The Talk .

josevolutionjosevolution Posts: 29,221
i had it last night with my 13 soon to be 14 yr old son the testosterone is literally spewing out of him so i thought it was the right time ,we talked about everything form masturbating to sexual intercourse it when very well anyone else out here have the talk with son/daughter ,i do have a daughter but my wife will have to do that talk ...:)
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  • we talked about everything form masturbating to sexual intercourse


    good for you!!! :D

    I think my mom has probably never said the word "masturbating" out loud, let alone in my presence. The sex talk she gave me was comprised of the most sterile and vague description of intercourse you could possibly imagine. Thank god I had an older sister who subscribed to Cosmo and other magazines that were full of material inappropriate for a 10 yr old, or I may still be trying to figure this stuff out. :D
  • catefrancescatefrances Posts: 29,003
    i'm still waiting for the talk from my mum. :)
    hear my name
    take a good look
    this could be the day
    hold my hand
    lie beside me
    i just need to say
  • NY PJ1NY PJ1 Posts: 9,533
    thats a tough talk jose
  • i had it last night with my 13 soon to be 14 yr old son the testosterone is literally spewing out of him so i thought it was the right time ,we talked about everything form masturbating to sexual intercourse it when very well anyone else out here have the talk with son/daughter ,i do have a daughter but my wife will have to do that talk ...:)
    Did you tell him to always lock the door when he's masturbating?
  • Steve DunneSteve Dunne Posts: 4,965
    i had it last night with my 13 soon to be 14 yr old son the testosterone is literally spewing out of him so i thought it was the right time ,we talked about everything form masturbating to sexual intercourse it when very well anyone else out here have the talk with son/daughter ,i do have a daughter but my wife will have to do that talk ...:)

    Did you grab his mother and provide visuals? Did you go 'And you do it like THIS and like THIS and like THIS and like THIS'!!!???? :D
    I love to turn you on
  • i'm still waiting for the talk from my mum. :)

    Me too. She told me I would have to start wearing a bra ( I think I was like one of the first girls in my glass.. gawd I hated THAT.. afraid my strap would get snapped.. afraid it wouldn't :p ) and that other "talk" :eek: but I don't think she ever talked to be about sex.. I like to think she isn't aware of it :o:p
  • The ChampThe Champ Posts: 4,063
    'I want to hurry home to you
    put on a slow, dumb show for you
    and crack you up
    so you can put a blue ribbon on my brain
    god I'm very, very frightening
    and I'll overdo it'
  • catefrancescatefrances Posts: 29,003
    Me too. She told me I would have to start wearing a bra ( I think I was like one of the first girls in my glass.. gawd I hated THAT.. afraid my strap would get snapped.. afraid it wouldn't :p ) and that other "talk" :eek: but I don't think she ever talked to be about sex.. I like to think she isn't aware of it :o:p

    well i'm a parent now, so im not sure whether the fact i didnt get 'a talk' is a good thing or not. :)
    hear my name
    take a good look
    this could be the day
    hold my hand
    lie beside me
    i just need to say
  • josevolutionjosevolution Posts: 29,221
    NY PJ1 wrote:
    thats a tough talk jose

    it went pretty smoth i kept it very profesional not to descriptive told him to use tissues, paper towel when pleasureing himself,no tshirts or bath towels and we also wen't over the use of condoms and he was not uncomfortable or anything ..he appreciated it and it put my mind at ease a bit ....
    jesus greets me looks just like me ....
  • my dad had the talk with my brother not too long ago but it didn't to as planned. My dad got all nervous and started yelling at my brother saying "when a girl says no it means no. NO MEANS NO!!!!!!!!!!" apparently he just kept saying no means no and didn't say anything else. My brother came home and asked my mom if dad thought he was a rapist. Haha. Worst talk ever
  • josevolutionjosevolution Posts: 29,221
    my dad had the talk with my brother not too long ago but it didn't to as planned. My dad got all nervous and started yelling at my brother saying "when a girl says no it means no. NO MEANS NO!!!!!!!!!!" apparently he just kept saying no means no and didn't say anything else. My brother came home and asked my mom if dad thought he was a rapist. Haha. Worst talk ever

    well damm that sucks , i told him to make sure allways use protection and that he is not ready to have sex yet ,i tried to keep it on his level it was mainly about the masturbating that his exploring now ..but i will have a 2nd talk with him about that part of the sexual experience that he will encounter ....
    jesus greets me looks just like me ....
  • memememe Posts: 4,695
    i had it last night with my 13 soon to be 14 yr old son the testosterone is literally spewing out of him so i thought it was the right time ,we talked about everything form masturbating to sexual intercourse it when very well anyone else out here have the talk with son/daughter ,i do have a daughter but my wife will have to do that talk ...:)

    Just keep him away from the Spears girls and he should be fine.
    ... and the will to show I will always be better than before.
  • josevolutionjosevolution Posts: 29,221
    meme wrote:
    Just keep him away from the Spears girls and he should be fine.

    isn't that the truth i do have to keep a close eye on him though he seems to be lady's man ...
    jesus greets me looks just like me ....
  • mammasanmammasan Posts: 5,656
    My three older brother sat me down for the talk, when I was like 8. So of course the next day I was the most popular kid in class because I was telling all my friends about it.

    My oldest son is 10 so I still have a couple of years before I sit him down and pass on the wisdon bestowed upon my by my brothers.
    "When one gets in bed with government, one must expect the diseases it spreads." - Ron Paul
  • josevolutionjosevolution Posts: 29,221
    mammasan wrote:
    My three older brother sat me down for the talk, when I was like 8. So of course the next day I was the most popular kid in class because I was telling all my friends about it.

    My oldest son is 10 so I still have a couple of years before I sit him down and pass on the wisdon bestowed upon my by my brothers.

    so all three were giving you info damm you must of looked like this :confused: no at 8yrs old ...
    jesus greets me looks just like me ....
  • my parents never gave us the talk. I really don't think you need too. At one point my mum asked me if I knew where babies come from and I was like "of course" and that was the end of it. Really it seems like unnecessary awkwardness, you figure it all out on your own at some point. You learn the actual biology of it in class and then the rest of it just comes naturally.
  • Me too. She told me I would have to start wearing a bra ( I think I was like one of the first girls in my glass.. gawd I hated THAT.. afraid my strap would get snapped.. afraid it wouldn't :p ) and that other "talk" :eek: but I don't think she ever talked to be about sex.. I like to think she isn't aware of it :o:p

    ugh me too. I refused to wear one until I was in jr high even though I pretty much needed one at 9. but my mum didn't bug me too much about it. I did have to learn about periods at 9, because the doctor told my mum it might be coming soon. She didn't mention anything about sex when she told me about it, she basically said "once a month women bleed and your tummy hurts and it's perfectly normal and just tell me when it happens and I'll show you what to do." I just inferred it had something to do with sex, but didn't understand the actual science of it until my 7th grade bio class...luckily 9 turned out to be too early, it didn't come until 11, which was horrific enough, I was still the first girl in my class.
  • josevolutionjosevolution Posts: 29,221
    my parents never gave us the talk. I really don't think you need too. At one point my mum asked me if I knew where babies come from and I was like "of course" and that was the end of it. Really it seems like unnecessary awkwardness, you figure it all out on your own at some point. You learn the actual biology of it in class and then the rest of it just comes naturally.


    i guess the spears girls also learned the same way you did :eek:
    jesus greets me looks just like me ....
  • You learn the actual biology of it in class and then the rest of it just comes naturally.

    That can be a problem, if it comes a little too naturally, and the parents aren't talking about it.

    If for nothing else, the parents need to know where the kids stand and whether or not they understand how to get and use birth control.
  • geniegenie Posts: 2,222
    whatever i learned about sex came from movies

    LONG LIVE PORN!!!! :D:)

    i think parents or young people themselves should concentrate more on how not to get pregnant and how not to catch STD's. i think this is more important than explaining to someone what wanking, giving a blow job means in my opinon
  • ugh me too. I refused to wear one until I was in jr high even though I pretty much needed one at 9. but my mum didn't bug me too much about it. I did have to learn about periods at 9, because the doctor told my mum it might be coming soon. She didn't mention anything about sex when she told me about it, she basically said "once a month women bleed and your tummy hurts and it's perfectly normal and just tell me when it happens and I'll show you what to do." I just inferred it had something to do with sex, but didn't understand the actual science of it until my 7th grade bio class...luckily 9 turned out to be too early, it didn't come until 11, which was horrific enough, I was still the first girl in my class.

    I started wearing a bra at 9, and started my period at 10...just a few months after I learned what it was...lol. I was the first girl in my class for both of those. I matured very early!
  • geniegenie Posts: 2,222
    I started wearing a bra at 9, and started my period at 10...just a few months after I learned what it was...lol. I was the first girl in my class for both of those. I matured very early!

    yep, and that's exactly when i started getting my fucking acne. sometimes i wish i'd always stayed a child, lots of things would've been easier if i did.
    huh, wishfull thinking :(
  • mammasanmammasan Posts: 5,656
    so all three were giving you info damm you must of looked like this :confused: no at 8yrs old ...

    They where giving me detailed info. They where telling me about foreplay, masturbation, the whole nine my friend. They thought it would be hillarious when I asked my parents the next morning why a woman would give a guy a hand job in a movie theatre, which I did ask because they told me to ask. Needless to say I was the sex expert in my grade and my brothers where grounded for sometime. My friends and I still joke about it till this day how I opened their eyes to a whole new world that one fatefull day in 3rd grade.
    "When one gets in bed with government, one must expect the diseases it spreads." - Ron Paul
  • I started wearing a bra at 9, and started my period at 10...just a few months after I learned what it was...lol. I was the first girl in my class for both of those. I matured very early!

    haha meeeee too. I think it was a sign that I lost all my baby teeth before I was 5, and I was five feet tall and almost 100 lbs by second grade.

    god I was terrified of wearing a bra to school though. I *knew* people would find out and just tear me apart for it. Even when I finally started wearing them, I wore nothing but sports bras for about 5 years :). yeah the whole girly girl thing was not big where I grew up...
  • haha meeeee too. I think it was a sign that I lost all my teeth before I was 5, and I was five feet tall and almost 100 lbs by second grade.

    god I was terrified of wearing a bra to school though. I *knew* people would find out and just tear me apart for it. Even when I finally started wearing them, I wore nothing but sports bras for about 5 years :). yeah the whole girly girl thing was not big where I grew up...

    lol, oh my god, you lost all your teeth before 5!? That's insane! I started losing them at five and finished at 11. As far as height goes, I was the third tallest girl in my class for like 3 months at the beginning of 6th grade, lol. And then I grew about 2 more inches over the next 4 years, and that was it. :D

    I remember being humiliated by the bra thing, too...but, I was also humiliated by the breasts that were like busting out of my shirts, so I had to do something...lol. People said things either way. I basically started having a very "womanly" figure by the time I was 10, and I felt very awkward about the whole thing.
  • That can be a problem, if it comes a little too naturally, and the parents aren't talking about it.

    If for nothing else, the parents need to know where the kids stand and whether or not they understand how to get and use birth control.

    I don't know, I feel like I knew about all that stuff, somehow. I did read more newspapers and stuff than the average pubescent kid...I don't think I actually knew where to *get* birth control, other than the doctor and for that you'd need mum to take you so I wasn't about to ask for that, and I knew that I wasn't going to get birth control I certainly wasn't going to have sex. but through my entire teenage years I never considered actually having sex so it wasn't a problem. Maybe because I went to an inner city high school and there were TONS of pregnant girls around me every day, but always just thought sex=pregnant and not going to college. from age 12 to 18, I basically had 2 goals in life: going to rock shows and getting into college, and I wasn't going to take ANY chances that might fuck that up.
  • lol, oh my god, you lost all your teeth before 5!? That's insane! I started losing them at five and finished at 11. As far as height goes, I was the third tallest girl in my class for like 3 months at the beginning of 6th grade, lol. And then I grew about 2 more inches over the next 4 years, and that was it. :D

    I remember being humiliated by the bra thing, too...but, I was also humiliated by the breasts that were like busting out of my shirts, so I had to do something...lol. People said things either way. I basically started having a very "womanly" figure by the time I was 10, and I felt very awkward about the whole thing.

    yep, you were damned if you did and damned if you didn't. I solved the problem by wearing ENORMOUS sweatshirts at all times and when it was too hot layering tshirts. not a good solution.

    and yeah, I stopped growing when I was 12. When I am at my perfect weight, I am the exact same size I was when I was in 7th grade.
  • josevolutionjosevolution Posts: 29,221
    mammasan wrote:
    They where giving me detailed info. They where telling me about foreplay, masturbation, the whole nine my friend. They thought it would be hillarious when I asked my parents the next morning why a woman would give a guy a hand job in a movie theatre, which I did ask because they told me to ask. Needless to say I was the sex expert in my grade and my brothers where grounded for sometime. My friends and I still joke about it till this day how I opened their eyes to a whole new world that one fatefull day in 3rd grade.

    man that is some funny shit i never got the talk i learned form first hand experience no pund intended :D
    jesus greets me looks just like me ....
  • oh I was also REALLY afraid of getting diseases and I didn't trust condoms (I mean something the size of a virus can EASILY sneak past you no matter what you do). I think I was soooo into science, there was no way I was taking any chances. it seemed absurd to do so to me in high school when your future is riding on your actions.
  • geniegenie Posts: 2,222
    oh I was also REALLY afraid of getting diseases and I didn't trust condoms (I mean something the size of a virus can EASILY sneak past you no matter what you do). I think I was soooo into science, there was no way I was taking any chances. it seemed absurd to do so to me in high school when your future is riding on your actions.

    very wise, everyone should question safety of condoms :) i'm glad you thought that way
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