Are You Comfortable With Your Self Image??

curmudgeoness

brianlux said:

curmudgeoness said:

I'm also wondering what the OP meant by "self-image." I'm pretty happy with myself as a human being; there's always room to improve, but I make an effort to do the right thing. If we're talking about appearance, that's another matter.

I would like to be valued for my personality and whatever abilities I have, but, as a woman, I feel as if my value is more closely tied to my appearance. I've never been pretty. My husband disagrees on that point, but I've had enough men stop me on the street to tell me how ugly I am that I know I am, let's say, an acquired taste. I'd like to be able to not give a rat's ass about that; it's not my job to look pretty for you, after all. But it's an uphill battle.   

Any guy who would say something to you even remotely close to that is less than a piece of dirt.  They are the ugly ones, by far. 

My wife sometimes makes comments like, "You didn't marry me for my looks".  She may not "qualify" for some stupid glam magazine cover but so what!  I think she's beautiful and she has a beautiful soul and I'm a very lucky man.   I'm glad your husband is the good guy he is to acknowledge you own beauty.  Good man!

"Beauty" is so distorted by our culture and media any way.  We're all better off not buying into that nonsense.  Our culture says you have to be young and skinny to be beautiful.  Well, that may be so in some cases, but what a ridiculous, narrow-minded gauge of beauty. There is beauty in all types of people, men and women of all shapes, ages, races, and colors. 

Thank you, Brian. You sound like a pretty good man, yourself. [And, yes, I married well. :-)  ]

brianlux

curmudgeoness said:

brianlux said:

curmudgeoness said:

I'm also wondering what the OP meant by "self-image." I'm pretty happy with myself as a human being; there's always room to improve, but I make an effort to do the right thing. If we're talking about appearance, that's another matter.

I would like to be valued for my personality and whatever abilities I have, but, as a woman, I feel as if my value is more closely tied to my appearance. I've never been pretty. My husband disagrees on that point, but I've had enough men stop me on the street to tell me how ugly I am that I know I am, let's say, an acquired taste. I'd like to be able to not give a rat's ass about that; it's not my job to look pretty for you, after all. But it's an uphill battle.   

Any guy who would say something to you even remotely close to that is less than a piece of dirt.  They are the ugly ones, by far. 

My wife sometimes makes comments like, "You didn't marry me for my looks".  She may not "qualify" for some stupid glam magazine cover but so what!  I think she's beautiful and she has a beautiful soul and I'm a very lucky man.   I'm glad your husband is the good guy he is to acknowledge you own beauty.  Good man!

"Beauty" is so distorted by our culture and media any way.  We're all better off not buying into that nonsense.  Our culture says you have to be young and skinny to be beautiful.  Well, that may be so in some cases, but what a ridiculous, narrow-minded gauge of beauty. There is beauty in all types of people, men and women of all shapes, ages, races, and colors. 

Thank you, Brian. You sound like a pretty good man, yourself. [And, yes, I married well. :-)  ]

Excellent!  :plus_one:

rgambs

Y'alls some shecksy mother and father fuckers round here.

tempo_n_groove

rgambs said:

Y'alls some shecksy mother and father fuckers round here.

Is that how babies are made?

hedonist

tempo_n_groove said:

rgambs said:

Y'alls some shecksy mother and father fuckers round here.

Is that how babies are made?

Yes it is, tempo.
*pats head*