weight loss blues...

Sian-of-the-dead

ok, so 2 years ago I took the decision to lose weight.

I joined weightwatchers and lost a huge 79lb... yes, thats nearly 6 stone, and i'm still - when I try and i'm not drinking or on holiday - losing.

You know, I find it amazing how even though i've lost such a huge amount of weight, I STILL feel huge and i'm so insecure about my body. Don't get me wrong, i'm not a petite girl anyways and never will be (Not that i'd want to be i'm alot happier being hourglass and curvy now... bums and boobs are the way forward IMO ) but considering i've lost so much, you'd think i'd be able to be proud and see myself for the size I am now and not how I used to be, but I can't get the impression of my gargantuan self out of my head!

I got weighed last night (as I do every Wednesday) and after a LUXURIOUS holiday in Belfast, I'd only put on 1/2 a lb. Sure, 'thats not too bad!' I hear you say?! So then, why the hell do I feel like a blimp and like i've put on a 14LB?!

Anyone else ever had these experiences or lost alot of weight?

Heineken Helen

Sian :eek: wow, that's some amount of weight... and you're far from huge at all. You look fab!

I lost alot of weight when I lived in Paris, when I came home I was skinny... and skinny doesn't suit me. I started eating lots then cos I wanted to put weight ON... and I haven't stopped

facepollution

Might seem like a silly question, but are you still over weight for your height? Losing six stone is an INCREDIBLE achievement, but I guess if you did still have a little way to go then it's understandable that you may still feel unhappy with your size.

Ledbetterus

It's a psychological thing. The same way anorexic and bulimic people, even when they're totally skin and bones, still feel and to themselves, look fat. I'm not saying you're either of these, of course. Just that it's a part of nature to feel like this.

I'm no doctor, so all I can say is to just try your best to forget about it, and be happy for who you are

Me.. I have the weight gain blues.

Good luck!

Heineken Helen

facepollution wrote:

Might seem like a silly question, but are you still over weight for your height? Losing six stone is an INCREDIBLE achievement, but I guess if you did still have a little way to go then it's understandable that you may still feel unhappy with your size.

She's no further to go. I thought she was one of them naturally slim people.

Sian-of-the-dead

facepollution wrote:

Might seem like a silly question, but are you still over weight for your height? Losing six stone is an INCREDIBLE achievement, but I guess if you did still have a little way to go then it's understandable that you may still feel unhappy with your size.

yeah :rolleyes: still got a way to go *embarrassed*

To be honest, I never wanna be skinny. I'd just like to be curvy and voluptuous you know?

It's not a case of being 'medically' healthy for me, i'd just like to be happy in my skin and feel comfortable with myself, to be proud of what i've got and thats gonna involve losing a little more unfortunately.

Gonna take up running again soon, I seemed to lose alot when I trained for my half marathon last year.

Sian-of-the-dead

Heineken Helen wrote:

She's no further to go. I thought she was one of them naturally slim people.

:eek: are you joking?! with THIS ass?!

harmless_little_f***

facepollution wrote:

Might seem like a silly question, but are you still over weight for your height? Losing six stone is an INCREDIBLE achievement, but I guess if you did still have a little way to go then it's understandable that you may still feel unhappy with your size.

That sounds like the shit my dad says to my mum sometimes. :rolleyes:

Collin

It's amazing how many women and girls think they're fat. Seriously all the girls in my class think they're too fat, they all look fine... Well, except for one girl, she really is too fat.

harmless_little_f***

I think it's just a woman thing.. My ex lost a fair bit of weight since we got married (I wasn't all that happy about it, tbh) but she still continued to look at herself as the bigger girl. She had other, deeper insecurities which didn't go away because of a weight loss. She had to ask for a divorce for that.. :rolleyes:

Heineken Helen

Sian-of-the-dead wrote:

:eek: are you joking?! with THIS ass?!

Yep, with THAT ass

Seriously though, you've got a fab figure..

Heineken Helen

Collin wrote:

It's amazing how many women and girls think they're fat. Seriously all the girls in my class think they're too fat, they all look fine... Well, except for one girl, she really is too fat.

I know what ya mean... it's only the past couple of years I've really become comfortable with myself. I know I could still probably DO with losing a bit but it's the last thing on my wishlist. I pretty much always thought I was fat and looking back on pictures as a kid and a teenager I was actually thin :eek:

Sian-of-the-dead

Collin wrote:

It's amazing how many women and girls think they're fat. Seriously all the girls in my class think they're too fat, they all look fine... Well, except for one girl, she really is too fat.

well... I was that girl that 'really is too fat'.

I understand that womens brains are weird things (nothing annoys me more than one of my best friends, with her gorgeous size 10/12 figure crying cuz she's 'hideously fat!!!!' and then telling me that I don't understand.... :rolleyes: ) but honestly... I was FAT.

facepollution

harmless_little_f*** wrote:

That sounds like the shit my dad says to my mum sometimes. :rolleyes:

It's common sense though. At the end of the day, you either like or don't like what you see in the mirror. Providing it would not be unhealthy to lose any more weight, then why not keep heading towards your goal?

Talking of goals, it's really important to set them, write down exactly what you want to weigh and start thinking about the ways to reach that goal.

Collin

Sian-of-the-dead wrote:

well... I was that girl that 'really is too fat'.

I understand that womens brains are weird things (nothing annoys me more than one of my best friends, with her gorgeous size 10/12 figure crying cuz she's 'hideously fat!!!!' and then telling me that I don't understand.... :rollseyes:) but honestly... I was FAT.

But you're not fat anymore, so what's the problem?

I feel sad for this girl in my class, she already has some health problems due to her weight but she keeps on eating bread with mayonaisse, and all kinds of crap.

Heineken Helen

Collin wrote:

But you're not fat anymore, so what's the problem?

I feel sad for this girl in my class, she already has some health problems due to her weight but she keeps on eating bread with mayonaisse, and all kinds of crap.

what's wrong with bread and mayonnaisse? :(

Sian-of-the-dead

Collin wrote:

But you're not fat anymore, so what's the problem?

I feel sad for this girl in my class, she already has some health problems due to her weight but she keeps on eating bread with mayonaisse, and all kinds of crap.

:rolleyes:

There speaks a man who doesn't understand.... lol

I am still fat, and not just medically. I'm not happy in my own skin and thats what it boils down to.

That was my point, in that how come you can lose nearly 6 stone and yet you can't see the achievement you've made? it's like your brain won't let you.

as for the girl in your class, i've been there. I was eating junk for a long time cuz I was unhappy with my life yet all people saw was me shovelling food into my mouth, this made me unhappy, cuz I thought I knew what they were thinking, so I ate more. The more I ate, the bigger I became and the more unhappy I was.... so I comfort ate.

It's a horrible vicious cycle that needs to be broken. Weight loss isn't just about getting your ass off the sofa, doing some crunches and putting down the pizza. Weight loss is about sorting your lifestyle and self out psychologically and facing what you are. You can try all the fad diets in the world but if your still unhappy in you life it'll just be a quick fix that won't last, it'll make you more unhappy in the long run.

Collin

Heineken Helen wrote:

what's wrong with bread and mayonnaisse? :(

It's not exactly very healthy. Especially combined with all the other junk she's cramming down.

Heineken Helen

Collin wrote:

It's not exactly very healthy. Especially combined with all the other junk she's cramming down.

:( dammit. I love LOADSA mayonnaise.

It's one thing I cannot do, give up any foods that I like. I love food too much. The only time I lose weight is when I'm being active. The past couple of months I'm walking about an hour a day and I'm definitely notice a difference... and a few people have said it to me. I dunno, it's weird though cos I always feel like I'm losing weight but I still never seem to drop a clothes size or anything

Heineken Helen

Sian-of-the-dead wrote:

It's a horrible vicious cycle that needs to be broken. Weight loss isn't just about getting your ass off the sofa, doing some crunches and putting down the pizza. Weight loss is about sorting your lifestyle and self out psychologically and facing what you are. You can try all the fad diets in the world but if your still unhappy in you life it'll just be a quick fix that won't last, it'll make you more unhappy in the long run.

well, maybe it's time to figure out what needs to be fixed and just fix it?

It must be hard though, if you really were that big, you would have been slagged and always felt horrible. Now when you get to a stage where you don't need to feel like that anymore, you don't know HOW! Well you're gonna have to start learning. If you've to look in the mirror for an hour every night telling yourself you're gorgeous... well that's what you're gonna have to do

Collin

Sian-of-the-dead wrote:

:rolleyes:

There speaks a man who doesn't understand.... lol

I am still fat, and not just medically. I'm not happy in my own skin and thats what it boils down to.

That was my point, in that how come you can lose nearly 6 stone and yet you can't see the achievement you've made? it's like your brain won't let you.

as for the girl in your class, i've been there. I was eating junk for a long time cuz I was unhappy with my life yet all people saw was me shovelling food into my mouth, this made me unhappy, cuz I thought I knew what they were thinking, so I ate more. The more I ate, the bigger I became and the more unhappy I was.... so I comfort ate.

It's a horrible vicious cycle that needs to be broken. Weight loss isn't just about getting your ass off the sofa, doing some crunches and putting down the pizza. Weight loss is about sorting your lifestyle and self out psychologically and facing what you are. You can try all the fad diets in the world but if your still unhappy in you life it'll just be a quick fix that won't last, it'll make you more unhappy in the long run.

I guess you're right, I don't understand.

You literally can't see the change? When you look in the mirror you see no difference at all?

Anyway, I tell my "girlfriend" she's beautiful the way she is everyday, and she is certainly beautiful. But she also thinks she's too fat and she's not happy in her own skin. I told her I'd help her exercise and coach her if she wants but I wonder if she'll ever be happy with her figure...

I'm sorry if I sound a bit harsh now but you're right it is a cycle but it can be broken, many people have done it. So if she really wants to change the way she looks or if she wants to be happy, she'll have to either accept who she is or start, like you said, sorting her lifestyle out. I've seen many people do it and I believe anyone can do it. It might take a while and it might be hard but if you really want to change you'd think you'd be willing to go through it all.

Collin

Heineken Helen wrote:

:( dammit. I love LOADSA mayonnaise.

It's one thing I cannot do, give up any foods that I like. I love food too much. The only time I lose weight is when I'm being active. The past couple of months I'm walking about an hour a day and I'm definitely notice a difference... and a few people have said it to me. I dunno, it's weird though cos I always feel like I'm losing weight but I still never seem to drop a clothes size or anything

So you just eat bread with mayonnaise? If I ever eat bread with mayonnaise I hope there'll be at least cheese, meat, vegetables ... on it as well. Not just mayonnaise...

Heineken Helen

Collin wrote:

I guess you're right, I don't understand.

You literally can't see the change? When you look in the mirror you see no difference at all?

Anyway, I tell my "girlfriend" she's beautiful the way she is everyday, and she is certainly beautiful. But she also thinks she's too fat and she's not happy in her own skin. I told her I'd help her exercise and coach her if she wants but I wonder if she'll ever be happy with her figure...

I'm sorry if I sound a bit harsh now but you're right it is a cycle but it can be broken, many people have done it. So if she really wants to change the way she looks or if she wants to be happy, she'll have to either accept who she is or start, like you said, sorting her lifestyle out. I've seen many people do it and I believe anyone can do it. It might take a while and it might be hard but if you really want to change you'd think you'd be willing to go through it all.

Awww your girlfriends a very lucky girl Collin I think the majority of women will never be happy with their figure and it really is sad. Cos most of those who aren't happy have tried several ways to sort it out and sometimes it simply can't be done. So if ya don't accept it, you're gonna be miserable forever.

Heineken Helen

Collin wrote:

So you just eat bread with mayonnaise? If I ever eat bread with mayonnaise I hope there'll be at least cheese, meat, vegetables ... on it as well. Not just mayonnaise...

Oh no... I eat lotsa stuff on it. Actually my favourite roll at the moment is probably seriously unhealthy but it's yum and there's no way I'm ever giving it up . It's mayonnaise on a roll with barbeque chicken, mixed salad in mayonnaise and cheese

Collin

Heineken Helen wrote:

Awww your girlfriends a very lucky girl Collin I think the majority of women will never be happy with their figure and it really is sad. Cos most of those who aren't happy have tried several ways to sort it out and sometimes it simply can't be done. So if ya don't accept it, you're gonna be miserable forever.

"Girlfriend"

And believe me, I'm the lucky one.

Collin

Heineken Helen wrote:

Oh no... I eat lotsa stuff on it. Actually my favourite roll at the moment is probably seriously unhealthy but it's yum and there's no way I'm ever giving it up . It's mayonnaise on a roll with barbeque chicken, mixed salad in mayonnaise and cheese

See, that's not bread and mayonnaise, that's just good food!

She just takes bread and puts mayonnaise on it, nothing else.

pineapplesandwaves

Sian-of-the-dead wrote:

ok, so 2 years ago I took the decision to lose weight.

I joined weightwatchers and lost a huge 79lb... yes, thats nearly 6 stone, and i'm still - when I try and i'm not drinking or on holiday - losing.

You know, I find it amazing how even though i've lost such a huge amount of weight, I STILL feel huge and i'm so insecure about my body. Don't get me wrong, i'm not a petite girl anyways and never will be (Not that i'd want to be i'm alot happier being hourglass and curvy now... bums and boobs are the way forward IMO ) but considering i've lost so much, you'd think i'd be able to be proud and see myself for the size I am now and not how I used to be, but I can't get the impression of my gargantuan self out of my head!

I got weighed last night (as I do every Wednesday) and after a LUXURIOUS holiday in Belfast, I'd only put on 1/2 a lb. Sure, 'thats not too bad!' I hear you say?! So then, why the hell do I feel like a blimp and like i've put on a 14LB?!

Anyone else ever had these experiences or lost alot of weight?

I went through a similar experience as you. I lost a bunch of weight a few years ago, yet when I was losing the weight I never saw much of a difference in the mirror. Obviously, I knew I was losing weight, the scales and reduced sizes were proof, but I didn't see what everyone else saw. I'm pretty accepting of who I am and what I look like, so thankfully, I was never hard or overly frustrated with myself. I just didn't see it. It took a while for me to really notice. Funnily, my brother had the opposite problem. He was ridiculously skinny growing up, and when he went to school for police foundations and started working out, he always felt skinny. Thankfully, he's a well-adjusted guy, so didn't become one of the obsessive body builders who look like they're going to explode at any given moment. I think it happens for a lot of people. I know people who put on weight and still feel thin.

Also, I find that when you start eating right (eating healthy, reducing proportions, etc.) and you do have days or holidays when you eat as you please, you do feel a little gross afterwards because your body isn't used to eating that way.

Irish Al

6 Stone is unbelieveable...thats dedication for ya

Sian-of-the-dead wrote:

(nothing annoys me more than one of my best friends, with her gorgeous size 10/12 figure crying cuz she's 'hideously fat!!!!

This quote kinda puzzled me tho, you feel that although you have lost 6 stone, you still don't feel comfortable in you skin, which is totally ligitimate, but I don't get why your friend annoys you when she says she feels fat. Is she not entitled to feel uncomfortable in her skin. I know for me, that just cause someone else might seem "worse off" than me, does not give me joy or make me feel like my personal feelings about myself aren't ok. I think you need to give your friend a bit of slack because you too can empathise about how it feels to feel uncomfortable in your skin...maybe all she needs is support (or a kick in the ass...I don't know her ).

All I'm saying is that everyone can have a distorted view of themselves and those feelings are ligitimate....jesus I rambled on there a bit...right back to work


P.S. ....and it aint only women who feel that way!

Sian-of-the-dead

Collin wrote:

Anyway, I tell my "girlfriend" she's beautiful the way she is everyday, and she is certainly beautiful. But she also thinks she's too fat and she's not happy in her own skin. I told her I'd help her exercise and coach her if she wants but I wonder if she'll ever be happy with her figure...

thats good, women need re-assurance.

I'd say to my ex, "i'm feeling fat" he'd just say... "hmm... you're not fat" even when I was at my biggest.... guess what guys... THAT DOESN'T HELP!!!
women need to have the bits they hate, loved by their man. They need to be told that they're gorgeous off a guys own back without having to dig for compliments, they need to know whats good about them and not just that they're 'not fat'. Thats the kind of thing that makes a difference.

and no, no woman will EVER be 100% happy with her body.

I actually feel sorry for men you know.... LOL

Heineken Helen

Irish Al wrote:

6 Stone is unbelieveable...thats dedication for ya



This quote kinda puzzled me tho, you feel that although you have lost 6 stone, you still don't feel comfortable in you skin, which is totally ligitimate, but I don't get why your friend annoys you when she says she feels fat. Is she not entitled to feel uncomfortable in her skin. I know for me, that just cause someone else might seem "worse off" than me, does not give me joy or make me feel like my personal feelings about myself aren't ok. I think you need to give your friend a bit of slack because you too can empathise about how it feels to feel uncomfortable in your skin...maybe all she needs is support (or a kick in the ass...I don't know her ).

All I'm saying is that everyone can have a distorted view of themselves and those feelings are ligitimate....jesus I rambled on there a bit...right back to work


P.S. ....and it aint only women who feel that way!

Great point there... I know a girl who's a size 6 and she goes on about her 'belly' :eek: her fucking WHAT? My friend lost an awful lot of weight a while ago but she didn't look healthy with it but she seemed obsessed... like she'd always make a point of eating a quarter of what was on her plate and while the rest of us were still eating she'd go on and on about how full she was and how she couldn't eat another bite. It was pretty fucking annoying but I did feel sorry for her cos I realise it doesn't matter what size people are, some will always have insecurities.

Sian-of-the-dead

Irish Al wrote:

6 Stone is unbelieveable...thats dedication for ya



This quote kinda puzzled me tho, you feel that although you have lost 6 stone, you still don't feel comfortable in you skin, which is totally ligitimate, but I don't get why your friend annoys you when she says she feels fat. Is she not entitled to feel uncomfortable in her skin. I know for me, that just cause someone else might seem "worse off" than me, does not give me joy or make me feel like my personal feelings about myself aren't ok. I think you need to give your friend a bit of slack because you too can empathise about how it feels to feel uncomfortable in your skin...maybe all she needs is support (or a kick in the ass...I don't know her ).

All I'm saying is that everyone can have a distorted view of themselves and those feelings are ligitimate....jesus I rambled on there a bit...right back to work


P.S. ....and it aint only women who feel that way!

oh it's not the fact that she has body hang ups, I understand that completely and even supported her 100% when she came to ww with me. It's the fact that she TELLS me that I don't understand when, she knew me at my biggest and has seen how far i've come, that I have a problem with.

and I know men feel the same, it's just a shame they aren't more open about it