I'm gonna be a Dad!

Byrnzie

The Champ wrote:

Okay, don't try too hard now buddy..but yeah, best of luck to everyone involved..

I just hadn't planned on making Korea my permanent home. It's her choice to keep it. I've simply told her I'll do all I can, but that I can't promise I'll be there 100% of the time. She's not the girl I wanna spend the rest of my life with. What more can I say?

CHANGEinWAVES

Byrnzie wrote:

I just hadn't planned on making Korea my permanent home. It's her choice to keep it. I've simply told her I'll do all I can, but that I can't promise I'll be there 100% of the time. She's not the girl I wanna spend the rest of my life with. What more can I say?

being honest with her is the most important thing, and it looks like ur doing that. By the way...Congrats! (wether it's planned or not a baby is a beautiful thing)

Phantom Pain

Byrnzie wrote:

I just hadn't planned on making Korea my permanent home. It's her choice to keep it. I've simply told her I'll do all I can, but that I can't promise I'll be there 100% of the time. She's not the girl I wanna spend the rest of my life with. What more can I say?

That's why you wrap up your willy

In the end the kid suffers

dunkman

Slip Kid wrote:

hurray for kids being born out of wedlock!

wow.. is this 1897?

Byrnzie

Phantom Pain wrote:

I feel bad for the Baby if you're not going to be there full-time

Coming from a Divorced Family it's very hard

I'm from a divorced family myself. I think there's a big difference if your parents weren't ever living together/married in the first place. It's the separation that's hard on the kids. But if the mother and father were never together in the first place then I don't see the problem. The kid will get the best of both worlds - two cultures if you will - and there will be no arguments and shouting e.t.c going on in the household. I personally don't see the problem.

Phantom Pain

Byrnzie wrote:

I'm from a divorced family myself. I think there's a big difference if your parents weren't ever living together/married in the first place. It's the separation that's hard on the kids. But if the mother and father were never together in the first place then I don't see the problem. The kid will get the best of both worlds - two cultures if you will - and there will be no arguments and shouting e.t.c going on in the household. I personally don't see the problem.

How can there not be a problem if you're not there 100% of the time ?

Single Mother's have it tough..on themselves and the baby

Collin

Congrats, Byrnzie!

Jeanie

Congratulations Daddy Byrnze!!

I'm very happy for you! How long we gotta wait for pics?

Irish Al

Byrnzie wrote:

Well, well, so...after something of a fling with a Korean girl, turns out she's pregnant and wants to keep it.
And I never thought it would happen to me.
So it goes!

:eek: Best of luck dude...its the best feeling ever

Jennytree

Phantom Pain wrote:

How can there not be a problem if you're not there 100% of the time ?

Single Mother's have it tough..on themselves and the baby

takes two to tango... why don't you get on the phone and lecture the mother too

Heineken Helen

Pegasus wrote:

well, if you want to do it properly..yes it is.
even more so in the circumstances withthe practicalities.. it's a huge fucking deal.. it's all I'm saying..the end of the world as he knows it anyway...from the bottom of a bottle

what I MEANT was I'm sure it can seem like that in the beginning. My sister did the teenage pregnancy thing JUST before it kinda got cool and it really wasn't the end of the world. At the time it seemed like that but ask my sister would she do it again and there's only one answer to that question. She's got the most wonderful daughter and I've got the most wonderful niece . So yeh, while things don't always work out as planned... it's not always a bad thing.

V V

wow shocker!!!!

i'm happy that ur happy ..... but ...... dont get burned !!! meal tickets and passports come to mind as a very good friend found out in thailand, had a baby built a house, 3 yrs later lost it all, except his daughter who he has custady over and loves dearly, he still lives in thailand 9 months a yr but its been a very tough ride. so please becareful. I do know you have a lot of love to offer and children are very healing ! xxx

Heineken Helen

Byrnzie wrote:

I'm from a divorced family myself. I think there's a big difference if your parents weren't ever living together/married in the first place. It's the separation that's hard on the kids. But if the mother and father were never together in the first place then I don't see the problem. The kid will get the best of both worlds - two cultures if you will - and there will be no arguments and shouting e.t.c going on in the household. I personally don't see the problem.

I agree... like I just said about my niece, that was HER normal. Cecelia Ahern (daughter of our Taoiseach/Primeminister who wrote PS I love you) said the same thing. Her parents were split but as far as she was concerned that was how things work, that was normal. If the parents handle it correctly, it's absolutely no big deal at all. Of course it would be great in a perfect world for two people to have a baby and it's all teamwork and they stay together and love eachother happily ever after and all that bullshit... my parents stayed together 'for the kids' and there was constant turmoil in my house pretty much. We werent' blind to the fact that they couldn't stand eachother it's all a pile of bollox.

Heineken Helen

V V wrote:

wow shocker!!!!

i'm happy that ur happy ..... but ...... dont get burned !!! meal tickets and passports come to mind as a very good friend found out in thailand, had a baby built a house, 3 yrs later lost it all, except his daughter who he has custady over and loves dearly, he still lives in tahiland 9 months a yr but its been a very tough ride. so please becareful. I do know you have a lot of love to offer and child are very healing ! xxx

I initially thought the same thing but South Korea's different, no?

V V

Heineken Helen wrote:

I initially thought the same thing but South Korea's different, no?

i dont know is it?

Byrnzie ?

ummm i know what ur saying about parents not being to gether in the first place and i do agree but they do need to live near each other for the most part, that is if you want to be apart of the childs life. then there can be differences in parenting styles which are hard to sort through if u dont live together. btw get ready for the biggest guilt trip ever mixed with the biggest feeling of love ever ! hahaha

Byrnzie

V V wrote:

i dont know is it?

Byrnzie ?

ummm i know what ur saying about parents not being to gether in the first place and i do agree but they do need to live near each other for the most part, that is if you want to be apart of the childs life. then there can be differences in parenting styles which are hard to sort through if u dont live together. btw get ready for the biggest guilt trip ever mixed with the biggest feeling of love ever ! hahaha

Ah well, sorry to put a downer on things, but after a long chat with the potential mother to be this evening, it doesn't look like there's gonna be a little Byrnzie running around anytime soon. She said at the wekend that she was going to keep it, but now it looks like that's not gonna happen.
I told her I'd support her as best as I can with whatever she decides - I already paid for an abortion at the weekend as a precaution.
We both agreed It's probably for the best. (Although whether she goes ahead with the op or changes her mind again is another matter).

So, the further misadventures of Byrnzie look likely to continue.

(I wish I'd kept my mouth shut about it now).

Sorry if I've disapointed anyone.

TrixieCat

I hope you are being sarcastic about the disappointing people. They can all bugger off, yes? The saints that they are.
I hope all goes well for you.

Byrnzie

TrixieCat wrote:

I hope you are being sarcastic about the disappointing people. They can all bugger off, yes? The saints that they are.
I hope all goes well for you.

Thanks. My life's a fucking yo-yo right now. I got sacked just after the new year, then un-sacked about 4 days later after agreeing to work an extra hour a day for my boss for the next 2 weeks. I found out two days after being sacked that this girl was pregnant. And now it looks like she's gonna have an abortion.
Hmm..It's a good job I've got a sense of humour or I'd be fucked.

meme

Nevermind.
It can't be an easy time, sorry this is happening to all of you.

Jennytree

Well Byrnzie, the yoyo that is life if all was straight forward, how boring would life be Nothing that a good aul Pearl Jam concert won't fix

anywho, it is a bit of a headfuck for ye, but it'll all work out for the best no matter what she decides to do, and it all seems kind of civil which is good And now at least ye know, if/when ye become daddy, there'll be a few supporters here for ye!