O.K. how many people here are pregnant?

ScreamingLemur

My dd also had a bad rash and was generally fussy for a few weeks after the MMR shot. The DTP is the other shot with sometimes nasty side effects like fever and diarrhea, but the symptoms are always mild. The only times she was ever sick was after getting the DTP.

My sister-in-law has cerebral palsy and severe mental retardation. I never knew the cause, I always assumed it was present at birth. However, when Audrey was a newborn they laid it on me that they believed their dd's first DTP shot caused her handicap, and they wanted me to try to hold off on getting it as long as possible. They say that she was fine until she got the first dose at 2 mos. then she screamed and cried inconsolably for at least 3 hours straight. She received a second dose a few months later even tough they aren't supposed to give it again after a severe reaction. But the thing is, nobody ever confirmed this as the cause of her CP, it's simply what the parents think happened. It may be true, since they were using different ingredients in the vaccine during the early 80's. But how do we know whether the vaccine caused CP or the CP was already present and the shot just aggravated a preexisting condition. After all, cerebral palsy isn't always apparent in newborns until they reach a stage where the motor skills start to develop (around the time they receive 1st round of shots)

I think vaccines get a lot of bad press because people tend to blame all sorts of developmental problems on them. So, naturally parents are scared of them. I don't think any of the claims of autism or worse have been substantiated. Of course I could be wrong. It's kinda mean to publicize possible links to autism and then still recommend/require all babies to get them. Like there's not enough shit in the world to worry about.

I don't regret getting dd immunized since there are still diseases out there we think have been eradicated, but still persist today. For example, I recently saw a reality tv show where a woman got a tattoo dedicated to her 2 yo son who died of whooping cough(pertussis,part of dtp) and I had to wonder if he was immunized. It's probably very rare, but it the disease is still around today. It's a tough call to make.

genevieve

Hope everyone is well.
lady are you doing ok?
Any babies yet?

So listen to this.
Ive always wanted to adopt.
Well a really good friend of mine is in a perdicament.
She in Med school and got preggo by accident.
She says shes most likely to abort the baby cause she cant afford to stop school.
I just cant bear the thought of seeing her do this.
I do support her decision to abort if she does. Its her body.
So I offered to adopt if she chooses to keep it.
Am I nuts?
Im happy with just Adria and had wanted to not think about more kids till she was in school. But maybe this is whats meant to be?
I guess we will see....

pacifier

genevieve wrote:

Hope everyone is well.
lady are you doing ok?
Any babies yet?

So listen to this.
Ive always wanted to adopt.
Well a really good friend of mine is in a perdicament.
She in Med school and got preggo by accident.
She says shes most likely to abort the baby cause she cant afford to stop school.
I just cant bear the thought of seeing her do this.
I do support her decision to abort if she does. Its her body.
So I offered to adopt if she chooses to keep it.
Am I nuts?
Im happy with just Adria and had wanted to not think about more kids till she was in school. But maybe this is whats meant to be?
I guess we will see....

That sounds like something I would do if I was in the same situation. Actually I told my best friend once that if she were ever in that situation to keep the baby and I would adopt it, however (not that she has ever been in that situation and is very unlikely to be in it in the future) she said she didn't know if she would be able to deal with watching me raise her baby. I think maybe if you want to adopt or have your baby adopted it is probably better to do it in an anonomous situation. I think watching someone else raise your baby would be awkward and very hard on the emotions, particularly when the circumstances have changed and the birth mother then feels that they are able to raise their own child. What do you do then? return the child?

I would think about this long and hard before letting yourself love this child as your own. It could be very hard on all 3 parties in the future. But if you talk it through thoroughly with the mother (and preferably the father) and your husband then maybe it could work out. For example, perhaps it can be raised similar to a child with divorced parents. You and your husband could be the main carers, with perhaps your friend seeing the baby one weekend every fornight or something to that effect. However you do this I dare say that the mother will want sole custody at some stage.

PJaddicted

genevieve wrote:

Hope everyone is well.
lady are you doing ok?
Any babies yet?

So listen to this.
Ive always wanted to adopt.
Well a really good friend of mine is in a perdicament.
She in Med school and got preggo by accident.
She says shes most likely to abort the baby cause she cant afford to stop school.
I just cant bear the thought of seeing her do this.
I do support her decision to abort if she does. Its her body.
So I offered to adopt if she chooses to keep it.
Am I nuts?
Im happy with just Adria and had wanted to not think about more kids till she was in school. But maybe this is whats meant to be?
I guess we will see....

Wow....that is an amazing twist of fate! Do you think your friend would be able to see the baby for the rest of it's life and have you raise it? I guess if this is meant to be....it will happen! My boys are all close in age 21 months to 34 months apart...and it was hard but a complete blast! Good luck!

oxc

genevieve

Well Im thinking she will abort.
But I gave her the option.
She lives 15hrs away so she wouldnt see us every week.
That might make things easier.
I think it would be ok if she was always known to the kid as thier mom.
But hey we will see.
She is also not the type to want custody after giving up a baby.
Her mother is also adopted so she feels it migth be something she could consider.
But being in Med school is stressful enough without being preggo so I wont count my chickens until they are hatched.

CornishMan

Hey there, I posted on this thread a couple of months ago. I am due to become a father for the first time on September 26!! I will post again when our daughter (assuming the midwife got it right) is born! It's all very exciting!

ladygooddiva

huhu just 18 days and than hopefully i´ve my little one inside me in my arms ....or maybe earlier;)
hope everybody is fine over here..........

CornishMan

ladygooddiva wrote:

huhu just 18 days and than hopefully i´ve my little one inside me in my arms ....or maybe earlier;)
hope everybody is fine over here..........

Good luck!

MeddleDeal

WOW Gen! That is great that you offered your friend to adopt her baby. Let us know how that goes. btw, Adria is a very beautiful girl and I can't believe how big she has gotten. So that is how a one year old looks like! I can't wait for Chloe to turn 1...only 6 more months.

i'm doing good here in the West Coast. we moved in to our new apt. last weekend, I didn't have internet for about 4 days, but I survived haha. Chloe said her first word on Thurs. I was so tired that I didn't want to wake up, I had my back facing her, and she was already wide awake at 7 in the morning, then she mumbled her baby talk then said "MAMA." my bf and I looked at each other and we asked ourselves, did she really said that? and yep she did. Of course, i have been trying to get her to say MAMA or DADA but nothing yet.

i'm glad that everyone is doing fine w/their little ones and that everyone's pregnancies are going well.

genevieve

Speaking of words...
Adria picks up the phone and says "hi".
She doesnt quite know whats its all about but repeats the sound.
Its sooo cute.
And then starts pressing buttons and talk and I have to take it away from her but thats besides the point.

My friend is scheduled for a D and C. (abortion)
On friday afternoon.
I wish her well.
Im sad but its her uterus.

ladygooddiva

genevieve wrote:

Speaking of words...
Adria picks up the phone and says "hi".
She doesnt quite know whats its all about but repeats the sound.
Its sooo cute.
And then starts pressing buttons and talk and I have to take it away from her but thats besides the point.

My friend is scheduled for a D and C. (abortion)
On friday afternoon.
I wish her well.
Im sad but its her uterus.

cute that adria pick up the phone ..hey let her talk a bit and than get the phone;)


I´m a bit sorry for your friend
but as you said it´s her choice etc.
her body ,her choice
i hope for her
all work out well...

by the way maybe my baby comes earlier ...

MeddleDeal

ladygooddiva wrote:

cute that adria pick up the phone ..hey let her talk a bit and than get the phone;)


I´m a bit sorry for your friend
but as you said it´s her choice etc.
her body ,her choice
i hope for her
all work out well...

by the way maybe my baby comes earlier ...

ooo, keep us posted on your little one. I am SO excited about hearing little things like that. I swear ladygooddiva, having a child is a beautiful experience


oh and a tid bit I learned, I know PBM came on here a few months ago about getting free samples and coupons for formula, I actually called them and asked them if they gave away samples but they didn't (which I later found out it was the liquid formula and not powdered). I called and asked them if they can send me coupons and they did. it's hard when you have hardly any money (since we moved and our roommates stiffing us) to buy powdered formula b/c they cost $14.99 for Similac Isomil Advance that Chloe needs. I remember at her doctor's office, the receptionist gave us samples the first day we went to see the doctor. She told me if I ever needed anymore to let her know. So this week, after having very little money, I took her up on the offer and asked if there was any way I could get some powdered samples and she said "of course" i went there and she gave me 3 powdered samples along with one liquid formula.

I felt so relieved b/c I didn't know what else to do. Chloe doesn't drink too much formula when I'm at home, but when i work, my boyfriend feeds it to her a lot since I can't pump as much out (only if they are overfilled).

oops. there i go again with my rambles.

ladygooddiva

hi there i´m a bit sad ..this monday my doc will deside if they will induce the birth or maybe do a cesarean ....well first she will look and tell me but after i go to the clinik and talk with the doctors there

pjhunz28

ladygooddiva wrote:

hi there i´m a bit sad ..this monday my doc will deside if they will induce the birth or maybe do a cesarean ....well first she will look and tell me but after i go to the clinik and talk with the doctors there

aww hang in there hun!! keep us updated and good luck!
i must admit...i'm jealous...i still got 4 months to go till i meet my little Cameron

Yellow Bedwetter

what a great name for either sex, i think change of spelling is needed tho
Boy - Cameron
Girl - Cameran

pjhunz28

thanks
yeah if he was a girl it'd be Camryn
i sitll cant believe my husband went for the middle name i wanted

ladygooddiva

pjhunz28 wrote:

aww hang in there hun!! keep us updated and good luck!
i must admit...i'm jealous...i still got 4 months to go till i meet my little Cameron

sure i try thank you ....i will let you all know on monday ...okey?...:)

well you lucky one know what your baby is ..i´ve still no clue,if it´s a boy or girl;)
enjoy your pregnancy ...4 months will fly away ..belive me;)

pjhunz28

well you will know soon enough. surprises are nice. i just have no patience lol
yeah im hoping it flys by. the 1st half has so that helps.

MeddleDeal

ladygooddiva wrote:

hi there i´m a bit sad ..this monday my doc will deside if they will induce the birth or maybe do a cesarean ....well first she will look and tell me but after i go to the clinik and talk with the doctors there

good luck with your baby. Let us know on Monday on what they tell you. Inducing was a very interesting experience for me, but all of the discomfort and slight pains were all worth it.

jocelyn

..is the hardest part. I have about 2 weeks left until the due date and I'm going crazy trying to figure out if I'm in pre-labor, has the baby dropped, etc.

We had a bit of a false alarm last Thursday and ended up in L&D. It ended up being nothing, but I've already started the dilation/effacement process. Too bad I've read that some women are at 1.5 and 75% for weeks before they deliver. Ugh.

Ladies who have already had their babies did you have them late, on time, early?