suicide

iluvcats

I think I'm going to be sick. I got an email from a friend at work that another person has committed suicide. She worked down the hall from me, I used to see her daily, then they moved her. She is the 4th person I've known of to commit suicide where I work.

Lizard

Holy shit Cats!! That is terrible.

where the heck do you work?

iluvcats

Lizard wrote:

Holy shit Cats!! That is terrible.

where the heck do you work?

well....I won't say, but one guy when into to the woods and shot himself a few months after his wife died.

another man was lying on his taxes, he shot himself after he went to say good bye to his mom in the nursing home (the idiot shot himself in the parking lot of the home!!!) he left behind a wife and two kids....

one girl, I'm not sure what happened....some suspected her husband...

this woman was single and around 50!

so very sad (and now my aunt is in a DEEP depression and won't go to the doctor)

decides2dream

i'm so sorry cats.......:(
people can only save themselves, and obviously...can't always do that......how sad.

mammasan

That is terrible. Not to sound all doom and gloom, but I'm sure that as the economy worsens and more people loose their jobs, homes, etc... you will see a sharp rise in suicides and suicide attempts. People are really hurting out there and to many they see no way out of their current financial situation. I'm not advocating that it is the right way out but I think in these hard times we really need to look after each other.

Lizard

You are right, Mammasan.

And Cats--I asked where you worked thinking maybe it had to with financing or something like that!!

iluvcats

Lizard wrote:

You are right, Mammasan.

And Cats--I asked where you worked thinking maybe it had to with financing or something like that!!

most of the suicides I mentioned were over 10 yrs ago. I've been there a long time!

just tina

ugh, i'm so sorry.

you just never know...

my aunt committed suicide in may 07. if you ever met her, you would think she would be the last person to even consider something like that. beautiful, outgoing, always smiling, always nice things to say to everyone, a great career, three beautiful and good sons...

you never know...

iluvcats

Doesnt like the view wrote:

ugh, i'm so sorry.

you just never know...

my aunt committed suicide in may 07. if you ever met her, you would think she would be the last person to even consider something like that. beautiful, outgoing, always smiling, always nice things to say to everyone, a great career, three beautiful and good sons...

you never know...

I am sorry for your family's loss :(

Jeremys Spoken

I just can't fathom taking my own life. I wouldnt have the BALLS.

Lanegan7

I've had suicidal thoughts almost daily for the past two years. It's no fun at all, I came close to doing it a few times but never could. I don't see any hope in my case, may not be optimistic just realistic.

Jeremys Spoken

Lanegan7 wrote:

I've had suicidal thoughts almost daily for the past two years. It's no fun at all, I came close to doing it a few times but never could. I don't see any hope in my case, may not be optimistic just realistic.

Hang on man! There is a lot left out there, even if you dont believe it, there is!

HANG ON.

You will love the fact that you did.

Lanegan7

I'm not loving it so far

Don't worry about me

Jeremys Spoken

Lanegan7 wrote:

I'm not loving it so far

Don't worry about me

Ah come on man. We are family on here. Gotta worry bout ya.

youngster

Jeremy's Spoken wrote:

Hang on man! There is a lot left out there, even if you dont believe it, there is!

HANG ON.

You will love the fact that you did.

please don't use the word "hang" at all in a suicide threads. It's bad luck.

mickeyrat

Lanegan7 wrote:

I've had suicidal thoughts almost daily for the past two years. It's no fun at all, I came close to doing it a few times but never could. I don't see any hope in my case, may not be optimistic just realistic.

well there's always hope about the next album!!!! GET TO WORK BOYS!!!!!!

vedderfan10

Doesnt like the view wrote:

ugh, i'm so sorry.

you just never know...

my aunt committed suicide in may 07. if you ever met her, you would think she would be the last person to even consider something like that. beautiful, outgoing, always smiling, always nice things to say to everyone, a great career, three beautiful and good sons...

you never know...

Sometimes the pretending takes its toll...Suicide is horrible in that it leaves the survivors with too many unanswered questions. I work in Mental Health and there are never any answers. Sometimes suicides can even be accidental...

OP - sorry for your loss. feeling numb and at a loss for words is common after a suicide.

tkepearljamn

When I worked at a country club in high school an elderly man committed suicide in his car... I was getting off work and noticed that he was walking to his car. He had been diagnosed with terminal lung cancer (or something to the effect) and was tied to an oxygen tank.

I had to go back to the golf cart area to pick something up. When i walked back to my car he was sitting in the car next to me. I didn't pay much attention. But I did notice he had moved a few spots from where he was parked before. He had re-parked his car under a big pine tree next to my car. I waved and drove off. 10 minutes later I received a phone call that he had taken his own life with a shotgun in his car. It was a very unreal feeling knowing I was probably the last person that person saw before the act was committed.

Apparently he had played poker with his friends one last time, called his wife to tell her he loved her, and then killed himself. He didn't want to tell her that he had weeks to live from the cancer.

That has screwed with me for a long time bc I knew something was up, but didn't pay enough attention at the time to look in a car or ask if everything was okay. I knew something was out of place.

iluvcats

tkepearljamn wrote:

When I worked at a country club in high school an elderly man committed suicide in his car... I was getting off work and noticed that he was walking to his car. He had been diagnosed with terminal lung cancer (or something to the effect) and was tied to an oxygen tank.

I had to go back to the golf cart area to pick something up. When i walked back to my car he was sitting in the car next to me. I didn't pay much attention. But I did notice he had moved a few spots from where he was parked before. He had re-parked his car under a big pine tree next to my car. I waved and drove off. 10 minutes later I received a phone call that he had taken his own life with a shotgun in his car. It was a very unreal feeling knowing I was probably the last person that person saw before the act was committed.

Apparently he had played poker with his friends one last time, called his wife to tell her he loved her, and then killed himself. He didn't want to tell her that he had weeks to live from the cancer.

That has screwed with me for a long time bc I knew something was up, but didn't pay enough attention at the time to look in a car or ask if everything was okay. I knew something was out of place.

how sad.

one man who I knew that committed suicide was on zoloft

iluvcats

Vedderfan10 wrote:

Sometimes the pretending takes its toll...Suicide is horrible in that it leaves the survivors with too many unanswered questions. I work in Mental Health and there are never any answers. Sometimes suicides can even be accidental...

OP - sorry for your loss. feeling numb and at a loss for words is common after a suicide.

thank you. I did not know her actually, just saw her daily. I found out some details. She was institutionalized and a friend got her out of there. She committed suicide at the friend's house! She suffered from SAD and the loss of a family member :(
Can you imagine how the friend feels who took her out of the hospital?

JordyWordy

hartamh wrote:

Since I wrote this, I feel as if I'm just existing, I'm not living life. It's the worst I think I've ever felt.

I'm just saying how I'm feeling. I think write down things like this here really helps a little sometimes:(

hopefully it does. i think the fact that you have children of your own is enough reason to give anyone purpose in life.


if typing here helps, do it. like above poster said, this is a place where people look out for each other. reach out for help here and you always get it.

feel any better since you posted the above?

iluvcats

hartamh wrote:

Since I wrote this, I feel as if I'm just existing, I'm not living life. It's the worst I think I've ever felt.

I'm just saying how I'm feeling. I think writing down things like this on here really helps a little sometimes:(

I'm praying for you

urbanhippie

My Mum's cousin took his own life this week :(
He was 19. His Mum died when he was 13 and he's been on a bad road since then. Drugs, drink etc. He had a row with his Dad and went upstairs and hung himself :( His Dad found the body a couple of hours later when he went up to make amends for the row. Such a fucking tragic waste of a life. He was still just a kid :(

iluvcats

urbanhippie wrote:

My Mum's cousin took his own life this week :(
He was 19. His Mum died when he was 13 and he's been on a bad road since then. Drugs, drink etc. He had a row with his Dad and went upstairs and hung himself :( His Dad found the body a couple of hours later when he went up to make amends for the row. Such a fucking tragic waste of a life. He was still just a kid :(

poor guy :(

I'm very sorry!

Jeremys Spoken

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unifiedscene

Pointing out what someone has to live for does not help in this kind of situation. You think that thought hasn't crossed the person's mind? People that are truly depressed already feel guilty enough, to add to their guilt by trivializing their emotions and implying that they are selfishly ignoring their loved ones makes it that much harder for them to reach out for help or be truly honest about their despair. You make someone already feeling lonely and isolated become even more cut off from people that might help them.

urbanhippie

unifiedscene wrote:

Not helping. You think that thought hasn't crossed her mind? People that are truly depressed already feel guilty enough, to add to their guilt by trivializing their emotions and implying that they are selfishly ignoring their loved ones makes it that much harder for them to reach out for help or be truly honest about their despair. You make someone already feeling lonely and isolated become even more cut off from people that might help them.

Too true.

vedderfan10

When I was first diagnosed with major depression, a lot of my co-workers were "What do you have to be depressed about: you've got a great husband, a wonderful home, two dogs that love you". I said "I also have a chemical imbalance in my brain - thanks for adding to my guilt load.."

Oh yeah, i work at a mental health centre..

My really good friend told me that I was being a whiny bitch and had no right to be depressed. Then she emailed me a list of all the reasons why.

People just don't get it, still...

To everyone who has been touched by suicide - you have my full empathy...

angie76

That is really sad, Im sorry :(. Four people though? wow...very sad.

Lanegan7

It's a completely lonely feeling, because you feel like you can't relate to anybody.

corduroid

unifiedscene wrote:

Pointing out what someone has to live for does not help in this kind of situation. You think that thought hasn't crossed the person's mind? People that are truly depressed already feel guilty enough, to add to their guilt by trivializing their emotions and implying that they are selfishly ignoring their loved ones makes it that much harder for them to reach out for help or be truly honest about their despair. You make someone already feeling lonely and isolated become even more cut off from people that might help them.

Excellent post.