Being Single Ain't so Bad....Really Isn't

RockinInCanada

Jearlpam0925 wrote:

Yeah, I did the whole commitment thing with a few girls, and one I've known forever and we were together for about 3 years... That took a toll and a lot of energy out of me that I'm not so fond of expending so easily again. So now, like your buddy, it'll probably take a girl to latch me down to keep me around because I'm now more cynical than ever. At the first moment where I think things take a turn for "relationship games/drama what have you" I just say "I don't think it's working out." Though I'm sure this is going to become a fault of mine, but it's too much fun traveling and the such without any strings or obligations. But like I said, I pretty much know this is probably going to be huuuge fault of mine where I'm gonna end up like 10 years from now going, "Wait. Wha happened?"

A good healthy relationship should have ZERO games being played and if someone decided to begin that with you I believe you have every right to walk out....I know many of friends girl-friends/wives and I have been told that they have never played games...funny thing is they are the couples I know with the best and healthiest relationships.....they go hand in hand together that is for sure....

decides2dream

small town beck wrote:

Wise words you have, dreams!!

i've been there....haven't we all?


and hell yes, i am never going back again either...........


it just makes me all warm and fuzzy inside when i see/hear others finding their own way, and realizing their own self-worth....and realizing their personal happiness lies entirely within themselves. it's a great feeling.

RockinInCanada

hartamh wrote:

I also love that first line in your statement...that is so true...one of the problems in I'm living with a spouse with addiction problem...they have always been there, but come on he hasn't grown up at all...the problem has been getting worse...

You HAVE to step in and do something about it....you have said the trend yourself the longer it goes unattended things will only get worse for you and him (plus for your kdis).....

RockinInCanada

decides2dream wrote:

i've been there....haven't we all?


and hell yes, i am never going back again either...........


it just makes me all warm and fuzzy inside when i see/hear others finding their own way, and realizing their own self-worth....and realizing their personal happiness lies entirely within themselves. it's a great feeling.

The only thing better than seeing it happen within someone else...is when you as an individual feel it happening to you....it feels amazing and right in so many ways I cannot explain.....:)

decides2dream

Rockin'InCanada wrote:

The only thing better than seeing it happen within someone else...is when you as an individual feel it happening to you....it feels amazing and right in so many ways I cannot explain.....:)

*more warm fuzzies*




that is soooo AWESOME!






hartamh - i seriously think you should look into therapy. t could work wonders for you! truly! obviously living as you have your self-esteem is badly scarred. you need to believe in YOU. and btw - many of are not-so-young at all. you just need to realize you deserve happiness, and not settle. obviously, it's all your choice and decision, certainly not pushing you to do something you don't want....but life is short.

urbanhippie

hartamh wrote:

I am planning to leave him..I've been thinking lately that I've spent more than half my life with him...and before that with a father who was also an alcoholic...never lived without being in those surroundings...it really does a job on a person's self esteem...most of you women & men in the Pit are still really young...I don't think anyone descent would want me...not that I'm looking right now, first things first, but I hope to someday be able to share my life with someone who will love and respect me, like I've never had....it feels good to write all of this down and actually have people who listen and really care....

Thank you everyone and good luck to you all

I pretty much hated myself for a long, long time. Counselling is helping that. It's still difficult, but there's nothing like the empowerment that comes from making your OWN decisions and running your OWN life as YOU see fit to make you feel better about yourself

You need to love and respect yourself, and then it will be that much easier to find the person for you

AmentsChick

It gets lonely after awhile.