why is life never easy?

_Crazy_Mary_

How old are you?
This is only my opinion, obviously, but I think you have some growing up to do or maybe at least some prioritizing. You need to have shelter over your head and food in your belly before you can start following a dream. Going to concerts shouldn't be 1st and foremost. You need money to follow your passion, so work needs to come before that.

Jeremy1012

radiohead33 wrote:

its just the idea I find funny thats all. My life, in terms of personal and recreation couldnt be going greater. I feel a part of a scene and movement for the first time since grunge died. I feel like all these bands are speaking to me and about me, and its a pretty special and important time I think. Precious almost. I will routinely check out books from the library, but for whatever reason never get around to them, sometimes checking them out 6 or 7 times. then finally when I read the books I prolonged its like some revelation, that its destiny to read these books at that moment. same with music, and film. happens all the time. Add to that finding myself, which to me was hugely important as I spent several years consumed with that hanging over my head every second of every day. but on the flip side, I have a job I dont see myself working at for much longer, but still have no idea how to get closer to my dream job in music. and as I said, the computer is about dead, and just bought my first apartment and am paying for food, rent and everything for the first time ever in my life, and its scary to wonder, what will happen when i need to move on from this job, which feels sooner rather than later. How do I deal with a lease? thats why I think they are useless, as are the job interview questions like "where do you see yourself in 5 years". and of course as I said, my job may force me to work later, meaning I will no longer attend concerts.

taking it easy, or chilling, may be the best advice I agree, but its easier said than done.

Oh, it's definitely easier said than done but it's worth trying, especially since you seem like the kind of person who is enthusiastic about his future and life in general. It's easy for another kind of person, a person like me perhaps, to be pessimistic whenever I'm in a shitty situation but it doesn't help and it just gets you down. You don't seem like that's your style, and that's a good thing. Fight for what you want. If you have a dream within music, go out and make it happen.

Out of curiosity though, how the fuck did you afford to buy an appartment?

catefrances

radiohead33 wrote:

i just thought once I found my calling that everything would be fine,

well be thankful youve found your calling(whatever that means). im sitting and realising the thing ive been aiming at for the past 4 years isnt what i want to do with my life. i truly feel im working towards this particular goal to fill in time. maybe its jitters maybe its something else. but whatever it is i have very little time to get my thoughts in line if this is what i want to do with the rest of my life.

TrixieCat

radiohead33 wrote:

i just thought once I found my calling that everything would be fine,

Once you find your calling it is usually more difficult for a while.
You can flounder around for a bit, doing this and that.
But once you find your "calling" it is for real now.
And sorry, but life will probably never be easy.

norm

life is supposed to be easy?

news to me

angie76

cutback wrote:

life is supposed to be easy?

news to me

ha..that's what I was saying.

musicismylife78

_Crazy_Mary_ wrote:

How old are you?
This is only my opinion, obviously, but I think you have some growing up to do or maybe at least some prioritizing. You need to have shelter over your head and food in your belly before you can start following a dream. Going to concerts shouldn't be 1st and foremost. You need money to follow your passion, so work needs to come before that.

what are priorities? who says what needs to be 1st or last in terms of priorities? I work, I pay rent, I buy food, I would say I am doing what I can.

but i am living the dream. I have a dream and for me, being in music, somehow, is my ultimate goal. For some it may be to do or be something else, but to suggest how I should conduct my life, is kinda ridiculous. How was I suggesting I didnt need money? This whole post is about it.

I found music to be my calling. I volunteer evey show at a local venue and moved into the apartments right next door. I am doing pretty much all I can in terms of trying to work my way up to my goal...

musicismylife78

Jeremy1012 wrote:

Oh, it's definitely easier said than done but it's worth trying, especially since you seem like the kind of person who is enthusiastic about his future and life in general. It's easy for another kind of person, a person like me perhaps, to be pessimistic whenever I'm in a shitty situation but it doesn't help and it just gets you down. You don't seem like that's your style, and that's a good thing. Fight for what you want. If you have a dream within music, go out and make it happen.

Out of curiosity though, how the fuck did you afford to buy an appartment?

haha, rent.

_Crazy_Mary_

radiohead33 wrote:

what are priorities? who says what needs to be 1st or last in terms of priorities? I work, I pay rent, I buy food, I would say I am doing what I can.

but i am living the dream. I have a dream and for me, being in music, somehow, is my ultimate goal. For some it may be to do or be something else, but to suggest how I should conduct my life, is kinda ridiculous. How was I suggesting I didnt need money? This whole post is about it.

I found music to be my calling. I volunteer evey show at a local venue and moved into the apartments right next door. I am doing pretty much all I can in terms of trying to work my way up to my goal...

early 20s at the oldest. right?
You're complaining about not being able to buy certain luxury items and that work may be cutting into your volunteer time and it'll be 1000 bones to fix your laptop. And all I'm saying is work first, then dream. Save money, pay bills, then follow your dream. You started the thread, I thought you were asking for advice, sorry for my input, didn't mean to be 'ridiculous.'

TrixieCat

radiohead33 wrote:

what are priorities? who says what needs to be 1st or last in terms of priorities? I work, I pay rent, I buy food, I would say I am doing what I can.

but i am living the dream. I have a dream and for me, being in music, somehow, is my ultimate goal. For some it may be to do or be something else, but to suggest how I should conduct my life, is kinda ridiculous. How was I suggesting I didnt need money? This whole post is about it.

I found music to be my calling. I volunteer evey show at a local venue and moved into the apartments right next door. I am doing pretty much all I can in terms of trying to work my way up to my goal...

A tv is not a priority.

Jeremy1012

TrixieCat wrote:

A tv is not a priority.

Rent > Alcohol > Food > Internet > TV

This is gospel.

TrixieCat

Jeremy1012 wrote:

Rent > Alcohol > Food > Internet > TV

This is gospel.

Rent>Alcohol>Cute Shoes>Food

Indifference71

Is this a serious thread?

Everyone has issues. Deal with it.

EvilMerlin

radiohead33 wrote:

what are priorities? who says what needs to be 1st or last in terms of priorities? I work, I pay rent, I buy food, I would say I am doing what I can.

but i am living the dream. I have a dream and for me, being in music, somehow, is my ultimate goal. For some it may be to do or be something else, but to suggest how I should conduct my life, is kinda ridiculous. How was I suggesting I didnt need money? This whole post is about it.

I found music to be my calling. I volunteer evey show at a local venue and moved into the apartments right next door. I am doing pretty much all I can in terms of trying to work my way up to my goal...

Why are you turning down every person that tries to speak their mind to you? That's where everyone is getting the idea that you're immature with life right now and that your priorities aren't straight.

That, and that you're willing to quit your job just so you can go to concerts...

I'd love to be able to go to a concert, but I haven't been able to since July, and yes, it's eating away at me.

Join the party. Now I'm going to four shows in four nights coming up because I'm finally getting some time off and I'm allowed to go home for the first time in two months. I'm currently trying to find a way to get back full time before christmas again, and that's my goal.

Music is my passion as well, but guess what? You need to support your life and lifestyle before you can pursue your passion(in most cases)

Sometimes the mainstream hollywood success story of suffer suffer suffer, and then I all of a sudden found 'my calling' is just setting up the masses for failure.

Hang in there, you gotta sink the second you jump into the deep end before you get yourself balanced out again and can start to swim.

My life, and my family knowing I'm alive, don't need help, I'm healthy, and that I'm back in a position where I can help them and support them with anything they need again comes before fulfilling myself with entertainment and material items.

You stated about being apart of a scene, or movement, and that you need a tv and dvd player and laptop, and that you might not go to concerts. This doesn't seem like a calling, this seems like a want to be entertained and a need to be recognized.

I did not mean for that to be offensive, if it came off that way, I apologize.

norm

EvilMerlin wrote:

Why are you turning down every person that tries to speak their mind to you? That's where everyone is getting the idea that you're immature with life right now and that your priorities aren't straight.

That, and that you're willing to quit your job just so you can go to concerts...

I'd love to be able to go to a concert, but I haven't been able to since July, and yes, it's eating away at me.

Join the party. Now I'm going to four shows in four nights coming up because I'm finally getting some time off and I'm allowed to go home for the first time in two months. I'm currently trying to find a way to get back full time before christmas again, and that's my goal.

Music is my passion as well, but guess what? You need to support your life and lifestyle before you can pursue your passion(in most cases)

Sometimes the mainstream hollywood success story of suffer suffer suffer, and then I all of a sudden found 'my calling' is just setting up the masses for failure.

Hang in there, you gotta sink the second you jump into the deep end before you get yourself balanced out again and can start to swim.

My life, and my family knowing I'm alive, don't need help, I'm healthy, and that I'm back in a position where I can help them and support them with anything they need again comes before fulfilling myself with entertainment and material items.

You stated about being apart of a scene, or movement, and that you need a tv and dvd player and laptop, and that you might not go to concerts. This doesn't seem like a calling, this seems like a want to be entertained and a need to be recognized.

I did not mean for that to be offensive, if it came off that way, I apologize.

excellent...well said!

Drop The Leash 10

EvilMerlin wrote:

Why are you turning down every person that tries to speak their mind to you? That's where everyone is getting the idea that you're immature with life right now and that your priorities aren't straight.

That, and that you're willing to quit your job just so you can go to concerts...

I'd love to be able to go to a concert, but I haven't been able to since July, and yes, it's eating away at me.

Join the party. Now I'm going to four shows in four nights coming up because I'm finally getting some time off and I'm allowed to go home for the first time in two months. I'm currently trying to find a way to get back full time before christmas again, and that's my goal.

Music is my passion as well, but guess what? You need to support your life and lifestyle before you can pursue your passion(in most cases)

Sometimes the mainstream hollywood success story of suffer suffer suffer, and then I all of a sudden found 'my calling' is just setting up the masses for failure.

Hang in there, you gotta sink the second you jump into the deep end before you get yourself balanced out again and can start to swim.

My life, and my family knowing I'm alive, don't need help, I'm healthy, and that I'm back in a position where I can help them and support them with anything they need again comes before fulfilling myself with entertainment and material items.

You stated about being apart of a scene, or movement, and that you need a tv and dvd player and laptop, and that you might not go to concerts. This doesn't seem like a calling, this seems like a want to be entertained and a need to be recognized.

I did not mean for that to be offensive, if it came off that way, I apologize.

*applauds*

musicismylife78

yeah I guess your right. Ignore feelings that i found myself, ignore the feelings I get when around music and listening to it. Ignore the feelings of being at peace around it. And ignore all of that. Because there is just one way to do things after all. Going to concerts is silly. wow what a relief that was to come out and say that!

After all I am just wanting to be entertained and want some attention.

cool thanks. I didnt even need to post on this board! Clears it all up!

musicismylife78

Drop The Leash 10 wrote:

*applauds*

so when all of this happens to you all, or friends, you belittle them and call them attention whores and tell them they are desperate for recognition? you mock them and act rude to them?

I find it incredibly annoying I prefaced this with :dont post here if you arent going to discuss the topic. People forgot that, and started attacking me!

what makes you think any type of advice will register at all with me if its done in a rather rude way, and calling me names sure doesnt help

And I didnt shoot down anyone! If someone tells me I have wrong priorities I sure as hell aint gonna go "yeah your right". Would you? If you tell someone they have wrong priorities it really isnt a nice comment to make.

musicismylife78

cutback wrote:

excellent...well said!

well considering I dont have a wife, kids or any type of major bills besides rent, I would say its not like I am abandoning my life.

I work so I can go to concerts. If thats crazy, its crazy. But you do what you have to do. If you are interested in something I say follow the dream.

As I said, I am interested in music, so I thought the best way to satiate that and maybe work my way up was to volunteer at a music venue. I now volunteer every show. And as I said I just moved into an apartment right next door to the venue. Its not like I am following some pipe dream here. i have taken serious steps. not much more I can do in terms of that really.

and to suggest I want to change jobs, this is my first job ever isnt really outrageous either.

musicismylife78

Drop The Leash 10 wrote:

*applauds*

additionally, you do know I am the person who seriously considered living in a commune right? So to suggest, even though I ended up not choosing that lifestyle, that somehow I am ruled or obsessed with material objects is absurd. which comes to my point of how ridiculous it is for you all to bash me so brazenly. My apartment isnt some tricked out pad, and never will be. I never will live that lifestyle.

Dont judge me.