What's the biggest turn-off on a 1st date?

Jeremy1012

Heineken Helen wrote:

I also had a first (and last) date where the guy wondered what our kids might look like :eek:

Strangely though, for me the biggest turn off was a date (in a pub) where he didn't drink. If you don't drink, bring me for a meal or to the cinema or something... don't bring me to a pub and watch ME drink... I couldn't relax.

In that situation I would have MADE him drink. Nothing makes me more uncomfortable than drinking when the person I'm with isn't. On a DATE it must be horrible I hate feeling like a person is scrutinising me but I can't really be in a pub without drinking

eyedclaar

When she removed her false teeth and prosthetic leg… Don’t get me wrong, I still went through with it, but certainly a turn-off.

Heineken Helen

Jeremy1012 wrote:

In that situation I would have MADE him drink. Nothing makes me more uncomfortable than drinking when the person I'm with isn't. On a DATE it must be horrible I hate feeling like a person is scrutinising me but I can't really be in a pub without drinking

He didn't drink at ALL (had given up a couple of years earlier)... so I couldn't have made him drink... but it was very uncomfortable... and he certainly wasn't getting ANYTHING that night cos I was too aware of the fact that I had drink in me and he didn't. Well thinking back he brought a friend and I brought a friend but 3 of us were drinking and he wasn't.

THC

eyedclaar wrote:

When she removed her false teeth and prosthetic leg… Don’t get me wrong, I still went through with it, but certainly a turn-off.

LOL
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funny thread.

FinsburyParkCarrots

Heineken Helen wrote:

I also had a first (and last) date where the guy wondered what our kids might look like :eek:

I had exactly the same experience with a woman I saw very briefly, back in 2000. What made it worse was that her rugby-playing husband, with lots of heavy influences in the City, had had a vascectomy. :eek:

Heineken Helen

FinsburyParkCarrots wrote:

I had exactly the same experience with a woman I saw very briefly, back in 2000. What made it worse was that her rugby-playing husband, with lots of heavy influences in the City, had had a vascectomy. :eek:

:eek: so are we to assume that your brief encounter involved something more than just a few drinks and a chat, which was all mine was! Tough to have kids that way.. but I'm pretty sure this guy wouldn't have known that anyway

Ah fins

FinsburyParkCarrots

Heineken Helen wrote:

:eek: so are we to assume that your brief encounter involved something more than just a few drinks and a chat, which was all mine was! Tough to have kids that way.. but I'm pretty sure this guy wouldn't have known that anyway

Ah fins

Nah, we never got down to doing the business. She groped me inappropriately on the London Underground once or twice, using me as a handrail as the train turned a corner, but apart from that, I escaped unscathed.

Heineken Helen

FinsburyParkCarrots wrote:

Nah, we never got down to doing the business. She groped me inappropriately on the London Underground once or twice, using me as a handrail as the train turned a corner, but apart from that, I escaped unscathed.

bet you're glad now!

Slip Kid

dunkman wrote:

absolutely not... unless he tipped them... then i hate him.

but i see nothing wrong with it all... ok maybe Weatherspoons isnt a good place, but the buy 1 get 1 free offer in this current financial climate is... and i especially endorse the making her pay bit... women want equality? pay for what you ate then...

Post of the century

JordyWordy

nuffingman wrote:

Gulp! Many years ago I finally managed to get a date with the girl of my dreams, got extremely pissed, walked her home and fell over her garden wall.

Didn't see her again :(

shit! that really sucks! its hard to come off suave & cool when shitfaced alright. at least its a good story & memory!

the first date it happened on just got really sleepy, then upset about some ex-bfs & stuff (always a turn on)...like i said, i kinda knew her anyway so just chatted & it was obvious nothing was worth pursuing there, but she was sound so i looked after her & took her home etc.

but the other girl was funny to be honest!
well, the vomiting part wasnt - i had to get her to shut up so the taxi driver wouldnt notice (he mustve been asleep to not notice) and so i escaped the $80 fine!

but the rest of it was genuinely hilarious. she made a holy show of herself in the pub, and i didnt give a shit if people knew i was with her cos i didnt know anyone there. she jumped on & fell off a barstool, fell out of her top, started dancing for 2 old guys, racially abused some punter smoking outside the bar....if i said anything she'd scold me for not joining in, so i let her on at it.

if i didnt thrive on awkward humour i would have been mortified!!!!

JordyWordy

Heineken Helen wrote:

Yeh I'd one guy who couldn't even walk by the time I GOT there :eek: Actually I got there and he'd already left, thinking I wasn't coming, even though I was on time so I called him and he came back... falling all over the place... picking fights with people etc. He went to the toilet and never came back, lol. He'd got kicked out. Next day I got a text from him asking 'what are you doing tonight?' I didn't answer He is a friend of my brothers... so I've slagged him about this ever since but he still has no idea what happened that night.

Classy bloke! what a player chancing his luck the next night!
amazing what people end up doing on dates, the stunts they pull! your guy outdid this girl anyway, (the one who got sick in the car). she hadnt even had a drink when i arrived, we were only there for 2 hours. barman told me she'd been sneaking in doubles for herself when she went to the bar & the bathroom, and then get our drinks....was i that bad company!!????

ive met her since and she has no idea either, she'd texted me the next day saying "last night was fun"......??? oh well, different strokes i guess?

Heineken Helen

JordyWordy wrote:

but the rest of it was genuinely hilarious. she made a holy show of herself in the pub, and i didnt give a shit if people knew i was with her cos i didnt know anyone there. she jumped on & fell off a barstool, fell out of her top, started dancing for 2 old guys, racially abused some punter smoking outside the bar....if i said anything she'd scold me for not joining in, so i let her on at it.

if i didnt thrive on awkward humour i would have been mortified!!!!

You sure we haven't met??? :eek:

well I knew this guy was gonna be in the pub for a while beforehand... think there was some kinda match on... so it wasn't a real OFFICIAL date I spose! But actually, it kinda was! So he should have made an effort to stay relatively sober, lol. But he turned out to have a drinking problem (big surprise ) and he's since found someone to calm him down... that certainly wouldn't have been me so good for him

Wobbie

JordyWordy wrote:

but the rest of it was genuinely hilarious. she made a holy show of herself in the pub, and i didnt give a shit if people knew i was with her cos i didnt know anyone there. she jumped on & fell off a barstool, fell out of her top, started dancing for 2 old guys, racially abused some punter smoking outside the bar....if i said anything she'd scold me for not joining in, so i let her on at it.

had almost the exact same experience....

I got set up with a girl who was a "recovering alcoholic." The girl that set us up made me swear not to drink. I said "no problem." So I go to pick this girl up..... she is freakin' gorgeous. I'm thinking "ohhhhhhhh-kay." We go to a very nice restaurant.....the waiter comes by for drink orders.....she orders a Mai-Tai :eek:.......I figure WTF? and get a beer. Long story short, after a second Mai Tai, she is absolutely hammered. She slops some salad dressing into her drink..... accuses the waiter of doing it.... I'm playing peacemaker.... we're out of there in like 45 minutes total....as I'm giving the waiter a big tip and apologizing. It was really pretty sad....probably the one and only time I've seen a drunk get drunk.

BTW - I had to tough it out with this chick for awhile....I was coming off a long drought :eek:.

The Champ

I remember one first date a girl made some joke about liking anal, and to my surprise I actually found myself turned off..seriously, let's at least wait till after dessert for poop shoot talk..wow...

FinsburyParkCarrots

eyedclaar wrote:

When she removed her false teeth and prosthetic leg… Don’t get me wrong, I still went through with it, but certainly a turn-off.

Hi, Sir Paul!

dunkman

The Champ wrote:

I remember one first date a girl made some joke about liking anal, and to my surprise I actually found myself turned off..seriously, let's at least wait till after dessert for poop shoot talk..wow...

yeah yeah whatever... you still have her number?

The Champ

dunkman wrote:

yeah yeah whatever... you still have her number?

lol..I don't but can obtain it from a friend of a friend for you ..

timroth

If a chick doesnt at least offer to pay for half of the date (dinner, movie etc) she best be putting out.











Its a joke ladies.

The Champ

timroth wrote:

If a chick doesnt at least offer to pay for half of the date (dinner, movie etc) she best be putting out.











Its a joke ladies.

Or at least some dome ..this isn't 1923..

no joke..

dunkman

timroth wrote:

If a chick doesnt at least offer to pay for half of the date (dinner, movie etc) she best be putting out.

if my date didnt pay for her half i'd wait till she stood up and then i'd run behind and squeeze her really hard until she puked, call the waiter over and ask him to doggie bag it for me.



i actually felt queasy typing that out.