Effort in a relationship

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  • DanimalDanimal Posts: 2,000
    I agree with you. But, I don't think we even die alone. If I am aware that I am dying, my final thoughts will be of the happiest times I have spent with my wife and kids. I won't be alone, they will there with me.

    Exactly.

    If I was to die today I would still have my gfriend/family/friends in my heart and in my mind. To me that is not dying alone.
    "I don't believe in PJ fans but I believe there is something, not too sure what." - Thoughts_Arrive


  • GreenTeaDiseaseGreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
    What the hell does that even mean?

    I mean
    1) if your partner dies first, you'll be alone again, and you have like a 50/50 chance of that happening. marriage isn't forever, even if it's good and you don't get divorced. people latch themselves on to their partner or make their lives one or whatever you want to call it because they think that having this partner means they'll never be alone again, which very simply is just not true.
    2) it's just like buying lots of things- you can't take it with you when you go.
  • decides2dreamdecides2dream Posts: 14,977
    Pacomc79 wrote:
    The good stuff is being happy with yourself. Romantic relationships are gravy.



    great post!
    :)
    Stay with me...
    Let's just breathe...


    I am myself like you somehow


  • Get_RightGet_Right Posts: 13,296
    Hey sorry about the break up. Never easy or fun.

    But its getting warm out and there is a whole world of new people out there for you to meet and explore. Thats a good thing.
    Now go get some strange!!

    :)
  • Brain of J.LoBrain of J.Lo Posts: 3,259
    I mean
    1) if your partner dies first, you'll be alone again, and you have like a 50/50 chance of that happening. marriage isn't forever, even if it's good and you don't get divorced. people latch themselves on to their partner or make their lives one or whatever you want to call it because they think that having this partner means they'll never be alone again, which very simply is just not true.
    2) it's just like buying lots of things- you can't take it with you when you go.

    1) well, my father died 10 years ago and my mom hasn't remarried, and probably never will. but she's certainly not alone.

    2) when i die, I will turn into a pile of dirt and the fact that I'm alone means nothing, nor will it have any bearing on how I spend the next 50 years, so I don't see why that's worth injecting into this discussion
  • GreenTeaDiseaseGreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
    1) well, my father died 10 years ago and my mom hasn't remarried, and probably never will. but she's certainly not alone.

    2) when i die, I will turn into a pile of dirt and the fact that I'm alone means nothing, nor will it have any bearing on how I spend the next 50 years, so I don't see why that's worth injecting into this discussion

    oh i definitely didn't mean she was "alone." most single people are not "alone." but there are people who would consider it being alone.

    as for the rest, nevermind, I can't explain it.
  • OffHeGoes29OffHeGoes29 Posts: 1,240
    The only reason I put 110% is that I try to put my best effort into everything in my life. I figure what options do I have? I might as well make the best of whats been given to me and run with it. The relationship wasn't all bad, and there was a couple of mistakes I learned from. You guys are right, there was something missing, I just thought I could make something of it, instead of throwing in the towel. So it didn't work, and I know this was for the best. It just sucks because I had to move back home, get a new job, and start all over again. Shes happy now because shes single and free, and I'm bitter because I don't feel happy. I was hoping the "You gave it your best shot" feeling would make me feel better about my experiance, but it didn't.

    Shes moved on like nothing happened, mean while I got the short end of the deal. I know now that their is nothing wrong with putting your best effort, but I lost myself along the way, and I just wish I got more out of it. But once again, thats life, so I'll just deal with it.
    BRING BACK THE WHALE
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