anybody else pretty much hate everyone at the moment?

soulsinging

Heineken Helen wrote:

I'm not one to 'prove myself' to people. Either they like me or they don't ... I can't be bothered with people who needs proving. I don't take anything personally... I just don't like the guy. His sense of humour is ten year old at BEST, but for some reason everyone else laughs... they do, in general, have a bit of a different sense of humour to me. I like crass and I like vulgar... but not 99% of the time... only to a certain extent and then I'm like 'move on MOVE ON'. I'm not uptight... I've given them all 4 months... and some of them are still the same, real stand up people, but he's always been quite moody... IF he's in a good mood, he's alright... but it's rare... and now he's started that when he's in a bad mood, he'll take it out on me. He's certainly not hilarious like your friend... I've pretended to at least smile at his jokes in the past... but when it's the same jokes all the time and CONSTANT penis jokes, my smile starts to hurt.. ya know when you know it's time to stop smiling? So I've stopped and started pretending I've zoned out. I chain smoke in between rounds at the quiz so i can just sit through the rounds and then go away when he's gonna be talking about stupid stuff.

Fair enough. I guess I just don't see why you'd go if you hate the guy so much. Isn't it your bf's group of friends? And he doesn't even go? Why do you then, if you can't stand the people? Just stay home, instead of sitting at the table glowering and being a killjoy

Heineken Helen

soulsinging wrote:

Heineken Helen wrote:

I'm not one to 'prove myself' to people. Either they like me or they don't ... I can't be bothered with people who needs proving. I don't take anything personally... I just don't like the guy. His sense of humour is ten year old at BEST, but for some reason everyone else laughs... they do, in general, have a bit of a different sense of humour to me. I like crass and I like vulgar... but not 99% of the time... only to a certain extent and then I'm like 'move on MOVE ON'. I'm not uptight... I've given them all 4 months... and some of them are still the same, real stand up people, but he's always been quite moody... IF he's in a good mood, he's alright... but it's rare... and now he's started that when he's in a bad mood, he'll take it out on me. He's certainly not hilarious like your friend... I've pretended to at least smile at his jokes in the past... but when it's the same jokes all the time and CONSTANT penis jokes, my smile starts to hurt.. ya know when you know it's time to stop smiling? So I've stopped and started pretending I've zoned out. I chain smoke in between rounds at the quiz so i can just sit through the rounds and then go away when he's gonna be talking about stupid stuff.

Fair enough. I guess I just don't see why you'd go if you hate the guy so much. Isn't it your bf's group of friends? And he doesn't even go? Why do you then, if you can't stand the people? Just stay home, instead of sitting at the table glowering and being a killjoy

cos I LOVE the quiz :roll: and it is pretty much my favourite night of the week... but now that my bf and his sister aren't going anymore, it's taken the good out of it. Even on weekend nights out with the group... I guess i've just started to notice what they're really like since his sis can't afford to come out anymore... cos we'd usually end up sitting away and talking about other stuff... or me and the bf would, or we'd talk with the 'peripheral' people. So while him and the sister were still going, I learned to love the quiz and now she can't afford to come and she's also studying for exams... he also has his reasons... but it's only the past couple of weeks i've started to really feel like an outsider... mainly cos of this guy... and i'm certainly not shy at including myself into things so i don't think i'm a killjoy, which is why, rather than actually complain, I try to take myself away... but it's a day of the week i've come to really enjoy and now it's gonna be horrible having to give it up :(

and it's not that i can't stand the people... it's just that for some reason, they usually allow him direct the conversation with his stupid little mind... the rest of them have their good and bad points but there are a few people that i really really like. I just wish he didn't have to be part of it.

Danimal

soulsinging wrote:

Stone Is God wrote:

Cateeto wrote:

I'm at this very irritated phase in my life where I'm just tired of a lot of useless drama and bullshit. A lot of it stems from me being brutally honest about everything. It's not even that I'm brutal half the time, but just honest in general. People, for whatever reason, usually their own insecurities, dislike this. Because they dislike the fact that someone can be honest all the time, they dislike me. Because they dislike me, I dislike them... It's not even that I care whether or not they like me, but when people start to talk shit about me and try to paint a horrid picture of what they assume my marriage to be, I start to have issues and begin to hate a lot of people.

People equate truth with being brutal because the truth hurts. You're in the better state with being honest and not faking it around people. I'm honest all the time with my feelings about things and that's the way it is. People talk shit just to talk shit and I find it's better not to even hate, I just "nothing" them.

The flipside to that is that people often claim they're being "brutally honest" as a cover for being snide or cruel and not having to face the fact that they're being a bitch/bastard and hurting people for no good reason... which is the real source of people not responding well to them, not some aversion to honesty. Women especially are prone to this... OTHER women gossip, I just practice HONESTY.

Thank you.

Cateeto

soulsinging wrote:

The flipside to that is that people often claim they're being "brutally honest" as a cover for being snide or cruel and not having to face the fact that they're being a bitch/bastard and hurting people for no good reason... which is the real source of people not responding well to them, not some aversion to honesty. Women especially are prone to this... OTHER women gossip, I just practice HONESTY.

I totally get what you are saying and agree 100% that most people, especially females, use "honesty" as a cover for them being bitchy and people not liking them. I've known so many people like this, again mainly females, and it's made me sick throughout my life. This is one of the biggest reasons I get along with guys better (though some guys are just as dramatic). This is also one of the biggest reasons I try my hardest to uphold pure honesty. I'm a pretty mellow chick and can get along with most people, but when something is off and I feel dishonesty around me, I just try to avoid those certain people. I guess hate is too strong of a word. I really don't hate people, but I can dislike people. I'm not one to make a big deal, but sometimes I silently scream from all the gossip that erupts... You'd think my life were some type of famous person's with all the attention I get... And the thing that perplexes me the most is the fact that I don't knowingly do anything to start drama or gossip. It's just mind boggling when you try to be a decent person, be honest, be friendly, and tolerate others, and then a lot of people shit on you... Behind your back.

The world is full of these people though... It's nonsense to really think twice about them... But the thing that affects me the most is the fact that they hurt a loved one and were formally closer to them... They use ME as a target for their own frustrations in life and try to make ME out to be a bad guy. I don't know... I just try to be the best person I can be, but sometimes that's just not enough. In these circumstances ignoring them isn't the best thing to do and I'm not sure what is. Luckily I have a lot of friends that do respect my honesty and way of living and don't think twice about keeping me close.

At least we have the forum to vent, yeah?

wolfbear

All you need is a PJ tour! :idea: :P

chiquimonkey

thankfully there's nobody i know that i hate, it's a waste of energy for me. there's enough in this world and life that can upset me, if someone irritates me i just don't deal with 'em

Jennytree

Want me to come visit and tell him to shut the fuck up?!

Could be worse, at least ye have people to go to a quiz with, all my friends emigrated

Heineken Helen

Jennytree wrote:

Want me to come visit and tell him to shut the fuck up?!

Could be worse, at least ye have people to go to a quiz with, all my friends emigrated

Ya KNOW I want ya to come visit awww Jenny, that's shite! :(

sorry for the venting last night :oops: but the whole thing's just fucking annoying. The bf's sisters bf (who some of you know ) has said the same thing about them.. and the sister has even stronger feelings against one or two of them than I have :shock: so at least i know it's not just me.

ah well, nobody can say I haven't tried... I just don't know where to go from here :?

Heineken Helen

wolfbear wrote:

All you need is a PJ tour! :idea: :P

AND money to go on aforementioned tour! :shock:

SomethingCreative

not everyone...just the idiot customers.

libragirl

Im just so fed up right now. People can be so ugly to each other :(

soulsinging

SomethingCreative wrote:

not everyone...just the idiot customers.

When I was waiting tables, I began to hate the entire human species.

justam

I avoid people I seriously dislike.

Heineken Helen

justam wrote:

I avoid people I seriously dislike.

I usually do too :oops: just that in this situation, that means avoiding the people I LIKE too... ah well, fuck it. And I do realise I've been sounding like greenteadisease in this thread and that was NOT my intention. There's just no winning to this situation really.

libragirl

Heineken Helen wrote:

justam wrote:

I avoid people I seriously dislike.

I usually do too :oops: just that in this situation, that means avoiding the people I LIKE too... ah well, fuck it. And I do realise I've been sounding like greenteadisease in this thread and that was NOT my intention. There's just no winning to this situation really.

im so depressed right now...i have no one to talk about it right now. everytime i think shit is better i get dragged down again...

AmentsChick

Wow. This is a really uplifting and positive thread! :roll:

Heineken Helen

AmentsChick wrote:

Wow. This is a really uplifting and positive thread! :roll:

thanks for your input... I woulda thought the title gave it away... but sorry for being misleading :roll:

Boston Lou

Heineken Helen wrote:

I do... seems everyone just wants to talk bullshit or take the piss or make penis jokes... CONSTANTLY. I've tried to like them but I'm pretty sure some of them don't like me anyway and I'm not gonna MAKE them like me since I don't like them anyway. Ahhh.. I'm rambling :oops: anyway, fuck them all!

so you hate people because they don't want to do the things you want to do?

seems a bit selfish?


lighten up francis

libragirl

AmentsChick wrote:

Wow. This is a really uplifting and positive thread! :roll:

well yes it isn't cheery, but people are just venting...life can't be grand all the time.

Heineken Helen

Lucifer wrote:

Heineken Helen wrote:

I do... seems everyone just wants to talk bullshit or take the piss or make penis jokes... CONSTANTLY. I've tried to like them but I'm pretty sure some of them don't like me anyway and I'm not gonna MAKE them like me since I don't like them anyway. Ahhh.. I'm rambling :oops: anyway, fuck them all!

so you hate people because they don't want to do the things you want to do?

seems a bit selfish?


lighten up francis

nope, I hate/dislike/whatever cos he's an asshole. You don't know him, nor have i given the whole story as to what he's like. So don't assume you can judge. This thread was about venting... not about telling every single conversation i've had with the guy.

josevolution

i've cleansed my mind of all hate i just don't let it in ... it's not that i wan't everybody to like me ,i just don't wan't that feeling in my mind at all ......

JOEJOEJOE

I am not good at pretending to be interested in what people have to say, so people usually get the hint if I am not interested in holding a conversation with them.

I love to engage in some conversations, but if a table full of people are just talking because they feel the need to be included in the conversation, I can't be bothered to pay attention! I'd rather just sit there and look bored, as I often am!

iluvcats

Heineken Helen wrote:

Lucifer wrote:

Heineken Helen wrote:

I do... seems everyone just wants to talk bullshit or take the piss or make penis jokes... CONSTANTLY. I've tried to like them but I'm pretty sure some of them don't like me anyway and I'm not gonna MAKE them like me since I don't like them anyway. Ahhh.. I'm rambling :oops: anyway, fuck them all!

so you hate people because they don't want to do the things you want to do?

seems a bit selfish?


lighten up francis

nope, I hate/dislike/whatever cos he's an asshole. You don't know him, nor have i given the whole story as to what he's like. So don't assume you can judge. This thread was about venting... not about telling every single conversation i've had with the guy.

good for you

mdigenakis

I'm playing Downward Spiral as we speak. I feel miserable and i'm in a very spiteful mood, but i don't have a reason to feel this way at all. I have a beautiful woman who loves me and work is going great. There is something wrong with me.

P.S. : I don't know you Helen, but i'm sure you're awesome.

Heineken Helen

JOEJOEJOE wrote:

I am not good at pretending to be interested in what people have to say, so people usually get the hint if I am not interested in holding a conversation with them.

I love to engage in some conversations, but if a table full of people are just talking because they feel the need to be included in the conversation, I can't be bothered to pay attention! I'd rather just sit there and look bored, as I often am!

:oops: yeh, that's kinda how it is. I've tried for much longer than I usually would because of the situation... but I think it's pretty obvious at this stage that this is how it's going to be.

iluvcats thank you.

mdigikanis... everytime I see your name I still feel bad about moving pubs :( . I'm sorry to hear that... I hope it's just some kinda phase and something will happen soon to snap you out of it??? I've had those before and it really really sucks. I'm sure you're all kinds of awesome too if you have a beautiful woman who loves you and works going great in THESE times.

jamie uk

josevolution wrote:

i've cleansed my mind of all hate i just don't let it in ... it's not that i wan't everybody to like me ,i just don't wan't that feeling in my mind at all ......

This is post of the year Jose, the best advice anyone could give or recieve.

dunkman

at the moment? i've pretty much hated everyone since the age of 15... thats the age i realised i was much better than everyone else... especially at modesty... i fucking rule at being modest

jamie uk

dunkman wrote:

at the moment? i've pretty much hated everyone since the age of 15... thats the age i realised i was much better than everyone else... especially at modesty... i fucking rule at being modest

but you suck at putting the right 'I' in a sentence, and that's always been favourite game of mine, it lets me know whos' worth bothering with, or not.

electronblue

i love people and want them to enjoy their lives etc.. as long as for the most part they are aways from me.

libragirl

electron blue wrote:

i love people and want them to enjoy their lives etc.. as long as for the most part they are aways from me.

well that is a good outlook. so you enjoy people as long as they aren't near you? Im not sure if im reading that right