question for all parents here

ladygooddiva

i have no idea wha to do ..sarah,my daughter she is cute and amazing but she cries a lot specially when i am alone with her ...and when i want to play etc. alone
what can i do ...
i am loosing my power...
she really needs so much atention

dunkman

what age is she?

Drop The Leash 10

my sister tends to do this. how old is she?

EDIT: nvm, my sister is 12

Heineken Helen

Awww Lady, I'm sorry alot of babies do this... babies need attention, it's just how it is... they get bored and they're like a sponge.. they need to be taking stuff in... so it's good that you spend as much time as you can with her... when you need a break, find something colourful and funny looking that she can amuse herself with. My nephew, when he gets bored, sometimes I just lift him up and carry him around the house showing him all the rooms and he looks at each one like it's the first time he's seen it

ladygooddiva

Sarah is now 7 months old
well thanx i ha gave her now her hampelmann
she is playing with it...
always when she awakes she lookes if she hasn t seen all .... it s all new

DeLukin

There is definitely no more stressful time than being the parent of a baby. Hang in there. You're definitely not the only parent who has ever felt powerless! And it gets better.

ladygooddiva

DeLukin wrote:

There is definitely no more stressful time than being the parent of a baby. Hang in there. You're definitely not the only parent who has ever felt powerless! And it gets better.

ok thanx for that ..i mean i know but in the situation i feel lonely and helpless...

Brain of J.Lo

Some babies just need a lot of attention. I know it can be frustrating!

If you think she is crying more than she should, talk to her doctor about it. But it's probably normal! You're doing a good job.

Heineken Helen

ladygooddiva wrote:

ok thanx for that ..i mean i know but in the situation i feel lonely and helpless...

Is there ANYBODY you can ask for help? Even if it's just for a couple of hours for you to get a break? Do you know any other mothers in the area? Perhaps the two of you could help eachother.

Steve Dunne

first of all, congrats on your little one...a blessing...
second, i'm no expert, but will answer this thread because i have 3 young kids...
third, no one here (especially me) has a clue about your child except for you, so take this with a grain of salt...

babies cry. babies get hungry quite often. babies sometimes have a hard time 'finding it' when they try to get to sleep.

that said...

you are never alone...

Heineken Helen

Steve Dunne wrote:

you are never alone...

while this may be true in most threads... I'm afraid it means fuck all here... cos spending more time online discussing her feelings won't make the baby stop crying and won't make her feel better

Maybe we can expand on how she's not alone... I've suggested maybe a family member or a friend... if you don't know anybody local, get to know some other mothers of young kids, chances are they're going through the same thing. If you could make friends with ONE of them and you both take the other child at times to give the other mother a rest, well problem solved. I don't know lady's situation but it's very very hard to raise a child on your own... you NEED help. Everybody does, it's not shameful to ask for it either.

ladygooddiva

Brain of J.Lo wrote:

Some babies just need a lot of attention. I know it can be frustrating!

If you think she is crying more than she should, talk to her doctor about it. But it's probably normal! You're doing a good job.

thanx my bf tell me that i do a good job too
but as you said it can be frustrating ...

ladygooddiva

Heineken Helen wrote:

Is there ANYBODY you can ask for help? Even if it's just for a couple of hours for you to get a break? Do you know any other mothers in the area? Perhaps the two of you could help eachother.

no my bf is til 8 p.m. at work
i don t speak spanish at well
i don t know anybody here
but soon my bf parents will come but this can be hard too;)

ladygooddiva

Heineken Helen wrote:

while this may be true in most threads... I'm afraid it means fuck all here... cos spending more time online discussing her feelings won't make the baby stop crying and won't make her feel better

Maybe we can expand on how she's not alone... I've suggested maybe a family member or a friend... if you don't know anybody local, get to know some other mothers of young kids, chances are they're going through the same thing. If you could make friends with ONE of them and you both take the other child at times to give the other mother a rest, well problem solved. I don't know lady's situation but it's very very hard to raise a child on your own... you NEED help. Everybody does, it's not shameful to ask for it either.

i try but the language probs is very difficult...

dunkman

Steve Dunne wrote:

second, i'm no expert, but will answer this thread because i have 3 young kids...

well said Dunne

but this wont stop other people giving their advice... i mean the thread is actually called " question for all parents here" and yet child-less people are on here offering advice... probably the same people who advocate spanking...

ladygooddiva

dunkman wrote:

well said Dunne

but this wont stop other people giving their advice... i mean the thread is actually called " question for all parents here" and yet child-less people are on here offering advice... probably the same people who advocate spanking...

well i am thankfull for answers but i have to deside what to do right;)??

Brain of J.Lo

ladygooddiva wrote:

but soon my bf parents will come but this can be hard too;)

It'll be great to have two extra sets of hands, I'm sure!

Heineken Helen

dunkman wrote:

well said Dunne

but this wont stop other people giving their advice... i mean the thread is actually called " question for all parents here" and yet child-less people are on here offering advice... probably the same people who advocate spanking...

Yeh, cos my advice was that bad? sorry, if any parents disagree with my advice I'll take it back :rolleyes:

Great advice you've given there yourself dunk,thanks for helping her.

Lady... that really is a shame about the language problems. Perhaps you can try communicating in English? I found a lot of people in Spain speak English so I'm sure many speak German too... you'll crack up if you're gonna end up depending on your bf's parents

Steve Dunne

dunkman wrote:

well said Dunne

but this wont stop other people giving their advice... i mean the thread is actually called " question for all parents here" and yet child-less people are on here offering advice... probably the same people who advocate spanking...

hey i'm all for spanking!

*dancing/gyrating in a circular motion*
(slap that ass, slap that ass, slap that ass, slap that ass and a bump bump bump bump!!!)

but i digress...

sounds like her signature tells the story and the little one's crying compounds it. but again, i know nothing.

writersu

ladygooddiva wrote:

Sarah is now 7 months old
well thanx i ha gave her now her hampelmann
she is playing with it...
always when she awakes she lookes if she hasn t seen all .... it s all new

well, take it from someone who has been there 4 times and would go back in a heartbeat if I could......

just hold her and sing to her, and cuddle with her and know that it is true although it is hard to believe right now; this will pass I promise you. She won't cry forever.
someone really smart told me that "the years fly by but the days are forever".

ladygooddiva

Heineken Helen wrote:

Yeh, cos my advice was that bad? sorry, if any parents disagree with my advice I'll take it back :rolleyes:

Great advice you've given there yourself dunk,thanks for helping her.

Lady... that really is a shame about the language problems. Perhaps you can try communicating in English? I found a lot of people in Spain speak English so I'm sure many speak German too... you'll crack up if you're gonna end up depending on your bf's parents

but not here in vlencia even german it s less really
yeap i know that

ladygooddiva

Brain of J.Lo wrote:

It'll be great to have two extra sets of hands, I'm sure!

that s true but if you aren t respected in their eyes ....mhhh

ladygooddiva

writersu wrote:

well, take it from someone who has been there 4 times and would go back in a heartbeat if I could......

just hold her and sing to her, and cuddle with her and know that it is true although it is hard to believe right now; this will pass I promise you. She won't cry forever.
someone really smart told me that "the years fly by but the days are forever".

thanx for that:):):):)

Brain of J.Lo

ladygooddiva wrote:

that s true but if you aren t respected in their eyes ....mhhh

I'm sorry, that must be hard. :( I hope that they are helpful with the baby, at least.

Brain of J.Lo

writersu wrote:

"the years fly by but the days are forever".

So true.

ladygooddiva

Brain of J.Lo wrote:

I'm sorry, that must be hard. :( I hope that they are helpful with the baby, at least.

yes it is .specially his father can be meen.i think sooo they love the little girl

GreenTeaDisease

dunkman wrote:

well said Dunne

but this wont stop other people giving their advice... i mean the thread is actually called " question for all parents here" and yet child-less people are on here offering advice... probably the same people who advocate spanking...

how many threads on there say "question for the girls" or "question for the guys" and yet it just attracts responses from the opposite sex more than the intended?

besides, even if you don't have a kid of your own, it's doesn't mean you haven't cared for a kid for extensive periods, and even if you haven't LG is having more of mental frustration crisis than anything else, and surely anyone can relate to that.

ladygooddiva

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

how many threads on there say "question for the girls" or "question for the guys" and yet it just attracts responses from the opposite sex more than the intended?

besides, even if you don't have a kid of your own, it's doesn't mean you haven't cared for a kid for extensive periods, and even if you haven't LG is having more of mental frustration crisis than anything else, and surely anyone can relate to that.

sorry but i am not sure,if i getour last setence right...

josevolution

father of two no longer small children, but just hang in there you are her world this faze passes good luck ....

GreenTeaDisease

ladygooddiva wrote:

sorry but i am not sure,if i getour last setence right...

I was just saying that people who are not parents can understand what you are feeling. my german sucks now but...Deine Problems sind nicht nur die Problems von Mutters (ok, that probably made it worse )

niner

ladygooddiva wrote:

i have no idea wha to do ..sarah,my daughter she is cute and amazing but she cries a lot specially when i am alone with her ...and when i want to play etc. alone
what can i do ...
i am loosing my power...
she really needs so much atention

i am a mom of two. i understand what you are going through also. its hard to make friends and get out there if you're not ready to. if you are lonely during the day, you are clinging to sarah then she is clinging to you. at her age separation anxiety starts to kick in too. you need to try and leave her to amuse herself. don't egg me for this folks, hear me out. the more you become her only source of entertainment to more she will look for you because she doesn't know how to entertain herself. also try taking her for walks. getting out in the fresh air will be good for both of you. you can meet other mommys at the park. and try to keep her to a good nap & bedtime schedule. sometimes when babies cry as a mom we think they are hungry, but over feeding can lead to crankiness too.

this is only my advice & opinion. always do what you feel is right for you and her! its not easy to take advice because as a new mom you really don't know who's right or wrong. if you're not happy, it's hard to make her happy. believe me, i know what you're going through and everyday is a fresh start.
you can always come here for support!