Contemplating Running Away

ajedigecko

sgossard3 wrote:

okay i can see this thread probably isnt going the way he wanted so ill post as my alter ego, Dumbfuck McShitforbrains:

Of course you should run away! you can stay with me! im a photographer for the sears kids collection amongst other artistic work with young people so i even have a job for you... as long as you arent too shy... and like most artists i have plenty of weed for you and i to share... you like wine coolers? drink up! sleeping arrangements shouldnt be a problem either cause ive got a big king sized bed we can share

few people make me laugh............but you do a good job.

IAmMyself

sgossard3 wrote:

okay i can see this thread probably isnt going the way he wanted so ill post as my alter ego, Dumbfuck McShitforbrains:

Of course you should run away! you can stay with me! im a photographer for the sears kids collection amongst other artistic work with young people so i even have a job for you... as long as you arent too shy... and like most artists i have plenty of weed for you and i to share... you like wine coolers? drink up! sleeping arrangements shouldnt be a problem either cause ive got a big king sized bed we can share

That's really funny and scary too!

EquallyWorthless

xSmackSoundx wrote:

Last night something horrible happened. I has stoned... and my parents smelled it on me. They searched my room and found my stash. They talked to me a lot about it last night (none of it really sank in). Now i'm feeling like I really don't want to deal with this issue with my parents right now. Also, I recently bought a 500 dollar bicycle. I am seriously thinking about getting away for a while. I am 16, and I can't handle all this shit. I am thinking about just riding my bike away. Maybe for just a week. It seems theres no way to be able to deal with this... my parents are just preaching at me about God and I know its not gonna change me... and I am to change I have to change myself. God isn't gonna help me... so is this how i'm gonna have to help myself?

(sorry I posted this in other music)

Never ever run away from your problems man, they will still be there when you come back, if anything sort the shit out, deal with it and if you still want to take off for a while, do it.

eyedclaar

OP, stay in school, stay at home, love your folks and listen to them and unless you've already started your own underground weed empire, you might even consider stepping away from that for a while. Get your shit together before smoking the herb.

Boy was my dad pissed when he found out all his kids were smoking. He couldn't believe we hadn't hooked him up...

haffajappa

sgossard3 wrote:

okay i can see this thread probably isnt going the way he wanted so ill post as my alter ego, Dumbfuck McShitforbrains:

Of course you should run away! you can stay with me! im a photographer for the sears kids collection amongst other artistic work with young people so i even have a job for you... as long as you arent too shy... and like most artists i have plenty of weed for you and i to share... you like wine coolers? drink up! sleeping arrangements shouldnt be a problem either cause ive got a big king sized bed we can share

are you really a photographer for sears kids?
cos i work at sears as one of my jobs, and i'd like to speak to you abou this one promotional poster about kids pajamas... i have to see it every day in my department, and its got this one really sadistic looking girl in it...and shes running forward in it, like she's coming to get me, and its scary as hell!!

Ledbetterman10

xSmackSoundx wrote:

Last night something horrible happened. I has stoned... and my parents smelled it on me. They searched my room and found my stash. They talked to me a lot about it last night (none of it really sank in). Now i'm feeling like I really don't want to deal with this issue with my parents right now. Also, I recently bought a 500 dollar bicycle. I am seriously thinking about getting away for a while. I am 16, and I can't handle all this shit. I am thinking about just riding my bike away. Maybe for just a week. It seems theres no way to be able to deal with this... my parents are just preaching at me about God and I know its not gonna change me... and I am to change I have to change myself. God isn't gonna help me... so is this how i'm gonna have to help myself?

(sorry I posted this in other music)

Wow......

yeah go ahead and "run away for a week." that'll show 'em. and then afterward when you come back they can go back to feeding you and giving you a place to live.

My parents found my weed when I was 17 once. I left it in my jeans and my mother found them in the laundry. They were pissed. They lectured me. Take it like a fucking man.

You're pathetic.

HushBull

Well, obviously, you took none of the advise the whole entirety of the pit tried to give you on your first post regarding the same issues. Like someone said, you cant take your parents heat, how are you going to survive otherwise in the "big persons world"? Brutal honesty time: Shut up, grow up.

haffajappa

irieinindy wrote:

ditto, to the above post.
I responded to you on your last thread regarding smoking pot and I gave you my honest answer, but as a 16 year old, you thought you knew more, which is the worst part about being a teenager, you THINK you know everything and you don't THINK you can die.(not your fault, it hormones and other stuff you can't control)
Well, your parents let you off sooooooo easy. Count your blessings, suck it up, and stop all the drama~it's getting old and you're only 16!
You run away now, you'll be back with your tail between your legs sooner than you could ever imagine! You don't like you Mom and Dad yelling at you, imagine someone in the middle of the night waking you up in some strange place; yelling at you or worse!
But you got your brothers, like you said in our PM, you're just like them.
SO why don't you make them take care of you!

i didnt see the last thread but... i have to agree with you... i mean, when i opened this thread i honestly thought i was going to read about someone getting abused, or molested, or watch their mother get beaten, etc etc.

they found pot on you? and they're worried/mad... that sounds like pretty normal parenting to me. i mean, i'd get mad about the preachy god stuff too, but come on, how do you expect your parents to react when they find pot on you as a sixteen year old? mine would have done the same.

and i don't understand how running away will solve any problems, like someone else said, it'll likely just cause bigger ones.

jamminpearls

If i ran away each time my parents found my stash when i was younger i'd still be running and i'm 27 now. Relax it's not the end of the world my friend.

CityMouse

doin'the-evolution wrote:

they found pot on you? and they're worried/mad... that sounds like pretty normal parenting to me.

mine used to give me hell for days if I didn't call when I came home late or left the back door unlocked for a few hours or left a kettle on and went in the other room...I got hell for months for getting Bs in math or running up a long distance phone bill...

if all they did was lecture about pot...

Kilgore_Trout

doin'the-evolution wrote:

are you really a photographer for sears kids?
cos i work at sears as one of my jobs, and i'd like to speak to you abou this one promotional poster about kids pajamas... i have to see it every day in my department, and its got this one really sadistic looking girl in it...and shes running forward in it, like she's coming to get me, and its scary as hell!!

yes thats a work of mine... the pajama shoots are always my favorite... that and the swim suits... she was actually running for the door as i took the picture... not coming after you at all... rest assured

jbalicki10

Update? Oh wait, do they have net access on skid row?

chadwick

getting away for even a few hours or an entire day does wonders
for one's mental clarity on themselves, others, and their immediate surroundings.
on the average how many parents find their kid's stash?
the answer=alot.
it's not the end of the world=on average.

however, i can see some parents being freakishly obsessed
with controling every single aspect of their child's growing up stages.

in my personal opinion, we should not be punished
for experimenting with marijuana when we are a youth
or for using it daily as young people, older people, whatever.
it's unjust, unfare, and a crock of shit to throw down the hammer
of parental justice because an able minded teenager has a personal bag
of marijuana in his/her fucking bedroom.
and that goes for our society aswell.

_

Let me get this straight: In the other thread, you decided to escape from your problems by smoking weed. Now smoking weed has caused you more problems and you want to escape from those by running away?

What kind of problems do you think running away will get you?

I certainly understand the urge to get out from under the thumb of your parents for awhile. It's really hard to be a teenager, when your parents can control your life. Try to remember, though, that you only have TWO MORE YEARS of this to deal with - if you play your cards right and don't fuck up your life. Once you're out on your own, as long as you can support yourself, you don't have to listen to them anymore if you don't want to. I suggest you try to keep your eyes on the prize (independence) and focus on being ready for it when the time comes. Work hard, save money, study hard, and know that getting/keeping your shit together is what will enable you to be free as soon as possible. Running away, however, will only get you into more trouble.

justam

CityMouse wrote:

mine used to give me hell for days if I didn't call when I came home late or left the back door unlocked for a few hours or left a kettle on and went in the other room...I got hell for months for getting Bs in math or running up a long distance phone bill...

if all they did was lecture about pot...

edit, wrong person, sorry

red mos

OK here is my 2 cents and a bit of what happened to me through my pot smoking days.

Like you I tried it when I was 16-17 and I honestly never liked it, but got busted being stoned a few times.
My Parents talked to me, and I did listen, but didn't really see the whole point behind the meaning of the conversation that I do now. I am now 26 and a college graduate.
Anyhow, my so called friends back then smoked pot day in and day out. I found out that they really weren't my friends, they just hung out with each other for dope smoking. I was the outcast in that group. These people did nothing but fuck up some very valuable years in my life. Some went to college with me and that's how I know this. Luckily I do have like 6 close friends, but we all live in different places so never see each other.
Basically I am a loner, and I hate it. It sucks, but I don't feel I can trust anybody because of the way those people manipulated me and were such assholes.
My point of telling you this is that I did not listen to my mom when I should have. She told me that "we are associated, with how we hang out with" and I hung out with dope smokers because throughout my life, before they started smoking pot, they were the only people that would accept me as a friend.
I deeply regret not listening to my parents advice, and I feel like I am paying for it by being alone.
I am not going to tell you what to do, because I am not your parents. but you are young, and have some great years ahead of you. Running away is certainly not the answer. (as already mentioned many times here). You have parents that are providing for you (food, bed, shelter) so they have your best interest at heart just like mine do, but I didn't listen when I was 16. Now at 26, I am on my own, paying bills and paying for my own food, and I am glad to be doing those things because that is life. I just have so much regret because I didn't listen to my parents. I will never get those 10 years back, but if I had known then what I know now.
Best of luck and just remember coming from what I just shared up there that your parents only have your best interest at heart and it's never to early to start really understanding the meaning behind what they are trying to get us to see. I have gone to counseling, and I just recently started going back to church because I am trying so hard to better the life I feel that got so screwed up by not listening to my parents

haffajappa

sgossard3 wrote:

yes thats a work of mine... the pajama shoots are always my favorite... that and the swim suits... she was actually running for the door as i took the picture... not coming after you at all... rest assured

ah gotcha.

haffajappa

okay, MY mom cried when she found out that i had smoked (not, I smoke, as in the context of I do it all the time but had smoked) pot before and she BAWLED.
we were in a restaurant and the topic came up, then she asked if my brother had ever done it, and then said well you have never done it, right? and i said, "mom, i just got back from Amsterdam, figure things out for yourself"

and i'm not talking teared up, she bawled her eyes out as if i told her i had a heroin addiction and was knocked up or something, and she was so disappointed in me and it was crazy i didnt expect that reaction at all.

and this was three months ago!
and i'm twenty!

so not all parents are just going to snuff off a pot smoking kid (and i dont even do it regularly! in fact i do it very, very, very very very very little.)
i guess i just dont understand what reaction you were expecting from your parents...

small town beck

Running away will only set the scene for much BIGGER problems down the road and may set the tone for how you deal with all problems in the future and that isn't cool. At least you have parents that didn't kick you out for finding your pot and they want to talk to you. And while it is your home, they do own it and set the rules. I know it sucks now but I can't even imagine what life on the street must be like. Do you have a close family member like aunt/uncle or grandparents that you could maybe stay with for a week or so? For some cool down for you and your folks? Not that running away is the answer but down the road could be a nice get away. And while you can't get away as a teen ager... there is far less to 'get away' from than there is in the adult world...but you don't know that yet. Lucky devil

Enjoy youth while you can and having parents who take care of things and have all the worries!

Hinny

Self-medicating with illicit drugs is the worst way to deal with a problem. Any attempts at reinforcing this by removing the consequences brought on by the use of the drug, in this case having to deal with your parents' responses to it, makes the whole thing even worse, and turns the whole thing into a spiral. Downwards.