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Am I Being Used?

haffajappahaffajappa British Columbia Posts: 5,955
edited April 2008 in The Porch
Friend stops talking to me, and to my other friend as well.
Never returns texts, messages, emails, etc.
The rare, rare... rare time he does, they're very abrupt.
I offer my spare tenclub ticket to Washington, DC... which he needs...

and he quickly accepts - but has yet to talk to me anymore since.

I know what you're thinking, maybe something seriously tragic has happened in his life? Well, i dont... think anything has... from what i've found out - other than the every day stuff that we all go through...

So, am I being used?
(just out of curiousity :o)
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  • MichaelMcKevinMichaelMcKevin Posts: 1,161
    Fuck him.
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  • orig_long redorig_long red Posts: 2,029
    we're all being used in one way or another.
    Jam out with your clam out.
  • Indian SummerIndian Summer Posts: 2,296
    long red wrote:
    we're all being used in one way or another.


    tru dat
    "It's all happening"
  • MattyJoeMattyJoe Posts: 1,424
    People suck. I'm finding that out more and more amongst my "friends."
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  • Indian SummerIndian Summer Posts: 2,296
    MattyJoe wrote:
    People suck. I'm finding that out more and more amongst my "friends."


    The older I get the more I realize this. I'm 28, and have only 2 people who I feel I can always count on no matter what.
    "It's all happening"
  • ECMECM Posts: 1,687
    long red wrote:
    we're all being used in one way or another.

    I might have to put that it my sig..... ;)
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  • LikeAnOpeningBandForTheSunLikeAnOpeningBandForTheSun Posts: 6,097
    sounds like a douche
  • vedder_soupvedder_soup Posts: 5,861
    tell him that the tickets come with a condition
    Communication!
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  • fuckfuck Posts: 4,069
    fuck him...
  • This Is My AliasThis Is My Alias Posts: 14
    doin'the-evolution wrote:
    Friend stops talking to me, and to my other friend as well.
    Never returns texts, messages, emails, etc.
    The rare, rare... rare time he does, they're very abrupt.
    I offer my spare tenclub ticket to Washington, DC... which he needs...

    and he quickly accepts - but has yet to talk to me anymore since.

    I know what you're thinking, maybe something seriously tragic has happened in his life? Well, i dont... think anything has... from what i've found out - other than the every day stuff that we all go through...

    So, am I being used?
    (just out of curiousity :o)

    Yep, I've stopped talking to a few people since I found out they were only my friends when tours come around and needed tix.
  • haffajappahaffajappa British Columbia Posts: 5,955
    FUCK
    i meant for this to be a poll, then had to go help a customer. and then came back and it timed out and posted.
    live pearl jam is best pearl jam
  • HOOKERHOOKER Posts: 1,443
    Get rid of the dude. I feel you :(
    Nice to know you.
  • KeiranKeiran Posts: 393
    Maybe your friend doesn't have enoungh time to stay in touch due to the fact that he has met a girl and is on the receiving end of copious amounts of sex.

    Seriously, one of the hardest lessons I've learned (through the many decades I have roamed this planet) is that I use the term "friend" less and less to describe people in my life.

    To me, friend implies a deep explicit trust. And those who I call my friends, all be it few in number, are near and dear to my heart.

    If possible, can you recant your offer of the ticket? I know that reeks of massive douchebaggery but so does bailing on your friends!!!

    Good luck :)
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  • 1Vedhead1Vedhead Posts: 147
    I agree with what everyone has said already..

    He certainly isn't acting like a "friend", and is being immature and mean at best.
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  • haffajappahaffajappa British Columbia Posts: 5,955
    1Vedhead wrote:
    I agree with what everyone has said already..

    He certainly isn't acting like a "friend", and is being immature and mean at best.
    you may know who im talking about.
    live pearl jam is best pearl jam
  • GmoneyGmoney Posts: 1,618
    Indian Summer wrote:
    The older I get the more I realize this. I'm 28, and have only 2 people who I feel I can always count on no matter what.
    i hear that!
    Further back and forth a wave will break on me, today...
  • 58823005882300 Posts: 813
    I know it's already been sung, can't be said enough...........FUCK HIM!!!!!
  • 12345AGNST112345AGNST1 Posts: 4,906
    the older i get the more i realize who my freinds really are. it sucks but is also good at the same time. im only 19 btw
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  • marcPJfanmarcPJfan Austin, TX Posts: 821
    Indian Summer wrote:
    The older I get the more I realize this. I'm 28, and have only 2 people who I feel I can always count on no matter what.
    You're lucky if you have 1. :)
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  • haffajappahaffajappa British Columbia Posts: 5,955
    i really don't wanna paint him as a bastard, i mean... poor guy, i'm posting this on the message board (poll-less, cos i'm an idiot spending 15 minutes talking to a customer while the stupid thing timed out damn it!)

    but i mean, its kinda run across my mind... the whole using thing.
    live pearl jam is best pearl jam
  • Kilgore_TroutKilgore_Trout Posts: 7,334
    if you have to ask then you probably already know...

    YES YOU ARE

    i had friends like that not long ago... finally broke all ties with them and told them how i felt about their insincerity
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  • Stephen FlowStephen Flow Posts: 3,327
    As stated in this thread a few times... people suck... There are 5 people in my life who I actually consider my friends... everyone else is just acquaintances who happen to like me enough to talk to me and vice verse.
  • justamjustam Posts: 21,410
    doin'the-evolution wrote:
    Friend stops talking to me, and to my other friend as well.
    Never returns texts, messages, emails, etc.
    The rare, rare... rare time he does, they're very abrupt.
    I offer my spare tenclub ticket to Washington, DC... which he needs...

    and he quickly accepts - but has yet to talk to me anymore since.

    I know what you're thinking, maybe something seriously tragic has happened in his life? Well, i dont... think anything has... from what i've found out - other than the every day stuff that we all go through...

    So, am I being used?
    (just out of curiousity :o)

    Were you expecting something else when you offered him the ticket?
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  • haffajappahaffajappa British Columbia Posts: 5,955
    justam wrote:
    Were you expecting something else when you offered him the ticket?
    yeah, some gratitude.
    HAHAAHAH

    no in all honesty, i thought maybe it'd cheer him up. he said it wasnt me... but i just figured he'd go back to norm or something.
    i mean, i dont know. maybe im making things worse by all this
    live pearl jam is best pearl jam
  • justamjustam Posts: 21,410
    doin'the-evolution wrote:
    yeah, some gratitude.
    HAHAAHAH

    no in all honesty, i thought maybe it'd cheer him up. he said it wasnt me... but i just figured he'd go back to norm or something.
    i mean, i dont know. maybe im making things worse by all this

    Perhaps he'll talk more when you go to the concert together.
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  • haffajappahaffajappa British Columbia Posts: 5,955
    justam wrote:
    Perhaps he'll talk more when you go to the concert together.
    well i hope so... hahaha!!
    if not well... my concert buddy line up there on in is fantabulous! so one night cant hurt to go with someone who hates me!
    live pearl jam is best pearl jam
  • triangleman12triangleman12 Posts: 193
    Stephen Flow wrote:
    As stated in this thread a few times... people suck... There are 5 people in my life who I actually consider my friends... everyone else is just acquaintances who happen to like me enough to talk to me and vice verse.

    Couldn't have said it better my friend . . . I mean uh acquaintance, uh fellow pearl jammer, um . . . hahaha. Seriously, I agree though. I have a few great friends I only see once or twice a year but we always pick up where we left off with ease. I know that if I did need them in an emergency they'd be there. As you get older you realize it's quality over quantity :)

    To the original poster: If you feel you're being used F HIM!!! Don't worry about hurting his feelings/burning bridges etc. Remember, whether your nice or not about the situation, he is or will still be an A$$hOLe!
  • manhattanmanhattan Posts: 258
    Sounds to me like he's suffering from a clinical depression. Terse, uncommunicative, unable to sustain relationships. Maybe you should give him a break.
  • zacman13245zacman13245 Posts: 294
    i have 2 really great friends who always have my back, I'd choose them over more friends any day.
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  • Im still hereIm still here Posts: 826
    more and more, PEOPLE SUK

    fact of life: if you find five close friends in your life you are blessed

    i've only found one thus far and he died
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