My mom passed.....please read

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  • Fifthelement
    Fifthelement Lotusland Posts: 6,965
    There are no words that can ease the pain that you feel over the loss of the world you knew. Just know that there are a number of people, friends and strangers, who are thinking of you and your family and are sending out good thoughts and prayers. {{{{hugs}}}}
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  • Fighting Hellfish
    Fighting Hellfish Posts: 3,175
    first off, very sorry to hear this. I lost my Mom in May 2007. It stiill sucks. gets a but easier, but it still sucks. A Simpsons episode about Homer's mother made me cry the other day. And I'm not a cryer. Second, you said music is helping you thru this. One song that helped me, and every time I play it now, I think of my Mom....Pearl Jam's cover of Forever Young, from Boston 2006.

    May God bless and keep you always,
    May your wishes all come true,
    May you always do for others
    And let others do for you.
    May you build a ladder to the stars
    And climb on every rung,
    May you stay forever young,
    Forever young, forever young,
    May you stay forever young.
  • Jeremys Spoken
    Jeremys Spoken Posts: 7,578
    I lost my dad when I was 14.. im 18 now. That morning I left for school, came home and found him dead.

    Keep your loved ones around you, and keep smiling.
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  • PJRock75
    PJRock75 Posts: 869
    So sorry for your loss...my thoughts are with you and your family. Your mother will be with you in all of your good memories.
    "If you want a friend, feed any animal." - JA
    "Don't let it get you down, you know, still give your love, just give it away...I love singin' that part." - EV
  • pj.uw.laura
    pj.uw.laura Posts: 553
    I'm so sorry for what you and your family are going through. Your mom sounds like she was a truly wonderful woman- and not in the way that some people describe after a passing just because the person is gone. The rare kind that was honestly giving of herself to the people around her with little expectation in return. It sounds like her passing will definitely leave a hole in many people's lives.

    I'm in my 5th year of grad school in psychology and work with suicidal clients on a fairly regular basis. I'm no expert (hence, still in training) and have a lot to learn, but I can tell you one thing. When you remarked about your mom having pictures all around her and the thought of all the people who cared about her not being enough to stop her from what she did... you have to know that people who take their own lives aren't thinking rationally or logically. They typically aren't thinking things through and making a decision after much clear thought. So I hope you can understand that it's not an issue of you and your family members being "enough" for her to stay. Her decision was not about you guys. It was a decision made by who knows what rationale. Family members often try to understand why someone takes their own life, but the problem is they are usually thinking about it and analyzing it from a logical perspective. You can't try to find an answer to an illogical act with logic. So just please know that it's not an issue of the people around her not being enough. She wasn't thinking the way that it sounds like she always had- with a clear, positive mind.

    I hope that helps.
  • kineticjam
    kineticjam Posts: 154
    I'm sorry for your loss.
  • LONGRD
    LONGRD Posts: 6,036
    wolfbear wrote:
    So sorry for your loss. Moms are especially hard to lose. :(
    Very true. My mother means everything to me.

    MP, sorry for your loss. Take care
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  • dolly rocker
    dolly rocker Long Beach NY Posts: 352
    sorry...my prayers are with ya..good luck and live for the day, you never know what'll happen tomm
  • Lone Wolf
    Lone Wolf Posts: 1,023
    Sorry to hear this.......Best wishes to you and your family........Take Care.......
    Dream the dreams of other men,...You´ll be no ones rival,...
    Dream the dreams of others then,... You will be no ones rival,...
  • MellowCat
    MellowCat Posts: 38
    Oh I'm so sorry about your mother.

    Having been through a similar thing in 1975 with my mother (she was 36, I was 8), I know that there will always, always, always be questions of "what if" and feeling blame and guilt. You will come to realize (you must) there is nobody to blame. It seems so senseless and the anguish is hard to bear. It took me until about two years ago to realize there was a reason my mother was taken from me, and now I'm at peace.

    The stigma attached to suicide is not as bad as it was back in the 70's. My mother shot herself in the mouth and suffered from (we think now) bipolar disorder. It was a lifelong thing that finally spiraled. In and out of mental hospitals, shock treatments and pills out the wazoo. I always wanted to blame it on doctors "guinea pigging" with her. Everyone did the best they could to help her. Knowing now that it was a necessary fact of life (I won't go into all the particulars) has been a great epiphany for me and my family. I feel for you and your family but please know that you will get through it and answers will come.

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