You asked "What's with In-laws"....and based on the information you posted, I concluded that you are a bitch. Provide more information if you feel like that is inaccurate.
woah.... steady big man.. do you normally draw such derogatory conclusions after a 18 second snippet into someones private life?
my in-laws are ok.. i get on well with them but going for a meal with them can send me into a coma... its one of the most stressful things i have ever done.. i hate it.
oh scary... 40000 morbidly obese christians wearing fanny packs invading europe is probably the least scariest thing since I watched an edited version of The Care Bears movie in an extremely brightly lit cinema.
Why does it always seem like the wife and mother-in-law never get along? I've seen it many times and I never understood that...
Thankfully, my fiance gets along very well with my whole family (especially my Mom). And, I get along great with her family...so we're very blessed we both have fairly normal families and everyone gets along!
correction: I get along with his whole family just fine. They didnt even come to the wedding because they wanted us to have it in Cancun and when they didnt get their way, the refused to come! But I got over that and I get along just fine with them.
I just thought it was funny that she is scrambling for things to ask for and asks about our bed! Haha. I meant no harm. Their great people and I know they like me and likewise.
No wonder you rank low on your mother in-law's list, you act like a jerk by blurting out things while she's on the phone with her son. Give respect to get it.
yeah, screaming things out like that when they are still on the line isn't the best decision...
Thankfully, my fiance gets along very well with my whole family (especially my Mom). And, I get along great with her family...so we're very blessed we both have fairly normal families and everyone gets along!
that's awesome! truly. helps that both families are fairly *normal* though, absolutely.
i THINK i would've gotten on just fine with my mom-in-law, she seemed quite sweet. sadly for my husband, she died about 3 months after we started dating. my dad died 4 months before our wedding. :( so sad for us both. happy my dad knew i was marrying, and he really liked my husband, so that's something. my husband LOVES my mom, and my sister....well one of em, anyway. the other don't see too much so whatever. now his family..:rolleyes: even HE doesn't like/care for too much. except his brother, but even him...he does see him more for the person he is, which is good. his father is NOT a nice person, definitely not a good dad, ut sure...we do what we can for him. eh well. i do feel lucky that we're so tight/good with my own family and while hubby's is a bit wako, HE doesn't want too much involvement, so it balances out ok. blending/balancing families is never easy, so just have to always try and make the best of it!
I really wish it wasnt true, but I can top you all.
Been married almost 8 years, dating for 4 before that.
By the way, I am normal, have a good job, we didnt live together before we got married, we both finished our degrees before marraige..pretty storybook.
Just a few examples:
When he told his parents he was going to ask me to marry him, his father financially cut him off and did not speak to him for three months. Told him he needed to date other people before he made that decision...we had been dating seriously for two years.
When I tried to include the nutbags in the wedding plans, the mom refused to cut her guest list even though the venue wouldnt fit all the people, and insisted on inviting people she hadnt heard from in 5 years.
His father told us to "wait two more years and pay for the wedding yourself"
Intrestingly, they only paid for the things traditional for them to pay for, and I had to have the place send them a bill. They never offered one dime for the wedding, which 85 percent of the guests belonged to them. 50 percent of the budget was provided by me and hubby, the rest by my parents.
She told an aunt in front of my mother that having her son get married what like "having him die". We live across town.
I had a fever during a family event and was sort of unsociable, and his father acosted me during the event, screaming at me about how he didnt understand why I didnt like them. (!!)
so many other things...want more recent?
husband and i wear the same size shirt, but I am somewhat touchy about my weight. For Christmas, they got him a smaller size shirt than me. matching shirts (which we will never wear). Made a big deal about his "probably being too big".
Moral: if you have kids, NEVER let their spouses or potential spouses know they arent welcome, or that you feel they arent good enough. Figure out a way to love them for who they are. They probably think you arent good enough, either.
i knelt and emptied the mouth of every PUG around...
If I get married, it will be cos I want to marry HIM, not his family. Don't get me wrong, I will make a big effort to fit in with them as it would make life easier in the long run... BUT if they're intolerable and simply something I must learn to accept without being able to speak up for myself :eek: well that's obviously gonna be a big problem
My mother's a nutcase.... I would never inflict her on anybody. She will never get an introduction just for the sake of the introduction... possibly if there is a family situation where she and I must be in the same room, I will try my best to be civil. BUT I wouldn't expect any guy to bow down to her and do things her way... the marriage is between two people, not 3 or more.
The Astoria??? Orgazmic!
Verona??? it's all surmountable
Dublin 23.08.06 "The beauty of Ireland, right there!"
Wembley? We all believe!
Copenhagen?? your light made us stars
Chicago 07? And love
What a different life
Had I not found this love with you
When I tried to include the nutbags in the wedding plans, the mom refused to cut her guest list even though the venue wouldnt fit all the people, and insisted on inviting people she hadnt heard from in 5 years.
His father told us to "wait two more years and pay for the wedding yourself"
Intrestingly, they only paid for the things traditional for them to pay for, and I had to have the place send them a bill. They never offered one dime for the wedding, which 85 percent of the guests belonged to them. 50 percent of the budget was provided by me and hubby, the rest by my parents.
wow, I can't believe you gave them so much control over the wedding though . I'm a strong believer that if someone's insisting on something for my wedding that I don't want or they're not gonna pay for... well they're just gonna have to get over it. Everyone wants their own wedding, not somebody elses.
The Astoria??? Orgazmic!
Verona??? it's all surmountable
Dublin 23.08.06 "The beauty of Ireland, right there!"
Wembley? We all believe!
Copenhagen?? your light made us stars
Chicago 07? And love
What a different life
Had I not found this love with you
Believe me, I tried, but I was trying to make peace. I guess I also felt bad because we have a very small family, and they have a large extended family and friends in our town. My husband insisted he wanted what they wanted, then afterward denied it! (that was an issue)
I did finally cut her guest list myself. I went through and asked her what her realtionship was to each person, and Iif I had never heard of them or met them, they got cut.
Didnt do me much good though. She called them and invited them by phone.
i knelt and emptied the mouth of every PUG around...
My husband is on the phone with his mother and I can make out the convo, since I hear his end, and she has now asked:
How the new guy at Josh's work was
How the cats are
How work is going for Josh
How selling his car is going
What car Josh would want next
HOW IS OUR NEW MATTRESS...
and then, how is Sarah??
In that order.. I'm so glad I fit right in after the mattress.. When he got to the mattress, I yelled out "THE MATTRESS IS GREAT, I'M FINE THANKS"
Well my in-laws are very kind people. They would do almost anything for us if we needed it. They treat my daughter like gold!
With that said...................................Someimes my mother-in-law can be a little over the top. They live around the corner from us so when we first moved in 5 years ago she would do he pop in all the time! We had to bring that to a halt real quick. I told her I walk around the house naked all the time .
My wife and I break each others balls about our mothers.
Her mom knows it all, been there, done that. Any topic you discuss, she is the authority on it. Its funny b/c my father-in-law calls her on it. Its really funny.
Its hard sometimes, but I would not trade them in for the world.
Get em a Body Bag Yeeeeeaaaaa!
Sweep the Leg Johnny.
Well my in-laws are very kind people. They would do almost anything for us if we needed it. They treat my daughter like gold!
With that said...................................Someimes my mother-in-law can be a little over the top. They live around the corner from us so when we first moved in 5 years ago she would do he pop in all the time! We had to bring that to a halt real quick. I told her I walk around the house naked all the time .
My wife and I break each others balls about our mothers.
Her mom knows it all, been there, done that. Any topic you discuss, she is the authority on it. Its funny b/c my father-in-law calls her on it. Its really funny.
Its hard sometimes, but I would not trade them in for the world.
And my own mother???????
She is a health nut and it drives my wife crazy.
Telling us to use honey on my daughters diaper rash. Keep the dogs away from her b/c they will give her mites etc....
Uggggg.
Get em a Body Bag Yeeeeeaaaaa!
Sweep the Leg Johnny.
Ok. I can see your point then.
If my mother asked me how my gf was doing every time she called I'd tell her to stop asking already, or assume the same until I tell her otherwise
I'm of the opinion that in-laws are designed, by nature, to make you go crazy. I like my wife's family just fine, but they can be stubborn and a little irrational at times, and that drives me nuts. The same rings true for my wife with my family. She likes my mother, but some things that mom does drives her nuts. I guess we're still learning to deal with these issues (only married 2 months now), but I'm hoping they go away for the most part.
They live around the corner from us so when we first moved in 5 years ago she would do he pop in all the time!
I am SOOOO thankful my in-laws don't do that! We live across the street from my in-laws, and I was so worried that they were going to be over here all the time. It's really not like that at all, though...and the close proximity is AWESOME whenever we need a babysitter!
My boyfriends folks are in their 80's. Pepe is always talking about boobs and Meme wants Pepe to give her some lovin. They are a trip.
ok....I think that image has burned on to my retina.
believe it or not, we don't "need" anything. that is only the spoiled brat in us trying to fill some temporary solution to an emptyness that does not exist.
I have eaten so much gold I crapped excellence - drtyfrnk29
Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all!
ok....I think that image has burned on to my retina.
Dude, you'd shit your pants if you met them.
The first time I met them, we were watching TV and a Marines commerical came on and it had chicks in bikinis running on a beach and Pepe goes "that makes me wanna join the Marines!"
I almost shit myself!
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my sister is pretty much open about how she hates my wife. no real reason. mainly just cause that meant i couldnt hang around my sister so much. which wasnt really that big of a change because she lived 600 miles from me. my sister, and her husband (who i feel is like a brother) and my dad didnt want to come to my wedding because they didnt know if they could get off from work. which is lame because they take off from work all the time for various reasons. i didnt put any of my family in the wedding cause i couldnt trust them to not sabatoge it. my dad stayed about 10 minutes and left without saying good bye. my sister went and talked to all my friends and made up shit so they wouldnt like my wife. they've sort of settled down, because i told them that she comes first, especially after that.
Really??? Perhaps you should let his family know what kind of problems they are causing. Or better yet, give them a call.
I think it's up to the man to kind of let his family know to knock it off. I don't think that the women should have it out with them. But sometimes people have a hard time standing up to their family and they don't have the cojones. That's a problem in itself...
These cuts are leaving creases. Trace the scars to fit the pieces, to tell the story, you don't need to say a word.
I think it's up to the man to kind of let his family know to knock it off. I don't think that the women should have it out with them. But sometimes people have a hard time standing up to their family and they don't have the cojones. That's a problem in itself...
I agree! But, then again, I'm single so I really don't get to have much of an opinion.
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woah.... steady big man.. do you normally draw such derogatory conclusions after a 18 second snippet into someones private life?
my in-laws are ok.. i get on well with them but going for a meal with them can send me into a coma... its one of the most stressful things i have ever done.. i hate it.
Thankfully, my fiance gets along very well with my whole family (especially my Mom). And, I get along great with her family...so we're very blessed we both have fairly normal families and everyone gets along!
I just thought it was funny that she is scrambling for things to ask for and asks about our bed! Haha. I meant no harm. Their great people and I know they like me and likewise.
yeah, screaming things out like that when they are still on the line isn't the best decision...
HOLY CRAP! :eek: That's just not cool. It's very big of you to forgive them.
"The leads are weak? Fuckin' leads are weak? You're Weak! I've Been in this business 15 years"
"What's your name?"
"FUCK YOU! THAT"S MY NAME!"
that's awesome!
i THINK i would've gotten on just fine with my mom-in-law, she seemed quite sweet. sadly for my husband, she died about 3 months after we started dating. my dad died 4 months before our wedding. :( so sad for us both. happy my dad knew i was marrying, and he really liked my husband, so that's something. my husband LOVES my mom, and my sister....well one of em, anyway. the other don't see too much so whatever. now his family..:rolleyes: even HE doesn't like/care for too much. except his brother, but even him...he does see him more for the person he is, which is good. his father is NOT a nice person, definitely not a good dad, ut sure...we do what we can for him. eh well. i do feel lucky that we're so tight/good with my own family and while hubby's is a bit wako, HE doesn't want too much involvement, so it balances out ok. blending/balancing families is never easy, so just have to always try and make the best of it!
Let's just breathe...
I am myself like you somehow
Been married almost 8 years, dating for 4 before that.
By the way, I am normal, have a good job, we didnt live together before we got married, we both finished our degrees before marraige..pretty storybook.
Just a few examples:
When he told his parents he was going to ask me to marry him, his father financially cut him off and did not speak to him for three months. Told him he needed to date other people before he made that decision...we had been dating seriously for two years.
When I tried to include the nutbags in the wedding plans, the mom refused to cut her guest list even though the venue wouldnt fit all the people, and insisted on inviting people she hadnt heard from in 5 years.
His father told us to "wait two more years and pay for the wedding yourself"
Intrestingly, they only paid for the things traditional for them to pay for, and I had to have the place send them a bill. They never offered one dime for the wedding, which 85 percent of the guests belonged to them. 50 percent of the budget was provided by me and hubby, the rest by my parents.
She told an aunt in front of my mother that having her son get married what like "having him die". We live across town.
I had a fever during a family event and was sort of unsociable, and his father acosted me during the event, screaming at me about how he didnt understand why I didnt like them. (!!)
so many other things...want more recent?
husband and i wear the same size shirt, but I am somewhat touchy about my weight. For Christmas, they got him a smaller size shirt than me. matching shirts (which we will never wear). Made a big deal about his "probably being too big".
Moral: if you have kids, NEVER let their spouses or potential spouses know they arent welcome, or that you feel they arent good enough. Figure out a way to love them for who they are. They probably think you arent good enough, either.
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I'm not even married yet and my fiance's family has been causing all types of problems in our relationship.
Run! Run away!!
JK, just set some ground rules with them. Let them know not to treat you that way. Make your fiance back you up. Give them consequences if they dont.
If your fiance isnt willing to do this, you might want to take a look at your relationship.
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Yeah that's really what the problem is...
My mother's a nutcase.... I would never inflict her on anybody. She will never get an introduction just for the sake of the introduction... possibly if there is a family situation where she and I must be in the same room, I will try my best to be civil. BUT I wouldn't expect any guy to bow down to her and do things her way... the marriage is between two people, not 3 or more.
Verona??? it's all surmountable
Dublin 23.08.06 "The beauty of Ireland, right there!"
Wembley? We all believe!
Copenhagen?? your light made us stars
Chicago 07? And love
What a different life
Had I not found this love with you
Verona??? it's all surmountable
Dublin 23.08.06 "The beauty of Ireland, right there!"
Wembley? We all believe!
Copenhagen?? your light made us stars
Chicago 07? And love
What a different life
Had I not found this love with you
I did finally cut her guest list myself. I went through and asked her what her realtionship was to each person, and Iif I had never heard of them or met them, they got cut.
Didnt do me much good though. She called them and invited them by phone.
7/5/98 dallas, 10/14/00 houston, 10/15/00 houston, 10/17/00 dallas, 4/5/03 san antonio, 4/6/03 houston, 6/9/03 dallas, 10/8/04 kissimmee
Well my in-laws are very kind people. They would do almost anything for us if we needed it. They treat my daughter like gold!
With that said...................................Someimes my mother-in-law can be a little over the top. They live around the corner from us so when we first moved in 5 years ago she would do he pop in all the time! We had to bring that to a halt real quick. I told her I walk around the house naked all the time
My wife and I break each others balls about our mothers.
Her mom knows it all, been there, done that. Any topic you discuss, she is the authority on it. Its funny b/c my father-in-law calls her on it. Its really funny.
Its hard sometimes, but I would not trade them in for the world.
Sweep the Leg Johnny.
And my own mother???????
She is a health nut and it drives my wife crazy.
Telling us to use honey on my daughters diaper rash. Keep the dogs away from her b/c they will give her mites etc....
Uggggg.
Sweep the Leg Johnny.
If my mother asked me how my gf was doing every time she called I'd tell her to stop asking already, or assume the same until I tell her otherwise
I am SOOOO thankful my in-laws don't do that! We live across the street from my in-laws, and I was so worried that they were going to be over here all the time. It's really not like that at all, though...and the close proximity is AWESOME whenever we need a babysitter!
Really??? Perhaps you should let his family know what kind of problems they are causing. Or better yet, give them a call.
"do gay midgets come out of the cupboard"
~CreedDisease~
10/27/06
last night her father started screaming at her and throwing a fit while i was up in the room...
saying all kinds of things that if another person said i wouldn't hold back from telling them off or maybe even more...who knows.
i told her next time i just can't sit back and listen to that.
Esther's here and she's sick?
hi Esther, now we are all going to be sick, thanks
"do gay midgets come out of the cupboard"
~CreedDisease~
10/27/06
ok....I think that image has burned on to my retina.
I have eaten so much gold I crapped excellence - drtyfrnk29
Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all!
Dude, you'd shit your pants if you met them.
The first time I met them, we were watching TV and a Marines commerical came on and it had chicks in bikinis running on a beach and Pepe goes "that makes me wanna join the Marines!"
I almost shit myself!
"do gay midgets come out of the cupboard"
~CreedDisease~
10/27/06
my sister is pretty much open about how she hates my wife. no real reason. mainly just cause that meant i couldnt hang around my sister so much. which wasnt really that big of a change because she lived 600 miles from me. my sister, and her husband (who i feel is like a brother) and my dad didnt want to come to my wedding because they didnt know if they could get off from work. which is lame because they take off from work all the time for various reasons. i didnt put any of my family in the wedding cause i couldnt trust them to not sabatoge it. my dad stayed about 10 minutes and left without saying good bye. my sister went and talked to all my friends and made up shit so they wouldnt like my wife. they've sort of settled down, because i told them that she comes first, especially after that.
still pisses me off.
but nice people sw****w
I think it's up to the man to kind of let his family know to knock it off. I don't think that the women should have it out with them. But sometimes people have a hard time standing up to their family and they don't have the cojones. That's a problem in itself...
I agree! But, then again, I'm single so I really don't get to have much of an opinion.