Sexual Harrassment

harmless_little_f***

MattCameronKicksButt wrote:

Actually, I couldn't make up my mind about him. I couldn't tell if he just had a wicked sense of humour. Either way, he needed to watch himself with some of the younger staff.

I remember him telling a temp (she was only 18) that he would only sign her pay slip thing if she begged him. Cheeky bastard.

Yeah. I dunno, I just get the impression there was more going on there than we know about... even if he was 'joking', who in their right mind would say 'Visit my room upstairs when you're finished' when they're on duty? OK, so they do in the hospital soaps, but in real life... they'd be dropped for lack of professionalism at the very least. Well they would if they worked for the charity I do, anyway. When there are people to serve and protect....

Rygar

harmless_little_f*** wrote:

Yeah. I dunno, I just get the impression there was more going on there than we know about... even if he was 'joking', who in their right mind would say 'Visit my room upstairs when you're finished' when they're on duty? OK, so they do in the hospital soaps, but in real life... they'd be dropped for lack of professionalism at the very least. Well they would if they worked for the charity I do, anyway. When there are people to serve and protect....

Did she say he was on duty?
And it was Christmas, so there's other factors.
Besides, intra-office flirting is not a new phenomenon
Still sketchy behavior, but he may have been harmless enough.

MattCameronKicksButt

harmless_little_f*** wrote:

Yeah. I dunno, I just get the impression there was more going on there than we know about... even if he was 'joking', who in their right mind would say 'Visit my room upstairs when you're finished' when they're on duty? OK, so they do in the hospital soaps, but in real life... they'd be dropped for lack of professionalism at the very least. Well they would if they worked for the charity I do, anyway. When there are people to serve and protect....

I had to go into his room anyway. I had to take his breakfast up for him in the morning-along with all the other staff. (It was his home, he owned the building).

Jason P

A guy I work with slapped a co-worker on her butt while she walked past him last week ... in plain view of several co-workers. He is now my former co-worker.

How dumb can you be? He was making well over six figures and had to know that was way out of line. Then I found out that he choked someone who works under him a few weeks ago ... not sure how he was still around to make it this far.

hedonist

I remember after the whole Anita Hill thing years ago, the anti-harassment mindset within companies was over the top - like you couldn't even compliment someone on their hair or outfit. Just ridiculous (and it took away from legit gripes such as those mentioned in this thread).

Jason, I hope your former co-worker isn't one to hold grudges, considering the choking business. Dude sounds kind of out of control.

chadwick

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PJ_Soul

I've been sexually harassed more times than I can count over the years. I think that a lot of women can say the same. I once had a man fired for it in a particularly blatant and disgusting case, but for the most part, it is not taken seriously at all in many industries, particularly in the service industry.

In university I did this project for a course where I went to a high school and interviewed female students about sexual harassment in their school and gave them a survey (My Parents Are Educators so They Pulled Some Strings, plus it was the 90s still so the administration let it happen - probably wouldn't fly now). 76% of them said they were sexually harassed by their male classmates (verbally and physically), and it was abundantly clear (and openly admitted by the girls) that sexual harassment committed by their male peers was accepted as normal. 0% of the girls who claimed to have been harassed said they'd ever acted on any sexual harassment that made them uncomfortable, and 100% of them admitted that they hide their discomfort for fear of being made fun of or being 'shunned' by their male counterparts. So how will these girls deal with it in the real world? Probably in much the same way. Not to mention what the boys are learning. Scary.

chadwick

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Jason P

I actually had a lady co-worker aggresivily pursue me once and make a lot of sexual advances towards me at work. She even went as far as showing up on my doorstep one night (drunk of course) in which I let her sleep it off on my couch while I locked myself in my bedroom. Looking back it was harrassement but being a guy I didn't think of it that way. I was just fending off a crazy girl.

chadwick

pretty harmless stuff. good for you for not freakin out, jason

RKCNDY

I made a complaint once to HR, and the 'investigation' took a month. I kept my job and he lost his-Because of the nature of his actions, my complaint had to be handled by corporate (way beyond HR) and I was advised to go to district court to get him to leave me alone.

Since he was a well liked and personable guy, I was then put on the 'blacklist' and denied several transfers to other departments-I tried to transfer to the corporate campus, and they wanted me to work there, my group refused to let me transfer. I was pretty much treated like shit for the next 4 years.

The Juggler

my female coworkers are constantly asking me to show them my tits.

gimmesometruth27

i just took a new job last week. our office has 25 people in it.7 male physicians, me, and the rest women. the transcription lady, in her late 50s/early 60s said "i am glad they hired you. now we have something to look at."

i did not know if i should laugh it off, be flattered, creeped out, or grossed out. i just laughed it off. now she comes by my desk a lot. i am doing computer based training for the computer systems this week and next and she is always interrupting me. i am going to see how it goes. but it weirds me out to see her standing over my shoulder when i am trying to work.

hedonist

The Juggler said:

my female coworkers are constantly asking me to show them my tits.

Hey, we've got something in common!

gimme, I think I'd be somewhere between laughing it off and getting the heebie-jeebies. Do see how it goes, and if you could do one of those "really gotta focus on this right now" type of thing.

I'm thankful that I can use crude and completely inappropriate humor with a couple of the guys (and women) I work with, and that I haven't, for the most part, had to deal with intrusiveness or just plain assholeness at work.

Sonja_S

I'm thankful that I can use crude and completely inappropriate humor with a couple of the guys (and women) I work with, and that I haven't, for the most part, had to deal with intrusiveness or just plain assholeness at work.

We do that too where I work, but usually only with people we know well and within boundaries. Unfortunately, last week I had to involve my manager who was at a loss as how to handle this particular one too (e-mails with let's say less than professional content), so he talked to HR without saying who I had the issue with. Their advice was to send a very direct reply and if he did it again, I had to let them know immediately and he would suffer the consequences. He is married with a little kid btw.

A guy once complained about me (different company) after he tried to do the 'are those real?' test and I twisted his hand around his back and threw him out of the office. Poor baby hit his knee on the way down and claimed his wrist hurt. Our MD just told him to be glad I didn't use my heels to make a soprano out of him and to rethink his position in the company. That was actually surprising considering the old boys club attitude there.

The Juggler

Sonja_S said:

A guy once complained about me (different company) after he tried to do the 'are those real?' test and I twisted his hand around his back and threw him out of the office. Poor baby hit his knee on the way down and claimed his wrist hurt. Our MD just told him to be glad I didn't use my heels to make a soprano out of him and to rethink his position in the company. That was actually surprising considering the old boys club attitude there.

....WOW!

you are awesome

chadwick

gimmie,

do you find the gal attractive?

hedonist

The Juggler said:

Sonja_S said:

A guy once complained about me (different company) after he tried to do the 'are those real?' test and I twisted his hand around his back and threw him out of the office. Poor baby hit his knee on the way down and claimed his wrist hurt. Our MD just told him to be glad I didn't use my heels to make a soprano out of him and to rethink his position in the company. That was actually surprising considering the old boys club attitude there.

....WOW!

you are awesome
I agree. Sonja kicks butt (and back).

You sir, however, need a bit of schooling on the quote function.

**edit - well fuck me, so do I.

Signed,
Humbled

Sonja_S

"> Well, trash has to be taken out before it starts to attract flies...

SD48277

Sonja_S said:

A guy once complained about me (different company) after he tried to do the 'are those real?' test and I twisted his hand around his back and threw him out of the office. Poor baby hit his knee on the way down and claimed his wrist hurt. Our MD just told him to be glad I didn't use my heels to make a soprano out of him and to rethink his position in the company. That was actually surprising considering the old boys club attitude there.

Sonja_S said:

"> Well, trash has to be taken out before it starts to attract flies...

You are my new favorite person. B-)