How do you work for someone you can't respect?

TransplantedNewf

I'm sitting at my desk, listening to my boss talk to his friend/pastor about how gay marriage was banned in the US and how is "such an awesome thing".

It irks the fuck out of me how he thinks he's such an upstanding man. It really, physically hurts to bite my tongue. KILLS ME.

I've never been one to keep my mouth shut or back down from someone. How can i keep my job and keep my opinions to myself?

Rygar

It really isn't that hard. You can do it

Cree Nations

"acquire"a voodoo doll and start abusing it

TransplantedNewf

Rygar wrote:

It really isn't that hard. You can do it

Thanks for having faith in me but i dunno man...

TransplantedNewf

Cree Nations wrote:

"acquire"a voodoo doll and start abusing it

I just might. They're in there praying now. :rolleyes:

Rygar

TransplantedNewf wrote:

Thanks for having faith in me but i dunno man...

Get your mind on something else. Like...are you one of those Newfs that don't like to be called Newfie?

Rygar

TransplantedNewf wrote:

I just might. They're in there praying now. :rolleyes:

They're praying? At work?
Do you work at a church?

The Champ

You should focus on your responsibilities as an employee...then when he is not looking, walk over and swiftly sucker punch him in the esophagus..

Rygar

The Champ wrote:

You should focus on your responsibilities as an employee...then when he is not looking, walk over and swiftly sucker punch him in the sac..

Kindly edited

decides2dream

Rygar wrote:

It really isn't that hard. You can do it

exactly.
i keep my personal views outside of my office environment, and i choose to ignore others' sharing their own beliefs as well. obviously, colleagues i am closer with we may discuss and debate, but quite honestly.....especially for superiors, i far prefer not getting into such discussions. if it ebver came up, i would politely decline such conversations. i've worked for a few people i did not respect for a few reasons, but i compartmentalize. my own well-being, my making a living supercedes caring about what some boss may think of world events, religious views, etc.


bottomline consider this:


which is more important to you - expressing your pov to someone you clearly have no respect, or keeping yourself employed? it really IS that simple. you are not selling-out, you are making an informed choice of who to share your pov with. wise.

PissBottleMan

First step, waste company time on favorite band message board.

Step two, go home and drink.

I've applied this concept for 6 1/2 years and it seems to work.

I'm holding a workshop tomorrow between 1:45pm and 1:46pm to discuss this theory in detail. RSVP if interested.

PBM

OffHeGoes29

I can't work for some one I don't respect.

TransplantedNewf

Rygar wrote:

Get your mind on something else. Like...are you one of those Newfs that don't like to be called Newfie?

Nah, i've been called MUCH worse than Newfie.

TransplantedNewf

Rygar wrote:

They're praying? At work?
Do you work at a church?

I work in an office building. His pastor/friend guy comes by every now and then to pray with him.

TransplantedNewf

The Champ wrote:

You should focus on your responsibilities as an employee...then when he is not looking, walk over and swiftly sucker punch him in the esophagus..

lol
as much as i'd like to, i'd like to keep my job

TransplantedNewf

decides2dream wrote:

exactly.
i keep my personal views outside of my office environment, and i choose to ignore others' sharing their own beliefs as well. obviously, colleagues i am closer with we may discuss and debate, but quite honestly.....especially for superiors, i far prefer not getting into such discussions. if it ebver came up, i would politely decline such conversations. i've worked for a few people i did not respect for a few reasons, but i compartmentalize. my own well-being, my making a living supercedes caring about what some boss may think of world events, religious views, etc.


bottomline consider this:


which is more important to you - expressing your pov to someone you clearly have no respect, or keeping yourself employed? it really IS that simple. you are not selling-out, you are making an informed choice of who to share your pov with. wise.

Good point. I left the office while they were still in there praying. I guess i should learn to close my ears.

TransplantedNewf

PissBottleMan wrote:

First step, waste company time on favorite band message board.

Step two, go home and drink.

I've applied this concept for 6 1/2 years and it seems to work.

I'm holding a workshop tomorrow between 1:45pm and 1:46pm to discuss this theory in detail. RSVP if interested.

PBM

I'm pregnant so i'll only be drinking water, milk or orange juice :rolleyes:

But trust me, i waste LOADS of company time on this board!

I'll be at your workshop with bells on

TransplantedNewf

hartamh wrote:

That's a tough one, especially when it's your boss :eek: does your boss drink coffee? Maybe you can put some laxatives in it.. That's revenge that would be fun and only you would know.. Just a thought

Good Luck

Man, some of you guys are brutal - give him the shits and kick him in the sac. lol

Thanks for the laugh!

iluvcats

TransplantedNewf wrote:

I'm sitting at my desk, listening to my boss talk to his friend/pastor about how gay marriage was banned in the US and how is "such an awesome thing".

It irks the fuck out of me how he thinks he's such an upstanding man. It really, physically hurts to bite my tongue. KILLS ME.

I've never been one to keep my mouth shut or back down from someone. How can i keep my job and keep my opinions to myself?

were you engaged to the same sex? why does it bother you that they think it's awesome? I'm not sure how I feel about it, actually.

TransplantedNewf

OffHeGoes29 wrote:

I can't work for some one I don't respect.

I'm trying. I've never been in this situation before and it's really strange. He's super nice to me...but a dick in general, if that makes sense.

iluvcats

decides2dream wrote:

exactly.
i keep my personal views outside of my office environment, and i choose to ignore others' sharing their own beliefs as well. obviously, colleagues i am closer with we may discuss and debate, but quite honestly.....especially for superiors, i far prefer not getting into such discussions. if it ebver came up, i would politely decline such conversations. i've worked for a few people i did not respect for a few reasons, but i compartmentalize. my own well-being, my making a living supercedes caring about what some boss may think of world events, religious views, etc.


bottomline consider this:


which is more important to you - expressing your pov to someone you clearly have no respect, or keeping yourself employed? it really IS that simple. you are not selling-out, you are making an informed choice of who to share your pov with. wise.

I agree with you.

TransplantedNewf

iluvcats wrote:

were you engaged to the same sex? why does it bother you that they think it's awesome? I'm not sure how I feel about it, actually.

No, i'm a female married to a male.

They were literally, bumping fists while saying it was great that gays aren't allowed to marry and they hope that Canada follows suit.

I just wanted to yell out "THAT'S WEIRD. THE GOD I GREW UP TO BELIEVE IN SAID THAT EVERYONE WAS EQUAL."

Not being gay, i never really thought/cared about it much. But being pregnant and knowing that my kid might be gay...i don't know...it just makes me cringe to think that there are people in the world that don't see everyone as equal. (i feel incredably naive saying that)

_Crazy_Mary_

You just have to keep your mouth shut. Or to make it fun, you can extremo-agree with them and just go so far in their direction that they think you're a nut. For example, left-wingers are notorious for taking the side of the bad guy and one day my left-wing co-workers were talking about this guy in a hummer that owned a market and when he got ripped off, he jumped in his hummer and rand down the people that stole from him. Literally ran over their vehicle with his. So, just to go extremo-left and not let them realize I'm right-wing, I said, "well, I don't see how that's funny. That burglar probably needed the money more than the shopkeeper. How do you know he wasn't stealing to put diapers on his baby or feed his family?" That was hilarious.

TransplantedNewf

_Crazy_Mary_ wrote:

You just have to keep your mouth shut. Or to make it fun, you can extremo-agree with them and just go so far in their direction that they think you're a nut. For example, left-wingers are notorious for taking the side of the bad guy and one day my left-wing co-workers were talking about this guy in a hummer that owned a market and when he got ripped off, he jumped in his hummer and rand down the people that stole from him. Literally ran over their vehicle with his. So, just to go extremo-left and not let them realize I'm right-wing, I said, "well, I don't see how that's funny. That burglar probably needed the money more than the shopkeeper. How do you know he wasn't stealing to put diapers on his baby or feed his family?" That was hilarious.

LOL Oh my god! I have to practice that over the weekend. It might take me awhile to be able to agree with a straight face.

aNiMaL

TransplantedNewf wrote:

I'm sitting at my desk, listening to my boss talk to his friend/pastor about how gay marriage was banned in the US and how is "such an awesome thing".

It irks the fuck out of me how he thinks he's such an upstanding man. It really, physically hurts to bite my tongue. KILLS ME.

I've never been one to keep my mouth shut or back down from someone. How can i keep my job and keep my opinions to myself?

You can't and you shouldn't. Go find a new job. Only you can make yourself happy.

TransplantedNewf

aNiMaL wrote:

You can't and you shouldn't. Go find a new job. Only you can make yourself happy.

Couple more months and i'll be on maternity leave anyway.... Like i sad to someone else, i just gotta learn close my ears for a while.

florence151

Many companies have a policy against discussing politics or religion at work. If your company does not have such a policy consider suggesting that idea to your human resources department. If the person who annoys you with their views owns the company then you have to suck it up, make a joke out of it or look for other work.

walkunafraid

A situation happened to me this week that is pretty much identical to yours.

But I held my anger in, and made myself feel better by reminding myself that 20 years from now, when the next generation looks back on us and shakes their heads in shame about how we voted to deny basic human rights to a group of human beings, I can hold my head high and say I did what I could to stand up for what's right -- and that the bigots who are fist-pumping will someday feel the shame of bigotry upon them.

Hope that helps.

Lukin66

PissBottleMan wrote:

First step, waste company time on favorite band message board.

Step two, go home and drink.

I've applied this concept for 6 1/2 years and it seems to work.

I'm holding a workshop tomorrow between 1:45pm and 1:46pm to discuss this theory in detail. RSVP if interested.

PBM

Yes, this method has worked quite well for me over the last 4 years...

South of Seattle

TransplantedNewf wrote:

I'm sitting at my desk, listening to my boss talk to his friend/pastor about how gay marriage was banned in the US and how is "such an awesome thing".

It irks the fuck out of me how he thinks he's such an upstanding man. It really, physically hurts to bite my tongue. KILLS ME.

I've never been one to keep my mouth shut or back down from someone. How can i keep my job and keep my opinions to myself?

Just be glad it's your boss and not a family member or girlfriend/boyfriend. That makes it much more difficult.

haffajappa

I FEEL FOR YOU.
I work in a video store / post office outlet....
We recently got new owners - er, like a year ago or so....
I've seen a strange influx of products being sold in here, from Jesus banners to religious greeting cards to books about how to cope with life through God...
it's a family run business so lots of people think i'm the daughter and my friend is the son... (even though he's Phillipino i'm half Japanese and our bosses are Indian...??) so lots of people think i'm a bible thumper - which shouldnt bug me but it kinda does.

It bugs me, though it shouldn't... of course its not as bad as you because my boss is a very, very nice man and very giving... just being surrounded by Jesus is annoying sometimes (and its not like the banners are even aesthetically pleasing, oh god... so horrible)

The worst is when they start pushing it on you though, like the building manager (VERY nice guy but) is a born again, and he always tries to get me to watch these movies on christian-views of things, like an astronomy "documentary" from the Creation side of things...

Anyways, i feel for you. I think I would NOT be able to keep my mouth shut - of course that would depend on how easilly i could find a different job...