Facebook 'friends' is really stupid

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  • I went to HS with a guy who is friends with 2332 people.
    I don't think I've ever spoken to that many different people in my life, strangers included. lol.

    I have 101 friends on mine, most I cant even keep up with. There's maybe a dozen people I use it for to keep in touch with.

    He's a friend poacher. i had a cousin who just signed up, mid 40's (I'm 34) and noticed this guy was a mutual friend. I asked her how she knew him...said she didn't but since he was a friend of mine, she accepted his request.
  • ECMECM Posts: 1,687
    agreed.. however the texas hold'em poker app is kind of cool
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  • pjfan31pjfan31 Posts: 7,335
    agreed.. however the texas hold'em poker app is kind of cool

    I played that ages ago, and people would try and add me as a friend from that. I guess they're just lonely."Will anyone be my friend"
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  • Thoughts_ArriveThoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    lol I just ignored a friend request from someone I don't even know.
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  • pjfan31pjfan31 Posts: 7,335
    lol I just ignored a friend request from someone I don't even know.

    dammit, that was me :D
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  • Thoughts_ArriveThoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    pjfan31 wrote:
    lol I just ignored a friend request from someone I don't even know.

    dammit, that was me :D

    Oh, hi Marina didn't know it was you there.
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  • pjfan31pjfan31 Posts: 7,335
    pjfan31 wrote:
    lol I just ignored a friend request from someone I don't even know.

    dammit, that was me :D

    Oh, hi Marina didn't know it was you there.

    Yep, I'm a heshe.
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  • Thoughts_ArriveThoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    pjfan31 wrote:

    Yep, I'm a heshe.

    Oi Bro I'll call on all my fully sick boys.
    Chk Chk Boom!

    :lol:
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  • pjfan31pjfan31 Posts: 7,335
    pjfan31 wrote:

    Yep, I'm a heshe.

    Oi Bro I'll call on all my fully sick boys.
    Chk Chk Boom!

    :lol:

    How much did it sound like a joke she was telling. "The fat wog said to the skinny wog" I was waiting for the punchline.
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  • Thoughts_ArriveThoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    Yeah it didn't sound for real when I first saw it.
    As if they would say that in a fight.
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  • soulsingingsoulsinging Posts: 13,202
    You people take facebook way too seriously. I think the people whining about the burden of facebook friends they aren't really friends are just sad, pathetic, and lonely and still bitter over hs slights that happened years ago... like Steve Buscemi's character in Billy Madison. Get over yourselves.

    I have somewhere near 300 friends on my list. I've talked to maybe 20-30 of them in the past year, and hung out with maybe the same number over the past 5 years. Most are old junior high/high school/college acquaintances I haven't seen since graduation. But you know what? I'd be happy to sit down with any of them to chat and see what they've been up to. Because I'm not so blinded by my rage at how they've jilted me that I'd be a prick about saying hello. I guess it just isn't weighing me down a tremendous amount, having them all on there... it's not like they make a lot of demands on me. :roll:
  • I think this bit sums it up.

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nrlSkU0TFLs
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  • Heineken HelenHeineken Helen Posts: 18,095
    I agree that most users on Facebook have friends they don't really need, but does it really matter?

    I have 266 friends on mine. They consist of Friends from growing up, current friends, family, co-workers, and people from the message board.

    I may not talk to everyone, but it's still good to have people on there. What if some random PJ friend that I've never met has an extra ticket or needs one? I have my facebook in my sig and people have added me that I've never spoken to or PM'd here. Networking is good, strangers help each other on this board all the time.
    I completely agree... I like keeping up with other people, whether I talk to them or not I might see a feed the odd time and think 'awww that's nice' or they may add other people who I DO wanna keep in touch with more.
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  • Drowned OutDrowned Out Posts: 6,056
    I completely agree... I like keeping up with other people, whether I talk to them or not I might see a feed the odd time and think 'awww that's nice' or they may add other people who I DO wanna keep in touch with more.
    exactly...

    "oh look, John had a baby/got married"
    *congrats John*
    ..got to see pics, acknowledge and congratulate John, no gift to buy, and I didn't have to pick up a phone or get off my ass. perfect. like John gives a shit if I call or not, I haven't talked to him in ten years. :lol:

    For over 2 yrs I've listened to non-users tell me how lame it is. I feel like saying, 'you know I'm on there, why be a douche and tell me it's lame?...or... why would I care if you think it's lame, I just asked if you were on there?" But then I think...why bother? ....it's a bloody website.
  • pjfan31pjfan31 Posts: 7,335
    I completely agree... I like keeping up with other people, whether I talk to them or not I might see a feed the odd time and think 'awww that's nice' or they may add other people who I DO wanna keep in touch with more.
    exactly...

    "oh look, John had a baby/got married"
    *congrats John*
    ..got to see pics, acknowledge and congratulate John, no gift to buy, and I didn't have to pick up a phone or get off my ass. perfect. like John gives a shit if I call or not, I haven't talked to him in ten years. :lol:

    For over 2 yrs I've listened to non-users tell me how lame it is. I feel like saying, 'you know I'm on there, why be a douche and tell me it's lame?...or... why would I care if you think it's lame, I just asked if you were on there?" But then I think...why bother? ....it's a bloody website.


    Fair enough. But if you saw 'John' in a chinese restaurant, would you totally ignore him??? This is what my original post about.
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  • My two cents... I feel like I would be MORE inclined to talk to acquaintances I have on Facebook if I saw them IRL than people I don't. Especially if you keep up with their statuses or something, you always have something to talk about. "I heard you were having a baby..." or "I saw you moved back to..."
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  • Drowned OutDrowned Out Posts: 6,056
    pjfan31 wrote:


    Fair enough. But if you saw 'John' in a chinese restaurant, would you totally ignore him??? This is what my original post about.

    Depends how well I knew John 10 years ago, the mood I’m in, and what’s going on at the time…I find it a bit annoying that John might think I’m a dick for not contacting him as often as he deems necessary to be friend-worthy tho….esp since John hasn’t contacted me either ;)

    After I wrote my first post in this thread, I realized I HAVE experienced something similar recently… I saw a woman I knew well in HS, and have partied with as recently as four or five years ago …talked to her a couple times when we first became fb friends, but not since. she didn’t acknowledge me when I saw her…for about half a second I thought, ‘snob’…then I thought ‘ whatever, she’s grocery shopping with two kids’ I’m pretty sure it wasn’t personal, and I’m not going to remove her from my friend list over it.
  • Drowned OutDrowned Out Posts: 6,056
    People are too sensitive about all that stuff…if someone is a good, REAL friend, they probably wouldn’t treat you like that – if they did, you’d have every right to confront them, and they’d probably give you a good excuse. Who cares how acquaintances treat us? They come and go like the seasons, and we should have no personal stake in letting go of those relationships (or friends) if we feel slighted. Whether or not to add acquaintances is our choice. People use the site for different reasons. Just delete the guy if it pissed you off…or are you worried about your count going down?

    I found that for the first few months, the friend list was the main focus – adding people you haven’t seen or being found by them…but once you find the people you care about and stop having friend requests every time you log on, the novelty of the site, and fixation with the friend list fades….I have 250+ friends, and don’t think I’ve added more than two or three in the past year. …but if someone I know (even a little) adds me, I’ll accept. The only reason I wouldn’t accept an add from a complete stranger (if I got one – never have) is cause I wouldn’t want them creeping my kids pics…but then…you can block specific people from specific albums. It’s set up to be personalized, so bitching about this stuff when you’re in total control is kinda silly.

    I like everyone on my list, and have known them at least enough to care if major things happen in their lives… the people I know with 4-500 friends are more social than me, or in college or whatever, so I don’t doubt that they could know that many people as acquaintances. Some people have like 100 celebs padding their list. Whatever, don't care! Doesn’t affect me at all.
  • OffHeGoes29OffHeGoes29 Posts: 1,240
    DocChicago wrote:
    An ex-girlfriend who broke my heart many years ago tried to add me as a Facebook friend. I've moved on with my life and I'm hapily married, but why would I invite that memory back into my life?

    Not good for buisness.....smart move on your part.
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