I truly appreciate everyone's support on this. Wasn't quite sure how to react to the one particular post in this thread (which is why I didn't say anything but )but it seems as if the majority of you understand where I am coming from. Thanks for everyone's comments and assuring me that I might be "normal" after all.
Normal and a great person imo!
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I lost my grandma and my 11yo dog in the same week and I also felt the pain of losing my dog much more acutely.
I agree with the other posters who've said that it's because our pets aremore a part of our daily lives - everything changed from the moment I got up in the morning (no more wet nose to wake me), to leaving and coming home and right up to the moment I went to bed. Also, I have to agree that since we are their caregivers, it's very different. I'd probably spent time with my grandma less than 30 times in my life, she'd always lived down in Florida. Her loss was painful also, but in a much different way.
First off I am not trying to solicit any sympathy here...I am just curious of people's answer to this question. After having lost both a family member and a pet w/in the last 10 days why do I find myself more upset about my kitty passing than my grandma? Could it be because my gram was significantly older and lived a long life or maybe because my kitty lived with me for 12 years and I interacted w/ her on a daily basis? Any opinions? :(
firstly, so sorry for your loss. :(
secondly, sure sounds like you answered your own question. sadly, i've had quite a few deaths in my lifetime....and the ONLY ones i have cried over: my father....and each and every one of my pets. even a beloved aunt, as much as i loved her, didn't reduce me to tears. and i DO cry easily at movies, sappy moments, etc....but i guess? i don't cry so easily out of personal saddness? as many have mentioned, it IS sooo individual. i think if i were in the same situation as you, i'd do the same. your kitty LIVED with you, a part of your daily life...for 12 years. and sure, we *expect* people of advanced age to pass away, so perhaps while painful, a part of life that we are more *prepared* for......? who knows....
I had to have my dog of 17 years - "Azzie" -put to sleep - a year ago Valentine's Day. She was my first and - and last dog! She was my best friend. I now have a "lopped eared" bunny named "Roo". Roo thinks he's a dog. Roo is helping me to emotionally move on. I too, prefer animals to humans most days!
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Thanks yet again! You've all helped me feel alot better in the last few days. Words cannot express...
Finally got that "One for the Thumb"!!! Got the "Six Pack". Now we're on a "Stairway to Seven"
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I lost my grandma and my 11yo dog in the same week and I also felt the pain of losing my dog much more acutely.
I agree with the other posters who've said that it's because our pets aremore a part of our daily lives - everything changed from the moment I got up in the morning (no more wet nose to wake me), to leaving and coming home and right up to the moment I went to bed. Also, I have to agree that since we are their caregivers, it's very different. I'd probably spent time with my grandma less than 30 times in my life, she'd always lived down in Florida. Her loss was painful also, but in a much different way.
Anyway, I'm very sorry for both of your losses :(
Michelle
power to the peaceful
firstly, so sorry for your loss. :(
secondly, sure sounds like you answered your own question. sadly, i've had quite a few deaths in my lifetime....and the ONLY ones i have cried over: my father....and each and every one of my pets. even a beloved aunt, as much as i loved her, didn't reduce me to tears. and i DO cry easily at movies, sappy moments, etc....but i guess? i don't cry so easily out of personal saddness? as many have mentioned, it IS sooo individual. i think if i were in the same situation as you, i'd do the same. your kitty LIVED with you, a part of your daily life...for 12 years. and sure, we *expect* people of advanced age to pass away, so perhaps while painful, a part of life that we are more *prepared* for......? who knows....
Let's just breathe...
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