What an effing mess I have gotten myself into...

milarso

OK- So a few weeks ago my girl and I broke things off.
Recently, I hooked up with a girl from work, and she is really, really great and fun and pretty and the whole nine. But, and here is the part where I become a dirtbag, she's got a boyfriend.
I knew about him going in, and I still did it. I feel terrible about it, and know it's a dickbag move, but now I am really starting to like the girl.
I don't know what to do. Should I just call things off and walk away, or should I try to let her know how I feel and see if she'll break it off with the other guy for me?
Or do I even want to be with a girl that would cheat on her boyfriend...

CHANGEinWAVES

wether or not you want to be with someone who cheated is up to you.

but I'd tell the girl how you feel, better to let it out than to never know.

catefrances

you didnt do this alone, so dont feel like too much of a dirtbag. shes the one with the partner, not you. as CiW said, tell her how you feel, but dont expect her to drop the other guy for you.

JaneNY

Talk to her. Tell her you don't feel right about what happened, and that you don't think it should happen again. If she likes you, and if it doesn't work out with her boyfriend, maybe there will be a chance in the future.

Poncier

milarso wrote:

Or do I even want to be with a girl that would cheat on her boyfriend...

Just remember when you propose that she's quite likely to do it to you as well.

Heineken Helen

It's up to you...what kinda relationship are you looking for? A real one or a fun one?

It's not the kinda situation many of us would get into... but you need to look at it and decide whether it's for you or not... but just remember if you want a proper relationship with her now, the chances of it working out are very slim.

Wobbie

May the best man win!

I did the same thing once.......we lasted for a couple of years. She was great. In the end, I was the one who fucked it up.

josevolution

f that you should bang all the chicks you can at work and then see which one suits you best how's that for some sound advice :twisted: j/k like they say " don't shit where you eat " ... :P

soulsinging

milarso wrote:

OK- So a few weeks ago my girl and I broke things off.
Recently, I hooked up with a girl from work, and she is really, really great and fun and pretty and the whole nine. But, and here is the part where I become a dirtbag, she's got a boyfriend.
I knew about him going in, and I still did it. I feel terrible about it, and know it's a dickbag move, but now I am really starting to like the girl.
I don't know what to do. Should I just call things off and walk away, or should I try to let her know how I feel and see if she'll break it off with the other guy for me?
Or do I even want to be with a girl that would cheat on her boyfriend...

If she did it to him, she can just as easily do it to you.

I once hooked up with a coworker on a few occasions... she was engaged to be married. I ended it eventually, it was mostly alcohol and dry spell infused anyway. However, later, the one woman that was the love of my life started hooking up with a guy on spring break and ended up leaving me for him. I've never really been the same. The point is, it's a shit thing to do and karma is a bitch.

DeLukin

Yea but HOW you handle yourself now will tell her what kind of partner you will be. If you're skeevy about things now what reason does she have to believe that you won't be skeevy if you guys were together? I think the honorable thing to do is break it off while she's with her bf. If she wants you, she'll get rid of him. That way, you give her every reason to believe you'll be good to her if you're ever put in a position to cheat on her down the road. Anticipate the test and pass it!

Cinnamon Girl

If you feel "terrible" about it...then don't do it. I mean...why be involved in something that makes you feel terrible?

soulsinging

DeLukin wrote:

Yea but HOW you handle yourself now will tell her what kind of partner you will be. If you're skeevy about things now what reason does she have to believe that you won't be skeevy if you guys were together? I think the honorable thing to do is break it off while she's with her bf. If she wants you, she'll get rid of him. That way, you give her every reason to believe you'll be good to her if you're ever put in a position to cheat on her...

Ummm... and what reason has she given him to believe she'll be good to him if she's ever put in a position to cheat on him? I'm not sure he should be overly worried about being skeevy... I think she's got a solid lock on that crown.

PJGARDEN

I think if she cheated on her boyfriend with you, she will cheat on you too. I think you should think about if that's the type of person you want to be with.

prytocorduroy

Let her decide who she wants. If it's you great, if not, well don't feel bad as you shouldn't have gone there to begin with. And like others have said, expect that she will cheat on you. I'd personally break it off and write it off as a hook up.

DeLukin

soulsinging wrote:

I'm not sure he should be overly worried about being skeevy... I think she's got a solid lock on that crown.

Possibly. But there could be extenuating circumstances w/her current bf. I dunno. But if the OP has feelings for this girl he needs to at lest try to take it to a level beyond skeevy to have any hope of a meaningful and lasting relationship, IMO.

kenny olav

nice use of the word "dickbag"

it depends on how serious the relationship is with her boyfriend.

Danimal

See how she's likes it and bang her boyfriend...

mfc2006

Cinnamon Girl wrote:

If you feel "terrible" about it...then don't do it. I mean...why be involved in something that makes you feel terrible?

that's what i was thinking. if you're already feeling bad about the situation, is that a foundation that you want to build a relationship on? i think that the answer is pretty clear. good luck.

WaveCameCrashin

why would you want to be with a girl that's cheating on her boyfriend that right there should tell you what kind of person she is. A DRITY WHORE!!

WaveCameCrashin

Danimal wrote:

See how she's likes it and bang her boyfriend...

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Cinnamon Girl

gvn2fly74 wrote:

why would you want to be with a girl that's cheating on her boyfriend that right there should tell you what kind of person she is. A DRITY WHORE!!

...and a drity whore is ten times worse than a dirty one.