When he told his parents he was going to ask me to marry him, his father financially cut him off and did not speak to him for three months. Told him he needed to date other people before he made that decision...we had been dating seriously for two years.
His father told us to "wait two more years and pay for the wedding yourself"
In all honesty I don't think if I had kids I could actively support them getting married before age 30, at least late 20s.
If I get married, it will be cos I want to marry HIM, not his family. Don't get me wrong, I will make a big effort to fit in with them as it would make life easier in the long run... BUT if they're intolerable and simply something I must learn to accept without being able to speak up for myself :eek: well that's obviously gonna be a big problem
My mother's a nutcase.... I would never inflict her on anybody. She will never get an introduction just for the sake of the introduction... possibly if there is a family situation where she and I must be in the same room, I will try my best to be civil. BUT I wouldn't expect any guy to bow down to her and do things her way... the marriage is between two people, not 3 or more.
Very well said. My in laws and my side of the family are special people and not in a good way, lol. The only one on either side that I am fond and that is my sister, sad, but also reality.
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In all honesty I don't think if I had kids I could actively support them getting married before age 30, at least late 20s.
this is some deep shit.
how do people go about negotiating holiday time with in laws?
Mine want me to go away with them constantly, but I have neither the money or desire to do so, although i have done in the past.
i think the person who said its up to the respective partner to sort out their parents is bang on. Luckily my bf is 90% good at doing that.
Brain of pJ, thats messed up.
Ru going to stay there long?
Very well said. My in laws and my side of the family are special people and not in a good way, lol. The only one on either side that I am fond and that is my sister, sad, but also reality.
"Life Is What Happens To You When Your Busy Making Other Plans" John Lennon
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