Ladies, I Do Not Understand You

PittsburghPJ

So, last Thursday, I finally get up the nerve to ask out this girl I've known for about a month. She seems real excited, we set up dinner for Sunday. I try to call her on Saturday, left a message...she never calls me back. Sunday morning she sends me a text, "I have a lot of work to do, sorry." I've tried to call her twice since then...she doesn't answer me, doesn't call back. Now, I've been turned down before, of course, but never just straight ignored. What the hell is that about? :roll:

"Is this Wilt Chamberlain?!?!...HAVE THE COURAGE TO SAY SOMETHING!"

I need me some PJ... :(

CHANGEinWAVES

hmmm... I seem to have the same issue with men. Some people just don't have the nerve to say "i don't like you".
Just dropping off the face of the earth is pretty low, have some backbone! :roll: *sorry about the rant*

PittsburghPJ

CHANGEinWAVES wrote:

Just dropping off the face of the earth is pretty low, have some backbone!

That's what I say.

CHANGEinWAVES

PittsburghPJ wrote:

CHANGEinWAVES wrote:

Just dropping off the face of the earth is pretty low, have some backbone!

That's what I say.

I mean sure it sucks to not be liked, but I'd rather hear the words than have to guess. :evil: bleh. this dating thing sucks, no wonder i married so young! :roll:

PittsburghPJ

CHANGEinWAVES wrote:

PittsburghPJ wrote:

CHANGEinWAVES wrote:

Just dropping off the face of the earth is pretty low, have some backbone!

That's what I say.

I mean sure it sucks to not be liked, but I'd rather hear the words than have to guess. :evil: bleh. this dating thing sucks, no wonder i married so young! :roll:

Right, exactly, that is what is driving me crazy about this situation. Why did she agree to go out in the first place? Why did she give me such a lame excuse? Is her plan to just ignore me until I never talk to her again? We seemed to have a lot of fun together...now this.

CHANGEinWAVES

PittsburghPJ wrote:

Right, exactly, that is what is driving me crazy about this situation. Why did she agree to go out in the first place? Why did she give me such a lame excuse? Is her plan to just ignore me until I never talk to her again? We seemed to have a lot of fun together...now this.

I can't say I'll ever understand people who can't be honest. It's funny because a lot of them say it's because they don't wanna hurt other's feeling... but it's more a selfish thing, because they don't wanna BE THE ONE to hurt someone's feelings. I take those people and in my mind file them under the T category for TURDS.

soulsinging

Don't call again. She might really have a ton of work to do. My gf has been pulling 70-hour weeks since the new year started and can't spare a moment for anything. If this girl's a student, they have weird work flows. Or it's possible this chick got super wasted and skanky over the weekend and doesn't want to make you sloppy fourths or something. Or she just is spineless.

Continuing to call will no change her mind. And if she's telling you straight and simply doesn't have time to chat on the phone, continuing to call will give the creepy clingy vibe.

SPEEDY MCCREADY

i think you have already wasted too much time thinking about this girl....thinking about this situation....and thinking about why she blew you off......


forget about her...

and move on to the next one.........

just my humble opinion..........................................

Holtzmn

PittsburghPJ wrote:

Right, exactly, that is what is driving me crazy about this situation. Why did she agree to go out in the first place? Why did she give me such a lame excuse? Is her plan to just ignore me until I never talk to her again? We seemed to have a lot of fun together...now this.

She probably agreed in the first place because she's too much of a wuss to be honest and say no. Obviously she plans on ignoring you and giving you lame excuses until you give up. Don't waste anymore time thinking about this chick, move on and find someone else.

catefrances

soulsinging wrote:

Don't call again. She might really have a ton of work to do. My gf has been pulling 70-hour weeks since the new year started and can't spare a moment for anything. If this girl's a student, they have weird work flows. Or it's possible this chick got super wasted and skanky over the weekend and doesn't want to make you sloppy fourths or something. Or she just is spineless.

Continuing to call will no change her mind. And if she's telling you straight and simply doesn't have time to chat on the phone, continuing to call will give the creepy clingy vibe.

she has time to fire off a text but cant take 5 minutes out of her precious day to tell him on the phone. fuck that!!
i say forget about her. people are weak and suck. edit. some people.

CHANGEinWAVES

catefrances wrote:

she has time to fire off a text but cant take 5 minutes out of her precious day to tell him on the phone. fuck that!!
i say forget about her. people are weak and suck. edit. some people.

exactly.... Some people have no class. :roll:

so-much-clearer

I think it's dumb that she said yes, but maybe she felt like she was put on the spot, or she was surprised by the way you felt and said yes automatically.

Either way, probably nothing you can do to change her mind, sorry...

Heineken Helen

Stalk her... it'll teach her a lesson :shock: just kidding of COURSE... but that's what happened to me. I used to do this shit when I was about 18 until there were two guys at the same time who wouldn't take ignorance for an answer... and both proceeded to stalk me for months... one well over a year (even though after about a week, I was bluntly honest with him) it got pretty scary. BUT I learned a well deserved lesson... it's a shitty way to treat people and I learned that if you just say 'no, I'm sorry' you're saving them a lot of time wondering what the fuck's going on so ultimately it's kinder.

Anyway, forget about her... she's not worth another second of your time.

JaneNY

soulsinging wrote:

Continuing to call will no change her mind. And if she's telling you straight and simply doesn't have time to chat on the phone, continuing to call will give the creepy clingy vibe.

This. ^^^^

Accept the fact that she's changed her mind about hanging with you, get over it, and move on. You can't MAKE her contact you or want to be with you.

DeLukin

I'd like to give you some advice, but I have too much work to do...

PittsburghPJ

JaneNY wrote:

soulsinging wrote:

Continuing to call will no change her mind. And if she's telling you straight and simply doesn't have time to chat on the phone, continuing to call will give the creepy clingy vibe.

This. ^^^^

Accept the fact that she's changed her mind about hanging with you, get over it, and move on. You can't MAKE her contact you or want to be with you.

Are you guys SURE that calling her one last time and leaving a voice mail professing my undying love won't win her back??????

Poncier

PittsburghPJ wrote:

Are you guys SURE that calling her one last time and leaving a voice mail professing my undying love won't win her back??????

It only works if you make her a nice pot of hasenpfeffer too.

Motha Judson

PittsburghPJ wrote:

So, last Thursday, I finally get up the nerve to ask out this girl I've known for about a month. She seems real excited, we set up dinner for Sunday. I try to call her on Saturday, left a message...she never calls me back. Sunday morning she sends me a text, "I have a lot of work to do, sorry." I've tried to call her twice since then...she doesn't answer me, doesn't call back. Now, I've been turned down before, of course, but never just straight ignored. What the hell is that about? :roll:

"Is this Wilt Chamberlain?!?!...HAVE THE COURAGE TO SAY SOMETHING!"

I need me some PJ... :(

There is a lot of that going around....see my thread called "women".

Stay strong bro....don't let it get to you.

Motha Judson

soulsinging wrote:

Or it's possible this chick got super wasted and skanky over the weekend and doesn't want to make you sloppy fourths or something.

Oh, this made me laugh....good one...shanky? Love it.

AmentsChick

So Much Clearer wrote:

I think it's dumb that she said yes, but maybe she felt like she was put on the spot, or she was surprised by the way you felt and said yes automatically.

Either way, probably nothing you can do to change her mind, sorry...

I hate to admit it, but I've done that before...agreed to a date when I wasn't really interested. I'm not saying it was the right thing to do...it's quite obnoxious and cowardly, but it did happen.

Cinnamon Girl

Boo on her!! :evil:

I'm guessing the same as most here; she was trying not to be hurtful to your face.

This is why being single scares the shit out of me. Emotional games and assholes.

Don't dwell. Move on. If she really is too busy, she'll call when she's not.