who do you spend your holidays with?

decides2dream

pretty self-explanatory thread.......haha. heres me: i find the older i get, the *smaller* our celebrations become. and while there is a definite magic and wonder as a child...and/or with extended family, i also find for us, we are enjoying our smaller, more 'adult' celebrations more and more.

as a kid, we spent thanksgiving with my only aunt on my father's side....she was always old, and my cousin/her daughter....gourmet cook...so both small families together. didn't appreciate it as a kid, but as i got older....ohhhhh myyyyy, what food! christmas was always an 'at home' celebration, immediate family only...sometimes christmas eve with that same aunt. once my older sister married....started her family....we spent ALL holidays at her house, all my immediate family. even after i married, that's what we did.

however, in time, circumstances/desire/distance....all changed.....and we ended that a couple years ago. the last 2? years, go to my other sister's house, local....and it's just me and mr. dream....sister and her hubby....my mom...bro-in-laws dad....sometimes friends pop in. also change it up by having some dinners at restaurants, which we adore.....and at most, coffees/drinks/desserts at my sister's.

so yea, this thanksgiving, trying a new restaurant....and the smallest gathering yet: me and hubby, sister and her hubby....and it's my birthday too. i am looking forward to it. christmas may be the same....hopefully mom will come by - she's spending xmas eve with her grandkids. hubby and i almost always eat at our fave restaurant xmas eve....open one gift together that night....and just spend the evening solo, fire in the fireplace and candles and christmas tree lights......beautiful!


sooooooo....who do you spend the holidays with? is it what you want or would you rather celebrate with different people and/or in a different way? i sometimes fantasize that maybe one yer fly off somewhere exotic. not reallt feasible with my husband's job....but it's good to have ideas.......:p

brainofPJ

this year..........

it's looking like i'm hanging with myself.

Hawkshore

brainofPJ wrote:

this year..........

it's looking like i'm hanging with myself.

Thats when you invite over .........my pal Johnny Walker,
And his brothers Black and Red....... oh and don't forget ...... my other pal, Jack Daniels, And his partner Jimmy Beam.

Earthgirl

for the past several years I've spent Christmas on my own, (since my parents died).. or I go to a friends for dinner one of the nights. I used to really dread the holidays because there was so much hoopla around it being such a family holiday.. then I realized that I really can't change my situation.. and that I can do other things.. so for the past several years I've spent some of it serving and making food for the homeless and randomly giving out presents to unsuspected people. Last year I drove around looking for kids that were doing good things.. like shovelling or taking thier siblings out tobogganing.. things like that.. and I gave them gift certificates for restaurants and movies. This year I want to do the same thing. I love doing it..
this year.. I will be totally alone for the holidays. The only thing that sucks is waking up christmas day alone. but.. i can crank the tunes ! pj of course.

peace and love everyone!

brainofPJ

Hawkshore wrote:

Thats when you invite over .........my pal Johnny Walker,
And his brothers Black and Red....... oh and don't forget ...... my other pal, Jack Daniels, And his partner Jimmy Beam.

this weekend will look just like this...leading all the way through the new year.

SoonForgotten2

xx

Earthgirl

SoonForgotten2 wrote:

This year I reckon it'll be me, myself and I. Should be quite the bash.

hey, all of us alone should celebrate together !!

brain of c

happy early bday d2d!

brainofPJ

Earthgirl wrote:

hey, all of us alone should celebrate together !!

not a bad idea. at least we will have each other to talk to.

Ahnimus

Christmas?

Don't celebrate it myself. Family does, but I'll be working straight through the holidays.

libragirl

I spend Thankgiving and Christmas with my family and fiance.

nothingman44

just my parents

Urban Hiker

For Thanksgiving:
I used to go to my mom's, but I don't have a car, so I use that as an excuse not to go. Truth is I don't want to go to her house. It's too loud, none of the good relatives go anymore, I don't eat meat and my mom's kitchen hygiene isn't to my liking.

If my favorite relatives still went, I would find a way, but.... anyway

This Thanksgiving is my little sister's 30th b-day, so I'd like to find a way to spend some time with her.

Otherwise it's just me, hubby, our two dogs and our cat.

boxwine_in_hell

decides2dream wrote:

pretty self-explanatory thread.......haha. heres me: i find the older i get, the *smaller* our celebrations become. and while there is a definite magic and wonder as a child...and/or with extended family, i also find for us, we are enjoying our smaller, more 'adult' celebrations more and more.

as a kid, we spent thanksgiving with my only aunt on my father's side....she was always old, and my cousin/her daughter....gourmet cook...so both small families together. didn't appreciate it as a kid, but as i got older....ohhhhh myyyyy, what food! christmas was always an 'at home' celebration, immediate family only...sometimes christmas eve with that same aunt. once my older sister married....started her family....we spent ALL holidays at her house, all my immediate family. even after i married, that's what we did.

however, in time, circumstances/desire/distance....all changed.....and we ended that a couple years ago. the last 2? years, go to my other sister's house, local....and it's just me and mr. dream....sister and her hubby....my mom...bro-in-laws dad....sometimes friends pop in. also change it up by having some dinners at restaurants, which we adore.....and at most, coffees/drinks/desserts at my sister's.

so yea, this thanksgiving, trying a new restaurant....and the smallest gathering yet: me and hubby, sister and her hubby....and it's my birthday too. i am looking forward to it. christmas may be the same....hopefully mom will come by - she's spending xmas eve with her grandkids. hubby and i almost always eat at our fave restaurant xmas eve....open one gift together that night....and just spend the evening solo, fire in the fireplace and candles and christmas tree lights......beautiful!


sooooooo....who do you spend the holidays with? is it what you want or would you rather celebrate with different people and/or in a different way? i sometimes fantasize that maybe one yer fly off somewhere exotic. not reallt feasible with my husband's job....but it's good to have ideas.......:p

You're lucky. I have to spend my Thanksgivings with the same assholes from my wife's side of the family that I can't stand. Give and take I suppose.

SENROCK

Hawkshore wrote:

Thats when you invite over ............... my other pal, Jack Daniels, And his partner Jimmy Beam.

these boys are definitely my fam!!!!

MattCameronKicksButt

I spend every holiday with my boyfriends family. They have a big family, I don't and my mum normally goes away for the holidays - because we have such a small family.

dunkman

this year we're going to my outlaws...

i cant fucking wait.. i love xmas sssssssssoooooooooooooooooooooooooooo oh keyboards jammed up again... so much

Heineken Helen

Well it's always been me and my sister would host it... my dad would come and anybody we know who has nowhere to go. Now my sister has her house and her family, I go there. My dad still comes and anyone who has nowhere to go . My aunt (who lost the two sons and is divorced) and her son usually come too so it's always pretty nuts . But my dad has been seeing a woman for a while now and I hope it doesn't get to the time where they want to spend christmas together, I know it's selfish of me but that would hurt a lot (she spends christmas with her kids and him with us). And my sister, I've picked up some vibes that there may come a time when they want to jsut have christmas themselves. I dunno what the fuck I'd do if that time came. I'd maybe go skiing or something. I'd have to go somewhere. I couldn't even stay in the country if I'd nowhere to go for christmas. Well I'd HAVE somewhere to go... my brother still has to have it somewhere (he usually works) or I could stay with my dad and his girlfriend but it just wouldn't be the same. I'm sure it would still be fun but I just want things to stay as they are... so yeh, I think maybe I'd go on holiday

actually I'd be quite annoyed and upset if my sister said I couldn't go to hers. I really really don't think she would but I dunno.

evenkat

Heineken Helen wrote:

Well it's always been me and my sister would host it... my dad would come and anybody we know who has nowhere to go. Now my sister has her house and her family, I go there. My dad still comes and anyone who has nowhere to go . My aunt (who lost the two sons and is divorced) and her son usually come too so it's always pretty nuts . But my dad has been seeing a woman for a while now and I hope it doesn't get to the time where they want to spend christmas together, I know it's selfish of me but that would hurt a lot (she spends christmas with her kids and him with us). And my sister, I've picked up some vibes that there may come a time when they want to jsut have christmas themselves. I dunno what the fuck I'd do if that time came. I'd maybe go skiing or something. I'd have to go somewhere. I couldn't even stay in the country if I'd nowhere to go for christmas. Well I'd HAVE somewhere to go... my brother still has to have it somewhere (he usually works) or I could stay with my dad and his girlfriend but it just wouldn't be the same. I'm sure it would still be fun but I just want things to stay as they are... so yeh, I think maybe I'd go on holiday

actually I'd be quite annoyed and upset if my sister said I couldn't go to hers. I really really don't think she would but I dunno.

Well you can come here then . There's so many of us you would just blend in. Well maybe not with that accent of yours lol.

Heineken Helen

evenkat wrote:

Well you can come here then . There's so many of us you would just blend in. Well maybe not with that accent of yours lol.

thank you... I just may do that! Not until she physically removes me from the house though . Well she hasn't really said that there will come a time where I won't be welcome but she's insinuated and when I've asked more directly what she meant, she hasn't done much to make me feel calmer

I can PRETEND to be American

GreenTeaDisease

my parents, my brother, and my grandmother. that's it.

until a few years ago, my parents always hosted a christmas eve party with the entire extended family and friends. we'd have a good 50-60 people coming in and out on a good year. but my dad stopped it and I don't really understand why (I think because a lot of the cousins started having kids and didn't want to go out). It's kinda boring just having the immediate family.

PJaddicted

For Thanksgiving.....I'm looking at like 25 for dinner! Our company started arriving last night at my moms, and my company starts arriving this coming Sunday...it is a very busy week! I will have a dozen or more for dinner Sunday, Monday and Tuesday nights. Wednesday....We better be going out!!

Christmas has changed a bit now since my fathers passing, so I'm not sure what we will do this year. It is always very busy with my own family...4 kids make a party in itself.

oxc

Spunkie

I spend the holidays with my sister's and kids. I hope my surfer friends will take me in the ocean while visiting.

rearviewmiror

Pre-Divorce it was my family (nuclear) or hers (Nuclear and extended). Now it's my family only. Except this thanksgiving I am going out west with a new friend.

Steve Dunne

inlaws upstate ny

_Crazy_Mary_

Ideally, I would spend Thanksgiving and Christmas with just my hubby and our 3 girls. And that is pretty much what we do. But his family always has some Christmas gathering the weekend before or after Xmas which I never want to go to, but have to anyway. I don't like to go for any number of reasons: It's a 3 hour drive, no alcohol, there are all religious, no TV, I'm expected to help with the cooking/dishes, we have to buy gifts for each of the nieces and nephews, and so on and so forth. I can't stand it.

sennin

Family....usually at my parents house.

I think I've only been away from home for TG....4 times.

...and one time it was just me and my mom, and the power went out. She cooked the turkey on the wood stove.

catefrances

i spend my holidays with small terrorists whose only motivation is the availibility of batteries and the close vicinity of the beach.

dunkman

catefrances wrote:

i spend my holidays with small terrorists whose only motivation is the availibility of batteries and the close vicinity of the beach.

yeah i have renegade Oompah-Loompahs with new vibrators who come, quite literally, every year to my house....

we have a beach nearby.. but its december... and being 'blue' doesnt suit me

catefrances

dunkman wrote:

yeah i have renegade Oompah-Loompahs with new vibrators who come, quite literally, every year to my house....

we have a beach nearby.. but its december... and being 'blue' doesnt suit me

my parents live on an island up in queersland and we go up there for terrorist training. and tis summer here so the only thing thats blue is the sky. just a shame i dont like the sun.

dunkman

catefrances wrote:

my parents live on an island up in queersland and we go up there for terrorist training. and tis summer here so the only thing thats blue is the sky. just a shame i dont like the sun.

i couldnt imagine Christmas in the sun... but i hope you all have a great time.