Yeah, that's pretty much where I'm at now too. I was with this girl for about a year. Towards the end it was getting rough and I just wanted to be single and have a little fun (while I'm still young) before I'm "tied down" to someone.
Seems like 95% of the girls I meet are all looking for some sort of relationship. The other 5% are out there but I just don't know them/haven't met them.
Yeah, that's pretty much where I'm at now too. I was with this girl for about a year. Towards the end it was getting rough and I just wanted to be single and have a little fun (while I'm still young) before I'm "tied down" to someone.
Seems like 95% of the girls I meet are all looking for some sort of relationship. The other 5% are out there but I just don't know them/haven't met them.
I started off by wanting to be in relationship and be loved, but after i've read and been in few flings myself...i understood that relationship would probably be too much for me right now.
so yeah, i mean i don't do one night stands, and i don't do different men. but i sure wouldn't mind doing the same guy everytime i need to have sex with no strings attached.
but then i'd have to get someone outside my circle of friends, cause i still would want to keep my good rep
I don't, like the other poster said he might have turned out to be possessive later on. The guy i went with started getting possessive too.
Falling in love?? love at first sight?? it's more like lust at first sight.
and btw....i think both sexes are equal in their bitching about opposite sex.
actually, i fell in love with my ex-wife , not at first sight, but over the first 2 nights. she was friends of a friend of the girl i was living with. she came to our place for a weekend party. by the 2 night, i was in love. for sure.
didnt do anything about it for 2 years, we would wind up being together for 13 years b4 we divorced. it does happen sometimes.
Peace, Love.
"To question your government is not unpatriotic --
to not question your government is unpatriotic."
-- Sen. Chuck Hagel
I don't know wether to feel bad for the guy, or be angry with him. I just don't have that much patience for people who say they will call, but don't. Maybe something just came up this weekend. It just seems strange given the good times we'd had over the past few weeks.
I guess I just don't see any reason for him not to call.
FYI we also have mututal friends (he is close with one of my closest guy friends since high school). So it dosn't seem like he would just dip out for no reason.
OneLove...how long has it been since he hasn't called? What's the timeframe here?
I haven't spoken with him over the phone since sunday morning before last (a week ago). we did talk briefly over email (last thursday), where I invited him out to a gathering of mutual friends (last saturday). he said he wanted to come, and would call me to confirm plans for the weekend.
I don't have the kind of job where I can make phone calls during the day... but I was expecting a call sometime over the weekend.
I suppose the single game has changed from the time I was 21 (now 29). I've noticed people are alot more damaged now. Not that they aren't good people, just jaded by the dating scene.
I haven't spoken with him over the phone since sunday morning before last (a week ago). we did talk briefly over email (last thursday), where I invited him out to a gathering of mutual friends (last saturday). he said he wanted to come, and would call me to confirm plans for the weekend.
I don't have the kind of job where I can make phone calls during the day... but I was expecting a call sometime over the weekend.
hmmm..so he emailed and said he'd call and then you never heard from him?
I'd email one more time and say, "wtf dude?" Then if no response...see ya.
But I'd hate to say "see ya" and later find out something happened to him.
You never know whats going on in someone elses head I suppose.
yep..I have learned I have come to learn that.
And this is exactly why it's important for people to communicate in a relationship. You shouldn't have to sit there guessing what's on your partner's mind.
And this is exactly why it's important for people to communicate in a relationship. You shouldn't have to sit there guessing what's on your partner's mind.
That's if both people choose to communicate.
These cuts are leaving creases. Trace the scars to fit the pieces, to tell the story, you don't need to say a word.
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I started off by wanting to be in relationship and be loved, but after i've read and been in few flings myself...i understood that relationship would probably be too much for me right now.
so yeah, i mean i don't do one night stands, and i don't do different men. but i sure wouldn't mind doing the same guy everytime i need to have sex with no strings attached.
but then i'd have to get someone outside my circle of friends, cause i still would want to keep my good rep
exactly.
i don't think either gender corners the market on crazy....each can be fantastic, and each can be utterly shite. male or female, it happens.
Let's just breathe...
I am myself like you somehow
they cost money, try happy drunk girls instead, but then i cannot guarantee you that they won't give you STDs, or shout "rape" after the deed is done
LMAO!!! hehehehe
"What a stupid lamb."
"What a sick, masochistic lion."
actually, i fell in love with my ex-wife , not at first sight, but over the first 2 nights. she was friends of a friend of the girl i was living with. she came to our place for a weekend party. by the 2 night, i was in love. for sure.
didnt do anything about it for 2 years, we would wind up being together for 13 years b4 we divorced. it does happen sometimes.
"To question your government is not unpatriotic --
to not question your government is unpatriotic."
-- Sen. Chuck Hagel
I guess I just don't see any reason for him not to call.
FYI we also have mututal friends (he is close with one of my closest guy friends since high school). So it dosn't seem like he would just dip out for no reason.
Maybe you all are right, he just got scared.
lmao..seriously.
OneLove...how long has it been since he hasn't called? What's the timeframe here?
I haven't spoken with him over the phone since sunday morning before last (a week ago). we did talk briefly over email (last thursday), where I invited him out to a gathering of mutual friends (last saturday). he said he wanted to come, and would call me to confirm plans for the weekend.
I don't have the kind of job where I can make phone calls during the day... but I was expecting a call sometime over the weekend.
You never know whats going on in someone elses head I suppose.
I'm just surprised.
amen.
and its not that men are difficult.
or that women are difficult.
PEOPLE can be difficult.
Chin up.
The "one" is out there. You'll probably find em when you stop looking.
Least thats what gets me through.
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so well put!!!!!!
Agreed.
I suppose the single game has changed from the time I was 21 (now 29). I've noticed people are alot more damaged now. Not that they aren't good people, just jaded by the dating scene.
Ugh. Anyway, thanks for the support.
hmmm..so he emailed and said he'd call and then you never heard from him?
I'd email one more time and say, "wtf dude?" Then if no response...see ya.
But I'd hate to say "see ya" and later find out something happened to him.
Probably a sound approach (one more email). We do have a mutual friend... so I would like to keep things from being wierd.
thanks for the advice!
No problem..I just speak from experience where I said "Fuck off" and later found out there was a good reason for whatever happened.
Now I just wait patiently to tell people to Fuck off.
yeah guys'll do that.it happens when they start to think and then it's all over red rover. :(
take a good look
this could be the day
hold my hand
lie beside me
i just need to say
such a beautiful love poem........
Together we will float like angels.........
In the moment that you left the room, the album started skipping, goodbye to beauty shared with the ones that you love.........
I suppose I will have to learn to be patient as well.
Oh well
And this is exactly why it's important for people to communicate in a relationship. You shouldn't have to sit there guessing what's on your partner's mind.
That's if both people choose to communicate.
... and there lies the problem. Communication should not be optional.
I agree.
I emailed him, and he emailed me back immediately.
He didnt' apoligize for not calling.... but he did clue me in on some personal stuff that is going on with him. Kinda makes sense now.
I am still not sure I am up for teaching someone how to communicate though. Thats a hard job