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Up and Moving to a New City

drivingrldrivingrl Posts: 1,448
edited September 2008 in All Encompassing Trip
Have you done it before? How is it done - find a job first and then move? Is it difficult to leave family and friends behind?
drivingrl: "Will I ever get to meet Gwen Stefani?"
kevinbeetle: "Yes. When her career washes up and her and Gavin move to Galveston, you will meet her at Hot Topic shopping for a Japanese cheerleader outfit.

Next!"
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  • spongersponger Posts: 3,159
    It depends on where you're going. Maybe you'll quickly adapt to and enjoy the new city you're in.

    Do you plan on moving back someday? If you do, then you will probably dislike where you're at.

    When I left San Diego to move to Northern California years back, I quickly found some cool people to hang out with and had a blast up there. Every weekend was hotels and drunkenness.

    But, I still missed San Diego and drove down to see old friends every so often.

    When I moved to Orange County, I was pissed off to no avail, and I didn't try to hide it. My co-workers got fed up with my ranting real fast. Things didn't work out there for very long.

    I wised up, and at my present job I tell everyone that I am very happy to be an orange county resident. Then I return to my desk and vomit in my trash can.
    reigning champion

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  • justamjustam Posts: 21,412
    drivingrl wrote:
    Have you done it before? How is it done - find a job first and then move? Is it difficult to leave family and friends behind?


    I've done it several times and will probably have to do it again next Fall.

    It's fun, it's hard, it's exciting, and it's hard to leave people behind. All those things.

    I'd find the job first and then move.
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  • HushBullHushBull Posts: 996
    sponger wrote:
    Then I return to my desk and vomit in my trash can.

    This is what scares me into not even wanting to continue on.
    "When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro"
  • South of SeattleSouth of Seattle West Seattle Posts: 10,724
    I would think it's best to find a job first. I got up and moved with only a months planning when I left to another state.

    Leaving friends and family depends on the person. For me, it wasn't hard. Where I moved to I had a few friends there already. I was basically able to move and already have a quite large group of friends established for me.
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  • spongersponger Posts: 3,159
    Here's my list of advice:

    1. Never let any of your co-workers know that you are unhappy. They will sense that you are using them for experience, and they will orchestrate your removal no matter how well you're doing.

    2. Become a local. Go to bars, restaurants, concerts...etc.

    3. Find someone to go to bed with you.

    4. After two years, update your resume, send it where you want to go, and get out of dodge.
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  • Thorns2010Thorns2010 Posts: 2,201
    sponger wrote:
    Here's my list of advice:

    1. Never let any of your co-workers know that you are unhappy. They will sense that you are using them for experience, and they will orchestrate your removal no matter how well you're doing.

    2. Become a local. Go to bars, restaurants, concerts...etc.

    3. Find someone to go to bed with you.

    4. After two years, update your resume, send it where you want to go, and get out of dodge.

    Wait wait wait....are these in like an order of most important to least important? Because if so, I make a case for #3 to be at the top of the list. :D
  • momofglynnmomofglynn Posts: 849
    they say that when some one moves to a new city that they will either last 5-7 months or 5-7 years.

    I picked up and moved to Denver. I was back in 5 months. Being from the east coast, I NEVER want to be land locked ever ever again!!!!! I missed the ocean so much. I am not a surfer. I am not a fisherwoman. I just love the smell of the ocean. Being an hour away from the beach is just so much different than being days from the beach.
    Let's Go Red Sox!
  • drivingrldrivingrl Posts: 1,448
    sponger wrote:
    Here's my list of advice:

    1. Never let any of your co-workers know that you are unhappy. They will sense that you are using them for experience, and they will orchestrate your removal no matter how well you're doing.

    2. Become a local. Go to bars, restaurants, concerts...etc.

    3. Find someone to go to bed with you.

    4. After two years, update your resume, send it where you want to go, and get out of dodge.

    This is the advice for after one arrives at their destination?
    drivingrl: "Will I ever get to meet Gwen Stefani?"
    kevinbeetle: "Yes. When her career washes up and her and Gavin move to Galveston, you will meet her at Hot Topic shopping for a Japanese cheerleader outfit.

    Next!"
  • drivingrldrivingrl Posts: 1,448
    momofglynn wrote:
    they say that when some one moves to a new city that they will either last 5-7 months or 5-7 years.

    I picked up and moved to Denver. I was back in 5 months. Being from the east coast, I NEVER want to be land locked ever ever again!!!!! I missed the ocean so much. I am not a surfer. I am not a fisherwoman. I just love the smell of the ocean. Being an hour away from the beach is just so much different than being days from the beach.

    I would like to think I wouldn't miss Texas, but the food here is yummy.
    drivingrl: "Will I ever get to meet Gwen Stefani?"
    kevinbeetle: "Yes. When her career washes up and her and Gavin move to Galveston, you will meet her at Hot Topic shopping for a Japanese cheerleader outfit.

    Next!"
  • South of SeattleSouth of Seattle West Seattle Posts: 10,724
    drivingrl wrote:
    I would like to think I wouldn't miss Texas, but the food here is yummy.
    where are you thinking about moving?
    NERDS!
  • drivingrldrivingrl Posts: 1,448
    South of Seattle wrote:
    where are you thinking about moving?

    Not entirely sure. Somewhere less politically conservative and not as warm.
    drivingrl: "Will I ever get to meet Gwen Stefani?"
    kevinbeetle: "Yes. When her career washes up and her and Gavin move to Galveston, you will meet her at Hot Topic shopping for a Japanese cheerleader outfit.

    Next!"
  • South of SeattleSouth of Seattle West Seattle Posts: 10,724
    drivingrl wrote:
    Not entirely sure. Somewhere less politically conservative and not as warm.
    So you're moving near me then? :D

    edit: check out AmentsChick's guide http://www.travelandleisure.com/afc/.../subcategory/1 Match it with your likes and find out where you wanna go.
    NERDS!
  • GraySaturdayGraySaturday Posts: 2,878
    I moved from Philly to Chicago 2 years ago. It was so hard in the beginning because I knew no one in Chicago (except my husband who was my fiance at the time, who moved with me) I had a lot of friends in college and high school, and I was really close with my family so moving was really difficult. I fell in love with chicago though. I don't think we'll leave any time soon, or maybe ever. Its hard to believe that its been a little over two years now. The time has flown. I'm glad I did it though, I needed to be my own person and live my own life, not the life my parents thought I should have in a suburb of philly.
  • spongersponger Posts: 3,159
    drivingrl wrote:
    Not entirely sure. Somewhere less politically conservative and not as warm.

    In that case, there's hope for you. You're not moving because you have to. You're looking for a change. That's different from what I had in mind.
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  • riffrandallriffrandall Posts: 685
    I've done it quite a few times. I have itchy feet or wanderlust, or whatever you call it. Can't stay in one place too long.

    It's scary & fun & hard. But just remember, if nothing ever changed, nothing magical would ever happen.
    "If you're looking for someone to pull you out of that ditch, you're out of luck."
  • SENROCKSENROCK Posts: 10,736
    riffrandall wrote:
    if nothing ever changed, nothing magical would ever happen.
    damn. That is a great way to look at it.
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  • dunkmandunkman Posts: 19,646
    drivingrl wrote:
    Not entirely sure. Somewhere less politically conservative and not as warm.

    Sweden?


    I've always fancied moving.. a clean break, etc. might do it one day.. might not.. I'd live in America if it wasnt for the stupid tipping thing.
    oh scary... 40000 morbidly obese christians wearing fanny packs invading europe is probably the least scariest thing since I watched an edited version of The Care Bears movie in an extremely brightly lit cinema.
  • South of SeattleSouth of Seattle West Seattle Posts: 10,724
    dunkman wrote:
    Sweden?


    I've always fancied moving.. a clean break, etc. might do it one day.. might not.. I'd live in America if it wasnt for the stupid tipping thing.

    Just go out with at least 6 people. They'll usually automatically include it into your bill ;)
    NERDS!
  • dunkmandunkman Posts: 19,646
    South of Seattle wrote:
    Just go out with at least 6 people. They'll usually automatically include it into your bill ;)

    fucking evil!!


    does Canada do the tipping thing? if not I'm going there... i already know key french phrases... like 'le surrender' and 'la brothel'
    oh scary... 40000 morbidly obese christians wearing fanny packs invading europe is probably the least scariest thing since I watched an edited version of The Care Bears movie in an extremely brightly lit cinema.
  • South of SeattleSouth of Seattle West Seattle Posts: 10,724
    dunkman wrote:
    fucking evil!!


    does Canada do the tipping thing? if not I'm going there... i already know key french phrases... like 'le surrender' and 'la brothel'

    Yep and a pint is about $5.50 there, where as in the states it's about $2.50.

    You can't win for losin' Dunk.
    NERDS!
  • dunkmandunkman Posts: 19,646
    South of Seattle wrote:
    Yep and a pint is about $5.50 there, where as in the states it's about $2.50.

    You can't win for losin' Dunk.

    so a pint is £1.25 in our money?!

    thats awesome... i'm there. Chicago it is!!!
    oh scary... 40000 morbidly obese christians wearing fanny packs invading europe is probably the least scariest thing since I watched an edited version of The Care Bears movie in an extremely brightly lit cinema.
  • South of SeattleSouth of Seattle West Seattle Posts: 10,724
    dunkman wrote:
    so a pint is £1.25 in our money?!

    thats awesome... i'm there. Chicago it is!!!

    Probably only during happy hour in Chicago. Between Lou, Speedy, MasterFramer and myself we had around a $150 dollar bar tab buying $1 beers :D
    NERDS!
  • SENROCKSENROCK Posts: 10,736
    South of Seattle wrote:
    Probably only during happy hour in Chicago. Between Lou, Speedy, MasterFramer and myself we had around a $150 dollar bar tab buying $1 beers :D

    Chicago is the best.
    ~~~~~~ALWAYS HAVE A GOOD TIME~~~~~~
    Sir Mike McCready is....THE MASTER!!! WAHHH!!!
    EVENFLOW PSYCHOS H.N.I.C~FEEL THE FLOW!!!

    "Pearl Jam fans are obsessed, they'd see the boys in HELL if tickets were sold."-CROJAM95

    It takes balls to put out a UKE album!
  • FlaggFlagg Posts: 5,856
    South of Seattle wrote:
    Probably only during happy hour in Chicago. Between Lou, Speedy, MasterFramer and myself we had around a $150 dollar bar tab buying $1 beers :D


    This was at that bar across from the Vic? $1 Bud Lights.

    That was crazy. Go to the bar and plunk down $10 and walk away with 10 beers.

    To drivingrl - Good luck with your search Betsy! I've thought about leaving Texas here and there too but never taken the dive. We need to pull another Dallas meetup again. There have been a few threads about it here and there but they always seem to fizzle.
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  • South of SeattleSouth of Seattle West Seattle Posts: 10,724
    Flagg wrote:
    This was at that bar across from the Vic? $1 Bud Lights.

    That was crazy. Go to the bar and plunk down $10 and walk away with 10 beers.

    Yep, you were there too :D

    How you been? I'm Hoping TO blows up tonight.
    NERDS!
  • GraySaturdayGraySaturday Posts: 2,878
    dunkman wrote:
    so a pint is £1.25 in our money?!

    thats awesome... i'm there. Chicago it is!!!
    I love for the dunkman to come to Chicago!!!
  • dunkmandunkman Posts: 19,646
    GraySaturday wrote:
    I love for the dunkman to come to Chicago!!!

    *practices German*

    ya!!!

    ;)

    i wonder if there are any companies in Chicago looking for a cheeky scottish guy?
    oh scary... 40000 morbidly obese christians wearing fanny packs invading europe is probably the least scariest thing since I watched an edited version of The Care Bears movie in an extremely brightly lit cinema.
  • GraySaturdayGraySaturday Posts: 2,878
    dunkman wrote:
    *practices German*

    ya!!!

    ;)

    i wonder if there are any companies in Chicago looking for a cheeky scottish guy?

    You could always be my houseboy. :)
  • FlaggFlagg Posts: 5,856
    South of Seattle wrote:
    Yep, you were there too :D

    How you been? I'm Hoping TO blows up tonight.

    Doing great! It's on tonight!
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  • drivingrldrivingrl Posts: 1,448
    Flagg wrote:
    To drivingrl - Good luck with your search Betsy! I've thought about leaving Texas here and there too but never taken the dive. We need to pull another Dallas meetup again. There have been a few threads about it here and there but they always seem to fizzle.

    We do! It's been too long!
    drivingrl: "Will I ever get to meet Gwen Stefani?"
    kevinbeetle: "Yes. When her career washes up and her and Gavin move to Galveston, you will meet her at Hot Topic shopping for a Japanese cheerleader outfit.

    Next!"
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