What an effing mess I have gotten myself into...

sweet adeline

here's a littly ditty that you might like

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z9LwzgfESTE

JonnyPistachio

I think after the boyfriend patrols your hershey highway, your story might change. She's gonna chaet on you too.. just walk away.

josevolution

how does he taste :roll: ..

milarso

mfc2006 wrote:

Cinnamon Girl wrote:

If you feel "terrible" about it...then don't do it. I mean...why be involved in something that makes you feel terrible?

that's what i was thinking. if you're already feeling bad about the situation, is that a foundation that you want to build a relationship on? i think that the answer is pretty clear. good luck.

Just to make sure we are all on the same page, I don't feel terrible about her. I feel bad about knocking around with some other guy's girl. I feel bad for him. But the reason I'm so conflicted is that I feel a real connection with her, and it's kind of outweighing my morals when it comes to "guy law" ie- not hopping in the sack with another dude's girl...

mickeyrat

milarso wrote:

mfc2006 wrote:

Cinnamon Girl wrote:

If you feel "terrible" about it...then don't do it. I mean...why be involved in something that makes you feel terrible?

that's what i was thinking. if you're already feeling bad about the situation, is that a foundation that you want to build a relationship on? i think that the answer is pretty clear. good luck.

Just to make sure we are all on the same page, I don't feel terrible about her. I feel bad about knocking around with some other guy's girl. I feel bad for him. But the reason I'm so conflicted is that I feel a real connection with her, and it's kind of outweighing my morals when it comes to "guy law" ie- not hopping in the sack with another dude's girl...

I guess the real questiion here is "Would YOU want some dude , doing that to YOUR girlfriend/You"?

milarso

mickeyrat wrote:

I guess the real questiion here is "Would YOU want some dude , doing that to YOUR girlfriend/You"?

Absolutely not. And perhaps I'm just trying to justify my situation, but the way I figure it, if he was doing his job, she wouldn't be coming over to my place.

Cinnamon Girl

milarso wrote:

mickeyrat wrote:

I guess the real questiion here is "Would YOU want some dude , doing that to YOUR girlfriend/You"?

Absolutely not. And perhaps I'm just trying to justify my situation, but the way I figure it, if he was doing his job, she wouldn't be coming over to my place.

Ugh. :roll:

mickeyrat

milarso wrote:

mickeyrat wrote:

I guess the real questiion here is "Would YOU want some dude , doing that to YOUR girlfriend/You"?

Absolutely not. And perhaps I'm just trying to justify my situation, but the way I figure it, if he was doing his job, she wouldn't be coming over to my place.

OR , figure this , as "nice" as she seems to you , shes not one who sticks to exclusivity. In other words shes a little loose with the goods?

milarso

Cinnamon Girl wrote:

milarso wrote:

mickeyrat wrote:

I guess the real questiion here is "Would YOU want some dude , doing that to YOUR girlfriend/You"?

Absolutely not. And perhaps I'm just trying to justify my situation, but the way I figure it, if he was doing his job, she wouldn't be coming over to my place.

Ugh. :roll:

I'm not talking about sexually.

milarso

mickeyrat wrote:

milarso wrote:

mickeyrat wrote:

I guess the real questiion here is "Would YOU want some dude , doing that to YOUR girlfriend/You"?

Absolutely not. And perhaps I'm just trying to justify my situation, but the way I figure it, if he was doing his job, she wouldn't be coming over to my place.

OR , figure this , as "nice" as she seems to you , shes not one who sticks to exclusivity. In other words shes a little loose with the goods?

I don't know. She told me this is the first time she's ever cheated on anyone (I know, I know), but, at this point, I have really no reason to think that she's lying to me.

Cinnamon Girl

milarso wrote:

I'm not talking about sexually.

I didn't assume that you were...Just consider the fact that maybe this girl has some insecurity issues and maybe that's why she's being unfaithful. The one person who is definitely NOT at fault here is the boyfriend.

That's just my two cents. I do hope it works out for you...however that may be.

milarso

Cinnamon Girl wrote:

milarso wrote:

I'm not talking about sexually.

The one person who is definitely NOT at fault here is the boyfriend. .

That I would disagree with, only from things that she has said. But I don't know how it's going to pan out with them. I've decided that I don't really want to be a part of this, though. I was thinking alot about it today, and eventually, the other shoe is going to drop, and he's going to find out about it, and it is going to wreck him and/or ruin whatever they have going on.
And I don't want to be a part of that.
I'm going to call her in a bit and tell her I'm out.

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milarso wrote:

That I would disagree with, only from things that she has said. But I don't know how it's going to pan out with them. I've decided that I don't really want to be a part of this, though. I was thinking alot about it today, and eventually, the other shoe is going to drop, and he's going to find out about it, and it is going to wreck him and/or ruin whatever they have going on.
And I don't want to be a part of that.
I'm going to call her in a bit and tell her I'm out.

Bravo! How'd it go?

WaveCameCrashin

milarso wrote:

mfc2006 wrote:

Cinnamon Girl wrote:

If you feel "terrible" about it...then don't do it. I mean...why be involved in something that makes you feel terrible?

that's what i was thinking. if you're already feeling bad about the situation, is that a foundation that you want to build a relationship on? i think that the answer is pretty clear. good luck.

Just to make sure we are all on the same page, I don't feel terrible about her. I feel bad about knocking around with some other guy's girl. I feel bad for him. But the reason I'm so conflicted is that I feel a real connection with her, and it's kind of outweighing my morals when it comes to "guy law" ie- not hopping in the sack with another dude's girl...

dude... if you really felt that bad about it you wouldn't have done it in the first place :roll:

milarso

scb wrote:

milarso wrote:

That I would disagree with, only from things that she has said. But I don't know how it's going to pan out with them. I've decided that I don't really want to be a part of this, though. I was thinking alot about it today, and eventually, the other shoe is going to drop, and he's going to find out about it, and it is going to wreck him and/or ruin whatever they have going on.
And I don't want to be a part of that.
I'm going to call her in a bit and tell her I'm out.

Bravo! How'd it go?

It went OK, considering the circumstances. She understood, and it's probably for the best. Just sucks, because I really started to like her. At another time, maybe it would have worked out better. Oh well.

milarso

gvn2fly74 wrote:

dude... if you really felt that bad about it you wouldn't have done it in the first place :roll:

re·gret n. A feeling of disappointment or distress about something that one wishes could be different.

Thorns2010

soulsinging wrote:

If she did it to him, she can just as easily do it to you.

I once hooked up with a coworker on a few occasions... she was engaged to be married. I ended it eventually, it was mostly alcohol and dry spell infused anyway. However, later, the one woman that was the love of my life started hooking up with a guy on spring break and ended up leaving me for him. I've never really been the same. The point is, it's a shit thing to do and karma is a bitch.

I might be a little late saying this.....but this explains SOOOOOOOOOOOOOO much!

j/k

soulsinging

Thorns2010 wrote:

soulsinging wrote:

If she did it to him, she can just as easily do it to you.

I once hooked up with a coworker on a few occasions... she was engaged to be married. I ended it eventually, it was mostly alcohol and dry spell infused anyway. However, later, the one woman that was the love of my life started hooking up with a guy on spring break and ended up leaving me for him. I've never really been the same. The point is, it's a shit thing to do and karma is a bitch.

I might be a little late saying this.....but this explains SOOOOOOOOOOOOOO much!

j/k

Hehe, no joke about it I've been kicking around these boards a while, and people that knew me from the beginning can probably tell you I took a turn for the worse after that girl broke my heart. I used to be a hopelessly sappy romantic...

So yeah, karma's a bitch!

Gary Carter

milarso wrote:

Or do I even want to be with a girl that would cheat on her boyfriend...

if she's cheating on him with you, whose to say she wont do it if you and her become a couple

CHANGEinWAVES

metsfan wrote:

milarso wrote:

Or do I even want to be with a girl that would cheat on her boyfriend...

if she's cheating on him with you, whose to say she wont do it if you and her become a couple

you don't know the circumstances for her... you can't adhere that to everyone. Best not to judge, you never know what'll happen. We all do things we're ashamed of or said we'd never do.