for me, it was when my Dad passed away. i was up north living on my own, paying bills, good job, etc, etc. i was responsible for the most part in my opinion. but i had taken about 4+ years "off" from college to work on a music career. i was always recording & playing little shows, and i thought i was happy.
when Dad died, something changed in me. i moved back to texas to help my mom out b/c she was having a tough, tough time. i'm the youngest of 4--all my older siblings had families or were engaged, so they couldn't do it. i never thought twice about it. it's strange to look back on this now..and forgive me if i ramble.
but something happened---a switch was thrown and next thing i knew, i was back in Houston starting over. i enrolled in HCC one day without even thinking about it. it just seemed like i knew that i had to finish school. i got another job, quit partying as much & kept playing music.
the time that i had with my Mom for those 2 years is a time i will never forget. we helped each other grieve, grow & get back on track...and we became friends. she now lives up north near my siblings & her grandchildren, and she is truly happy.
it's funny because i was the one that always said how much i hated Houston & that i would never go back there, yada, yada. but i did. and it was the best decision that i ever made. in my 2nd semester @ HCC, i met my wife. i made lifelong friends there. i grew up there.
i was an "adult" before, but my priorities were all f'd up. i consider my life now as a gift from my Dad.
sorry if this was off-topic...i just related & responded.
Yeah, I agree. I think having my dad die will be the "switch" when it finally happens. I am responsible. I have a decent job. I am married and raising two kids. I pay my bills on time and have a good credit rating, etc. I don't have any debt except for the mortgage and two car payments. I try not to buy what I don't need. I plan for retirement and my kids' college. But I do go out and have fun and spend a lot of money to chase a certain rock band around from time to time.
But in the back of my mind, I know my dad is there in case anything goes wrong like an emergency or I lose my job and can't find work for a long time or whatever. With dad there, I feel like there is a safety net. When he is gone, I think it will finally hit that I am on my own if that makes sense. Maybe that is when I will finally feel "grown up".
i think my first realization was when i had to go shopping for pots and pans, when i moved out. i was 20. but i dunno, i always had to be the adult in the house growing up, even as a kid, so it wasn't such a weird transition for me.
it is definitely good to have a youthful spirit, but temper it with responsibility. i don't feel as old as i am, but i'm proud of my independence
there are people who never 'get it'. it's too bad.
nothing at all wrong with trying to stay young....
both you and cateeto have met me......i OBVIOUSLY am all about acting young!!!!! hehehehe
but when it comes to life in general....and being responsible for your own actions....and just being an adult......and working hard...and supporting your family...and trying your best to make sure your children are given the best chance at an education that you can provide.....and saving for their college...and saving for your retirement.....blah blah blah
for some reason a bunch of my friends just cant grasp that......they act the same fucking way they did when they were 18 years old......
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Like mfc and Flagg, mine was dad-related. I was 17 and my dad had leukemia. He started bleeding out at home, and passed out on the floor. My mom panicked and couldn't do anything, so I had to push her to the phone to call 911 and proceed to give my dad CPR. It was then that I realized the 'shift' had happened and my youth was over. Responsibility is tough, but I couldn't imagine a different life.
i know some people who are too adult... always so serious. and that makes them boring kinda people... beige people.
and i know some that are complete wasters... living on handouts and the likes... always blaming someone else for their problems.
so i think we should just bomb all of them and just leave the "people who know their responsibilities but like to have fun crowd" alive... anyone with me on the carpet bombing of squares/idiots?
I agree... but there's plenty of judging going on in this thread about people who simply don't have a career :shock: . I don't have a 'career', never wanted one and I got by just fine. I'm unemployed at the moment due to stuff beyond my control but it's the first time in my life. I'm no fucking loser simply cos I haven't dedicated my life to ONE profession :? that's just daft.
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about a month ago someone on this board(the old board) mentioned how he was going to sell all his old posters.....because
"it was time to move on from his "peter pan lifestyle" he was living.....
i thought that statement was fucking brilliant......
to bad i wasnt able to reply......hehehehehehe
i need to sell my posters simply because i don't need a box in my basement filled with over $9K in posters
i have gone back 30 years in life and have decided to collect baseball cards again.....
its kind of funny too...the baseball card market has followed everyone else and CRASHED!!!!
i am getting some vintage cards for dirt cheap...i guess people just want to sell em and make some kind of money.....
im actually having some fun doing this....
my girlfriend thinks im an idiot...hehehehe but i had a 1967 mint ernie banks card arrive at my door yesterday......and i instantly thought of how you "poster people" feel when a poster tube arrives on your doorstep......
i know some people who are too adult... always so serious. and that makes them boring kinda people... beige people.
and i know some that are complete wasters... living on handouts and the likes... always blaming someone else for their problems.
so i think we should just bomb all of them and just leave the "people who know their responsibilities but like to have fun crowd" alive... anyone with me on the carpet bombing of squares/idiots?
I agree... but there's plenty of judging going on in this thread about people who simply don't have a career :shock: . I don't have a 'career', never wanted one and I got by just fine. I'm unemployed at the moment due to stuff beyond my control but it's the first time in my life. I'm no fucking loser simply cos I haven't dedicated my life to ONE profession :? that's just daft.
One profession for life is an anomaly these days. I've been lucky enough to stay in the same field for the last 10yrs through 4 different employers. I've enjoyed it, but the economy is closing the chapter on this career, so I'll be moving on to who knows what. Going with the flow got me the last great run, I may approach things similarly this time 'round.
i think my first realization was when i had to go shopping for pots and pans, when i moved out. i was 20. but i dunno, i always had to be the adult in the house growing up, even as a kid, so it wasn't such a weird transition for me.
it is definitely good to have a youthful spirit, but temper it with responsibility. i don't feel as old as i am, but i'm proud of my independence
there are people who never 'get it'. it's too bad.
nothing at all wrong with trying to stay young....
both you and cateeto have met me......i OBVIOUSLY am all about acting young!!!!! hehehehe
but when it comes to life in general....and being responsible for your own actions....and just being an adult......and working hard...and supporting your family...and trying your best to make sure your children are given the best chance at an education that you can provide.....and saving for their college...and saving for your retirement.....blah blah blah
for some reason a bunch of my friends just cant grasp that......they act the same fucking way they did when they were 18 years old......
I love when wise Speedy makes his rare appearances
Like mfc and Flagg, mine was dad-related. I was 17 and my dad had leukemia. He started bleeding out at home, and passed out on the floor. My mom panicked and couldn't do anything, so I had to push her to the phone to call 911 and proceed to give my dad CPR. It was then that I realized the 'shift' had happened and my youth was over. Responsibility is tough, but I couldn't imagine a different life.
Wow Laura. I can't imagine what that must have been like.
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I agree... but there's plenty of judging going on in this thread about people who simply don't have a career :shock: . I don't have a 'career', never wanted one and I got by just fine. I'm unemployed at the moment due to stuff beyond my control but it's the first time in my life. I'm no fucking loser simply cos I haven't dedicated my life to ONE profession :? that's just daft.
I definitely agree Helen. Being an adult does not necessarily mean that you must have a career, and this is the thing that causes people to immediately judge others. I get a lot of shit throughout my life for having no desire to have a career and even more shit for not believing in the concept of a career. Being an adult is being someone who others can go to, someone trustworthy, someone honest... Being an adult is accepting all sorts of realizations throughout your passing days and accepting nothing but lessons from everything that we come across. Being an adult is being a positive role model to someone else, not through work, but through sincere gesture and good behavior.
I know a lot of people with careers who make all sorts of wonderful pocket change, but have the most miserable attitudes I've ever seen. Now, don't get me wrong, I do believe that some people desire careers and are quite good at them. I'm not talking down to you fine people... But what I'm basically saying is that there is more to being an adult than keeping a stable financial life. It's mainly about keeping your life stable in general, emotionally. Some people with all the money in the world cannot even grasp that concept.
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I agree... but there's plenty of judging going on in this thread about people who simply don't have a career :shock: . I don't have a 'career', never wanted one and I got by just fine. I'm unemployed at the moment due to stuff beyond my control but it's the first time in my life. I'm no fucking loser simply cos I haven't dedicated my life to ONE profession :? that's just daft.
I definitely agree Helen. Being an adult does not necessarily mean that you must have a career, and this is the thing that causes people to immediately judge others. I get a lot of shit throughout my life for having no desire to have a career and even more shit for not believing in the concept of a career. Being an adult is being someone who others can go to, someone trustworthy, someone honest... Being an adult is accepting all sorts of realizations throughout your passing days and accepting nothing but lessons from everything that we come across. Being an adult is being a positive role model to someone else, not through work, but through sincere gesture and good behavior.
I know a lot of people with careers who make all sorts of wonderful pocket change, but have the most miserable attitudes I've ever seen. Now, don't get me wrong, I do believe that some people desire careers and are quite good at them. I'm not talking down to you fine people... But what I'm basically saying is that there is more to being an adult than keeping a stable financial life. It's mainly about keeping your life stable in general, emotionally. Some people with all the money in the world cannot even grasp that concept.
I agree completely... neither of my parents had a 'career' but they always got by just fine... and still are. To look down on somebody simply cos their goal in life is not career orientated... well that really is just ignorance. I'm not saying there's anything wrong with having a career or a plan.. of course not... if that's what you want and that's what you've achieved... good for you. But don't look down on somebody else for having different ideals. And we ARE all different!
The Astoria??? Orgazmic!
Verona??? it's all surmountable
Dublin 23.08.06 "The beauty of Ireland, right there!"
Wembley? We all believe!
Copenhagen?? your light made us stars
Chicago 07? And love
What a different life
Had I not found this love with you
I grew up fast after my freshmen yr of high school. That summer my dad had a stroke and at that time I thought it couldn't get any worse. Well last September my dad went in for a simple prostate surgery. That went just fine. But what we didn't know was a blood clot that was later described ''massive'' went from his leg up to his lungs and then went to his heart. One minute I get a phone a call saying all is well and then 5 minutes later I get another call telling me the worst is happening. Getting off the elevator and seeing my mother and sisters with the head nurse, doctors, and hospital Chaplin was like a bad dream. I thought I got there too late and he was gone. It felt like slow motion hearing what was happening. The doctors telling us what options we had. My father coded and was without oxygen for 20 mins to his brain. He needed to have emergency heart surgery to remove the clot. We went to his room to see him b4 they took him downstairs. It was a crazy scene with nurses and doctors running in and out of the room. They were getting him ready to head down to surgery. You know its bad when the nurses who are there to help won't look you in the eyes. The condition he was in and how he looked I wish that to never happen for anyone. It's one of many images I will not soon forget. That and the doctors shouting, '' we have to go now''
Only 70% of people in his condition survive the surgery. The next 90 mins we waited and prayed for him. He made it out but it's been a road with lots of setbacks. It's been a roller coaster of emotions and eyes wide open experience. It's made me enjoy everyday and make the best of it no matter how bad it is.
Sometimes when I have to put my daughter in time out, I'm like "whoa...who the hell do I think I am putting someone in time out?" :? And then it hits me... I'm someone's mom. That's when I feel like an adult. (Still, a lot of the time that I'm with her, I just feel like a kid hanging out with another little kid, though. )
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when Dad died, something changed in me. i moved back to texas to help my mom out b/c she was having a tough, tough time. i'm the youngest of 4--all my older siblings had families or were engaged, so they couldn't do it. i never thought twice about it. it's strange to look back on this now..and forgive me if i ramble.
but something happened---a switch was thrown and next thing i knew, i was back in Houston starting over. i enrolled in HCC one day without even thinking about it. it just seemed like i knew that i had to finish school. i got another job, quit partying as much & kept playing music.
the time that i had with my Mom for those 2 years is a time i will never forget. we helped each other grieve, grow & get back on track...and we became friends. she now lives up north near my siblings & her grandchildren, and she is truly happy.
it's funny because i was the one that always said how much i hated Houston & that i would never go back there, yada, yada. but i did. and it was the best decision that i ever made. in my 2nd semester @ HCC, i met my wife. i made lifelong friends there. i grew up there.
i was an "adult" before, but my priorities were all f'd up. i consider my life now as a gift from my Dad.
sorry if this was off-topic...i just related & responded.
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But in the back of my mind, I know my dad is there in case anything goes wrong like an emergency or I lose my job and can't find work for a long time or whatever. With dad there, I feel like there is a safety net. When he is gone, I think it will finally hit that I am on my own if that makes sense. Maybe that is when I will finally feel "grown up".
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Like mfc and Flagg, mine was dad-related. I was 17 and my dad had leukemia. He started bleeding out at home, and passed out on the floor. My mom panicked and couldn't do anything, so I had to push her to the phone to call 911 and proceed to give my dad CPR. It was then that I realized the 'shift' had happened and my youth was over. Responsibility is tough, but I couldn't imagine a different life.
Verona??? it's all surmountable
Dublin 23.08.06 "The beauty of Ireland, right there!"
Wembley? We all believe!
Copenhagen?? your light made us stars
Chicago 07? And love
What a different life
Had I not found this love with you
collecting is fun...
flipping is more fun
maybe i'll switch to baseball cards
they're only rare because he can't keep his 13yr old mouth shut
:roll: You remind me of Godzilla vs. Mothra
can i be godzilla????
One profession for life is an anomaly these days. I've been lucky enough to stay in the same field for the last 10yrs through 4 different employers. I've enjoyed it, but the economy is closing the chapter on this career, so I'll be moving on to who knows what. Going with the flow got me the last great run, I may approach things similarly this time 'round.
Wow Laura. I can't imagine what that must have been like.
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PHL-5/27/06,5/28/06,10/30/09,10/31/09
CHI-8/2/07,8/5/07,8/23/09,8/24/09
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OKC-11/16/13
SEA-12/6/13
TUL-10/8/14
I definitely agree Helen. Being an adult does not necessarily mean that you must have a career, and this is the thing that causes people to immediately judge others. I get a lot of shit throughout my life for having no desire to have a career and even more shit for not believing in the concept of a career. Being an adult is being someone who others can go to, someone trustworthy, someone honest... Being an adult is accepting all sorts of realizations throughout your passing days and accepting nothing but lessons from everything that we come across. Being an adult is being a positive role model to someone else, not through work, but through sincere gesture and good behavior.
I know a lot of people with careers who make all sorts of wonderful pocket change, but have the most miserable attitudes I've ever seen. Now, don't get me wrong, I do believe that some people desire careers and are quite good at them. I'm not talking down to you fine people... But what I'm basically saying is that there is more to being an adult than keeping a stable financial life. It's mainly about keeping your life stable in general, emotionally. Some people with all the money in the world cannot even grasp that concept.
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Verona??? it's all surmountable
Dublin 23.08.06 "The beauty of Ireland, right there!"
Wembley? We all believe!
Copenhagen?? your light made us stars
Chicago 07? And love
What a different life
Had I not found this love with you
Only 70% of people in his condition survive the surgery. The next 90 mins we waited and prayed for him. He made it out but it's been a road with lots of setbacks. It's been a roller coaster of emotions and eyes wide open experience. It's made me enjoy everyday and make the best of it no matter how bad it is.