What do you do when you don't know what makes you happy?

EvilMerlin
EvilMerlin Posts: 1,865
edited June 2008 in All Encompassing Trip
They're just at a complete standstill when they think about an option that would make them a happy person, and have absolutely no clue?

Other than things that would bring temporary happiness due to the situation, like buying something you've wanted. Just in general in life, you're completely confused and frustrated because you can't see anything that'd make you happy?

What do you do?

Kinda similar to that whole, you're with a whole crowd of people you love, that love you, and you still feel comopletely lonely. Nothing would kick that lonliness either.
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  • LoveRock333
    LoveRock333 Posts: 59
    Kinda like being in a crowded room, but still being alone. How do you fill a void when you don't know exactly where the void is, let alone what will fill it?

    Personally, I blow bubbles. :)
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  • polaris
    polaris Posts: 3,527
    stop lying to yourself ... learn to be truthful to yourself and try and grasp who you are ...
  • genie
    genie Posts: 2,222
    i go out on weekends and get drunk, also i think about sex. that usually helps me get by.
  • JaneNY
    JaneNY Posts: 4,438
    I watch movies, and sleep more. Sometimes the mind and body just need a break.
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  • libragirl
    libragirl Posts: 4,632
    Well I guess you really need to get to the root of the problem. Some people just have an emptiness in them that never seems to go away. No matter how many *fixes* they try.
    These cuts are leaving creases. Trace the scars to fit the pieces, to tell the story, you don't need to say a word.
  • PJPixie
    PJPixie Posts: 3,026
    Hard to Answer.............I guess because I haven't been HAPPY in a really long time.
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  • genie
    genie Posts: 2,222
    PJPixie wrote:
    Hard to Answer.............I guess because I haven't been HAPPY in a really long time.

    aw, i hope for your life to improve :)
  • facepollution
    facepollution Posts: 6,834
    EvilMerlin wrote:
    They're just at a complete standstill when they think about an option that would make them a happy person, and have absolutely no clue?

    Other than things that would bring temporary happiness due to the situation, like buying something you've wanted. Just in general in life, you're completely confused and frustrated because you can't see anything that'd make you happy?

    What do you do?

    Kinda similar to that whole, you're with a whole crowd of people you love, that love you, and you still feel comopletely lonely. Nothing would kick that lonliness either.

    Wow, that pretty much sums up how I feel at the moment. I've got no answers right now :(
  • audiodave
    audiodave Posts: 1,623
    libragirl wrote:
    Well I guess you really need to get to the root of the problem. Some people just have an emptiness in them that never seems to go away. No matter how many *fixes* they try.
    Some people do. But I think that's just because they can't identify exactly what is missing. The only way to get rid of it is to figure out what's missing and find it.

    Easier said than done though. I spent pretty much my whole life, up until late last year, just like this.
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  • genie
    genie Posts: 2,222
    libragirl wrote:
    Some people just have an emptiness in them

    they should fix their emptiness by sniffing glue :D
  • mole1985
    mole1985 Posts: 1,119
    masturbate :D
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  • genie
    genie Posts: 2,222
    audiodave wrote:
    Some people do. But I think that's just because they can't identify exactly what is missing. The only way to get rid of it is to figure out what's missing and find it.

    Easier said than done though. I spent pretty much my whole life, up until late last year, just like this.

    so if it's not personal, what made you happy? what made you think that you've got everything that you want and need?
  • libragirl
    libragirl Posts: 4,632
    genie wrote:
    they should fix their emptiness by sniffing glue :D

    now..now..that is only a short term fix!
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  • PJPixie
    PJPixie Posts: 3,026
    genie wrote:
    aw, i hope for your life to improve :)


    Thank you. I guess it really wasn't fair to say that i'm NOT HAPPY. I'm fine, really. I'm just not EXCITED about anything (outside of Pearl Jam) wow- I really feel pathetic.
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  • libragirl
    libragirl Posts: 4,632
    audiodave wrote:

    Easier said than done though. I spent pretty much my whole life, up until late last year, just like this.

    Well you are right about it's easier said then done. I didn't mean to say something so cliched but I really can't and won't go into my personal life issues on message boards.
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  • genie
    genie Posts: 2,222
    PJPixie wrote:
    Thank you. I guess it really wasn't fair to say that i'm NOT HAPPY. I'm fine, really. I'm just not EXCITED about anything (outside of Pearl Jam) wow- I really feel pathetic.

    doesn't matter, letting your feelings out and making them heard is a good thing :)
  • pearljamjen
    pearljamjen Posts: 13,578
    PJPixie wrote:
    Hard to Answer.............I guess because I haven't been HAPPY in a really long time.

    I feel the same...the past year and a half has had more downs than ups...and some of the downs have REALLY been down, so I am still trying to work through some of those things.

    But I'm hoping things will start to look up...seeing Eddie in April REALLY helped, so I'm looking forward to a New York vacation in a couple weeks. :)
  • LONGRD
    LONGRD Posts: 6,036
    genie wrote:
    i go out on weekends and get drunk, also i think about sex. that usually helps me get by.
    It's the thinking that makes me sad. See my signature. ;)
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  • genie
    genie Posts: 2,222
    LongRd. wrote:
    It's the thinking that makes me sad. See my signature. ;)

    :D

    thinking about sex just frustrates me at worst and at best it makes me excited about life and makes my depression or stress or anything else go away for that period of time
  • genie
    genie Posts: 2,222
    another thing that makes me feel happy for a short while is looking my best. i.e wearing sexy clothes.

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