creepy friends. help?

small town beck

GraySaturday wrote:

her boyfriend is in his mid-thirties, and she is in her mid-twenties. She said to me the other day "I really hope you're not pregnant, its not the right time for you, you'll ruin what you've got going on. I know I'm not ready for a baby, so you being younger, it's just not the right time"...

I was really offended by that. I didn't ask for her approval, or even her opinion. I would never say that to a friend, ever.

And you have been friends with this girl for how LONG? Next stop: CRAZYVILLE!! :eek: Get off the train while you can

Your life is your business. It is all well and good for a friend to be concerned but it sounds like she has boundry issues.

AllIAm

small town beck wrote:

And you have been friends with this girl for how LONG? Next stop: CRAZYVILLE!! :eek: Get off the train while you can

Your life is your business. It is all well and good for a friend to be concerned but it sounds like she has boundry issues.

isn't it amazing??? some people are just in their own worlds so much that they can't see how they affect others around them. its insane o.

and those are the types of friends that are so hard to shed. seriously just reading this makes me shudder to think about all that has happened lol

GraySaturday

small town beck wrote:

And you have been friends with this girl for how LONG? Next stop: CRAZYVILLE!! :eek: Get off the train while you can

Your life is your business. It is all well and good for a friend to be concerned but it sounds like she has boundry issues.

Since August. Long enough to start seeing the crazy come out.. lol... I've started to try to sit next to other people in class, and drive our male friend home as well so its the 3 of us. That made her so jealous... and more clingy

JOEJOEJOE

GraySaturday wrote:

Our mutual friend that I mentioned thinks that she might quit the program because she is just so unhappy with everything. Apparently she is always concerned about comparing her work to me. She was partnered with our friend during peer reviews the other day and kept telling our friend, "don't tell sarah I don't have my work done, I don't want her to know.. I don't care!!! I honestly am not concerned with anyone's work there at all. I am only concerned with my grades and working really hard. I couldn't careless how other people do!

She thinks she is so important to me, and that I worry about her shit all the time. It's so odd.

I always question those who act as if they are your overly-concerned best friend after knowing you for just a short time....most of the time, they are just trying way too hard cuz they have probably driven-away every friend they've ever had.

If anyone ever tries to my work as a measuring stick of the quality of their work, I remind them that they are selling themselves very short!

GraySaturday

You know, I had a friend like this before, and she did some of the exact same things. She was fine with her boyfriend until we met, and then when we became friends she went all weird and decided that she MUST be married and started to go crazy about him proposing and stuff.. she was so creepy after a while that I actually lost it on her and told her to get over herself and get the fuck away from me.

2 things though.. that made me feel bad to get to that point with her, and I don't like how it went down, and she was just a friend and I could just ditch her, this girl is going to be with me for 2 years like it or not.. so it can't come to that.

Girls are weird, and I wonder why I always had guy friends.

small town beck

GraySaturday wrote:

You know, I had a friend like this before, and she did some of the exact same things. She was fine with her boyfriend until we met, and then when we became friends she went all weird and decided that she MUST be married and started to go crazy about him proposing and stuff.. she was so creepy after a while that I actually lost it on her and told her to get over herself and get the fuck away from me.

2 things though.. that made me feel bad to get to that point with her, and I don't like how it went down, and she was just a friend and I could just ditch her, this girl is going to be with me for 2 years like it or not.. so it can't come to that.

Girls are weird, and I wonder why I always had guy friends.

Hey now!! Not all girls are weird

I think a lot of women have issues that are society based. Like people thinking are girls are jealous, not the case. Or that all girls have to be skinny Minnies etc. And some girls seem to have some that are more mental health issues than anything else and this sounds more like your friend.

GraySaturday

small town beck wrote:

Hey now!! Not all girls are weird

I think a lot of women have issues that are society based. Like people thinking are girls are jealous, not the case. Or that all girls have to be skinny Minnies etc. And some girls seem to have some that are more mental health issues than anything else and this sounds more like your friend.

Yeah, its some mental thing with her.. She is gorgeous, and smart... I just think she has issues with a ring on her finger equaling her self worth. So sad.

chiquimonkey

small town beck wrote:

Hey now!! Not all girls are weird

I think a lot of women have issues that are society based. Like people thinking are girls are jealous, not the case. Or that all girls have to be skinny Minnies etc. And some girls seem to have some that are more mental health issues than anything else and this sounds more like your friend.

definitely. i know that is part of the issue with the friend i mentioned. it is a shame. just try to distance yourself as much as you can, that's what i did and it helped me

anotherclone

GraySaturday wrote:

her boyfriend is in his mid-thirties, and she is in her mid-twenties. She said to me the other day "I really hope you're not pregnant, its not the right time for you, you'll ruin what you've got going on. I know I'm not ready for a baby, so you being younger, it's just not the right time"...

I was really offended by that. I didn't ask for her approval, or even her opinion. I would never say that to a friend, ever.

Geeze. My daughter is 8 and I tell her to worry about herself and stay out of everyone else's business. Do you want me to call your friend and tell her that?

small town beck

GraySaturday wrote:

Yeah, its some mental thing with her.. She is gorgeous, and smart... I just think she has issues with a ring on her finger equaling her self worth. So sad.

Yeah that is always saddening.

I used to work with this girl very pretty and SUPER smart. Lived all over the world and did marathons but man, my self esteem was better than hers. Another friend took a class with her and said she was the girl who always said "I bombed that test. I can't believe how terrible I did" and would get the paper back with an A every time.

Trailer

genie wrote:

Haha, no wonder the guy she is with doesn't want to marry her! if she acts like this towards a friend what must the guy get from her?

That's what I was thinking. Tell that guy to run for the hills!!;)

comebackwoman

hartamh wrote:

I had a creepy neighbor, I think women can really sense these things..Well this was a guy and we had a common cellar and shared the attic's entry. So anyway this guy was everywhere I was. Either by the window or the cellar.

We hung out with him and his with say 3 times. From the very start I didn't feel comfortable around him. I was working at Lahey Clinic at the time {shitty hours} it was Tues. - Sat. 4pm to 12:30 am. While I was at work he came over to our apartment and was asking my husb. how our marriage was. He said good.

In the meantime I had just started going partime. It was a Tues. morning and I was debating whether to take a shower @ 10am or 10:30. Luckily I decided 10:30. So I'm sitting on my couch {where I would be sleeping after getting the kids to school}, and I heard a noise, so I stood up and saw someone standing in our entry way with a nylon over his head and a knife. I had no idea who it was at the time.

Next thing I knew I was on the floor with him on top of me and he was sitting on my chest I couldn't move my arms. He was holding my head down facing my left side, he had on some really smelly wool gloves on. So I just screamed and tried to get him off of me, when I discovered the knife on the floor beside me. I managed to reach and grab it and he got it away from me. I just froze I thought for sure I was going to die.

Then he got up and for some strange reason I was behind him. He went down the cellar stairs, and I called the police. There was no other way for someone to get into my apartment except through his. The police finally came, and asked me if he had any priors.

The police screwed up everything, the main detective knew he was guilty and actually told me that he told him to get out of town or they're going to arrest him.

Anyway when we moved from that apartment which was years later. My son and I were watching the news and they showed him and said his name he had changed in his looks, but then they said his name. At that time they were bringing him back from Georgia. At that time I found out he had murdered someone 9 years before my attack. I called the detective on that case and mentioned what happened in mine. I had to go before a grand jury and he got indicted.

The judge would not hear my case because it would have been prejudicial against him. He did get convicted of the murder though, but I feel I didn't get my justice.

So what I'm trying to say is stay away from this woman. You don't really know what your dealing with. I hope my story as long as it is, helps you in some way..

Good Luck

OMG that's horrifying!!! I'm glad you got out of that situation safe. What a fuck up with the cops though :mad: I would think that would be enough to arrest and charge the guy - wtf?

I agree - trust your gut! There's something seriously off with this woman and nothing you do or say is gonna make her change. Just keep your distance. She'll get pissy, but she's already pissy so I wouldn't worry too much about that. No wonder she's so damn clingy! If she doesn't trap people they run far far away! :eek:

norm

GraySaturday wrote:

Our mutual friend that I mentioned thinks that she might quit the program because she is just so unhappy with everything. Apparently she is always concerned about comparing her work to me. She was partnered with our friend during peer reviews the other day and kept telling our friend, "don't tell sarah I don't have my work done, I don't want her to know.. I don't care!!! I honestly am not concerned with anyone's work there at all. I am only concerned with my grades and working really hard. I couldn't careless how other people do!

She thinks she is so important to me, and that I worry about her shit all the time. It's so odd.

chick needs some intensive therapy...


oh and if she shows up one day with the same hair cut and color and the same outfit, run to a cop