Someone help me undestand this

soulsinging

Yellow Ledbelly wrote:

Yeah, you are about right and I was just joshing you about the KoL thing. I realize I am silly sometimes.
By the boys I do mean friends, but those two generally just call with random thoughts or funny stories. One of them is a bigger gossip than any old woman at the beauty shop. He always says "So you heard any news?"

I hope you're as supportive of him when he comes out as you are of her when she's having bad days at work

Yellow Ledbelly

soulsinging wrote:

Yellow Ledbelly wrote:

Yeah, you are about right and I was just joshing you about the KoL thing. I realize I am silly sometimes.
By the boys I do mean friends, but those two generally just call with random thoughts or funny stories. One of them is a bigger gossip than any old woman at the beauty shop. He always says "So you heard any news?"

I hope you're as supportive of him when he comes out as you are of her when she's having bad days at work

Funny you should say that, because his best friend from childhood was quite obviously a flaming homosexual (not that there's anything wrong with that) and he refused to admit it even though everybody in the world knew it was so. The friend married a beautiful girl and after eight years of marriage he left her for a man.
Then and only then would he admit it....he caught major hell for being in denial all those years

Heineken Helen

sorry, I didn't get from your initial post that you're male and she's married. Changes everything... not mainly cos you're male.. but cos she's married! She has marriage commitments that come before you. I don't normally hear from any married friends for a couple of weeks. You can't expect a married friend (male or female) to be as attentive to you as a single friend.

vmfury

Indian Summer wrote:

you can't be close friends with the opposite sex, unless you're sleeping with them. It just doesn't work in the long run. You can have acquaintances, but not the kind of closeness your talking about.

Once upon a time, I disagreed with this ^. Now, I could not agree more. My boyfriend is my best friend and I leave it at that.

Yellow Ledbelly...your friend is married. MAJOR no, no. In my opinion, the two of you are closer than you should be given the fact that she is married. It sounds to me that maybe you feel a little more than you should for her or you would not be so consumed with why she isn't speaking with you much right now. Unless you are equally close with her husband and all of you hang out together, this friendship of yours has catastrophe written all over it. You need to go out and find another girl that you can spend one on one time with who is not committed to someone else.

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Sounds like a normal friendship to me, except for the part where you're so needy. I have a friend who is sometimes needy like that and it bugs the shit out of me - particularly when he gets upset with me when he thinks I'm blowing him off, and especially because I'm pretty sure he only gets so hurt with me because he likes me (which I know because he's asked me out before). I can't imagine him acting the same way toward his guy friends.

People get busy/stressed/whatever. Sounds like she already gives you more attention than most any married female friend with a stressful job would. Just be happy for that. Also, you can't hardly blame her for accepting when you offered to bring her breakfast, especially if she's been busy at work. Everyone's gotta eat!

Sounds like you have a pretty solid friendship, though, so you must be a great guy! You can bring me breakfast if you want (although I can't promise I'll return your calls afterward).

Thoughts_Arrive

Off he goes/she goes...

Indian Summer

vmfury wrote:

Indian Summer wrote:

you can't be close friends with the opposite sex, unless you're sleeping with them. It just doesn't work in the long run. You can have acquaintances, but not the kind of closeness your talking about.

Once upon a time, I disagreed with this ^. Now, I could not agree more. My boyfriend is my best friend and I leave it at that.

Yeah, it took me a while to realize this, but the older I got the more true it became.