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In My Dreams
In My Dreams Posts: 299
edited March 2008 in All Encompassing Trip
Why do some have to be "complicated"? Why can't we all just live and let live? I see too much BS and drama. Too many "fear of commitments". Too much confusion. Why can't we just have love and acceptance?
A real possibility I may meet you in my dreams ~ I go to sleep
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  • Beck..
    Beck.. Posts: 535
    In My Dreams wrote:
    Why do some have to be "complicated"? Why can't we all just live and let live? I see too much BS and drama. Too many "fear of commitments". Too much confusion. Why can't we just have love and acceptance?
    Well said.
  • lalalalaaaaaaaa
    lalalalaaaaaaaa Posts: 2,445
    In My Dreams wrote:
    Why do some have to be "complicated"? Why can't we all just live and let live? I see too much BS and drama. Too many "fear of commitments". Too much confusion. Why can't we just have love and acceptance?
    Well if we didn't have any of that, then the AET would have no reason to exist!

    hehehe
  • redrock
    redrock Posts: 18,341
    In My Dreams wrote:
    Why do some have to be "complicated"? Why can't we all just live and let live? I see too much BS and drama. Too many "fear of commitments". Too much confusion. Why can't we just have love and acceptance?
    Because 'man' is a complicated mammal. We think, we question, we act foolishly, we succumb to our emotions/temptations, we are easily seduced, etc. The reasons go on for ever.
  • Indian Summer
    Indian Summer Posts: 2,296
    if a relationship "has to be complicated", it's time to move on.....there is somebody out there for everyone who will make things "uncomplicated"
    "It's all happening"
  • In My Dreams
    In My Dreams Posts: 299
    Indian Summer wrote:
    if a relationship "has to be complicated", it's time to move on.....there is somebody out there for everyone who will make things "uncomplicated"
    I agree, but the sad thing is not everyone will move on. Instead they go on agonizing over it for a long time. I just don't get why? Better to be alone than in bad company.
    A real possibility I may meet you in my dreams ~ I go to sleep
  • norm
    norm Posts: 31,146
    In My Dreams wrote:
    I agree, but the sad thing is not everyone will move on. Instead they go on agonizing over it for a long time. I just don't get why? Better to be alone than in bad company.


    you got that right!! :)
  • GreenTeaDisease
    GreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
    In My Dreams wrote:
    I agree, but the sad thing is not everyone will move on. Instead they go on agonizing over it for a long time. I just don't get why? Better to be alone than in bad company.

    "better to be alone than to wish you were!"
  • redrock
    redrock Posts: 18,341
    In My Dreams wrote:
    I agree, but the sad thing is not everyone will move on. Instead they go on agonizing over it for a long time. I just don't get why? Better to be alone than in bad company.

    We like to torture ourselves.
  • Jeanie
    Jeanie Posts: 9,446
    Some people seem to manage it. :)

    Having said that, I am not one of them, but that doesn't appear to be because of my efforts at love, commitment, truth and honesty, and more to do with the asshole magnet in my body which despite repeated attempts to remove just keeps going off.
    NOPE!!!

    *~You're IT Bert!~*

    Hold on to the thread
    The currents will shift
  • genie
    genie Posts: 2,222
    In My Dreams wrote:
    Why do some have to be "complicated"? Why can't we all just live and let live? I see too much BS and drama. Too many "fear of commitments". Too much confusion. Why can't we just have love and acceptance?

    because no matter how equal we are we all have different ideas and outlook on life, and how things should be done
  • In My Dreams
    In My Dreams Posts: 299
    Jeanie wrote:
    Some people seem to manage it. :)

    Having said that, I am not one of them, but that doesn't appear to be because of my efforts at love, commitment, truth and honesty, and more to do with the asshole magnet in my body which despite repeated attempts to remove just keeps going off.
    I used to be an asshole magnet, I finally decided that all men suck and resolved myself to being alone forever. Three months later I met the man who would soon be my husband. We've been together for several years. We have our spats but there is no head games, no BS, no drama, no disappearing for days at a time. I think the secret is honesty and trust, loving unconditionally.

    I wish everyone can be happy.
    A real possibility I may meet you in my dreams ~ I go to sleep
  • AmentsChick
    AmentsChick Posts: 6,969
    In My Dreams wrote:
    Why do some have to be "complicated"? Why can't we all just live and let live? I see too much BS and drama. Too many "fear of commitments". Too much confusion. Why can't we just have love and acceptance?

    When/If you find the answer, please please, enlighten me!!!
    This is the greatest band in the world -- Ben Harper

  • Jeanie
    Jeanie Posts: 9,446
    In My Dreams wrote:
    I used to be an asshole magnet, I finally decided that all men suck and resolved myself to being alone forever. Three months later I met the man who would soon be my husband. We've been together for several years. We have our spats but there is no head games, no BS, no drama, no disappearing for days at a time. I think the secret is honesty and trust, loving unconditionally.

    I wish everyone can be happy.

    I've done that too. Spent a great deal of time being happy alone and quite resolved to being alone. Worked out what I thought I might be doing wrong and was happy to go into the future on my own. Then I found myself entangled again and with the worst kind of ending this time.
    I do all the honesty, trust and loving unconditionally, but it would seem that it's just not enough. So I'm out.

    I think it's great you are happy and that you found someone though. :)

    I just think that some of us will not and I am one of those people.
    NOPE!!!

    *~You're IT Bert!~*

    Hold on to the thread
    The currents will shift
  • moxie
    moxie Posts: 80
    I know.

    My cousin and her husband of four-and-a-half months are going through a pretty rough patch right now. They were together for seven years before getting married. They're both bringing problems to the relationship, and neither one wants to admit they might be part of the problem. It's frustrating.

    I love them both and her husband is every bit as much family to me as she is, so I really hope they realize that this rough spot is just a spot, and that they can get past it.
    I have dogs instead of children... I'd rather ruin my carpet than my life.
  • SENROCK
    SENROCK Posts: 10,736
    In My Dreams wrote:
    Too many "fear of commitments".
    :eek: :eek: :eek:
    im gonna say it takes someone truly great to break that mindset.
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  • Sian-of-the-dead
    Sian-of-the-dead Posts: 8,963
    In My Dreams wrote:
    Why do some have to be "complicated"? Why can't we all just live and let live? I see too much BS and drama. Too many "fear of commitments". Too much confusion. Why can't we just have love and acceptance?

    Relationships are only as complicated as you allow them to be :)
    Been to this many PJ shows: Reading 2006 London 2007 Manchester & London 2009 Dublin, Belfast, London, Nijmegen & Berlin 2010 Manchester 1 & Manchester 2 2012...

    ... and I still think Drive-By Truckers are better.
  • Heineken Helen
    Heineken Helen Posts: 18,095
    Sian-of-the-dead wrote:
    Relationships are only as complicated as you allow them to be :)
    EXACTLY! I've always been quite a simple person... if something's too complicated fuck it. Which is one of the reasons I've spent most of my life single... but when relationships DO come along to someone like me, they're fucking fantastic. I'm in a long distance relationship at the moment, which would seem complicated to some but it's not at all... and everything's so uncomplicated when we're together that it makes turning the airport into my third home worthwhile.

    If something's good, I'm going to make it work, if it's not, well there's no point wasting time on something that's doomed.
    The Astoria??? Orgazmic!
    Verona??? it's all surmountable
    Dublin 23.08.06 "The beauty of Ireland, right there!"
    Wembley? We all believe!
    Copenhagen?? your light made us stars
    Chicago 07? And love
    What a different life
    Had I not found this love with you
  • Sian-of-the-dead
    Sian-of-the-dead Posts: 8,963
    Heineken Helen wrote:
    If something's good, I'm going to make it work, if it's not, well there's no point wasting time on something that's doomed.

    I pretty much have that opinion on life generally :)
    Been to this many PJ shows: Reading 2006 London 2007 Manchester & London 2009 Dublin, Belfast, London, Nijmegen & Berlin 2010 Manchester 1 & Manchester 2 2012...

    ... and I still think Drive-By Truckers are better.
  • Heineken Helen
    Heineken Helen Posts: 18,095
    Sian-of-the-dead wrote:
    I pretty much have that opinion on life generally :)
    Me too :) I'm just somebody who's trying :)
    The Astoria??? Orgazmic!
    Verona??? it's all surmountable
    Dublin 23.08.06 "The beauty of Ireland, right there!"
    Wembley? We all believe!
    Copenhagen?? your light made us stars
    Chicago 07? And love
    What a different life
    Had I not found this love with you
  • Sian-of-the-dead
    Sian-of-the-dead Posts: 8,963
    Heineken Helen wrote:
    Me too :) I'm just somebody who's trying :)

    oh you're very trying Helen... ;)

    Seriously though, what is the point in being in a 'complicated' relationship? Are the people involved getting anything out of it but heartache? Maybe. I've been there and it wasn't pleasant. I wasn't anywhere near as happy as I thought I was or as I am now. However, sometimes it takes complication to learn and to see things for what they are... I certainly won't go there again. I thought I was in love and I wasn't, but it's made really feeling it now, ten times better. I really appreciate what and who I have now, I was just lucky enough to have the chance to discover how good it could feel. Some people end up trapped in complicated relationships all their lives and never get that opportunity :(
    Been to this many PJ shows: Reading 2006 London 2007 Manchester & London 2009 Dublin, Belfast, London, Nijmegen & Berlin 2010 Manchester 1 & Manchester 2 2012...

    ... and I still think Drive-By Truckers are better.

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