What would you say?

justam

FinsburyParkCarrots wrote:

A $900 Mesa amp? There are gigging professionals who don't make enough to start splashing out on Mesa amps! Tell him to wait until his first student loan.

Yeah.

Like I said, I don't think he has any sense of how much money that is! :shock:

decides2dream

justam wrote:

What do you say when your child wants more stuff? My second son isn't even twelve yet and he has lots of equipment...three good guitars, a few good amps, a computer,a mixer, software to compose with, and now he's crying in the other room because he wants more.

I feel his pain, but on the other hand, he has way more than most 11 year olds. He has more because we love him so much. We also share our pianos and keyboards and other stuff with him because we want him to play more, but...

Am I horrible for saying it's too much to ask me for a $900 mesa amp? :shock:

i'd play the stones' you can't always get what you want.


seriously.....as i am sure you know, as a parent, it's important to set boundaries, expectations and that yes....you can't always get what you want. at 11 years old, sounds like he could really learn the value of saving $$$, working towards a goal not expect instant gratification. it's hard lesson, but one we all need to learn. sounds like he does have a lot, so perhaps he should try and appreciate what he has more, and fret less about what he doesn't.

good luck.

justam

decides2dream wrote:

i'd play the stones' you can't always get what you want.


seriously.....as i am sure you know, as a parent, it's important to set boundaries, expectations and that yes....you can't always get what you want. at 11 years old, sounds like he could really learn the value of saving $$$, working towards a goal not expect instant gratification. it's hard lesson, but one we all need to learn. sounds like he does have a lot, so perhaps he should try and appreciate what he has more, and fret less about what he doesn't.

good luck.

Yes, thanks.

He's not fretting about it now. I'm glad.

I knew "No" was the right answer, but I just needed to hear it from other people I guess.

Heineken Helen

justam wrote:

decides2dream wrote:

i'd play the stones' you can't always get what you want.


seriously.....as i am sure you know, as a parent, it's important to set boundaries, expectations and that yes....you can't always get what you want. at 11 years old, sounds like he could really learn the value of saving $$$, working towards a goal not expect instant gratification. it's hard lesson, but one we all need to learn. sounds like he does have a lot, so perhaps he should try and appreciate what he has more, and fret less about what he doesn't.

good luck.

Yes, thanks.

He's not fretting about it now. I'm glad.

I knew "No" was the right answer, but I just needed to hear it from other people I guess.

You also touched on him not really using the other stuff and not writing... perhaps, rather than work goals, how about you say 'well for every song you write, I'll put aside $50 towards the amps'. I still think you should go harder on him than that BUT it will encourage him to be more creative. There's no point buying the amps in the first place if you're not sure he's taking the music thing seriously.

decides2dream

justam wrote:

decides2dream wrote:

i'd play the stones' you can't always get what you want.


seriously.....as i am sure you know, as a parent, it's important to set boundaries, expectations and that yes....you can't always get what you want. at 11 years old, sounds like he could really learn the value of saving $$$, working towards a goal not expect instant gratification. it's hard lesson, but one we all need to learn. sounds like he does have a lot, so perhaps he should try and appreciate what he has more, and fret less about what he doesn't.

good luck.

Yes, thanks.

He's not fretting about it now. I'm glad.

I knew "No" was the right answer, but I just needed to hear it from other people I guess.

cool.


and i am sure it's difficult to not give your child everything he wants....b/c don't we all want to give those we love everything they want? so good for you for being strong.

justam

Heineken Helen wrote:

You also touched on him not really using the other stuff and not writing... perhaps, rather than work goals, how about you say 'well for every song you write, I'll put aside $50 towards the amps'. I still think you should go harder on him than that BUT it will encourage him to be more creative. There's no point buying the amps in the first place if you're not sure he's taking the music thing seriously.

I didn't mean to give the impression that he doesn't play a lot because he does. (And he does well. )

However, I think he's barely scratched the surface of what he could do with the things he has.

Luckily, he seems happy as a little clam today.

soulsinging

decides2dream wrote:

and i am sure it's difficult to not give your child everything he wants....b/c don't we all want to give those we love everything they want? so good for you for being strong.

Not me. I like to make them sweat. I figure it's a way to test them and their loyalty

Heineken Helen

justam wrote:

Heineken Helen wrote:

You also touched on him not really using the other stuff and not writing... perhaps, rather than work goals, how about you say 'well for every song you write, I'll put aside $50 towards the amps'. I still think you should go harder on him than that BUT it will encourage him to be more creative. There's no point buying the amps in the first place if you're not sure he's taking the music thing seriously.

I didn't mean to give the impression that he doesn't play a lot because he does. (And he does well. )

However, I think he's barely scratched the surface of what he could do with the things he has.

Luckily, he seems happy as a little clam today.

now you have a bargaining tool to encourage him further and push him a bit

kids forget pretty quickly

dunkman

at 12 years of age i learned the great art of 'burglary'... problem solved

but $900 for an amp at his age is way too much.... i spent about £100 on mine and it does me...