it seems like this dark sense of atmosphere has been following around me way too often lately...
my father passed away a couple of years ago, my mother has been depressed ever since. she's doing a hell of a lot better now, but she still struggles...and after my dad died, my grandfather died, and now my grandmother is sick...and aside from that, a couple of years ago my girlfriends father was in a motorcycle accident, he survived luckily but that has seriously affected her life, both her grandfathers have been in and out of the hospital and to top it all off, her mother is an alcoholic...so it seems like this common theme has been playing it's song for the passed 2 years...but the way i see it, with dark times comes light ahead. but even with that in mind, keep yourself in the present. take things as they come...cause "you can spend your time alone, redigesting passed regrets. or you can come to terms and realize you're the only one who cannot forgive yourself...makes much more sense to live in the present tense"
I am a licensed massage therapist and have worked on a few women that have experienced similar disease(by disease I mean dis-ease, there is an dis easement in the body, some are fatal). I recommended accupuncture as a remedy. Massage therapy and or accupuncture have cured this. Please FWD this to anyone that you deem helpful too.
There are no words that can ease the pain that you feel over the loss of the world you knew. Just know that there are a number of people, friends and strangers, who are thinking of you and your family and are sending out good thoughts and prayers. {{{{hugs}}}}
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first off, very sorry to hear this. I lost my Mom in May 2007. It stiill sucks. gets a but easier, but it still sucks. A Simpsons episode about Homer's mother made me cry the other day. And I'm not a cryer. Second, you said music is helping you thru this. One song that helped me, and every time I play it now, I think of my Mom....Pearl Jam's cover of Forever Young, from Boston 2006.
May God bless and keep you always,
May your wishes all come true,
May you always do for others
And let others do for you.
May you build a ladder to the stars
And climb on every rung,
May you stay forever young,
Forever young, forever young,
May you stay forever young.
So sorry for your loss...my thoughts are with you and your family. Your mother will be with you in all of your good memories.
"If you want a friend, feed any animal." - JA
"Don't let it get you down, you know, still give your love, just give it away...I love singin' that part." - EV
I'm so sorry for what you and your family are going through. Your mom sounds like she was a truly wonderful woman- and not in the way that some people describe after a passing just because the person is gone. The rare kind that was honestly giving of herself to the people around her with little expectation in return. It sounds like her passing will definitely leave a hole in many people's lives.
I'm in my 5th year of grad school in psychology and work with suicidal clients on a fairly regular basis. I'm no expert (hence, still in training) and have a lot to learn, but I can tell you one thing. When you remarked about your mom having pictures all around her and the thought of all the people who cared about her not being enough to stop her from what she did... you have to know that people who take their own lives aren't thinking rationally or logically. They typically aren't thinking things through and making a decision after much clear thought. So I hope you can understand that it's not an issue of you and your family members being "enough" for her to stay. Her decision was not about you guys. It was a decision made by who knows what rationale. Family members often try to understand why someone takes their own life, but the problem is they are usually thinking about it and analyzing it from a logical perspective. You can't try to find an answer to an illogical act with logic. So just please know that it's not an issue of the people around her not being enough. She wasn't thinking the way that it sounds like she always had- with a clear, positive mind.
Having been through a similar thing in 1975 with my mother (she was 36, I was 8), I know that there will always, always, always be questions of "what if" and feeling blame and guilt. You will come to realize (you must) there is nobody to blame. It seems so senseless and the anguish is hard to bear. It took me until about two years ago to realize there was a reason my mother was taken from me, and now I'm at peace.
The stigma attached to suicide is not as bad as it was back in the 70's. My mother shot herself in the mouth and suffered from (we think now) bipolar disorder. It was a lifelong thing that finally spiraled. In and out of mental hospitals, shock treatments and pills out the wazoo. I always wanted to blame it on doctors "guinea pigging" with her. Everyone did the best they could to help her. Knowing now that it was a necessary fact of life (I won't go into all the particulars) has been a great epiphany for me and my family. I feel for you and your family but please know that you will get through it and answers will come.
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it seems like this dark sense of atmosphere has been following around me way too often lately...
my father passed away a couple of years ago, my mother has been depressed ever since. she's doing a hell of a lot better now, but she still struggles...and after my dad died, my grandfather died, and now my grandmother is sick...and aside from that, a couple of years ago my girlfriends father was in a motorcycle accident, he survived luckily but that has seriously affected her life, both her grandfathers have been in and out of the hospital and to top it all off, her mother is an alcoholic...so it seems like this common theme has been playing it's song for the passed 2 years...but the way i see it, with dark times comes light ahead. but even with that in mind, keep yourself in the present. take things as they come...cause "you can spend your time alone, redigesting passed regrets. or you can come to terms and realize you're the only one who cannot forgive yourself...makes much more sense to live in the present tense"
blessings to you and yours
"Forgive every being,
the bad feelings
it's just me"
May God bless and keep you always,
May your wishes all come true,
May you always do for others
And let others do for you.
May you build a ladder to the stars
And climb on every rung,
May you stay forever young,
Forever young, forever young,
May you stay forever young.
Keep your loved ones around you, and keep smiling.
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2011 - PJ20 9/3-9/4
2012 - MIA Festival 9/2
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2016 - Philly 4/28-4/29 MSG 5/1-5/2
"Don't let it get you down, you know, still give your love, just give it away...I love singin' that part." - EV
I'm in my 5th year of grad school in psychology and work with suicidal clients on a fairly regular basis. I'm no expert (hence, still in training) and have a lot to learn, but I can tell you one thing. When you remarked about your mom having pictures all around her and the thought of all the people who cared about her not being enough to stop her from what she did... you have to know that people who take their own lives aren't thinking rationally or logically. They typically aren't thinking things through and making a decision after much clear thought. So I hope you can understand that it's not an issue of you and your family members being "enough" for her to stay. Her decision was not about you guys. It was a decision made by who knows what rationale. Family members often try to understand why someone takes their own life, but the problem is they are usually thinking about it and analyzing it from a logical perspective. You can't try to find an answer to an illogical act with logic. So just please know that it's not an issue of the people around her not being enough. She wasn't thinking the way that it sounds like she always had- with a clear, positive mind.
I hope that helps.
MP, sorry for your loss. Take care
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Dream the dreams of others then,... You will be no ones rival,...
Having been through a similar thing in 1975 with my mother (she was 36, I was 8), I know that there will always, always, always be questions of "what if" and feeling blame and guilt. You will come to realize (you must) there is nobody to blame. It seems so senseless and the anguish is hard to bear. It took me until about two years ago to realize there was a reason my mother was taken from me, and now I'm at peace.
The stigma attached to suicide is not as bad as it was back in the 70's. My mother shot herself in the mouth and suffered from (we think now) bipolar disorder. It was a lifelong thing that finally spiraled. In and out of mental hospitals, shock treatments and pills out the wazoo. I always wanted to blame it on doctors "guinea pigging" with her. Everyone did the best they could to help her. Knowing now that it was a necessary fact of life (I won't go into all the particulars) has been a great epiphany for me and my family. I feel for you and your family but please know that you will get through it and answers will come.