Who has the two groups of friends?

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  • Whizbang
    Whizbang Posts: 1,314
    GreenTeaDisease wrote:
    my coworker is 33 and is married and has a small kid. one day she said 'I wish I could go out." I was like "why can't you!?!" and she was like, "I'm married and have a kid, I can't go out!" It was a horrible thing to hear! Hell, I know how makes she makes, she can afford a babysitter for a saturday night!

    Without knowing her, I see that a her choice though. She chooses to not make plans, using kids as an excuse.
    believe it or not, we don't "need" anything. that is only the spoiled brat in us trying to fill some temporary solution to an emptyness that does not exist.

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  • GreenTeaDisease
    GreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
    Whizbang wrote:
    Without knowing her, I see that a her choice though. She chooses to not make plans, using kids as an excuse.

    oh no, it wasn't an excuse not make plans with me or anyone else, she was talking hypothetically like, wishing she "could" go out. It was kinda sad.
  • MattCameronKicksButt
    MattCameronKicksButt Posts: 4,317
    I can't answer this because I've just realised they're all different. My best friend has a kid. She's a very good mother but is quite fun loving and is always on the go. (She's a PJ girl. :cool: ) My other best friend is also a mother but likes to go out partying if she can.
    My partners friends (friends trough circumstance) are all attatched but single without kids and are so dull!

    I put it down to 'friends that like good music' and 'friends that don't like good music'. They're all nice people though.
  • GreenTeaDisease
    GreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
    MattCameronKicksButt wrote:
    I can't answer this because I've just realised they're all different. My best friend has a kid. She's a very good mother but is quite fun loving and is always on the go. (She's a PJ girl. :cool: ) My other best friend is also a mother but likes to go out partying if she can.
    My partners friends (friends trough circumstance) are all attatched but single without kids and are so dull!

    I put it down to 'friends that like good music' and 'friends that don't like good music'. They're all nice people though.

    none of my friends like good music!! it's very annoying!
  • libragirl
    libragirl Posts: 4,632
    imalive wrote:
    Two GROUPS??? I barely have two FRIENDS :D!

    lol....me too...

    I have "acquaintances" friends are annoying. :p
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  • genie
    genie Posts: 2,222
    imalive wrote:
    Two GROUPS??? I barely have two FRIENDS :D!

    yep, me too, and i'm not being sarcastic here. people are full of shit :cool:

    something beautiful gets fucked.
  • JOEJOEJOE
    JOEJOEJOE Posts: 10,838
    I have 2 groups of friends.

    My childhood friends are mostly married, have kids, spouses and well-paying jobs. None of them go out much, which is understandable.

    My newer friends are mostly in the music biz, and are a bit more "fast-lane" then my other friends. They go out almost every night, and most of them are single (I always wonder if they go out because they are lonely/single, or are they single because they spead themselves so thin by never leaving time to do anything "spare-of-the-moment"). It seems like some people need the comfort of having every minute planned so that they don't have to stop and assess their lives!

    The music friends have 2 subsets....some go to a zillion gigs, and want to get there hours early to get a good spot. The others would never think of ever buying tickets to a show...its all guest list or nothing!, and they arrive late and leave early!
  • GreenTeaDisease
    GreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
    JOEJOEJOE wrote:
    I have 2 groups of friends.

    My childhood friends are mostly married, have kids, spouses and well-paying jobs. None of them go out much, which is understandable.

    My newer friends are mostly in the music biz, and are a bit more "fast-lane" then my other friends. They go out almost every night, and most of them are single (I always wonder if they go out because they are lonely/single, or are they single because they spead themselves so thin by never leaving time to do anything "spare-of-the-moment"). It seems like some people need the comfort of having every minute planned so that they don't have to stop and assess their lives!

    The music friends have 2 subsets....some go to a zillion gigs, and want to get there hours early to get a good spot. The others would never think of ever buying tickets to a show...its all guest list or nothing!, and they arrive late and leave early!

    single doesn't equal lonely, and there's nothing wrong with them ("spreading themselves too thin"). Why do they need to "stop and assess their lives"? and how do you know they haven't? maybe they assessed their lives and loved them! Read the book I cited above.
  • JOEJOEJOE
    JOEJOEJOE Posts: 10,838
    GreenTeaDisease wrote:
    single doesn't equal lonely, and there's nothing wrong with them ("spreading themselves too thin"). Why do they need to "stop and assess their lives"? and how do you know they haven't? maybe they assessed their lives and loved them! Read the book I cited above.

    Didn't know you knew them too!

    Quite insightful!
  • Brain of J.Lo
    Brain of J.Lo Posts: 3,259
    Uh, I just need to get some friends in the same time zone as me! I just came to the realization lately that I've lived here a year and I don't know anyone outside of my husband's family that I actually like. I think I need to get out more!! :o
  • South of Seattle
    South of Seattle West Seattle Posts: 10,724
    GreenTeaDisease wrote:
    I'd second that.

    to the OP, I think it's kinda bizarre that these friends fall into these 2 distinct categories, single=immature, married=successful. This isn't really how the rest of the world works. Single people often have extremely good jobs/educations, and are very responsible, while married people can be complete deadbeats.

    You're right they don't fall into these two distinct categories. I have 5 groups of friends.

    The first two that the OP mentioned.
    #3 - Co-workers friends People you golf with occasionally or have the after work drink with

    #4 - Activity buddies - Mainly people I snowboard with(or other sports) or friends that like to go to shows, pub crawls, sporting events with.

    #5 - The Single mature crazy group, which I mostly hang out with myself.
    NERDS!
  • GreenTeaDisease
    GreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
    Brain of J.Lo wrote:
    Uh, I just need to get some friends in the same time zone! I just came to the realization lately that I've lived here a year and I don't know anyone outside of my husband's family that I actually like. I think I need to get out more!! :o

    I have the same problem. I know a few people here, but only a couple will hang out (and one of them is the difficult one). It's sad, I've lived in MA 24/30 years of my life.
  • Brain of J.Lo
    Brain of J.Lo Posts: 3,259
    GreenTeaDisease wrote:
    I have the same problem. I know a few people here, but only a couple will hang out (and one of them is the difficult one). It's sad, I've lived in MA 24/30 years of my life.

    I find it really difficult to meet people now that I don't work. I took the kiddo to The Little Gym, and while I enjoyed it and plan to do it again in the summer...the other moms were just NOT my kind of people.

    I just don't meet that many people here in my living room...lol. And if I do, it's on here. :D Without this board, I'd have gone nuts by now.
  • GreenTeaDisease
    GreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
    Brain of J.Lo wrote:
    I find it really difficult to meet people now that I don't work. I took the kiddo to The Little Gym, and while I enjoyed it and plan to do it again in the summer...the other moms were just NOT my kind of people.

    I just don't meet that many people here in my living room...lol. And if I do, it's on here. :D Without this board, I'd have gone nuts by now.

    I work, but these are the people I work with:
    15 40-60-something married, dorky men.
    1 woman described above, who thinks she can't go out cuz she has a kid.
  • GreenTeaDisease
    GreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
    I really want an "urban tribe." I sort of had one in grad school and it was really great.
  • wolfbear
    wolfbear Posts: 3,965
    I have tons of different "groups". But I am old. lol
    Friends from youth/school. We basically only keep in touch by email/visits at this point since none of us live in the same area.
    Friends from old jobs/work. Same scenario as above.
    Friends of old neighbors. Same scenario as above.
    Friends of current neighbors.
    Friends from volunteering.
    Friends of my husbands.
    Friends of family.
    Friends from this board. :) Some locally, but many from all over.
    Yikes! I have lots and have a great time with them all. :D
    If we are just talking "close" friends though, I still have some in each category except the current neighbor one.
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  • Brain of J.Lo
    Brain of J.Lo Posts: 3,259
    GreenTeaDisease wrote:
    I really want an "urban tribe." I sort of had one in grad school and it was really great.

    I really want a playgroup that's full of cool people instead of dorky moms gushing about the next sale at Gymboree. :(
  • GreenTeaDisease
    GreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
    Brain of J.Lo wrote:
    I really want a playgroup that's full of cool people instead of dorky moms gushing about the next sale at Gymboree. :(

    there used to be a punk rock aerobics class around here, maybe there's a punk rock little gym :).
  • Brain of J.Lo
    Brain of J.Lo Posts: 3,259
    GreenTeaDisease wrote:
    there used to be a punk rock aerobics class around here, maybe there's a punk rock little gym :).

    :D

    If not, maybe I should start my own.

    If becoming a parent has taught me one thing, it's taught me that I need find a way to capitalize on new parents' desires to spend as much money as possible on their baby. :D I want a piece of that pie!
  • LONGRD
    LONGRD Posts: 6,036
    does Internet friends count? :p
    i think that's two group right there; one in reality & one in the Web.
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