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Motown322

antperlsjam wrote:

Then we go out for her birthday dinner with her friends and the bill for the tow of us came and she asked me what we should do and I suggested splitting it. I already spent $400 on your stinnking ass last week and now Im broke because of it.

Bad move, brother... I know you'd already dropped $400 for her birthday, but making her pay for her dinner on her birthday IN FRONT OF HER FRIENDS is an amateur hour move. If it was just the two of you alone at dinner, you probably get away with it. She's probably upset that you looked like a cheap ass and she looked like someone who was dating a cheap ass in front of her friends.

Sucks to hear... I know what it's like getting dumped... but let this be a lesson learned.

Get_Right

antperlsjam wrote:

Thanks for the support. I haven't been on the board in a while. We only went out for a few months. Since the end of september. It's for the best I think. Last week was her birthday, I took her out for dinner, stayed in a hotel over night, we went on a sleigh ride and I even bought her ice skates. I spent almost $400. Then we go out for her birthday dinner with her friends and the bill for the tow of us came and she asked me what we should do and I suggested splitting it. I already spent $400 on your stinnking ass last week and now Im broke because of it. Then we go out with her friends to the local pub and her friends are being all lame and not very social which in turn made me that way and not fun to be around. So we get home the next day and she lays into me about how embarssed she was to hacve to pay for her own dinner for her birthday and how she expected me to have had a better attitude while we were out. Shit what was I supposed to do? I apologize up and down. I go to work that night and start asking my friends their opinion on whether or not I was obligated to pay and everyperson I asked said no. What do you guys think. Now last night she says this isnt working out. WTF. I dont want to be with a petty bitch like that anyway. F' Her. I'm going to a 70's costume party tonight and I am going to get funky

Well I think that the dude is expected to pay on her birthday-especially in front of her friends-reaching for the purse on her birthday? No wonder she got turned off-because that is kinda tacky.


That being said, it shouldnt be a deal breaker and if that was enough for her to break up, then she is shallow and you have just been spared months, maybe even years of misery.

Now go out and get some strange so I can live vicariously.

And dont listen to Mookie, go with the Huggy Bear outfit.

GreenTeaDisease

Motown322 wrote:

Bad move, brother... I know you'd already dropped $400 for her birthday, but making her pay for her dinner on her birthday IN FRONT OF HER FRIENDS is an amateur hour move. If it was just the two of you alone at dinner, you probably get away with it. She's probably upset that you looked like a cheap ass and she looked like someone who was dating a cheap ass in front of her friends.

Sucks to hear... I know what it's like getting dumped... but let this be a lesson learned.

even if it were a cheap move it's not something to dump someone over. I don't think that's the only reason.

Motown322

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

even if it were a cheap move it's not something to dump someone over. I don't think that's the only reason.

Oh, I completely agree... it certainly doesn't help matters. Tacky move to be sure, though.

mookie9999

Get_Right wrote:

And dont listen to Mookie, go with the Huggy Bear outfit.

Word on the street is, the costume shops are all sold out of Huggy Bear outfits on account of the annual pimp convention. You dig?

AmentsChick

DaytimeDilemma wrote:

So she's single then?


PM me her digits.

Ouch...but HAHAHAHAHA!

Get_Right

mookie9999 wrote:

Word on the street is, the costume shops are all sold out of Huggy Bear outfits on account of the annual pimp convention. You dig?

Dig it man.
Figures, only lime green left, all out of orange crush.

And cyrus says he wants no one packed.

mookie9999

Get_Right wrote:

Dig it man.
Figures, only lime green left, all out of orange crush.

And cyrus says he wants no one packed.

genie

enjoy your single time man, go out and get some.........

Stone Is God

Hotel: $129.00

Dinner $95.00

Skates: $75.00

Getting dumped by a good for nothing piece of trailer park trash: priceless


Fuck her dude, you don't need it. If she's going to give you shit about spliting the bill on her 2nd birthday dinner after you took her out for a great night FOR HER BIRTHDAY, fuck her. You went out with her friends for that dinner why couldn't they chip in to buy her the meal. What's up with that?

Sounds to me she's selfish and spoiled and you're better off without her.

antperlsjam

Get_Right wrote:

Well I think that the dude is expected to pay on her birthday-especially in front of her friends-reaching for the purse on her birthday? No wonder she got turned off-because that is kinda tacky.

Her birthday was the week before when I took her out. this was when her friends could take her out. IMO her friends should have paid. I took the day off of work and had my parents watch my puppy for the night just so I could go. I already did something for her birthday paying again is total B.S. If it was her birthday I would have paid no questions asked.

Stone Is God

antperlsjam wrote:

Her birthday was the week before when I took her out. this was when her friends could take her out. IMO her friends should have paid. I took the day off of work and had my parents watch my puppy for the night just so I could go. I already did something for her birthday paying again is total B.S. If it was her birthday I would have paid no questions asked.

Fucking exactly. Don't feel bad man. You don't need it.

genie

antperlsjam wrote:

Thanks for the support. I haven't been on the board in a while. We only went out for a few months. Since the end of september. It's for the best I think. Last week was her birthday, I took her out for dinner, stayed in a hotel over night, we went on a sleigh ride and I even bought her ice skates. I spent almost $400. Then we go out for her birthday dinner with her friends and the bill for the tow of us came and she asked me what we should do and I suggested splitting it. I already spent $400 on your stinnking ass last week and now Im broke because of it. Then we go out with her friends to the local pub and her friends are being all lame and not very social which in turn made me that way and not fun to be around. So we get home the next day and she lays into me about how embarssed she was to hacve to pay for her own dinner for her birthday and how she expected me to have had a better attitude while we were out. Shit what was I supposed to do? I apologize up and down. I go to work that night and start asking my friends their opinion on whether or not I was obligated to pay and everyperson I asked said no. What do you guys think. Now last night she says this isnt working out. WTF. I dont want to be with a petty bitch like that anyway. F' Her. I'm going to a 70's costume party tonight and I am going to get funky

so the money was her ONLY reason??? what an idiot! she is going to throw away something good for money? what a cow....oh well good for me and all the other women who are going to get men like you

trust me you don't need her in your life, that money sponger

Get_Right

antperlsjam wrote:

Her birthday was the week before when I took her out. this was when her friends could take her out. IMO her friends should have paid. I took the day off of work and had my parents watch my puppy for the night just so I could go. I already did something for her birthday paying again is total B.S. If it was her birthday I would have paid no questions asked.

Doesnt matter-that you already did something.

It was a birthday dinner in her honor and she had to reach for the wallet in front of her friends-she was embarrassed, and that was the problem. The image you project reflects on her.

I think it should have been split evenly, but there is no way she should be reaching for that wallet -if her friends didnt man up, than you should have.

And never take a woman out for a meal if your not prepared to pay the entire check-if you cant afford it be upfront about it.


As I said, she is wrong for breaking up for this, and it exposed her as shallow.

genie

Get_Right wrote:

Doesnt matter-that you already did something.

It was a birthday dinner in her honor and she had to reach for the wallet in front of her friends-she was embarrassed, and that was the problem. The image you project reflects on her.

I think it should have been split evenly, but there is no way she should be reaching for that wallet -if her friends didnt man up, than you should have.

And never take a woman out for a meal if your not prepared to pay the entire check-if you cant afford it be upfront about it.


As I said, she is wrong for breaking up for this, and it exposed her as shallow.

dude why? why do you think like this? just becuase you are a guy doesn't mean you should fucking pay for a woman every time. i mean why such rules....hell, if i was a guy i'd mighty pissed off for wasting my money on every woman that i meet.

as for image he pojected, so what?if i like a guy a lot i wouldn't give a shit what everyone else thought of him. also is he not allowed to have his bad days when he's feeling not very sociable?

Get_Right

genie wrote:

dude why? why do you think like this? just becuase you are a guy doesn't mean you should fucking pay for a woman every time. i mean why such rules....hell, if i was a guy i'd mighty pissed off for wasting my money on every woman that i meet.

Call me old fashioned, but thats how I see it, especially if they are a "new" couple and, you should talk about it before-if you cant swing dinner, then politely decline, or suggest something else. Dont show up expecting that someone else will pay and then hit your date up for cash when it did not play out like you thought it would. Thats your fault and tacky IMHO. Perhaps he should have said, any idea if this place is expensive? Im a little strapped for cash after last week. Honesty is always a better way to go.

genie wrote:

as for image he pojected, so what?if i like a guy a lot i wouldn't give a shit what everyone else thought of him. also is he not allowed to have his bad days when he's feeling not very sociable?

Sounds like it was a bit too soon in the relationship for her to think about ditching her friends for this dude. Like I said, he should have declined and or talked about it before.

This may come as a shock to you, but there are women out there that expect men to pay for everything-sounds like she is one of those-I dont agree with what she did, but I most certainly understand why she may have been put off for good-he did not handle it well IMHO.

genie

Get_Right wrote:

Call me old fashioned, but thats how I see it, especially if they are a "new" couple and, you should talk about it before-if you cant swing dinner, then politely decline, or suggest something else. Dont show up expecting that someone else will pay and then hit your date up for cash when it did not play out like you thought it would. Thats your fault and tacky IMHO. Perhaps he should have said, any idea if this place is expensive? Im a little strapped for cash after last week. Honesty is always a better way to go.

Sounds like it was a bit too soon in the relationship for her to think about ditching her friends for this dude. Like I said, he should have declined and or talked about it before.

This may come as a shock to you, but there are women out there that expect men to pay for everything-sounds like she is one of those-I dont agree with what she did, but I most certainly understand why she may have been put off for good-he did not handle it well IMHO.

nah, it doesn't come to me as a surprise....that bitches like that exist.

i don't know, but if i was going out with a guy and he told me he couldn't go because he didn't have any money then i would've still asked him to come with me and i would've paid for his drinks... so i would've insisted upon him turning up because i would've wanted to spend my time with him. we could've just bought two drinks, and that would've been enough for me.

and who says she should ditch her friends for this guy? can't women have friends and have a boyfriend at the same time? however if i knew my friends were full of crap i'd ditch them!

i think the OP handled it ok, i mean i wasn't there so i can't say for sure. but from what i've read in here what he's done is ok by me.

antperlsjam

Get_Right wrote:

Call me old fashioned, but thats how I see it, especially if they are a "new" couple and, you should talk about it before-if you cant swing dinner, then politely decline, or suggest something else. Dont show up expecting that someone else will pay and then hit your date up for cash when it did not play out like you thought it would. Thats your fault and tacky IMHO. Perhaps he should have said, any idea if this place is expensive? Im a little strapped for cash after last week. Honesty is always a better way to go.




Sounds like it was a bit too soon in the relationship for her to think about ditching her friends for this dude. Like I said, he should have declined and or talked about it before.

This may come as a shock to you, but there are women out there that expect men to pay for everything-sounds like she is one of those-I dont agree with what she did, but I most certainly understand why she may have been put off for good-he did not handle it well IMHO.

First off before we went out I told her I was strapped for cash. Secondly we split the check, its not like I showed up with an empty wallet, thirdly it was at unos so it wasnt expensive, fourthly its the principal that pisses me off not the money. I spent $400 the week before on her BDAY this was a party from her friends they should have paid

SPEEDY MCCREADY

antperlsjam wrote:

First off before we went out I told her I was strapped for cash. Secondly we split the check, its not like I showed up with an empty wallet, thirdly it was at unos so it wasnt expensive, fourthly its the principal that pisses me off not the money. I spent $400 the week before on her BDAY this was a party from her friends they should have paid

move on...

you did nothing wrong..........

i wouldnt waste another minute of my life thinking about this girl if i were you.....

because she obviously isnt thinking about you.......

genie

antperlsjam wrote:

First off before we went out I told her I was strapped for cash. Secondly we split the check, its not like I showed up with an empty wallet, thirdly it was at unos so it wasnt expensive, fourthly its the principal that pisses me off not the money. I spent $400 the week before on her BDAY this was a party from her friends they should have paid

i agree with you completely, don't even waste your time thinking about her whatever you've paid for her or done for her she is not worth it

Get Right is old fashioned, he is going to remind me of my dad any time now women's expectations should change, and you guys need to help them with that!