The Talk .

josevolution
josevolution Posts: 31,813
edited May 2012 in All Encompassing Trip
i had it last night with my 13 soon to be 14 yr old son the testosterone is literally spewing out of him so i thought it was the right time ,we talked about everything form masturbating to sexual intercourse it when very well anyone else out here have the talk with son/daughter ,i do have a daughter but my wife will have to do that talk ...:)
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  • Brain of J.Lo
    Brain of J.Lo Posts: 3,259
    josevolution wrote:
    we talked about everything form masturbating to sexual intercourse


    good for you!!! :D

    I think my mom has probably never said the word "masturbating" out loud, let alone in my presence. The sex talk she gave me was comprised of the most sterile and vague description of intercourse you could possibly imagine. Thank god I had an older sister who subscribed to Cosmo and other magazines that were full of material inappropriate for a 10 yr old, or I may still be trying to figure this stuff out. :D
  • catefrances
    catefrances Posts: 29,003
    i'm still waiting for the talk from my mum. :)
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  • NY PJ1
    NY PJ1 Posts: 9,533
    thats a tough talk jose
  • lalalalaaaaaaaa
    lalalalaaaaaaaa Posts: 2,445
    josevolution wrote:
    i had it last night with my 13 soon to be 14 yr old son the testosterone is literally spewing out of him so i thought it was the right time ,we talked about everything form masturbating to sexual intercourse it when very well anyone else out here have the talk with son/daughter ,i do have a daughter but my wife will have to do that talk ...:)
    Did you tell him to always lock the door when he's masturbating?
  • Steve Dunne
    Steve Dunne Posts: 4,965
    josevolution wrote:
    i had it last night with my 13 soon to be 14 yr old son the testosterone is literally spewing out of him so i thought it was the right time ,we talked about everything form masturbating to sexual intercourse it when very well anyone else out here have the talk with son/daughter ,i do have a daughter but my wife will have to do that talk ...:)

    Did you grab his mother and provide visuals? Did you go 'And you do it like THIS and like THIS and like THIS and like THIS'!!!???? :D
    I love to turn you on
  • small town beck
    small town beck Posts: 6,691
    catefrances wrote:
    i'm still waiting for the talk from my mum. :)

    Me too. She told me I would have to start wearing a bra ( I think I was like one of the first girls in my glass.. gawd I hated THAT.. afraid my strap would get snapped.. afraid it wouldn't :p ) and that other "talk" :eek: but I don't think she ever talked to be about sex.. I like to think she isn't aware of it :o:p
  • The Champ
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  • catefrances
    catefrances Posts: 29,003
    small town beck wrote:
    Me too. She told me I would have to start wearing a bra ( I think I was like one of the first girls in my glass.. gawd I hated THAT.. afraid my strap would get snapped.. afraid it wouldn't :p ) and that other "talk" :eek: but I don't think she ever talked to be about sex.. I like to think she isn't aware of it :o:p

    well i'm a parent now, so im not sure whether the fact i didnt get 'a talk' is a good thing or not. :)
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    take a good look
    this could be the day
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  • josevolution
    josevolution Posts: 31,813
    NY PJ1 wrote:
    thats a tough talk jose

    it went pretty smoth i kept it very profesional not to descriptive told him to use tissues, paper towel when pleasureing himself,no tshirts or bath towels and we also wen't over the use of condoms and he was not uncomfortable or anything ..he appreciated it and it put my mind at ease a bit ....
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  • GraySaturday
    GraySaturday Posts: 2,878
    my dad had the talk with my brother not too long ago but it didn't to as planned. My dad got all nervous and started yelling at my brother saying "when a girl says no it means no. NO MEANS NO!!!!!!!!!!" apparently he just kept saying no means no and didn't say anything else. My brother came home and asked my mom if dad thought he was a rapist. Haha. Worst talk ever
  • josevolution
    josevolution Posts: 31,813
    GraySaturday wrote:
    my dad had the talk with my brother not too long ago but it didn't to as planned. My dad got all nervous and started yelling at my brother saying "when a girl says no it means no. NO MEANS NO!!!!!!!!!!" apparently he just kept saying no means no and didn't say anything else. My brother came home and asked my mom if dad thought he was a rapist. Haha. Worst talk ever

    well damm that sucks , i told him to make sure allways use protection and that he is not ready to have sex yet ,i tried to keep it on his level it was mainly about the masturbating that his exploring now ..but i will have a 2nd talk with him about that part of the sexual experience that he will encounter ....
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  • meme
    meme Posts: 4,695
    josevolution wrote:
    i had it last night with my 13 soon to be 14 yr old son the testosterone is literally spewing out of him so i thought it was the right time ,we talked about everything form masturbating to sexual intercourse it when very well anyone else out here have the talk with son/daughter ,i do have a daughter but my wife will have to do that talk ...:)

    Just keep him away from the Spears girls and he should be fine.
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  • josevolution
    josevolution Posts: 31,813
    meme wrote:
    Just keep him away from the Spears girls and he should be fine.

    isn't that the truth i do have to keep a close eye on him though he seems to be lady's man ...
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  • mammasan
    mammasan Posts: 5,656
    My three older brother sat me down for the talk, when I was like 8. So of course the next day I was the most popular kid in class because I was telling all my friends about it.

    My oldest son is 10 so I still have a couple of years before I sit him down and pass on the wisdon bestowed upon my by my brothers.
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  • josevolution
    josevolution Posts: 31,813
    mammasan wrote:
    My three older brother sat me down for the talk, when I was like 8. So of course the next day I was the most popular kid in class because I was telling all my friends about it.

    My oldest son is 10 so I still have a couple of years before I sit him down and pass on the wisdon bestowed upon my by my brothers.

    so all three were giving you info damm you must of looked like this :confused: no at 8yrs old ...
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  • GreenTeaDisease
    GreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
    my parents never gave us the talk. I really don't think you need too. At one point my mum asked me if I knew where babies come from and I was like "of course" and that was the end of it. Really it seems like unnecessary awkwardness, you figure it all out on your own at some point. You learn the actual biology of it in class and then the rest of it just comes naturally.
  • GreenTeaDisease
    GreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
    small town beck wrote:
    Me too. She told me I would have to start wearing a bra ( I think I was like one of the first girls in my glass.. gawd I hated THAT.. afraid my strap would get snapped.. afraid it wouldn't :p ) and that other "talk" :eek: but I don't think she ever talked to be about sex.. I like to think she isn't aware of it :o:p

    ugh me too. I refused to wear one until I was in jr high even though I pretty much needed one at 9. but my mum didn't bug me too much about it. I did have to learn about periods at 9, because the doctor told my mum it might be coming soon. She didn't mention anything about sex when she told me about it, she basically said "once a month women bleed and your tummy hurts and it's perfectly normal and just tell me when it happens and I'll show you what to do." I just inferred it had something to do with sex, but didn't understand the actual science of it until my 7th grade bio class...luckily 9 turned out to be too early, it didn't come until 11, which was horrific enough, I was still the first girl in my class.
  • josevolution
    josevolution Posts: 31,813
    GreenTeaDisease wrote:
    my parents never gave us the talk. I really don't think you need too. At one point my mum asked me if I knew where babies come from and I was like "of course" and that was the end of it. Really it seems like unnecessary awkwardness, you figure it all out on your own at some point. You learn the actual biology of it in class and then the rest of it just comes naturally.


    i guess the spears girls also learned the same way you did :eek:
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  • Brain of J.Lo
    Brain of J.Lo Posts: 3,259
    GreenTeaDisease wrote:
    You learn the actual biology of it in class and then the rest of it just comes naturally.

    That can be a problem, if it comes a little too naturally, and the parents aren't talking about it.

    If for nothing else, the parents need to know where the kids stand and whether or not they understand how to get and use birth control.
  • genie
    genie Posts: 2,222
    whatever i learned about sex came from movies

    LONG LIVE PORN!!!! :D:)

    i think parents or young people themselves should concentrate more on how not to get pregnant and how not to catch STD's. i think this is more important than explaining to someone what wanking, giving a blow job means in my opinon

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