i'm confused, are you?

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  • saveuplife
    saveuplife Posts: 1,173
    genie wrote:
    :D you're joker! doggie bars sound interesting, i should check them out i wonder if they do "pedigree" cocktail


    Doggie bars are great. Awesome conversation starter, you can drink, dogs have a blast.
  • South of Seattle
    South of Seattle West Seattle Posts: 10,724
    polaris wrote:
    oh ... so, it would seem you are looking for the superficial - in which case, it's a crap shoot because by its nature superficiality has no depth and is always fleeting ...

    Sounds like Genie is looking for the perfect "Friends With Benefits" situation to me.

    I'm just wondering why no man from London on this board has chimed in and offered at this point? :confused::)
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  • genie
    genie Posts: 2,222
    South of Seattle wrote:
    Sounds like Genie is looking for the perfect "Friends With Benefits" situation to me.

    I'm just wondering why no man from London on this board has chimed in and offered at this point? :confused::)

    why do men think about sex instantly? did i ever mention sex in my posts - no. i don't want benefits, i just want erm.... comradeship i don't even know if it's the right word to describe what i'm looking for.
  • South of Seattle
    South of Seattle West Seattle Posts: 10,724
    genie wrote:
    why do men think about sex instantly? did i ever mention sex in my posts - no. i don't want benefits, i just want erm.... comradeship i don't even know if it's the right word to describe what i'm looking for.

    I didn't say it instantly, it took me a few posts. :D

    Normally the kind of adventures you're seeking can get uncomfortable when there's no benefits. Only because most guys will think that it will lead to it anyway. Especially if you get along great and have fun adventures with this person. He'll think "I've found the best girl ever" It's kind of a natural instinct for most
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  • genie
    genie Posts: 2,222
    South of Seattle wrote:
    I didn't say it instantly, it took me a few posts. :D

    Normally the kind of adventures you're seeking can get uncomfortable when there's no benefits. Only because most guys will think that it will lead to it anyway. Especially if you get along great and have fun adventures with this person. He'll think "I've found the best girl ever" It's kind of a natural instinct for most

    did i say i wanted this person to be a guy? ;):p this person can be either male or female, their age don't bother me much either, and their sexuality can be anything. in fact all i want is great upbeat fun personality.
  • urbanhippie
    urbanhippie Posts: 3,007
    Seems to me you're just looking for a really good friend. Who says it has to be a man? The best way to get this without confusion over 'benefits' might be to find some girlfriends you can share these kinda things with.

    What kind of things do you like to do? Maybe joining some kind of adventure club is the best way to hook up with like minded people?


    Edit: You beat me to it :)
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  • angie76
    angie76 Posts: 646
    maybe you need to go on a vision quest
    Dig a ditch deep enough
    To keep you clear of the sun
    You've been burned more than once
    You don't think much of trust
  • Brisk.
    Brisk. Posts: 11,581
    Oh im very confused all right.
  • South of Seattle
    South of Seattle West Seattle Posts: 10,724
    genie wrote:
    did i say i wanted this person to be a guy? ;):p this person can be either male or female, their age don't bother me much either, and their sexuality can be anything. in fact all i want is great upbeat fun personality.

    Listen to Urban Hippie :)

    I just figured you meant a guy when you said Soulmate, that's all.

    Try a new adventurous activity, like Sea Kayaking or something :D You'll meet some cool friends and you'll have adventure friends to go trip with.
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  • genie
    genie Posts: 2,222
    I BrisK I wrote:
    Oh im very confused all right.

    share it, tell me what you're confused about?
  • lalalalaaaaaaaa
    lalalalaaaaaaaa Posts: 2,445
    genie wrote:
    i think i'm numb, i'm also very confused as to what i want from life.
    IMO, another person can't resolve that stuff for you...you have to do that on your own. The numbness is never taken away from you by someone...you have to drive it out on your own. The confusion is different, and it'll always be there to some degree, but it seems to get less and less over time...especially if you're making things happen and inspiring yourself to combat the numbness. Then you start to see what's really important and what's not.
  • genie
    genie Posts: 2,222
    South of Seattle wrote:
    Listen to Urban Hippie :)

    I just figured you meant a guy when you said Soulmate, that's all.

    Try a new adventurous activity, like Sea Kayaking or something :D You'll meet some cool friends and you'll have adventure friends to go trip with.

    but you see that's where i'm misunderstood why should a soulmate be a person of the opposite sex or someone i fancy.
  • genie
    genie Posts: 2,222
    Saturnal wrote:
    IMO, another person can't resolve that stuff for you...you have to do that on your own. The numbness is never taken away from you by someone...you have to drive it out on your own. The confusion is different, and it'll always be there to some degree, but it seems to get less and less over time...especially if you're making things happen and inspiring yourself to combat the numbness. Then you start to see what's really important and what's not.

    when i was younger i knew exactly what i wanted from life and who i was, but now that i'm changing and developing interest to new things and being influenced by people with weird outlook on life, and can see some limitations, and how other people lived their life, i don't know how to go about things
  • lalalalaaaaaaaa
    lalalalaaaaaaaa Posts: 2,445
    genie wrote:
    when i was younger i knew exactly what i wanted from life and who i was, but now that i'm changing and developing interest to new things and being influenced by people with weird outlook on life, and can see some limitations, and how other people lived their life, i don't know how to go about things
    mhmmm, I'd say it was the same for me. The more you're exposed to the world, the less sense it makes. Most people don't want to deal with this and think about this...that's why things like TV are so popular :p

    There's no guide as to how to go about doing things and finding inspiration in your life...just keep in touch with what makes you really excited or happy deep down inside, and you should be generally ok imo.
  • genie
    genie Posts: 2,222
    Saturnal wrote:
    mhmmm, I'd say it was the same for me. The more you're exposed to the world, the less sense it makes. Most people don't want to deal with this and think about this...that's why things like TV are so popular :p

    There's no guide as to how to go about doing things and finding inspiration in your life...just keep in touch with what makes you really excited or happy deep down inside, and you should be generally ok imo.

    that's what i'm going to do now, i'm going to go out to see a burlesque show, with some dude that i dont fancy but i asked him to come along with me cause no one else could. speak to ya all later :)
  • Fahka
    Fahka Posts: 3,187
    genie wrote:
    i think i'm numb, i'm also very confused as to what i want from life, i'm not even sure if relationship is what i need. i think what i badly need is a soulmate or an adventure seeking buddy.


    i think everyone feels like this.... So yes.. i hear ya! I'm always feeling confused and baffled. Good luck on the soulmate/seekerbuddy
  • polaris
    polaris Posts: 3,527
    genie wrote:
    how is it superficial? it's far from it. so what's not superficial then, describe it to me?

    firstly - don't take this the wrong way as most of us fall into this category ...

    but what you are looking for is a companion that suits your own personal needs - those needs can change from day to day week to week ... the components of which are essentially superficial ... you are not necessarily looking to establish a connection where you give as well as you get ...
  • Heineken Helen
    Heineken Helen Posts: 18,095
    genie wrote:
    well i'd be proactive, but i've got no one at the moment with whom i can have fun, i need someone who says "yes", spontaneous, flexible with time, has enough money to have fun, who can be trusted and relied on, and with wicked personality. so far i've found no one who's like that. someone who tries to work things out if i do something wrong.
    :D sounds like me... except for the having enough money part :o
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  • Brisk.
    Brisk. Posts: 11,581
    genie wrote:
    share it, tell me what you're confused about?

    women!
  • stickboy
    stickboy Posts: 2,981
    genie wrote:
    i think i'm numb, i'm also very confused as to what i want from life, i'm not even sure if relationship is what i need. i think what i badly need is a soulmate or an adventure seeking buddy.
    not feeling too confused these days but sure an adventure buddy or finding my soulmate would be cool :)
    Aah, fuck it, I’m just gonna go home, turn on the fuckin’ TV...
    Watch the nightly news and drink a beer...
    Like I could even change the world, yeah right...
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