Paying your debts back to people that you owe

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  • SPEEDY MCCREADYSPEEDY MCCREADY Posts: 25,773
    know1 wrote:
    Don't loan people money. Just give it to them if you have a mind to and do not expect anything in return. If they pay you back, it's a bonus.
    i completely totally 100% disagree with your statement....


    having someone.....supposedly an adult....pay back money that he or she has borrowed....

    shouldnt have to be looked at as a "bonus".............
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  • milarsomilarso Posts: 1,280
    know1 wrote:
    Don't loan people money. Just give it to them if you have a mind to and do not expect anything in return. If they pay you back, it's a bonus.
    i completely totally 100% disagree with your statement....


    having someone.....supposedly an adult....pay back money that he or she has borrowed....

    shouldnt have to be looked at as a "bonus".............

    I think what know1 is getting at is that shouldn't loan out money unless you are completely prepared to never see it again.
    There are too many people out there, friends or not, that will take advantage when it comes to money. If you have it in your mind to help someone out and loan them some money, you should go into it with the mindset that you are giving them a gift. That way, when you never see it again, you won't be disappointed.
    On the other hand, if you feel you are going to be disappointed when they don't pay you back, you should think twice about loaning it out.
    Not trying to preach to anyone, just know from experience what the OP is going through.
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  • JaneNYJaneNY Posts: 4,438
    Some boards have a 'good trader' thread and a 'bad trader' thread, where people can post feedback of transactions and trades. I see no problem with that. Its no different than having feedback on ebay.
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  • PRL1JAMPRL1JAM Posts: 787
    CJMST3K wrote:
    I think you need to "out" them.

    I agree. Maybe it will prevent them from trying to take advantage of someone in the future, knowing now that some people are on to them.
  • patrickredeyespatrickredeyes Posts: 8,834
    I will never ''out them'' and won't. I should have never made this thread. I sometimes do things and not think first. I'm only human and we make mistakes.

    Peace
  • mickeyratmickeyrat Posts: 40,637
    milarso wrote:
    know1 wrote:
    Don't loan people money. Just give it to them if you have a mind to and do not expect anything in return. If they pay you back, it's a bonus.
    i completely totally 100% disagree with your statement....


    having someone.....supposedly an adult....pay back money that he or she has borrowed....

    shouldnt have to be looked at as a "bonus".............

    I think what know1 is getting at is that shouldn't loan out money unless you are completely prepared to never see it again.
    There are too many people out there, friends or not, that will take advantage when it comes to money. If you have it in your mind to help someone out and loan them some money, you should go into it with the mindset that you are giving them a gift. That way, when you never see it again, you won't be disappointed.
    On the other hand, if you feel you are going to be disappointed when they don't pay you back, you should think twice about loaning it out.
    Not trying to preach to anyone, just know from experience what the OP is going through.
    But what the Op was refering wasn't really a "loan" perse. More of a long drawn out business transaction. The other party has NOT fulfilled their part of the contract , and has since made excuses(real or otherwise) and recently purchased tix to EV. Which is what started it in the first place.
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  • milarsomilarso Posts: 1,280
    mickeyrat wrote:
    But what the Op was refering wasn't really a "loan" perse. More of a long drawn out business transaction. The other party has NOT fulfilled their part of the contract , and has since made excuses(real or otherwise) and recently purchased tix to EV. Which is what started it in the first place.

    I hear ya. I think it's deplorable to borrow money and not pay it back.
    But regardless of what you call it, a loan or otherwise, when you give someone money on the good faith that they are going to pay it back, eventually you're going to get burned.
    "The dude abides. I don't know about you, but I take comfort in that. It's good knowin' he's out there. The Dude. Takin' her easy for all us sinners."
  • ZiggyStarZiggyStar Posts: 14,328
    I will never ''out them'' and won't. I should have never made this thread. I sometimes do things and not think first. I'm only human and we make mistakes.

    Peace

    Noooo Patrick....you SHOULD out them and give the board some excitement for a while! But PM me first so I'm here when you do it! ;)
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  • know1know1 Posts: 6,794
    milarso wrote:
    know1 wrote:
    Don't loan people money. Just give it to them if you have a mind to and do not expect anything in return. If they pay you back, it's a bonus.
    i completely totally 100% disagree with your statement....


    having someone.....supposedly an adult....pay back money that he or she has borrowed....

    shouldnt have to be looked at as a "bonus".............

    I think what know1 is getting at is that shouldn't loan out money unless you are completely prepared to never see it again.
    There are too many people out there, friends or not, that will take advantage when it comes to money. If you have it in your mind to help someone out and loan them some money, you should go into it with the mindset that you are giving them a gift. That way, when you never see it again, you won't be disappointed.
    On the other hand, if you feel you are going to be disappointed when they don't pay you back, you should think twice about loaning it out.
    Not trying to preach to anyone, just know from experience what the OP is going through.

    Exactly. I was discussing the mindset of the lender at the time the money is given. I have adopted the principle that I won't loan any money to anyone. I just give it to them if I want to and if they pay me back, that is their choice.
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  • vduboisevduboise Posts: 1,937
    know1 wrote:

    Exactly. I was discussing the mindset of the lender at the time the money is given. I have adopted the principle that I won't loan any money to anyone. I just give it to them if I want to and if they pay me back, that is their choice.

    I totally agree. I no longer "lend" money, but I give it if I have it- I hope to get it back, but I'm a realist and know that some people won't. I had a friend I loaned a lot of money to, 3 years later nothing- and I no longer can stand looking at her. So from now on, I "give" no more than $100- that was a true lesson learned.
  • stuckinlinestuckinline Posts: 3,381
    I will never ''out them'' and won't. I should have never made this thread. I sometimes do things and not think first. I'm only human and we make mistakes.

    Peace
    patrick, no need to apologize.
    you've had a rough year. hope things are better with your dad.
  • PureandEasyPureandEasy Posts: 5,811
    I’m under the assumption that this person is probably just getting themselves into further debt. If they charged these most recent tickets, it does not mean they have the money to pay that off any time soon either, therefore, probably do not have your money. It’s certainly no excuse. It’s actually pretty ballsy if you ask me, to post about getting tickets knowing damn well they owe you.

    What can you do. I applaud you though for not outing them. I don’t like that crap. It’s between you and them, not us.
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  • Did you loan people on this message board money so they could buy PJ tickets in the past? It does bother me when people use other people to get what they want... like that one chick that was using people left and right to get Ten Club tickets.. UGHHH. Sorry Patrick. :( I pay people back too and trust me one day when I'm alright I'll get back all the people that have helped me in my life, even when it's been a gift. Have you asked these people to pay you back?
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  • like that one chick that was using people left and right to get Ten Club tickets..

    Bean Girl? :lol:
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  • like that one chick that was using people left and right to get Ten Club tickets..

    Bean Girl? :lol:

    he he... wasn't mentioning her name the kiss of death to get a thread locked? ;-)
    "I'll ride the wave where it takes me.."
  • like that one chick that was using people left and right to get Ten Club tickets..

    Bean Girl? :lol:

    he he... wasn't mentioning her name the kiss of death to get a thread locked? ;-)

    haha! well, hopefully it won't get out of hand, but i guess i'm partially to blame if it does. :oops:
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  • Drowned OutDrowned Out Posts: 6,056
    sounds like you came to some kind of resolve with the person that owed you, and now you feel guilty for making the thread...unless you exaggerated in the OP, you have nothing to feel guilty about. you didn't out them, but lit a fire and got shit done...that's a shrewd business move, not a bad-friend move....the bad-friend move is taking a year to pay someone $100+
  • Thoughts_ArriveThoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    I hate borrowing money because I forget if I paid the person back or not....except the bank.
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  • Heineken HelenHeineken Helen Posts: 18,095
    There should be a thread here...

    where we "OUT" everyone on this board who is so full of shit that it is coming out of their fucking ears......


    it would be the most popular thread ever!!!!!!!

    hehehehehe................
    Hahaha that would be great :mrgreen:

    Patrick that is so so shit... I've both borrowed from and loaned to plenty of people here... I paid it all back when I said I would and made up for it with SOME kind of interest (like sorting out the accommodation for me and them or whatever). I've been lucky that everybody's paid ME back too. Some even that I'd forgotten about and didn't get a chance to see them for a long long time and suddenly the next time I see them they're 'oh here's the 70euro I owe you' :shock: which was a pleasant surprise since I'd forgotten :mrgreen: . Thankfully I've never had an issue like yours and I've done plenty of borrowing and lending... but if it DID happen to me and they weren't somebody I was close to... I certainly WOULD create this thread. Hopefully they see it and see what an ass they've been :evil: This is no way to treat people!
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  • Heineken HelenHeineken Helen Posts: 18,095
    know1 wrote:

    Exactly. I was discussing the mindset of the lender at the time the money is given. I have adopted the principle that I won't loan any money to anyone. I just give it to them if I want to and if they pay me back, that is their choice.
    This IS a good point... there have been times when I'm pretty broke and can't REALLY afford to lend but I'll say that and specify WHEN I need it back and I've been lucky to always get it back (that would only be with people I KNOW will give it back anyway) but generally if I give someone a spare ticket or something I'm not thinking about the money when I do... but then I've always been pretty ok for money and didn't NEED it anyway. It's a different story if you've asked for it... and it's an ASS of a thing to do.
    The Astoria??? Orgazmic!
    Verona??? it's all surmountable
    Dublin 23.08.06 "The beauty of Ireland, right there!"
    Wembley? We all believe!
    Copenhagen?? your light made us stars
    Chicago 07? And love
    What a different life
    Had I not found this love with you
  • TravelarTravelar Kalamazoo, USA Posts: 3,410
    Karma will get them.... but it really does suck. I've been in that situation a few times.... I've learned to just write these things off from the beginning. If I get paid back, sweet. If not, I'm already not expecting it.
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