My dog is just....broken

duggroduggro Posts: 1,343
edited June 2008 in All Encompassing Trip
i cant deal with this!

my dog has had a bad front right leg over the last 6 months due to nerve problems and the vets had decided it needed to come off. We had come to terms with it, and i think my dog had too (as weird as that sounds)- what i mean is she didnt use the bad leg at all anyways, so she would cope well with 3.

Then, last week i run upstairs to get my shoes and i hear her starting to follow me up which isnt usually a problem for her, just a little strenuous, so i dart back to come back down to save her wasting her time. Before i do though i hear her stumble after 5 or 6 steps and then tumble down and fall. I thought she was fine just feeling stupid but she has fucked her back right leg.

The vet thinks she either has disc problems or a degenerative disease, but I cant deal with the fact that this happened so quickly! its so fucked up!

She just lies and cries now. You lift her outside to go to the toilet and she just lies on the grass and doesnt move. She woke me up this morning with her crying and had wet herself on the floor without moving away at all.

She is a shadow of herself and i think we are all avoiding the inevitable which is going to rear its ugly head soon but i dont think i could cope with that. I'm not overly emotional, I never cried at funerals really, i tend to not show it, but this wee dog has already made me cry my eyes out and i will be a mess when she's gone. she's just gone to the vets again and all i can think about is the point where she aint gonna come back.

I know people have much bigger problems in the grand scheme of life and a pet may seem insignificant in comparison, but MY GOD i didnt think I could be so fucked up emotionally over an animal.

sorry but i needed to vent so bad
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  • South of SeattleSouth of Seattle West Seattle Posts: 10,724
    Sorry to hear that :(

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  • surfanddestroysurfanddestroy Posts: 2,786
    Poor doggy, I don’t know what I would do if this happened to my dog, I would be heart broken. I really sympathise with you.
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  • This made me genuinely upset. I know what it's like to have to lose a dog, 'part of the family', 'it's what's best for him', bla bla bla.. You've heard all the cliches so I won't bore you with them but just to say this is hard and you're in my thoughts mate.
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  • chimechime Posts: 7,839
    I'm so sorry :(

    Watching your pet suffer and knowing what is coming is a horrible thing to have to go through ... and pets are not insignificant in the grand scheme of life ... we spend more time on a day to day basis with them then we do most people in our lives :o
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  • FifthelementFifthelement Lotusland Posts: 6,963
    I am so sorry that you and your dog are suffering right now. My thoughts are with you both. It's amazing how these furry beasts wiggle their way into our hearts. I went through something very similar last year but with my cat . . . there isn't a day that goes by without me thinking of her:( :)

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  • duggroduggro Posts: 1,343
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  • duggroduggro Posts: 1,343
    thanks everyone!

    she's gone for a myelogram just now to see if its a disc problem, but who knows what the result will be


    whatever happens, its going to be whats best for her so i'm content with that fact. we'll be more miserable if we prolong any suffering unnecessarily


    look at her though. she's frickin awesome!

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  • josevolutionjosevolution Posts: 30,215
    oh shit that sucks i hope you can get her some kind of help & comfort i love my pets specially my dog ......
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  • duggro wrote:
    thanks everyone!

    she's gone for a myelogram just now to see if its a disc problem, but who knows what the result will be


    whatever happens, its going to be whats best for her so i'm content with that fact. we'll be more miserable if we prolong any suffering unnecessarily


    look at her though. she's frickin awesome!

    http://img224.imagevenue.com/img.php?image=82950_elle_122_206lo.jpg

    She certainly is. :)
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  • SENROCKSENROCK Posts: 10,736
    duggro wrote:
    I know people have much bigger problems in the grand scheme of life and a pet may seem insignificant in comparison, but MY GOD i didnt think I could be so fucked up emotionally over an animal.

    sorry but i needed to vent so bad
    Who cares about "much bigger problems"? If you ask me, THIS is huge. :(
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  • JaneNYJaneNY Posts: 4,438
    Oh I am so sorry. She is beautiful.
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  • DeLukinDeLukin Posts: 2,757
    SENROCK! wrote:
    Who cares about "much bigger problems"? If you ask me, THIS is huge. :(

    Yea, it's always the people without pets who cast judgement on those of us who love them like family and grieve when they're sick or ill. I feel so sorry for you. Life is definitely sad sometimes...
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  • vedder_soupvedder_soup Posts: 5,861
    it was pretty sad when we had our last dog put down, but she had lived a long life, and was suffering alot. We don't think any pain, she never cried, but it got to the point she could not walk, and could hardly stand... :(
    it is hard to watch them suffer, as it hurts you as well :(
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  • TrixieCatTrixieCat Posts: 5,756
    I am so sorry you and your pup are going through this. :(
    She really is sooooo beautiful.
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  • corduroidcorduroid Posts: 293
    Some of our tightest spiritual bonds are with close animals ... I feel ya.

    best wishes
  • libragirllibragirl Posts: 4,632
    I'm so sorry about your dog, I know what you are going through. :(
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  • duggroduggro Posts: 1,343
    right, i'm crying like a sissy but the vet says she has spinal damage. it can be operated on but its risky and will lead to weeks of recovery in the vets kennels. if after this all is well, she will still need her major operation to get her leg removed and i really dont think she could take it

    putting her through this would be more for us trying to hold on to her and i dont think we can do that to her. the vet has recommended putting her down and i think we are going to do that.

    we're gonna ask for it to be done at home with us around rather than in some place she doesnt know and where she would be afraid

    she's just a poor wee soul and i hate nature for making her suffer. she's been nothing but truly loving and loyal and this is how she ends up.

    i'm crying but i just want to punch a fucking wall, but i know it'll do no good. tried to be strong but just broke down when i phoned my sister who is away in london and told her the news.

    cheers for the support though, it really does mean a lot.
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  • ChazzChazz Posts: 1,141
    wow, this is so sad, my heart goes out to you
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  • WobbieWobbie Posts: 30,436
    duggro wrote:
    right, i'm crying like a sissy but the vet says she has spinal damage. it can be operated on but its risky and will lead to weeks of recovery in the vets kennels. if after this all is well, she will still need her major operation to get her leg removed and i really dont think she could take it

    putting her through this would be more for us trying to hold on to her and i dont think we can do that to her. the vet has recommended putting her down and i think we are going to do that.

    we're gonna ask for it to be done at home with us around rather than in some place she doesnt know and where she would be afraid

    she's just a poor wee soul and i hate nature for making her suffer. she's been nothing but truly loving and loyal and this is how she ends up.

    i'm crying but i just want to punch a fucking wall, but i know it'll do no good. tried to be strong but just broke down when i phoned my sister who is away in london and told her the news.

    cheers for the support though, it really does mean a lot.

    Dude, I am so, so sorry. We just went through this one month ago with our 13 year old Golden :( I totally understand your crying and wanting to punch a wall. I was the same way. You have done all you can for your sweet pooch. One way or another, they go before we do. We were able to do it at home. It was still awful but at least there's no scary trip to the vet.

    I won't lie to you... your house will feel incredibly empty and there will be a huge void. We got a new puppy 5 days ago but the void left by Shelby is still there. The people on this board helped me a lot. Also, my wife's friends were awesome. They descended on our house as if a person had died. In a lot of ways, it's worse than a person because your dog is your 24/7 friend and wants nothing but to please you.

    I think you need to let her go. We didn't want any more pain for our girl, either. This is gonna suck but you'll get through it. Feel free to PM me. Like I said, I totally understand. :(
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  • sarah vesarah ve Posts: 43
    This is just heartbreaking. I am so sorry and I am sending vibes of strength your way. I have had my westie since I was 11 years old, 13 years... Time is starting to wear on him. He had a similar problem in his back leg and one point lost all control of it, then for a short time couldnt move either of his back legs.They said it was nerve damage but never really said for certain why it was happening. They wanted to do all this stuff to him, and we got him acupuncture and gave him this medicine and everything and he got worse and worse and then out of nowhere got better. You do what is right for you regardless of the vet and everyone else. My dog would have been put down several years ago had I let them, he is old but he is functioning and healthy. My heart goes out to you.
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  • duggroduggro Posts: 1,343
    imalive wrote:
    Dude, I am so, so sorry. We just went through this one month ago with our 13 year old Golden :( I totally understand your crying and wanting to punch a wall. I was the same way. You have done all you can for your sweet pooch. One way or another, they go before we do. We were able to do it at home. It was still awful but at least there's no scary trip to the vet.

    I won't lie to you... your house will feel incredibly empty and there will be a huge void. We got a new puppy 5 days ago but the void left by Shelby is still there. The people on this board helped me a lot. Also, my wife's friends were awesome. They descended on our house as if a person had died. In a lot of ways, it's worse than a person because your dog is your 24/7 friend and wants nothing but to please you.

    I think you need to let her go. We didn't want any more pain for our girl, either. This is gonna suck but you'll get through it. Feel free to PM me. Like I said, I totally understand. :(

    yeah im prepared for the void and i know its gonna suck big time. last spaniel died at the grand old age of 14 when i was a kid and i remember how strange it was afterwards

    just a bit gutted cos this has all really gone downhill in the space of a week and she is only 9! what sort of age is that for a dog to die?

    cheers for the support though
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  • SENROCKSENROCK Posts: 10,736
    duggro wrote:

    putting her through this would be more for us trying to hold on to her and i dont think we can do that to her. the vet has recommended putting her down and i think we are going to do that.
    Thats ALWAYS the hardest part. The decision. You love them and dont want them to suffer, yet YOU will be suffering too! :( Believe me when I say, nexxxt month will be a year and i still feel as if it were yesterday. Your pain is shared here by many. :)
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  • WobbieWobbie Posts: 30,436
    sarah ve wrote:
    My dog would have been put down several years ago had I let them, he is old but he is functioning and healthy. My heart goes out to you.

    I didn't mean to "play God." Duggro will know what to do. I'm glad your doggie is still around!! :D
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  • Cree NationsCree Nations Posts: 2,247
    sorry to hear that. Take care of the poor little fella and give him or her lots of love.
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  • normnorm Posts: 31,146
    duggro i'm truly sorry.....my heart goes out to you....stay strong
  • myhookmyhook Posts: 284
    I feel so bad for you. I was never a dog lover growing up and in 6th grade I got attacked by a German Shepard pretty bad. I was riding my skateboard down the street when out of nowhere this dog came busting out of a garage and knocked me down it went right for my face and luckily I happened to have a cast on my arm to protect myself with. I finally got the dog off and ran into someones house. The doc told me if I didn't have a cast on i wouldn't have a left arm now or worse my face would be torn up. But anyway, when my wife and I got married 3 years ago she always wanted a dog and I am still to this day a little shaken but we ended up getting a Yorkie / Poodle mix. And I have to tell you I would take a bullet for this little guy. I can't describe the feeling I have for him. It is such a great feeling to come home from work and he is super excited to see you (I wish my wife was like that...HA!!). He actually broke his front leg in January. We have no idea how he did it. But he is all good now. Here is a pic of him in his cast:
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  • PJaddictedPJaddicted Posts: 1,432
    duggro wrote:
    right, i'm crying like a sissy but the vet says she has spinal damage. it can be operated on but its risky and will lead to weeks of recovery in the vets kennels. if after this all is well, she will still need her major operation to get her leg removed and i really dont think she could take it

    putting her through this would be more for us trying to hold on to her and i dont think we can do that to her. the vet has recommended putting her down and i think we are going to do that.

    we're gonna ask for it to be done at home with us around rather than in some place she doesnt know and where she would be afraid

    she's just a poor wee soul and i hate nature for making her suffer. she's been nothing but truly loving and loyal and this is how she ends up.

    i'm crying but i just want to punch a fucking wall, but i know it'll do no good. tried to be strong but just broke down when i phoned my sister who is away in london and told her the news.

    cheers for the support though, it really does mean a lot.

    I am truly sorry. The pain you are feeling is totally real, it isn't "just a dog" it is YOUR dog. Loss is loss and it is huge when it is happening to YOU. You will feel great grief...this is normal....and so it anger. Love and hugs coming your way sweetie. Strength to do what you know in your heart is the right thing to do. I hope this poem can bring you some comfort.

    IF IT SHOULD BE

    If it should be that I grow weak
    And pain should keep me from my sleep,
    Then you must do what must be done,
    For this last battle cannot be won.

    You will be sad, I understand.
    Don't let your grief then stay your hand.
    For this day, more than all the rest,
    Your love for me must stand the test.

    We've had so many happy years.
    What is to come can hold no fears.
    You'd not want me to suffer so;
    The time has come -- please let me go.

    Take me where my need they'll tend,
    And please stay with me till the end.
    Hold me firm and speak to me,
    Until my eyes no longer see.

    I know in time that you will see
    The kindness that you did for me.
    Although my tail its last has waved,
    From pain and suffering I've been saved.

    Please do not grieve -- it must be you
    Who had this painful thing to do.
    We've been so close, we two, these years;
    Don't let your heart hold back its tears.

    --- Anonymous ---
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  • meisteredermeistereder Posts: 1,577
    :(

    My rule on this is kind of simple, but I think it is right. If an animal can't enjoy life anymore (eating is a big factor), then it might be time. Only you can tell when that time may be, but good vets are trained to give you their insight as to quality of life. Bad vets will tell you to keep an animal alive that should not be, just to make some dough.

    So... it is an important decision, but it has to be made if your dog is suffering. I have had to put three dogs down in my life, and it tears me apart every time. I am sorry.
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  • WobbieWobbie Posts: 30,436
    PJaddicted wrote:

    IF IT SHOULD BE

    If it should be that I grow weak
    And pain should keep me from my sleep,
    Then you must do what must be done,
    For this last battle cannot be won.

    You will be sad, I understand.
    Don't let your grief then stay your hand.
    For this day, more than all the rest,
    Your love for me must stand the test.

    We've had so many happy years.
    What is to come can hold no fears.
    You'd not want me to suffer so;
    The time has come -- please let me go.

    Take me where my need they'll tend,
    And please stay with me till the end.
    Hold me firm and speak to me,
    Until my eyes no longer see.

    I know in time that you will see
    The kindness that you did for me.
    Although my tail its last has waved,
    From pain and suffering I've been saved.

    Please do not grieve -- it must be you
    Who had this painful thing to do.
    We've been so close, we two, these years;
    Don't let your heart hold back its tears.

    --- Anonymous ---
    I had hoped to "keep my cheeks dry today." Oh, well. Thanks, nonetheless.
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  • gusturtlegusturtle Posts: 442
    My vet has this posted at her office, and I wanted to share in hopes it might help, if only just a little....


    A Dog's Plea

    Treat me kindly, my beloved friend, for no heart in all the world is more grateful than the loving heart of me.

    Do not break my spirit with a stick, for though I should lick your hand between blows, your patience and understanding will more quickly teach me the things you would have me learn.

    Speak to me often, for your voice is the world's sweetest music, as you must know by the fierce wagging of my tail when your footstep falls upon my waiting ear.

    Please take me inside when it is cold and wet, for I am a domesticated animal, no longer accustomed to bitter elements. I ask no greater glory than the privilege of sitting at your feet beside the hearth. Keep my pan filled with fresh water, for I cannot tell you when I suffer thirst.

    Feed me clean food that I may stay well, to romp and play and do your bidding, to walk by your side and stand ready, willing and able to protect you with my life, should your life be in danger.

    And, my friend, when I am very old, and I no longer enjoy good health, hearing and sight, do not make heroic efforts to keep me going. I am not having any fun. Please see that my trusting life is taken gently. I shall leave this earth knowing with the last breath that I draw that my fate was always safest in your hands.

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