First year university...and 2 of my friends are engaged!! Your thoughts plz?

bovy_j

acoustic guy wrote:

If a couple want to get married they should have to live together first for two years. ANd they should have to go to marriage counseling.I mean before they are married. Then, if all is well get married.
My wife and I are great buy the first year was really hard. I dated many girls and some for along time but I never lived with them. My wife was the first.

I'm actually with you on that also! (Even if I'm sickened by how quick those two couples think they've grown up).
I knew that one of the couples would eventually grow and get married, they're just those high school sweethearts everyone sees making it, but so soon!
The other couple (the one with the girl who dropped university) has been dating for maybe 6 months?

Jeremy1012

bad idea.

Lesbelges

bovy_j wrote:

It just feels so weird to have two good friends of mine engaged. I don't even think either of them are nineteen yet. I was just wondering what your thoughts were on something like this.
I'm just not knowing what to think right now....I'm enjoying university and just having a good time! Not thinking of marriage!
Thanks guys/gals!

Boyyyyy if you feel weird now, you will feel really weird when they start divorcing!

holtz

I'd be surprised if they even make it to marriage, give it time they'll wise up. I've had friends get married young or quickly after meeting and they barely make it past 5 years before getting divorced and usually spent most of the time married miserable.

Vedd Hedd

holtz wrote:

I'd be surprised if they even make it to marriage, give it time they'll wise up. I've had friends get married young or quickly after meeting and they barely make it past 5 years before getting divorced and usually spent most of the time married miserable.

Ditto.

I had friends who got married in college.....now divorced....

Drowned Out

meh...
might as well get the first one out of the way while you're young.

GraySaturday

I got engaged my senior year of college.. I had just turned 22.. I guess its all up to the people involved.. for some it works well, for others its a big disaster..

Best of luck to your friends

Gossard_Is_God

getting engaged is somewhat of a novelty!

IAmMyself

I would be miserable if I would have married the man I was engaged to while in college. I'm 35 now and still single, thank god! I'm pretty sure I want to get married someday, but not in a hurry!

boxwine_in_hell

bovy_j wrote:

It just feels so weird to have two good friends of mine engaged. I don't even think either of them are nineteen yet. I was just wondering what your thoughts were on something like this.
I'm just not knowing what to think right now....I'm enjoying university and just having a good time! Not thinking of marriage!
Thanks guys/gals!

As someone that is on his second marriage I can honestly say, bad idea. That's way too young to get married. Everyone is a jackass when they're 19 and throw the stress of marriage on top of that and it's a lethal combination.

Jeanie

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

I really think 40-50 is the "ideal" time to get married.

Yeah, nice work if you can get it.

Just wait, there comes a time when you become invisible as a woman and the only blokes left that want to get married want to marry 25 year olds or have been married upteen times or are so set in their ways that you're screwed anyway.

Jeanie

oh and to the OP, I think a lot of people feel the need to define themselves when they're young. Set up the life they think they should have.
There are people that get engaged and married young and are very successful and happy in their choice but it's not for everyone.
Guess you just have to go with what you think is your best option.

acoustic guy

Jeanie wrote:

oh and to the OP, I think a lot of people feel the need to define themselves when they're young. Set up the life they think they should have.
There are people that get engaged and married young and are very successful and happy in their choice but it's not for everyone.
Guess you just have to go with what you think is your best option.

I agree, they feel they need to prortray success right away. I think its just being insecure.

Jeanie

acoustic guy wrote:

I agree, they feel they need to prortray success right away. I think its just being insecure.

Well I don't know that's always the case. I think for some yes. For others, I think they have an urge to make a family for themselves and define their path in life early. No stats or anything but I've found that a lot of people of divorced parents seem to want to get married young. It doesn't work in a lot of cases but I understand the need they have.
If you think about it, it's scary when you realize that you are now an adult and it's your life. I think a lot of people freak out when they realize that and feel the need to do what they think they're supposed to.

GreenTeaDisease

Jeanie wrote:

Well I don't know that's always the case. I think for some yes. For others, I think they have an urge to make a family for themselves and define their path in life early. No stats or anything but I've found that a lot of people of divorced parents seem to want to get married young. It doesn't work in a lot of cases but I understand the need they have.
If you think about it, it's scary when you realize that you are now an adult and it's your life. I think a lot of people freak out when they realize that and feel the need to do what they think they're supposed to.

what do they think the benefits of getting married are going to be though? they day after they get married, their lives are going to be exactly the same as the day before.

Jeanie

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

what do they think the benefits of getting married are going to be though? they day after they get married, their lives are going to be exactly the same as the day before.

Well yes, but that's not how it works. It's to recreate the family situation that you didn't have growing up.