How do you work for someone you can't respect?

TransplantedNewf

iluvcats wrote:

were you engaged to the same sex? why does it bother you that they think it's awesome? I'm not sure how I feel about it, actually.

No, i'm a female married to a male.

They were literally, bumping fists while saying it was great that gays aren't allowed to marry and they hope that Canada follows suit.

I just wanted to yell out "THAT'S WEIRD. THE GOD I GREW UP TO BELIEVE IN SAID THAT EVERYONE WAS EQUAL."

Not being gay, i never really thought/cared about it much. But being pregnant and knowing that my kid might be gay...i don't know...it just makes me cringe to think that there are people in the world that don't see everyone as equal. (i feel incredably naive saying that)

_Crazy_Mary_

You just have to keep your mouth shut. Or to make it fun, you can extremo-agree with them and just go so far in their direction that they think you're a nut. For example, left-wingers are notorious for taking the side of the bad guy and one day my left-wing co-workers were talking about this guy in a hummer that owned a market and when he got ripped off, he jumped in his hummer and rand down the people that stole from him. Literally ran over their vehicle with his. So, just to go extremo-left and not let them realize I'm right-wing, I said, "well, I don't see how that's funny. That burglar probably needed the money more than the shopkeeper. How do you know he wasn't stealing to put diapers on his baby or feed his family?" That was hilarious.

TransplantedNewf

_Crazy_Mary_ wrote:

You just have to keep your mouth shut. Or to make it fun, you can extremo-agree with them and just go so far in their direction that they think you're a nut. For example, left-wingers are notorious for taking the side of the bad guy and one day my left-wing co-workers were talking about this guy in a hummer that owned a market and when he got ripped off, he jumped in his hummer and rand down the people that stole from him. Literally ran over their vehicle with his. So, just to go extremo-left and not let them realize I'm right-wing, I said, "well, I don't see how that's funny. That burglar probably needed the money more than the shopkeeper. How do you know he wasn't stealing to put diapers on his baby or feed his family?" That was hilarious.

LOL Oh my god! I have to practice that over the weekend. It might take me awhile to be able to agree with a straight face.

aNiMaL

TransplantedNewf wrote:

I'm sitting at my desk, listening to my boss talk to his friend/pastor about how gay marriage was banned in the US and how is "such an awesome thing".

It irks the fuck out of me how he thinks he's such an upstanding man. It really, physically hurts to bite my tongue. KILLS ME.

I've never been one to keep my mouth shut or back down from someone. How can i keep my job and keep my opinions to myself?

You can't and you shouldn't. Go find a new job. Only you can make yourself happy.

TransplantedNewf

aNiMaL wrote:

You can't and you shouldn't. Go find a new job. Only you can make yourself happy.

Couple more months and i'll be on maternity leave anyway.... Like i sad to someone else, i just gotta learn close my ears for a while.

florence151

Many companies have a policy against discussing politics or religion at work. If your company does not have such a policy consider suggesting that idea to your human resources department. If the person who annoys you with their views owns the company then you have to suck it up, make a joke out of it or look for other work.

walkunafraid

A situation happened to me this week that is pretty much identical to yours.

But I held my anger in, and made myself feel better by reminding myself that 20 years from now, when the next generation looks back on us and shakes their heads in shame about how we voted to deny basic human rights to a group of human beings, I can hold my head high and say I did what I could to stand up for what's right -- and that the bigots who are fist-pumping will someday feel the shame of bigotry upon them.

Hope that helps.

Lukin66

PissBottleMan wrote:

First step, waste company time on favorite band message board.

Step two, go home and drink.

I've applied this concept for 6 1/2 years and it seems to work.

I'm holding a workshop tomorrow between 1:45pm and 1:46pm to discuss this theory in detail. RSVP if interested.

PBM

Yes, this method has worked quite well for me over the last 4 years...

South of Seattle

TransplantedNewf wrote:

I'm sitting at my desk, listening to my boss talk to his friend/pastor about how gay marriage was banned in the US and how is "such an awesome thing".

It irks the fuck out of me how he thinks he's such an upstanding man. It really, physically hurts to bite my tongue. KILLS ME.

I've never been one to keep my mouth shut or back down from someone. How can i keep my job and keep my opinions to myself?

Just be glad it's your boss and not a family member or girlfriend/boyfriend. That makes it much more difficult.

haffajappa

I FEEL FOR YOU.
I work in a video store / post office outlet....
We recently got new owners - er, like a year ago or so....
I've seen a strange influx of products being sold in here, from Jesus banners to religious greeting cards to books about how to cope with life through God...
it's a family run business so lots of people think i'm the daughter and my friend is the son... (even though he's Phillipino i'm half Japanese and our bosses are Indian...??) so lots of people think i'm a bible thumper - which shouldnt bug me but it kinda does.

It bugs me, though it shouldn't... of course its not as bad as you because my boss is a very, very nice man and very giving... just being surrounded by Jesus is annoying sometimes (and its not like the banners are even aesthetically pleasing, oh god... so horrible)

The worst is when they start pushing it on you though, like the building manager (VERY nice guy but) is a born again, and he always tries to get me to watch these movies on christian-views of things, like an astronomy "documentary" from the Creation side of things...

Anyways, i feel for you. I think I would NOT be able to keep my mouth shut - of course that would depend on how easilly i could find a different job...

TransplantedNewf

doin'the-evolution wrote:

I FEEL FOR YOU.
I work in a video store / post office outlet....
We recently got new owners - er, like a year ago or so....
I've seen a strange influx of products being sold in here, from Jesus banners to religious greeting cards to books about how to cope with life through God...
it's a family run business so lots of people think i'm the daughter and my friend is the son... (even though he's Phillipino i'm half Japanese and our bosses are Indian...??) so lots of people think i'm a bible thumper - which shouldnt bug me but it kinda does.

It bugs me, though it shouldn't... of course its not as bad as you because my boss is a very, very nice man and very giving... just being surrounded by Jesus is annoying sometimes (and its not like the banners are even aesthetically pleasing, oh god... so horrible)

The worst is when they start pushing it on you though, like the building manager (VERY nice guy but) is a born again, and he always tries to get me to watch these movies on christian-views of things, like an astronomy "documentary" from the Creation side of things...

Anyways, i feel for you. I think I would NOT be able to keep my mouth shut - of course that would depend on how easilly i could find a different job...

I've thought about this most of the evening.
The thing is, i have a really good job. I do next to nothing and get paid pretty sweet. Much like you, i kind of just started noticing jesus stuff. I didn't realize how "godly" he was until a few months after i was hired. I actually started to look around his office. There's all kinds of WWJD stuff and bible scriptures under pictures...and he gets a monthly magazine called Victory, i think. It's all bible-esque and jesus-ish.

I'll just zip it for now. Word around the place is that sooner or later he'll invite me to church..to try and recruit me, i assume. That's when i'll politely tell him that i won't attend unless my gay friends are welcome there as well.

I told my husband tonight, i have half a mind to invite every queen i know to the office on Monday for the most ~fabulous~ lunch my boss has ever seen.

TransplantedNewf

South of Seattle wrote:

Just be glad it's your boss and not a family member or girlfriend/boyfriend. That makes it much more difficult.

Very true!

My very first job in retail, some bitch was nasty to me and made me cry. My boss was a sweetheart and tore this woman a new one. She then looked at me and said, "Just thank god you don't have to live with someone like that."

tybird

PissBottleMan wrote:

First step, waste company time on favorite band message board.

Step two, go home and drink.

I've applied this concept for 6 1/2 years and it seems to work.

I'm holding a workshop tomorrow between 1:45pm and 1:46pm to discuss this theory in detail. RSVP if interested.

PBM

Is that Eastern or Central Time????

Brain of J.Lo

TransplantedNewf wrote:

I'm sitting at my desk, listening to my boss talk to his friend/pastor about how gay marriage was banned in the US and how is "such an awesome thing".

It irks the fuck out of me how he thinks he's such an upstanding man. It really, physically hurts to bite my tongue. KILLS ME.

I've never been one to keep my mouth shut or back down from someone. How can i keep my job and keep my opinions to myself?

If you really want to keep your job, don't talk politics with him....EVER. And if he tries to do so with you, tell him you have differing views and that you don't want to get into it. It's perfectly acceptable, and preferred, to stay away from such topics in the workplace.

If this changes your opinion of him to the point that you truly no longer respect him, then maybe it's best to start looking around. It is really hard to take direction from someone you discover is an asshole.

TransplantedNewf

Brain of J.Lo wrote:

If you really want to keep your job, don't talk politics with him....EVER. And if he tries to do so with you, tell him you have differing views and that you don't want to get into it. It's perfectly acceptable, and preferred, to stay away from such topics in the workplace.

If this changes your opinion of him to the point that you truly no longer respect him, then maybe it's best to start looking around. It is really hard to take direction from someone you discover is an asshole.

I have Obama stickers on the back of my car so i'm pretty sure he knows either me, my husband or both of us are quite liberal.

Not only have i discovered he's an asshole but he's stupid. lol I won't get into it but he's painfully, mind blistering, dumb.

I've only got another couple months left and i'll be going on maternity leave so i think i might just tune out his hatred for the neighbours he claims to love for a little while.

itsevobaby

let a big box of locusts loose in the office & run out screaming something about the apocalypse

celebration

TransplantedNewf wrote:

I'm sitting at my desk, listening to my boss talk to his friend/pastor about how gay marriage was banned in the US and how is "such an awesome thing".

It irks the fuck out of me how he thinks he's such an upstanding man. It really, physically hurts to bite my tongue. KILLS ME.

I've never been one to keep my mouth shut or back down from someone. How can i keep my job and keep my opinions to myself?

just thrive on the fact that mean people will be rewarded by spending an eternity in hell

pinot768

itsevobaby wrote:

let a big box of locusts loose in the office & run out screaming something about the apocalypse

Classic!

mookie blaylock 10

send a subscription to playgirl, in his name, to the office.

writersu

hopefully you will come to a place where you find a job that pays you at least what you are paid now and also have a boss you respect.

it is hard to not live by your convictions........good luck