brutal honesty

sennin

Is there a place for it?

Besides in a veiled attempt at comedy?

Are people too sensitive to hear something brutally honest?

rvp

brutal = no good
honesty = good

why be brutally honest when you can be simply honest? why do some people feel the need to be brutal about anything?
there should be no place for brutality imo...

Lizard

If it will do “no good” to be brutality honest, then one should skip it I feel.

norm

first thing i thought of when i read this was the line from jerry macguire

"what did we say when we got together. brutal truth."

"i think you added the brutal."


the truth is the truth....brutal or otherwise....:)

jamainiac

sennin wrote:

Is there a place for it?

Besides in a veiled attempt at comedy?

Are people too sensitive to hear something brutally honest?

I think it has a lot to do with the 'intent' of the person dishing out the information...

If you are expressing 'your opinion' to someone with the intent to 'hurt' them... I think it's best to hold your breath...

If you feel you can actually help someone by opening their eyes to something they are unable or afraid to see... in hopes of helping them... that's a different story...

People that keep things from others that they are supposed to care for ... to 'protect' them... often end up doing more harm than good...

I think honesty is the best policy... but I also know that when used as a weapon... Words can be sharper than rasorblades...

MattCameronKicksButt

It's good to be honest, even brutally honest but it depends how it's delivered. I think.

harmless_little_f***

It depends on the intent, and how much knowledge one has of a situation. Too many people are ever-ready to dish out 'brutal honesty' just to give themselves a pat on the back: 'Aren't I wise and well-lived? I've seen it all. Let me impart my wisdom, oh weakling.' These people, more often than not, have not nearly enough information to offer a well-informed opinion. There are a few of such people lurking about here.

Brutal honesty is good, but the right to dish it out needs to be earned.

MattCameronKicksButt

harmless_little_f*** wrote:

Brutal honesty is good, but the right to dish it out needs to be earned.

Best.Post.Ever - in my opinion.

jamainiac

harmless_little_f*** wrote:

It depends on the intent, and how much knowledge one has of a situation. Too many people are ever-ready to dish out 'brutal honesty' just to give themselves a pat on the back: 'Aren't I wise and well-lived? I've seen it all. Let me impart my wisdom, oh weakling.' These people, more often than not, have not nearly enough information to offer a well-informed opinion. There are a few of such people lurking about here.

Brutal honesty is good, but the right to dish it out needs to be earned.

Well Said!!

I think it's a good idea to try to imagine yourself walking a mile in someone else's shoes...

before offering your opinion on what a poor job they're doing wearing them...

MattCameronKicksButt

jamainiac wrote:

Well Said!!

I think it's a good idea to try to imagine yourself walking a mile in someone else's shoes...

before offering your opinion on what a poor job they're doing wearing them...

Again, that's great! I hate it when people judge others too quickly!

sennin

MattCameronKicksButt wrote:

Again, that's great! I hate it when people judge others too quickly!

Is this brutal honesty?



Funny how it works.

It seems you have to be brutally honest with those who are brutally honest with you....to get your point across.


...and I'm not talking about judging people.....I'm talking about being brutally honest with them.

You don't have to know someone to know that they are fat, smell bad, are rude, insert soemthing bad <here>.

MattCameronKicksButt

sennin wrote:

Is this brutal honesty?



Funny how it works.

It seems you have to be brutally honest with those who are brutally honest with you....to get your point across.


...and I'm not talking about judging people.....I'm talking about being brutally honest with them.

You don't have to know someone to know that they are fat, smell bad, are rude, insert soemthing bad <here>.

It's a great question but I'll have to get back to you on it. I've got one eye on the T.V. at the moment.

So much for women being able to multi task.

sennin

Is being rude to someone who's being rude.....rude?

norm

sennin wrote:

Is being rude to someone who's being rude.....rude?

i tend to treat people the way they treat me.....so if you're rude to me, expect it back....:)

MattCameronKicksButt

sennin wrote:

Is being rude to someone who's being rude.....rude?

YES! (I think so) I still do it though!

chiquimonkey

i don't think it's necessary to be brutal. only exception i can see is if the person is doing something that is causing physical harm to themselves or others, and attempts to point it out politely haven't worked. otherwise one can come off as some sort of omniscient jackass by being too heavy-handed

i try to treat folks like i would want to be treated, so just as i wouldn't want someone to intentionally hurt me, i wouldn't do it to them.

jamainiac

sennin wrote:

Is being rude to someone who's being rude.....rude?

Yes... I'm not much for ...

'An Eye For An Eye'...

just because someone else does something doesn't make it onside for you to do...

I think taking the 'high road' in situations such as that is the best choice...

I'm more inclined to smother someone with kindness when they're being a ass to me... Back in my restaurant days I'm sure there were customers who wondered if I ever 'got' that they were being mean to me... If only they knew that everytime I said ...

'Certainly Sir'...

I really meant...

'I'd like to rip your f**king face off and s**t down your sorry throat'...



Just as well I don't work in the restaurant industry anymore...

decides2dream

sennin wrote:

Is being rude to someone who's being rude.....rude?

yes.


bad behavior is bad behavior.



if you hate something, don't you do it too.


wise words.

harmless_little_fu** wrote:

It depends on the intent, and how much knowledge one has of a situation. Too many people are ever-ready to dish out 'brutal honesty' just to give themselves a pat on the back: 'Aren't I wise and well-lived? I've seen it all. Let me impart my wisdom, oh weakling.' These people, more often than not, have not nearly enough information to offer a well-informed opinion. There are a few of such people lurking about here.

Brutal honesty is good, but the right to dish it out needs to be earned.

wise words too.

i tend to be 'honest'....as much as possible. however, i try to leave the 'brutal' out of it.

rarghrargh-brownstar

I think an honest "opinion" isnt soo brutal.

Danimal

If I ask for brutal honesty then you can give it to me other than that keep your fucking/worthless opinion to yourself.

know1

sennin wrote:

Is there a place for it?

Besides in a veiled attempt at comedy?

Are people too sensitive to hear something brutally honest?

Why the word "brutal"?

Honesty is honesty, when you add the word "brutal" you're bringing subjectivity into the equation.