why can't you just erase somebody from your life?

Heineken Helen

It would be so much fucking easier... than constantly having to hear about their attempts to fucking ruin your life. No matter how much you take yourself away from the situation, why can't they just let things go? Stop spreading lies. It's such a fucking waste of a life.

even flow?

I have always found it very easy to just forget somebody for a very long time if not forever. It really isn't that hard.

urbanhippie

Heineken Helen wrote:

It would be so much fucking easier... than constantly having to hear about their attempts to fucking ruin your life. No matter how much you take yourself away from the situation, why can't they just let things go? Stop spreading lies. It's such a fucking waste of a life.

I'm sorry Helen :(
At least you're being the bigger person and trying to let it go...

Heineken Helen

even flow? wrote:

I have always found it very easy to just forget somebody for a very long time if not forever. It really isn't that hard.

Oh I've completely removed myself from the situation but it's the kinda situation where stories will always get back to me. And if it's not me being hurt, it's somebody else that I love... I can ignore it and it's water off a ducks back but if somebody else is getting hurt, well that I find hard to shake off.

Heineken Helen

urbanhippie wrote:

I'm sorry Helen :(
At least you're being the bigger person and trying to let it go...

I have let it go... several times... and several times I've made an effort and each time being proven exactly why I'm better off away... but it just never goes away

KosmicJelli

Ha! I have been forever tormented by my exhusband... I always prayed for death... but you know that never happened, i just figured, it is his calling to forever try to make me miserable...

if I only had enough money Id get someone to throw some cement shoes on him and toss him in the lake....

Heineken Helen

KosmicJelli wrote:

Ha! I have been forever tormented by my exhusband... I always prayed for death... but you know that never happened, i just figured, it is his calling to forever try to make me miserable...

if I only had enough money Id get someone to throw some cement shoes on him and toss him in the lake....

well THAT made me smile... so thanks.

KosmicJelli

Heineken Helen wrote:

well THAT made me smile... so thanks.

IM trying...

Linda

KosmicJelli wrote:

Ha! I have been forever tormented by my exhusband... I always prayed for death... but you know that never happened, i just figured, it is his calling to forever try to make me miserable...

if I only had enough money Id get someone to throw some cement shoes on him and toss him in the lake....

OMG, those insane fuckers, my friend and her two kids are living with us right now, and her ex is saying the same thing, he's is gonna ruin her live....asshole, maybe we can get a discount with the cement and all...;)

Heineken Helen

KosmicJelli wrote:

IM trying...

sorry... I don't want you to think the SITUATION made me smile but your way of dealing with it. I'm pretty similar but I just wish everyone could have the same attitude.

KosmicJelli

Linda wrote:

OMG, those insane fuckers, my friend and her two kids are living with us right now, and her ex is saying the same thing, he's is gonna ruin her live....asshole, maybe we can get a discount with the cement and all...;)

totally understand... then people wonder why there is such a thing as divorce

but sure sounds like a plan to me!!!

maybe find discount mafia guy too...

KosmicJelli

Heineken Helen wrote:

sorry... I don't want you to think the SITUATION made me smile but your way of dealing with it. I'm pretty similar but I just wish everyone could have the same attitude.

cool.. you learn after awhile that you would just be spinning your wheels cause you cant control others actions... sooooo.... you start having the cement fantasy for your own personal enjoyment

Sian-of-the-dead

you'll be fine doll, you're a strong lil' cookie unfortunately we can't change other people actions no matter how close they are to us. I know it's no consolation but try not to sweat it too much.
You know where I am for a good old vent... but then, you knew that

*hugs*

Poncier

Call him

nfanel

this thread reminds me of eternal sunshine of the spotless mind. that movie is so good....

KosmicJelli

nfanel wrote:

this thread reminds me of eternal sunshine of the spotless mind. that movie is so good....

omg
no!!!


would never want to go back... cause essentially thats what was happening in that movie.... ICK!!!! :(

Heineken Helen

Sian-of-the-dead wrote:

you'll be fine doll, you're a strong lil' cookie unfortunately we can't change other people actions no matter how close they are to us. I know it's no consolation but try not to sweat it too much.
You know where I am for a good old vent... but then, you knew that

*hugs*

thanks all. Well there's nothing I can do about any of it :rolleyes:

acoustic guy

Sounds like you need "Dirty Deeds, Done Dirt Cheap"!

Heineken Helen

acoustic guy wrote:

Sounds like you need "Dirty Deeds, Done Dirt Cheap"!

to be honest the person isn't worth it... I'm not having anything to do with them good or bad... but the day nature takes it's course will be a HUGE fucking weight off my shoulders... although knowing the person in question, that will be much longer than anybody anticipates :rolleyes:

moxie

It took me a few tries, but I think I finally did it.

Heineken Helen

moxie wrote:

It took me a few tries, but I think I finally did it.

poison? Sledgehammer? a simple trip as they were going down the stairs?

How?

edvedder913

Linda wrote:

OMG, those insane fuckers, my friend and her two kids are living with us right now, and her ex is saying the same thing, he's is gonna ruin her live....asshole, maybe we can get a discount with the cement and all...;)

add me into that cement discount my ex doesn't tell me he's going to ruin my life, he just makes it extremely difficult on a daily basis....

moxie

Heineken Helen wrote:

poison? Sledgehammer? a simple trip as they were going down the stairs?

How?

Not going to her wedding.

I told her (this was my best friend of a number of a years) that I was pretty much done with her (she did some pretty fucked up shit that best friends should just not even consider doing). That was two years ago, roughly. Since that first time, she'd call and wanna talk it out. I'd give in. A few months later I'd get fed up.

When she got knocked up and set a wedding date, I told her I couldn't go and she said something to the effect "I just don't think I can ever speak to you again." I only knew about the wedding perhaps a month, if that long, before, and it was around the time I was trying to find a place to live in an entirely different city.

Anyway. She finally got the damn hint.

Buru

Heineken Helen wrote:

to be honest the person isn't worth it... I'm not having anything to do with them good or bad... but the day nature takes it's course will be a HUGE fucking weight off my shoulders... although knowing the person in question, that will be much longer than anybody anticipates :rolleyes:

that sucks Hells...

There's not much you can do about it really , just try to let it affect you as little as possible. The other person will eventually let it go

or you can push him down the stairs.

Heineken Helen

Buru wrote:

that sucks Hells...

There's not much you can do about it really , just try to let it affect you as little as possible. The other person will eventually let it go

or you can push him down the stairs.

seriously I hate to say it but I'd imagine my reaction on that day will be relief much more than anything.

comebackwoman

I'm sorry you're dealing with whatever is going on. It sounds shitty. If someone is that consumed with your life and trying to bring chaos to it they must be pretty empty inside. Being consumed by someone else's life is one way people try to distract themselves from their own emptiness. They're already living their own torture. Eventually they'll find another distraction and move on.

Heineken Helen

comebackgirl wrote:

I'm sorry you're dealing with whatever is going on. It sounds shitty. If someone is that consumed with your life and trying to bring chaos to it they must be pretty empty inside. Being consumed by someone else's life is one way people try to distract themselves from their own emptiness. They're already living their own torture. Eventually they'll find another distraction and move on.

thanks... but I think this is pretty much all this person has to live for.... so I'm not banking on 'moving on' anytime soon. I know they're not happy but there's no need to drag everyone down with them. There's only one way for this to finally be over with and it's probably a long way away

comebackwoman

Heineken Helen wrote:

thanks... but I think this is pretty much all this person has to live for.... so I'm not banking on 'moving on' anytime soon. I know they're not happy but there's no need to drag everyone down with them. There's only one way for this to finally be over with and it's probably a long way away

I experienced something like this once...someone creating chaos...starting rumors etc. It felt really shitty at the time cause I just couldn't understand why someone would want to do that. I still haven't figured that part out...but I did what it sounds like you're doing...ignored it...and all the hard work this person put into creating chaos wound up having absolutely no effect on my life at all...except I found out who my real friends are and I learned a lot about people based on how they reacted to it. Cliche but true.

Heineken Helen

comebackgirl wrote:

I experienced something like this once...someone creating chaos...starting rumors etc. It felt really shitty at the time cause I just couldn't understand why someone would want to do that. I still haven't figured that part out...but I did what it sounds like you're doing...ignored it...and all the hard work this person put into creating chaos wound up having absolutely no effect on my life at all...except I found out who my real friends are and I learned a lot about people based on how they reacted to it. Cliche but true.

well like I said it really doesn't get to me... the only thing that gets to me is that it upsets other people around me cos it's not just me and I certainly don't get the worst of the rumours and the lies :(

Only a few people know the full story and I don't mind talking about it but generally need a few drinks... so that usually results in a sobfest when it DOES come out :rolleyes: and nobody I've told have blamed or judged me cos I only tell people who really know me anyway... although I'm sure MANY people know the OTHER side of the story :(

comebackwoman

Heineken Helen wrote:

well like I said it really doesn't get to me... the only thing that gets to me is that it upsets other people around me cos it's not just me and I certainly don't get the worst of the rumours and the lies :(

Only a few people know the full story and I don't mind talking about it but generally need a few drinks... so that usually results in a sobfest when it DOES come out :rolleyes: and nobody I've told have blamed or judged me cos I only tell people who really know me anyway... although I'm sure MANY people know the OTHER side of the story :(

Yeah...the people who know and care about you will support you. It just sucks that someone would want to focus energy on disrupting someone else's life.

tybird

Sounds like a good idea on the surface, erasing someone from your life, however, we would soon run out of mistakes from which to learn.