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jojojojo Posts: 645
edited February 2008 in All Encompassing Trip
I'm once agin getting back into the dating thing
and am curious as to what a good first date is

my thoughts are this

a movie is not a good first date cause you can't really get to know someone no conversation

dinner can be a bit stressful if you don't really get on too well

bars can be loud and encourage excessive alchol consumption


so what works for you guys and gals

peace
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  • Steve DunneSteve Dunne Posts: 4,965
    jojo wrote:
    I'm once agin getting back into the dating thing
    and am curious as to what a good first date is

    my thoughts are this

    a movie is not a good first date cause you can't really get to know someone no conversation

    dinner can be a bit stressful if you don't really get on too well

    bars can be loud and encourage excessive alchol consumption


    so what works for you guys and gals

    peace

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  • jojojojo Posts: 645
    Steve Dunne wrote:
    Jaysus Jo go to a Bruins game - someone is bound to score!!! :D


    lol steve

    that's another thing all togeather

    i'm getting older and looking to maybe have a relationship
    yes i am saying this shit UGH
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  • inmyrvminmyrvm Posts: 933
    well it helps if the person you are supposed to go out with returns your calls after you set it up, start there. on second thought, maybe i shouldn't be giving advice here lol. the good thing about dinner is you get to talk and know each other.
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  • jojojojo Posts: 645
    inmyrvm wrote:
    well it helps if the person you are supposed to go out with returns your calls after you set it up, start there. on second thought, maybe i shouldn't be giving advice here lol. the good thing about dinner is you get to talk and know each other.

    lol yea i hear you
    but i'm not rushing just kind got it in my head it's time to put myself put myself out there a bit and see what comes
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  • inmyrvminmyrvm Posts: 933
    well i had a nice dinner and a few drinks planned out for whatever that's worth. it turned into a lot of drinks with my buddies all weekend lol
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  • pjoasisrulepjoasisrule Posts: 3,412
    Getting a hotel room
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  • lalalalaaaaaaaalalalalaaaaaaaa Posts: 2,445
    bowling?
  • nfanelnfanel Posts: 2,558
    drinks is a good first date. can be as long or short as you want and good opportunity to talk.
  • jojojojo Posts: 645
    pjoasisrule wrote:
    Getting a hotel room

    been there done that

    lets' not go there lol
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  • jojojojo Posts: 645
    Saturnal wrote:
    bowling?

    i actually was thinking that but same as with a movie not a lot of interaction cause you are both taking your turns i do think it could be a good second date see how competitve they are and how they can laugh at themselves if they can that is
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  • pjl44pjl44 Posts: 9,475
    jojo wrote:
    bars can be loud and encourage excessive alchol consumption

    Go to a quiet bar on a weeknight. There are plenty of places where you can grab a table and a couple drinks and on a weeknight there's no pressure to stay out late.

    And you give excessive alcohol consumption such a negative connotation...
  • BoardroomJimmyBoardroomJimmy Posts: 55
    jojo wrote:
    I'm once agin getting back into the dating thing
    and am curious as to what a good first date is

    my thoughts are this

    a movie is not a good first date cause you can't really get to know someone no conversation

    dinner can be a bit stressful if you don't really get on too well

    bars can be loud and encourage excessive alchol consumption


    so what works for you guys and gals

    peace
    me and my gf's first date was to a Gallagher (yes, watermelon smashing guy) concert... we had a blast..

    and actually.. today is our 6th month anniversary of said night
  • jojojojo Posts: 645
    pjl44 wrote:
    Go to a quiet bar on a weeknight. There are plenty of places where you can grab a table and a couple drinks and on a weeknight there's no pressure to stay out late.

    And you give excessive alcohol consumption such a negative connotation...


    lol excessive alchol is great but i'm trying to wait til you know at least a third date for that haha

    the weeknight thing might work but i get up at 5 so it would def be a very early night


    thanks to all for the suggestions
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  • moxiemoxie Posts: 80
    jojo wrote:
    encourage excessive alchol consumption


    You're saying that is a bad thing?

    Alcohol is the only thing that can make a first date tolerable... and productive, in most cases.
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  • mookie9999mookie9999 Posts: 4,677
    BoardroomJimmy wrote:
    me and my gf's first date was to a Gallagher (yes, watermelon smashing guy) concert... we had a blast..

    and actually.. today is our 6th month anniversary of said night

    Six months?!?! After reading Gallagher I was thinking this date took place in 1984 or something!! ;) Congrats on the anniversary! Let me ask you though, does Gallagher still charge extra to be within the range of getting watermelon seeds shot up your nose?!? I know that when I took my dad to see him about 15 years ago you had to pay more to get shit on. Never understood that premise.
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  • LikeAnOceanLikeAnOcean Posts: 7,718
    I'm sticking with this plan.. date #2 is tomorrow..

    Date 1. -Bar for a few drinks
    Date 2. -Out for dinner, maybe something else if it goes really good..
    Date 3. -Out for dinner and movie.
    Date 4. -Invite person over for dinner and a rental..
    Date 5. -If you make it this far, good luck! :)
  • normnorm Posts: 31,146
    mookie9999 wrote:
    Six months?!?! After reading Gallagher I was thinking this date took place in 1984 or something!! ; ) Congrats on the anniversary! Let me ask you though, does Gallagher still charge extra to be within the range of getting watermelon seeds shot up your nose?!? I know that when I took my dad to see him about 15 years ago you had to pay more to get shit on. Never understood that premise.


    ok so it wasn't just me that thought the same thing....:p :D:D

    and was it gallagher or his brother? :eek: :p
  • Heineken HelenHeineken Helen Posts: 18,095
    jojo wrote:
    lol excessive alchol is great but i'm trying to wait til you know at least a third date for that haha

    the weeknight thing might work but i get up at 5 so it would def be a very early night


    thanks to all for the suggestions
    pretty much all my dates have been in bars/pubs... that's just what we do over here. You'd rarely hear of someone going to dinner for a first date :eek: that's like a nightmare. Besides there are plenty of different kinds of bars... some are quite romantic... lights dimmed, fire, lots of different snugs and secluded corners and stuff.
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  • JennytreeJennytree Posts: 5,340
    I like heading to the cinema first - it rules out that awkward silence I always seem to get myself into. You can tell a lot from a cinema date!

    I wouldn't be in too much of a rush to go on my own to meet someone else, unless I knew their friends/my friends would be there. Just at the start anywho.

    I miss those dates :(
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  • chimechime Posts: 7,839
    What about a couple of drinks in a bar and then if you like the way things are going suggest moving on to grab dinner??

    If it's not going to well make your excuses and leave after the couple of drinks.
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  • Sian-of-the-deadSian-of-the-dead Posts: 8,963
    My best first date consisted of an early dinner (about half 5/6ish), a movie then pub and last train home.... t'was perfec! :D
    Been to this many PJ shows: Reading 2006 London 2007 Manchester & London 2009 Dublin, Belfast, London, Nijmegen & Berlin 2010 Manchester 1 & Manchester 2 2012...

    ... and I still think Drive-By Truckers are better.
  • Heineken HelenHeineken Helen Posts: 18,095
    Jennytree wrote:
    I like heading to the cinema first - it rules out that awkward silence I always seem to get myself into. You can tell a lot from a cinema date!

    I wouldn't be in too much of a rush to go on my own to meet someone else, unless I knew their friends/my friends would be there. Just at the start anywho.

    I miss those dates :(
    You really have to pick the film wisely though... 12's is a good choice :D cos ya don't know him... he might be easily embarrassed, might not, who knows?

    I find DRINK rules out the awkward silences :D . It's only recently that I've started going on kinda grown up dates, like the past 3 years or so... it used to ALWAYS be 'well I'm heading out with my friends Saturday night if ya wanna meet up and bring some friends along' :D so yeh, your first date turns into a bit of a party :D but the last few guys have usually been just me and him and drink
    The Astoria??? Orgazmic!
    Verona??? it's all surmountable
    Dublin 23.08.06 "The beauty of Ireland, right there!"
    Wembley? We all believe!
    Copenhagen?? your light made us stars
    Chicago 07? And love
    What a different life
    Had I not found this love with you
  • upina2001upina2001 Posts: 764
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  • JennytreeJennytree Posts: 5,340
    Heineken Helen wrote:
    You really have to pick the film wisely though... 12's is a good choice :D cos ya don't know him... he might be easily embarrassed, might not, who knows?

    I find DRINK rules out the awkward silences :D . It's only recently that I've started going on kinda grown up dates, like the past 3 years or so... it used to ALWAYS be 'well I'm heading out with my friends Saturday night if ya wanna meet up and bring some friends along' :D so yeh, your first date turns into a bit of a party :D but the last few guys have usually been just me and him and drink

    yeah, I remember the first date with one boy - we went to see "Inside I'm Dancing", some horribly depressing film about a dude in a wheelchair and his mate. Then after we had the most disgusting McDonalds ever (he wouldn't bring me to Eddie's), where he then proceeded to make fun of mentally disabled people. Just after that, I found a big lump of fat in a chicken burger and nearly got sick.
    Jaysis, that dude was one bad date after another *shudders*
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  • Heineken HelenHeineken Helen Posts: 18,095
    Jennytree wrote:
    yeah, I remember the first date with one boy - we went to see "Inside I'm Dancing", some horribly depressing film about a dude in a wheelchair and his mate. Then after we had the most disgusting McDonalds ever (he wouldn't bring me to Eddie's), where he then proceeded to make fun of mentally disabled people. Just after that, I found a big lump of fat in a chicken burger and nearly got sick.
    Jaysis, that dude was one bad date after another *shudders*
    hahaha... you went back for more? :eek:

    Ya think that's bad? I remember a first date where the film we wanted was sold out so we agreed on '24 hour party people' thinking 'it's steve coogan, it'll be funny'. Well it was just sex scene after sex scene and people running around naked almost constantly... GREAT first date if ya wanna get drink, popcorn and a porno :D
    The Astoria??? Orgazmic!
    Verona??? it's all surmountable
    Dublin 23.08.06 "The beauty of Ireland, right there!"
    Wembley? We all believe!
    Copenhagen?? your light made us stars
    Chicago 07? And love
    What a different life
    Had I not found this love with you
  • Sian-of-the-deadSian-of-the-dead Posts: 8,963
    Jennytree wrote:
    yeah, I remember the first date with one boy - we went to see "Inside I'm Dancing", some horribly depressing film about a dude in a wheelchair and his mate. Then after we had the most disgusting McDonalds ever (he wouldn't bring me to Eddie's), where he then proceeded to make fun of mentally disabled people. Just after that, I found a big lump of fat in a chicken burger and nearly got sick.
    Jaysis, that dude was one bad date after another *shudders*

    oh Jenny darling! he sounds simply perfect for you! ;):p lol

    May I just reiterate what Helen said: YOU WENT BACK FOR MORE?! :confused:
    Been to this many PJ shows: Reading 2006 London 2007 Manchester & London 2009 Dublin, Belfast, London, Nijmegen & Berlin 2010 Manchester 1 & Manchester 2 2012...

    ... and I still think Drive-By Truckers are better.
  • JennytreeJennytree Posts: 5,340
    Sian-of-the-dead wrote:
    oh Jenny darling! he sounds simply perfect for you! ;):p lol

    May I just reiterate what Helen said: YOU WENT BACK FOR MORE?! :confused:

    well, I was stoopid and kinda liked him (I don't even know why, I like my metalheads and he barely even heard of Greenday, was a GAA loving republican etc...) Looking back now, it nearly makes me heave. The icing on the cake was when he invited me over for dinner and cooked a roast chicken. I had to sit for 3 hours in the house while the chicken burnt and I felt like ripping my eyes out cos of the smoke... ew ew ew...
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  • Sian-of-the-deadSian-of-the-dead Posts: 8,963
    Jennytree wrote:
    well, I was stoopid and kinda liked him (I don't even know why, I like my metalheads and he barely even heard of Greenday, was a GAA loving republican etc...) Looking back now, it nearly makes me heave. The icing on the cake was when he invited me over for dinner and cooked a roast chicken. I had to sit for 3 hours in the house while the chicken burnt and I felt like ripping my eyes out cos of the smoke... ew ew ew...

    yeah I had one like that, god only knows what possessed me to see him again and again. We lasted about 4 dates... so glad I gots me a great one now though ;)
    Been to this many PJ shows: Reading 2006 London 2007 Manchester & London 2009 Dublin, Belfast, London, Nijmegen & Berlin 2010 Manchester 1 & Manchester 2 2012...

    ... and I still think Drive-By Truckers are better.
  • reversedarwinismreversedarwinism Posts: 1,151
    LikeAnOcean wrote:
    I'm sticking with this plan.. date #2 is tomorrow..

    Date 1. -Bar for a few drinks
    Date 2. -Out for dinner, maybe something else if it goes really good..
    Date 3. -Out for dinner and movie.
    Date 4. -Invite person over for dinner and a rental..
    Date 5. -If you make it this far, good luck! :)

    sounds pretty good. I always went with the "six pack at my house" or her house. Always seemed to do well, less formal plan, more .... to the point.
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  • GreenTeaDiseaseGreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
    hmm casual dinner? like at a diner or something? with my last boyfriend our first date was actually a three hour meal at a fancy sushi restaurant! Um, lunch is good. Lunch on a weekend is good because you can either end it after lunch or if you're having fun go for a walk or something after. I've a had a few good ones like that. and if you walk around where there are record stores or something and you walk in it gives you something to talk about and you can learn about the person like that.
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