Up and Moving to a New City

drivingrl

Have you done it before? How is it done - find a job first and then move? Is it difficult to leave family and friends behind?

sponger

It depends on where you're going. Maybe you'll quickly adapt to and enjoy the new city you're in.

Do you plan on moving back someday? If you do, then you will probably dislike where you're at.

When I left San Diego to move to Northern California years back, I quickly found some cool people to hang out with and had a blast up there. Every weekend was hotels and drunkenness.

But, I still missed San Diego and drove down to see old friends every so often.

When I moved to Orange County, I was pissed off to no avail, and I didn't try to hide it. My co-workers got fed up with my ranting real fast. Things didn't work out there for very long.

I wised up, and at my present job I tell everyone that I am very happy to be an orange county resident. Then I return to my desk and vomit in my trash can.

justam

drivingrl wrote:

Have you done it before? How is it done - find a job first and then move? Is it difficult to leave family and friends behind?

I've done it several times and will probably have to do it again next Fall.

It's fun, it's hard, it's exciting, and it's hard to leave people behind. All those things.

I'd find the job first and then move.

HushBull

sponger wrote:

Then I return to my desk and vomit in my trash can.

This is what scares me into not even wanting to continue on.

South of Seattle

I would think it's best to find a job first. I got up and moved with only a months planning when I left to another state.

Leaving friends and family depends on the person. For me, it wasn't hard. Where I moved to I had a few friends there already. I was basically able to move and already have a quite large group of friends established for me.

sponger

Here's my list of advice:

1. Never let any of your co-workers know that you are unhappy. They will sense that you are using them for experience, and they will orchestrate your removal no matter how well you're doing.

2. Become a local. Go to bars, restaurants, concerts...etc.

3. Find someone to go to bed with you.

4. After two years, update your resume, send it where you want to go, and get out of dodge.

Thorns2010

sponger wrote:

Here's my list of advice:

1. Never let any of your co-workers know that you are unhappy. They will sense that you are using them for experience, and they will orchestrate your removal no matter how well you're doing.

2. Become a local. Go to bars, restaurants, concerts...etc.

3. Find someone to go to bed with you.

4. After two years, update your resume, send it where you want to go, and get out of dodge.

Wait wait wait....are these in like an order of most important to least important? Because if so, I make a case for #3 to be at the top of the list.

momofglynn

they say that when some one moves to a new city that they will either last 5-7 months or 5-7 years.

I picked up and moved to Denver. I was back in 5 months. Being from the east coast, I NEVER want to be land locked ever ever again!!!!! I missed the ocean so much. I am not a surfer. I am not a fisherwoman. I just love the smell of the ocean. Being an hour away from the beach is just so much different than being days from the beach.

drivingrl

sponger wrote:

Here's my list of advice:

1. Never let any of your co-workers know that you are unhappy. They will sense that you are using them for experience, and they will orchestrate your removal no matter how well you're doing.

2. Become a local. Go to bars, restaurants, concerts...etc.

3. Find someone to go to bed with you.

4. After two years, update your resume, send it where you want to go, and get out of dodge.

This is the advice for after one arrives at their destination?

drivingrl

momofglynn wrote:

they say that when some one moves to a new city that they will either last 5-7 months or 5-7 years.

I picked up and moved to Denver. I was back in 5 months. Being from the east coast, I NEVER want to be land locked ever ever again!!!!! I missed the ocean so much. I am not a surfer. I am not a fisherwoman. I just love the smell of the ocean. Being an hour away from the beach is just so much different than being days from the beach.

I would like to think I wouldn't miss Texas, but the food here is yummy.

South of Seattle

drivingrl wrote:

I would like to think I wouldn't miss Texas, but the food here is yummy.

where are you thinking about moving?

drivingrl

South of Seattle wrote:

where are you thinking about moving?

Not entirely sure. Somewhere less politically conservative and not as warm.

South of Seattle

drivingrl wrote:

Not entirely sure. Somewhere less politically conservative and not as warm.

So you're moving near me then?

edit: check out AmentsChick's guide http://www.travelandleisure.com/afc/.../subcategory/1 Match it with your likes and find out where you wanna go.

GraySaturday

I moved from Philly to Chicago 2 years ago. It was so hard in the beginning because I knew no one in Chicago (except my husband who was my fiance at the time, who moved with me) I had a lot of friends in college and high school, and I was really close with my family so moving was really difficult. I fell in love with chicago though. I don't think we'll leave any time soon, or maybe ever. Its hard to believe that its been a little over two years now. The time has flown. I'm glad I did it though, I needed to be my own person and live my own life, not the life my parents thought I should have in a suburb of philly.

sponger

drivingrl wrote:

Not entirely sure. Somewhere less politically conservative and not as warm.

In that case, there's hope for you. You're not moving because you have to. You're looking for a change. That's different from what I had in mind.

riffrandall

I've done it quite a few times. I have itchy feet or wanderlust, or whatever you call it. Can't stay in one place too long.

It's scary & fun & hard. But just remember, if nothing ever changed, nothing magical would ever happen.

SENROCK

riffrandall wrote:

if nothing ever changed, nothing magical would ever happen.

damn. That is a great way to look at it.

dunkman

drivingrl wrote:

Not entirely sure. Somewhere less politically conservative and not as warm.

Sweden?


I've always fancied moving.. a clean break, etc. might do it one day.. might not.. I'd live in America if it wasnt for the stupid tipping thing.

South of Seattle

dunkman wrote:

Sweden?


I've always fancied moving.. a clean break, etc. might do it one day.. might not.. I'd live in America if it wasnt for the stupid tipping thing.

Just go out with at least 6 people. They'll usually automatically include it into your bill

dunkman

South of Seattle wrote:

Just go out with at least 6 people. They'll usually automatically include it into your bill

fucking evil!!


does Canada do the tipping thing? if not I'm going there... i already know key french phrases... like 'le surrender' and 'la brothel'

South of Seattle

dunkman wrote:

fucking evil!!


does Canada do the tipping thing? if not I'm going there... i already know key french phrases... like 'le surrender' and 'la brothel'

Yep and a pint is about $5.50 there, where as in the states it's about $2.50.

You can't win for losin' Dunk.