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  • Danimal
    Danimal Posts: 2,000
    worlie wrote:
    Millions of people spend millions of dollars every year to have kids. I know we have spent the better part of our life savings to do so (we are building it back up, though, we're debt free ex. house)

    I know this is a little off the point, but please take heed:

    Infertility is one of the most humiliating and heartbreaking things most people will ever deal with. With that in mind, if you run into someone who does not have children, please do not say:

    1. Why dont you have kids yet?
    2. Isn't it time you started a family?
    3. When are you having kids?

    If you know they are having trouble, please do not say:

    1. Well, the way you get pregnant is you try harder! (Haha, I'm so clever.)
    2. You do know HOW to get pregnant, right?
    3. If you just stop worrying about it, it'll happen.
    4. You could always adopt.

    comments like these make us want to smack you. and we are probably on high dose meds, so it is likely we might smack you.

    I was only jivin'.
    "I don't believe in PJ fans but I believe there is something, not too sure what." - Thoughts_Arrive


  • edvedder913
    edvedder913 Posts: 1,810
    purple_chick79 wrote:
    Why is it sad? Because you don't understand it?

    Take a look at our world today. Women and GIRLS have kids for the wrong reasons and yet they don't KNOW what the wrong reasons are. I'm willing to say that my option A could qualify as being a wrong answer, but I'm aware of it.

    I love my sister to death, she had a baby and she hasn't worked in over a year, she lives off the system and I hate it. I can't believe she is my sister sometimes. Did she have him so she didn't have to work, probably not, but is she doing it anyway...YEP!


    To me you only have a baby if you want one. Not for financial gain, or to get welfare or get child support from the father. Babies are not tools.
  • edvedder913
    edvedder913 Posts: 1,810
    purple_chick79 wrote:

    I have had people say "why don't you have a kid, it could help you in so many ways" I don't see how it could help, other than I wouldn't have to pay much for school at all, get a bigger tax break, etc. I have no way to pay for child care. We live with my boyfriends 10 year old, and day care is a pain in the ass. I should say, after school and summer care.

    I was just trying to spark a conversation and I see that again, AET hasn't surprised me.

    Ah well........

    These people saying this to you are insane. And if you have a 10 year old living with you - you know this. It is a TON of responsibility and a selfless act to be a parent. Please do NOT listen to them - what they are saying is rather ignorant (don't mean to offend).

    and yes, the AET you need to give EVERY MINOR DETAIL. I find that I defend myself a lot on here. :D
  • lalalalaaaaaaaa
    lalalalaaaaaaaa Posts: 2,445
    hmm, I don't think I would ever have a kid because I thought it would help me out financially...I'd feel like a bum doing that. If I ever have a kid it'll be because I want to have a family and be a parent.
  • moxie
    moxie Posts: 80
    purple_chick79 wrote:

    I was just trying to spark a conversation and I see that again, AET hasn't surprised me.

    Ah well........

    You honestly expected people to be all "yeah guuuurrrrlll, go 'head 'n get yo ass knocked up! Get dem gov'ment checks! shiiiiiiit!"?
    I have dogs instead of children... I'd rather ruin my carpet than my life.
  • norm
    norm Posts: 31,146
    having a child for monetary reasons is sick and anyone doing that should be sterilized....
  • Dylan Stone
    Dylan Stone Posts: 1,145
    cutback wrote:
    having a child for monetary reasons is sick and anyone doing that should be sterilized....

    ouch.
  • norm
    norm Posts: 31,146
    GTFLYGIRL wrote:
    ouch.

    yeah i know but i'm just tired of seeing children being thought of as nothing more than a pet....
  • Danimal
    Danimal Posts: 2,000
    I am going to have HUNDREDS of kids just so I can re-enact The Wizard Of Oz.
    "I don't believe in PJ fans but I believe there is something, not too sure what." - Thoughts_Arrive


  • Flannel Shirt
    Flannel Shirt Posts: 1,021
    Danimal wrote:
    I am going to have HUNDREDS of kids just so I can re-enact The Wizard Of Oz.
    lol.

    everyones a comedian this afternoon.
    All that's sacred, comes from youth....dedications, naive and true.
  • Ms. Haiku
    Ms. Haiku Washington DC Posts: 7,386
    Danimal wrote:
    I am going to have HUNDREDS of kids just so I can re-enact The Wizard Of Oz.
    You gave me the best laugh of the day!
    There is no such thing as leftover pizza. There is now pizza and later pizza. - anonymous
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  • the wolf
    the wolf Posts: 7,027
    moxie wrote:
    You honestly expected people to be all "yeah guuuurrrrlll, go 'head 'n get yo ass knocked up! Get dem gov'ment checks! shiiiiiiit!"?

    if i didnt know better i would say this was a jab at black people, that you were trying to sound like the little black girls that go on the talk shows.

    but there is no way that is what you were doing because...........

    well it would just be ignorant on your part wouldnt it?

    it would also in a way be sad and disgusting.

    so its a good thing thats not what you were doing here.
    Peace, Love.

    "To question your government is not unpatriotic --
    to not question your government is unpatriotic."
    -- Sen. Chuck Hagel
  • moxie
    moxie Posts: 80
    the wolf wrote:
    if i didnt know better i would say this was a jab at black people, that you were trying to sound like the little black girls that go on the talk shows.

    but there is no way that is what you were doing because...........

    well it would just be ignorant on your part wouldnt it?

    it would also in a way be sad and disgusting.

    so its a good thing thats not what you were doing here.

    Good job mister clever!

    That's exactly what I was doing. It's not ignorant... just funny.
    I have dogs instead of children... I'd rather ruin my carpet than my life.
  • the wolf
    the wolf Posts: 7,027
    moxie wrote:
    Good job mister clever!

    That's exactly what I was doing. It's not ignorant... just funny.


    i guess. its stereo typing though. usually shit like that is only funny if you are around people that really know you. and we here do not. so it comes of racist and ignorant.

    if thats not you, well...........good.

    BTW, is your singnatue "just funny" too?
    Peace, Love.

    "To question your government is not unpatriotic --
    to not question your government is unpatriotic."
    -- Sen. Chuck Hagel
  • moxie
    moxie Posts: 80
    the wolf wrote:
    i guess. its stereo typing though. usually shit like that is only funny if you are around people that really know you. and we here do not. so it comes of racist and ignorant.

    if thats not you, well...........good.

    BTW, is your singnatue "just funny" too?

    Stereotypes have to come from somewhere!

    You can take it how you want, though.

    And my signature is just true.
    I have dogs instead of children... I'd rather ruin my carpet than my life.
  • pjl44
    pjl44 Posts: 10,574
    I know you said that you don't want to get into the cost of raising the kid, but I think you kinda have to when considering premise A. I'm not sure that you could afford it, given the costs. Am I wrong about this?
  • the wolf
    the wolf Posts: 7,027
    moxie wrote:
    Stereotypes have to come from somewhere!

    You can take it how you want, though.

    And my signature is just true.

    maybe your folks should have thought of owning a pet.

    but hell, then i wouldnt be having so much fun talking with you.

    its all good.
    Peace, Love.

    "To question your government is not unpatriotic --
    to not question your government is unpatriotic."
    -- Sen. Chuck Hagel
  • moxie
    moxie Posts: 80
    the wolf wrote:
    maybe your folks should have thought of owning a pet.

    but hell, then i wouldnt be having so much fun talking with you.

    its all good.

    The cleverness just doesn't stop with you, does it!
    I have dogs instead of children... I'd rather ruin my carpet than my life.
  • the wolf
    the wolf Posts: 7,027
    moxie wrote:
    The cleverness just doesn't stop with you, does it!

    who's trying to be clever?

    it was just a observation thats all.
    Peace, Love.

    "To question your government is not unpatriotic --
    to not question your government is unpatriotic."
    -- Sen. Chuck Hagel
  • samick
    samick Posts: 373
    it almost seems like people just wait for any reason to jump on someone and give off a self-righteous rant..........


    as if they have them saved up and just wait for the moment.........

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