not going to un-invite people based ontheir love of the band. And maybe he knows someone who will be able to get backstage, and thats how they got the VIP tix in the first place.
Neither of you are wrong in this situation.
Ms.Vedd Hedd, the voice of reason
that hadn't occurred to me either, I went right past the idea that his friend could only go if the brother couldn't
so why shouldn't the friend try and get his own tickets, duh
oh and uh, he's not going to meet the band
I've been in VIP boxes for PJ shows, which included a very nice dinner before the show, but we didn't meet the band
Meeting the band is so overrated. Done it a bunch of times in different settings. Unless you catch up with them so many times you strike up an ongoing mateship with them, you're really much better off down at the pub hanging out with the other fans and making great friends you can count on.
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Playing Devil's Advocate here...
Second: Why are you gutted? If the GF really wants to go to the show, she takes place #1, if my husband or when we were dating had given away a tkt to something I wanted to go to believe me he would have been in the doghouse for sometime.
You're kidding right? GF takes #1 place for everything a guy wants to do no matter what, just because she's the girlfriend? Shitty attitude right there. I would say 75% of the time the guy would choose to take his girlfriend, but for it to be some sort of unwritten rule is really stupid, unfair, and quite controlling actually.
I'm sure you are past that now though.
yeah ... my pj bud from day 1 gets first dibs on my 10C ticket ALWAYs ... it's called loyalty ...
Yeah but that not the case in thise scenario, the OP's friend was told he could have the tkt if someone else couldn't make it, its not like the friend picked the GF before its friend. The OP already had tickets, and his friend knew it, what is this guy supposed to do? Tell the GF to stay home because his buddy rather sit in the VIP Box and not use his tkt? It's not like the OP doesnt have any tkts, if there were 2 tkts and the friend is a hard core PJ fan and the GF isn't I could maybe understand that he would ask his GF to stay home so that he can go enjoy the show with this friend, but by no means bump the GF for a friend who already has tkts to the show regardless of whether she loves them or can only sing to Enveflow.
But if my husband bought tks for something and invited me to go and then a friend comes along and wants to go and he bumps my ass off the plan believe I wont be amused.
and the key words on my post were " if my husband or when we were dating had given away a tkt to something I wanted to go". Because she is not a hard core fan like we are it means she doesn't want to go? and then she should be bumped because someone who already has tkts wants to sit in the VIP box? I think not IMO.
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as in all situations like this my advice stays the same... punch him in the fudd™
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I have been a die hard PJ fan for like 15 years. I have a friend who I have known since I was 14 - 29 now(who also likes PJ but not a die hard fan or 10c member) who I gave my spare ticket to for the London, Wembley gig in 2007 - I should have given the ticket to my brother as he managed to get 2 tix to the London Astoria gig but I felt bad for my friend and gave him the other Wemblet ticket.
I recently scored 2 tix to the London O2 gig (10c - standing) and promised my brother the other ticket. I told my friend that if my bro goes away in August he can have it. So last night I went to my friends house and said that my brother IS going away in august and he can have his ticket - well my mate said - 'thats ok, I managed to get a VIP box at the O2 and will probably meet the band' I was like - well can I come? He said probably not cause he only has 4 seated tickets and he's going to go with his girlfriend (Who is not a PJ fan at all) and his flatmate and his girlfriend.
Well, needless to say I am devestated. Im almost 30 years old but on the verge of tears. I know there are more important things in life than a PJ gig but feel absolutley gutted about it. I dont wanna say to my friend to take me and not his girlfriend and i dont wanna lose a 15 year friendship over this but I am just gutted...
I wouldn't take it so personal or let it cost you a friendship. My guess is that the friend, being a casual fan, is more interested in the event than the show. He's got a luxury box and wants to show off a bit with the gf and the flatmate. He knows you're a die hard fan and, let's face it, die hards are serious buzz kills at things like this. It's always awkward to be hanging out with somebody having a religious experience while you're just enjoying a few drinks and fun with friends in luxury. Like going to church or something to see if any of your old neighborhood friends are there while your mother is tearfully and earnestly praying her heart out. We're trekkies, and he wants the gf to have someone around that can chat and bullshit and have some fun, not a Trekkie like one of us that will be shushing any conversation to hear the gospel of Ed Plus, he knew you already had a ticket, and aybe he was as hurt by you taking the brother over him in the first place and trying to dig at you a bit.
Playing Devil's Advocate here...
Second: Why are you gutted? If the GF really wants to go to the show, she takes place #1, if my husband or when we were dating had given away a tkt to something I wanted to go to believe me he would have been in the doghouse for sometime.
You're kidding right? GF takes #1 place for everything a guy wants to do no matter what, just because she's the girlfriend? Shitty attitude right there. I would say 75% of the time the guy would choose to take his girlfriend, but for it to be some sort of unwritten rule is really stupid, unfair, and quite controlling actually.
I'm sure you are past that now though.
yeah ... my pj bud from day 1 gets first dibs on my 10C ticket ALWAYs ... it's called loyalty ...
No way. guy code... you DON'T cockblock. Period. THAT is loyalty. So yeah, if it's a girl you've been seeing for years and she doesn't give a shit, maybe you take your friend to the box and leave the gf at home. But if it's someone new... what better way to get a girl in a putting out mood than take her to a private luxury box to listen to a legend do an acoustic set, then take her home and fuck the shit out of her? This talk of ditching the gf is absurd, she's always going to trump friends... your friends will forgive a thoughtless move (if they even notice), a woman will hold it over you until the day you die, and even then probably bitch about it on your grave. So you appease her first.
The real question is why did he take the flatmate over the friend.
The real question is why did he take the flatmate over the friend.
because the Op already had tkts, he has 10C standing tkts, the OP told his friend he could have the tkts if his brother couldn't use it.
When the friend got 4 tkts he invited his roommate and a guest and his GF, call me crazy but I dont think he is a dick for doing that given that his friend already had tkts.
Of course thats what I gather from the OP's story, if you have a GF and a friend that dont have tkts why offer your tkts to someone that already has tkts instead that to the ticketless? (LOL was that last line confusing or what?)
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Don't be upset. Your friend knew you were already going with your brother so he just had you out of the equation, that's all. Get the whole thing out of your head so you can enjoy the show. For some reason, you are meant to be in a different place. You may never know why, just trust in God and everything will be all right. Enjoy the show.
The real question is why did he take the flatmate over the friend.
because the Op already had tkts, he has 10C standing tkts, the OP told his friend he could have the tkts if his brother couldn't use it.
When the friend got 4 tkts he invited his roommate and a guest and his GF, call me crazy but I dont think he is a dick for doing that given that his friend already had tkts.
Of course thats what I gather from the OP's story, if you have a GF and a friend that dont have tkts why offer your tkts to someone that already has tkts instead that to the ticketless? (LOL was that last line confusing or what?)
Oh, I agree completely, I was just wondering why people seemed to be zeroing in on the fact that his friend is bringing his gf... if you're going to take the stance that the friend should have offered him a spot in the box, why the gf's spot as opposed to the roommate or roommate's gf? that's all I meant.
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+1
damn, is this a test?
idk if i know all the words to SOLAT....or many other songs..... :oops:
ed is rather a mumbler..... :P
in all seriousness, it's been said ample times in the thread.....you've got the better spot!
in a very early post that i enjoyed immensely
definitely nothing to lose a friendship over, but it also let's you see where you stand with him too.
ENJOY THE SHOW!
hell, if you're standing GA...and manage to push pegasus outta the way
Let's just breathe...
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As far as your relationship, things will only become as awkward or weird as you make them. If you're not spiteful with your friend about this, then I'm sure that he won't be spiteful either. Don't hold grudges. Life is too short.
Relax, and enjoy the show!
Well said! Thanks for your advice.
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Lets put it this way. I was backstage at MSG last year during the soundcheck, the band walking past me a few times and I was the only fan around, and I didn't meet the band. PJ is not much of a shmoozing band, so unless his uncle is Kelly Curtis, I would bet all the money in my pocket that your friend will not get even in the same room as PJ. They will be far, far away from the stage (if O2's boxes are the same as other arena boxes).
You already had tickets. He scored tickets. No problem, right?
His comment "I managed to get a VIP box at the O2 and will probably meet the band" does seem designed to inflame you... so what I'd do if I were in that situation is tell him "wow, those VIP tickets are far away from everything, but as long as you meet the band, that'll make it worth it!" Play up the "you're meeting the band" part so he feels all weird admitting later that he didn't.
You've got the better tickets. VIP boxes are more for those that want comfort rather than to have the real PJ experience.
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*Borgata 10/1/05 *Camden 5/27/06 *Camden 5/28/06 *DC 5/30/06
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*Bristow VA 5/13/10 *MSG 5/20/10 *MSG 5/21/10
word...hang out at a starbucks nearby the venue and you'll probably meet mike.
see?
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nice! gotta love a SPONTANEOUS meeting!
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*Mansfield 8/29/00 *Mansfield 8/30/00 *Nassau 4/30/03 *Nissan VA 7/1/03
*Borgata 10/1/05 *Camden 5/27/06 *Camden 5/28/06 *DC 5/30/06
*VA Beach 6/17/08 *DC 6/22/08 *MSG 6/24/08 (backstage) *MSG 6/25/08
*EV DC 8/17/08 *EV Baltimore 6/15/09 *Philly 10/31/09
*Bristow VA 5/13/10 *MSG 5/20/10 *MSG 5/21/10
London 28/10/96, Las Vegas 11/7/98, London 29/5/00, Nurnburg 11/6/00, Prague 14/6/00, Salzburg 18/6/00, Verona 20/6/00, Milan 22/6/00, Zurich 23/6/00, New York 8-9/7/03, Boston 11/7/03, Reading Festival 27/8/06, Shepards Bush 11/8/09, Berlin 15/8/09, Manchester 17/8/09, London 18/8/09, Dublin 22/6/10, Belfast 23/6/10, London (HRC) 25/6/10, Alpine Valley (PJ20) 3-4/9/11, Manchester 20-21/6/12, Leeds 8/7/14, Milton Keynes 11/7/14 To be continued....
I must add that it's kind of silly for your friend to be lying to you and trying to rub it in that he will be meeting the band. When I'm at shows that I'm so-so about, I'll take the VIP sometimes just to have a server, but never once have I met a band because of it. You might want to question why such a good friend would try to make you so jealous!
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2011 - PJ20 9/3-9/4
2012 - MIA Festival 9/2
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2015 - Colbert show - 9/23 Global Citizens Festival 9/26
2016 - Philly 4/28-4/29 MSG 5/1-5/2
"Backstage" is a vague term too. People think that if they're escorted to a pipe and drape "room" with some soda and chips that they are "backstage". Real backstage is the corridor where the dressing rooms are. I used to manage backstage for lots of arena shows ...and backstage around RHCP is different than PJ. Each band has different security requirements. From what I recall PJ does a "lockdown" of the backstage area when they're in the venue. This means no one at all anywhere around them. The only other bands I remember security being that tight for was The Who and Marilyn Manson (MM also had Dick Adams as production manager, and Pete for security, both of whom are on PJ's normal touring crew). So, again, your friend is 99.9% guaranteed not to meet the band, unless he is SERIOUSLY connected.
*NYC 9/28/96 *NYC 9/29/96 *NJ 9/8/98 (front row "may i play drums with you")
*MSG 9/10/98 (backstage) *MSG 9/11/98 (backstage)
*Jones Beach 8/23/00 *Jones Beach 8/24/00 *Jones Beach 8/25/00
*Mansfield 8/29/00 *Mansfield 8/30/00 *Nassau 4/30/03 *Nissan VA 7/1/03
*Borgata 10/1/05 *Camden 5/27/06 *Camden 5/28/06 *DC 5/30/06
*VA Beach 6/17/08 *DC 6/22/08 *MSG 6/24/08 (backstage) *MSG 6/25/08
*EV DC 8/17/08 *EV Baltimore 6/15/09 *Philly 10/31/09
*Bristow VA 5/13/10 *MSG 5/20/10 *MSG 5/21/10
yeah ... my pj bud from day 1 gets first dibs on my 10C ticket ALWAYs ... it's called loyalty ...
Thanks. Except Im a Mr.
Nuclear fission
Haha, you are probably right.
Unless the friend was told he could get backstage. Maybe he wasnt douchey, just naive.
Or maybe he was correct. I know people who got backstage at PJ shows, simply becasue they know people from the venue and had box seats as well.
Nuclear fission
But did the people you know meet the band?
House staff typically don't have any interaction with the bands, let alone friends of the house staff.
*NYC 9/28/96 *NYC 9/29/96 *NJ 9/8/98 (front row "may i play drums with you")
*MSG 9/10/98 (backstage) *MSG 9/11/98 (backstage)
*Jones Beach 8/23/00 *Jones Beach 8/24/00 *Jones Beach 8/25/00
*Mansfield 8/29/00 *Mansfield 8/30/00 *Nassau 4/30/03 *Nissan VA 7/1/03
*Borgata 10/1/05 *Camden 5/27/06 *Camden 5/28/06 *DC 5/30/06
*VA Beach 6/17/08 *DC 6/22/08 *MSG 6/24/08 (backstage) *MSG 6/25/08
*EV DC 8/17/08 *EV Baltimore 6/15/09 *Philly 10/31/09
*Bristow VA 5/13/10 *MSG 5/20/10 *MSG 5/21/10
and don't "Meet n Greets" come across as forced and awkward to anyone else?
Yeah but that not the case in thise scenario, the OP's friend was told he could have the tkt if someone else couldn't make it, its not like the friend picked the GF before its friend. The OP already had tickets, and his friend knew it, what is this guy supposed to do? Tell the GF to stay home because his buddy rather sit in the VIP Box and not use his tkt? It's not like the OP doesnt have any tkts, if there were 2 tkts and the friend is a hard core PJ fan and the GF isn't I could maybe understand that he would ask his GF to stay home so that he can go enjoy the show with this friend, but by no means bump the GF for a friend who already has tkts to the show regardless of whether she loves them or can only sing to Enveflow.
But if my husband bought tks for something and invited me to go and then a friend comes along and wants to go and he bumps my ass off the plan believe I wont be amused.
and the key words on my post were " if my husband or when we were dating had given away a tkt to something I wanted to go". Because she is not a hard core fan like we are it means she doesn't want to go? and then she should be bumped because someone who already has tkts wants to sit in the VIP box? I think not IMO.
yes.................................and how in the fuck did you do the little "TM"????
You computer geniuses kinda irritate me. There was some dude on the other board who was typing upside down. It was cool.............................but annoying.
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I wouldn't take it so personal or let it cost you a friendship. My guess is that the friend, being a casual fan, is more interested in the event than the show. He's got a luxury box and wants to show off a bit with the gf and the flatmate. He knows you're a die hard fan and, let's face it, die hards are serious buzz kills at things like this. It's always awkward to be hanging out with somebody having a religious experience while you're just enjoying a few drinks and fun with friends in luxury. Like going to church or something to see if any of your old neighborhood friends are there while your mother is tearfully and earnestly praying her heart out. We're trekkies, and he wants the gf to have someone around that can chat and bullshit and have some fun, not a Trekkie like one of us that will be shushing any conversation to hear the gospel of Ed
No way. guy code... you DON'T cockblock. Period. THAT is loyalty. So yeah, if it's a girl you've been seeing for years and she doesn't give a shit, maybe you take your friend to the box and leave the gf at home. But if it's someone new... what better way to get a girl in a putting out mood than take her to a private luxury box to listen to a legend do an acoustic set, then take her home and fuck the shit out of her? This talk of ditching the gf is absurd, she's always going to trump friends... your friends will forgive a thoughtless move (if they even notice), a woman will hold it over you until the day you die, and even then probably bitch about it on your grave. So you appease her first.
The real question is why did he take the flatmate over the friend.
because the Op already had tkts, he has 10C standing tkts, the OP told his friend he could have the tkts if his brother couldn't use it.
When the friend got 4 tkts he invited his roommate and a guest and his GF, call me crazy but I dont think he is a dick for doing that given that his friend already had tkts.
Of course thats what I gather from the OP's story, if you have a GF and a friend that dont have tkts why offer your tkts to someone that already has tkts instead that to the ticketless? (LOL was that last line confusing or what?)
Thank you Mr.
Soooooooooooo you coming to Chi-town? Come one! You know you wanna!
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Oh, I agree completely, I was just wondering why people seemed to be zeroing in on the fact that his friend is bringing his gf... if you're going to take the stance that the friend should have offered him a spot in the box, why the gf's spot as opposed to the roommate or roommate's gf? that's all I meant.