Singles Awareness Day

catefrances

dunkman wrote:

they have something wrong with them.



absolutely never...



but there is... and its my opinion... i'm completely interested in my wife/girl at the bus stop... if i dont feel interested then its because some external problem has made me think otherwise... and that means somethings wrong with me..

so... this is a mental defect you think?

genie

Heineken Helen wrote:

since when is any of this arguing? some of you are a tad sensitive. Just cos I think differently and say why... that's a debate, not an argument but if ya don't wanna get into it that's fine... but at least accept that other people are capable of feeling things that you've never felt.

aruing was not the right word probably, yes debating is what i actually meant

in her case it looks like it's the tablets, and she said it herself, the minute she stopped taking them her sex drive was up

Heineken Helen

dunkman wrote:

they have something wrong with them.

absolutely never...

but there is... and its my opinion... i'm completely interested in my wife/girl at the bus stop... if i dont feel interested then its because some external problem has made me think otherwise... and that means somethings wrong with me..

wow... it is sad that you have never felt so completely happy and blissful with yourself that you didn't need ANYTHING. For me, I'm quite sociable so I couldn't live my LIFE like that but it was really nice to feel that complete on my own even if only for a couple of months. If YOU don't feel interested then it must be an external problem... but it really is not like that for everyone... not for me anyway. SURE, with a lot of people, losing interest can be a big problem and signs of other big problems but to say that someone can't be genuinely happy on their own and to not want anyone else without there being something wrong with them is pretty patronising

Heineken Helen

genie wrote:

aruing was not the right word probably, yes debating is what i actually meant

in her case it looks like it's the tablets, and she said it herself, the minute she stopped taking them her sex drive was up

that's true... I just said in my post above that I'm not saying the way I was is the way it is for everyone who loses interest. Some can be because of serious problems, others because they're feeling fed up, others just can't be bothered... and then there's those who don't need or want it right now.

genie

catefrances wrote:

so... this is a mental defect you think?

i'm going to get a lot of kicking for this, but i'm going to say it anyway.

it's called woman syndrome of course women find it much easier to be single they don't have high sex drive like men do.

genie

i would go as far as to say that we should do a poll and find out, what percentage of men and women who are happy to be single and who don't.

dunkman

catefrances wrote:

so... this is a mental defect you think?

could just be there are in a shit mood.. which i would class as "having something wrong with you"

"ohh i'm in a shit mood"

"really... whats wrong then?"


see.. i'm not saying it means you have bipolar issue and burn stuff... just that something is 'wrong'..

dunkman

Heineken Helen wrote:

wow... it is sad that you have never felt so completely happy and blissful with yourself that you didn't need ANYTHING. For me, I'm quite sociable so I couldn't live my LIFE like that but it was really nice to feel that complete on my own even if only for a couple of months. If YOU don't feel interested then it must be an external problem... but it really is not like that for everyone... not for me anyway. SURE, with a lot of people, losing interest can be a big problem and signs of other big problems but to say that someone can't be genuinely happy on their own and to not want anyone else without there being something wrong with them is pretty patronising

i'm happy, and when i was single i was happy... i'm always pretty happy... but even when i was single and very happy.. i was still interested in girls... now if i had just split up with someone then i might not be so interested.. ergo i'd have something wrong with me... but if you've spent 3 months being single and been completely happy during that time and not looked or even glanced at another guy then i believe you are the exception to the norm... even a quick glance means you were INTERESTED in that man.

i'm always patronising.. it comes from being morally superior

Heineken Helen

genie wrote:

i would go as far as to say that we should do a poll and find out, what percentage of men and women who are happy to be single and who don't.

I'm positive that those who are genuinely happy to be single are a small bunch... nobody's saying otherwise. Just don't tell me they don't exist cos they most certainly do

Heineken Helen

dunkman wrote:

i'm happy, and when i was single i was happy... i'm always pretty happy... but even when i was single and very happy.. i was still interested in girls... now if i had just split up with someone then i might not be so interested.. ergo i'd have something wrong with me... but if you've spent 3 months being single and been completely happy during that time and not looked or even glanced at another guy then i believe you are the exception to the norm... even a quick glance means you were INTERESTED in that man.

i'm always patronising.. it comes from being morally superior

no, I think it comes from being an arsehole

dunk, I'm not disputing you and your feelings... yet you're telling me that either I'm lying or there was something wrong with me? But it really is hard to explain... I still got chatted up and my friends would be saying 'what's wrong with you, he's cute?' but I was just more interested in getting to know people and have a laugh. I genuinely wanted nothing more than to just enjoy myself and have fun with no complications of sex, relationships or even kissing. And my life was completely drama free and blissful. Now I know you're a walking erection so I can see how you'd find it hard to believe... but that's how it was.

MattCameronKicksButt

Heineken Helen wrote:

And my life was completely drama free and blissful.

D'oh! ...and you know you've just proved dunk right. *slaps forehead*

Heineken Helen

MattCameronKicksButt wrote:

D'oh! ...and you know you've just proved dunk right. *slaps forehead*

how? There was no big particular reason that I chose to go off men... it just happened... my life was good before that, but even better then. it's not like I had a bad break up or I got fed up with men or anything.

MattCameronKicksButt

Heineken Helen wrote:

how? There was no big particular reason that I chose to go off men... it just happened... my life was good before that, but even better then. it's not like I had a bad break up or I got fed up with men or anything.

by saying that relationships are a hassle.

btw, i haven't read the whole thread as usual.

Heineken Helen

MattCameronKicksButt wrote:

by saying that relationships are a hassle.

btw, i haven't read the whole thread as usual.

I didn't say they are. It goes without saying that when you put yourself first and only, there isn't really any possibility of drama. It may seem selfish... but it was so good that I feel like everyone should go through a time like that. It really helped discover who I am and was blissful and therapeutic. Kinda like lying in a flotation tank

dunkman

Heineken Helen wrote:

no, I think it comes from being an arsehole

this is why i'm superior.. you resorted to petty name calling

Heineken Helen wrote:

dunk, I'm not disputing you and your feelings... yet you're telling me that either I'm lying or there was something wrong with me? But it really is hard to explain... I still got chatted up and my friends would be saying 'what's wrong with you, he's cute?' but I was just more interested in getting to know people and have a laugh. I genuinely wanted nothing more than to just enjoy myself and have fun with no complications of sex, relationships or even kissing. And my life was completely drama free and blissful. Now I know you're a walking erection so I can see how you'd find it hard to believe... but that's how it was.

like i said... you are in a tiny tiny minority.. i just don't believe that you never once saw a cute guy and had thoughts of humping during that time... i just dont. and i doubt you could remember that 6 years ago for a period of 6 weeks between Sept and Nov you were blissfully happy and never once thought of sex... nobodies memory is that good. Even nuns think of sex...

catefrances

jeez im so glad i know there's something wrong with me and its got nothing to do whether im getting laid regularly or not. and i def know it has nothing whatsoever to do with me not being interested in sex, cause that never happens.

Heineken Helen

dunkman wrote:

this is why i'm superior.. you resorted to petty name calling





like i said... you are in a tiny tiny minority.. i just don't believe that you never once saw a cute guy and had thoughts of humping during that time... i just dont. and i doubt you could remember that 6 years ago for a period of 6 weeks between Sept and Nov you were blissfully happy and never once thought of sex... nobodies memory is that good. Even nuns think of sex...

You didn't say I was in a minority... you didn't seem to believe me at ALL. I was the one who said I know I'm in the minority. I never claimed that all single people feel like this... but I said it happens so to suggest people don't want to be happy and CAN'T be genuinely happy on their own is quite presumptious and of the 'this is how I am so this is how everyone is' school of thought. Anyway this was a nice thread before all this.

catefrances

genie wrote:

i'm going to get a lot of kicking for this, but i'm going to say it anyway.

it's called woman syndrome of course women find it much easier to be single they don't have high sex drive like men do.

well this is a generalisation if ever ive heard one. some women have a high sex drive just like some men do not.

dunkman

Heineken Helen wrote:

You didn't say I was in a minority... you didn't seem to believe me at ALL. I was the one who said I know I'm in the minority.

about 3 posts back i said this

dunkman wrote:

but if you've spent 3 months being single and been completely happy during that time and not looked or even glanced at another guy then i believe you are the exception to the norm... even a quick glance means you were INTERESTED in that man.

that means minority

dunkman

catefrances wrote:

jeez im so glad i know there's something wrong with me and its got nothing to do whether im getting laid regularly or not. and i def know it has nothing whatsoever to do with me not being interested in sex, cause that never happens.

if someone goes through a spell of many weeks and never once thinks of sex or once thinks of a man/woman being cute/attractive whatever then i think there is something wrong with them.. end of fucking story.